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LaNita Schartz

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I was raised by an abusive mother and then turned into caregiver for both parents.  Mom died of dementia and a heart attack and my father has Alzheimer's.    I have been told by my counselor that writing about my life is a good way to deal with the shame, guilt and anger. 

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  • Alzheimer's Friend Support
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    Alzheimer's Friend Support

    8 weeks ago

    There is something to be said about friends when you have a problem in your life. Some of the people who say they are friends leave and others step up to help you.

  • Back Issues
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    Back Issues

    2 months ago

    How to deal with scoliosis, arthritis, degenerative disc disease. bulging discs, and spurs. I have all of these. It is a change to life to deal with all of these.

  • Things not shared
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    Things not shared

    3 months ago

  • The Mandela Effect on Society
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    The Mandela Effect on Society

    5 months ago

    There are so many strange things going on in society now. How many of you have heard of the Mandela Effect? I recently learned of the Mandela Effect. YouTube is so full of videos that are showing this. How do many of...

  • The Begining of the End Times
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    The Begining of the End Times

    6 months ago

    I have been praying for a long time about whether I should write this article or not. This evening a friend without knowing what I was thinking gave me the answer.

  • Survivors of Rape
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    Survivors of Rape

    8 weeks ago

    how does a rape survivor feel? A person tries to be there for them right after it happens but how does it affect them down the road? I know for I am a survivor of rape.

  • My Journal on learning a new career
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    My Journal on learning a new career

    8 months ago

    This is my personal journal on learning a new career and handling a marriage, and life in general. I will learn how to learn computer skills and how to juggle housekeeping. making meals for husband

  • When to go to the Doctor
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    When to go to the Doctor

    10 months ago

    well it has been a long three days. I have had pain in my left arm above the elbow making it very hard to move the arm without pain. Do I or don't I go to the hospital? I tell my husband no I don't need the hospital...

  • If I could see the world through the eyes of a child
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    If I could see the world through the eyes of a child

    4 months ago

    I had this song in my mind almost all the time when I was going blind with my cataracts. I thought if only I could see. We as a developed country; meaning the USA, I had taken my vision for granted. I was under the...

  • Asthma on the personal side
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    Asthma on the personal side

    11 months ago

    My Asthma has been bothering badly the last few weeks where I have trouble breathing after walking just a short distance.

  • how to take life
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    how to take life

    12 months ago

    I have been thinking a lot lately about life. Is life just being a child and a persons parents take care of you and then after you are grown you get a job and spouse and children?

  • The feeling of loose after a death
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    The feeling of loose after a death

    12 months ago

    I find it hard to explain the emptiness I feel inside at the loss of my Dad. He had Alzheimer's and needed me. Now I have nothing to do. I feel like I should call the home to check on him.

  • The Holidays after one year of death
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    The Holidays after one year of death

    13 months ago

    I find this easy to write. A friend of mine from High School is going through the one year anniversary of a parent just like I am. It makes a person think. Do you ignore the holiday because it just wouldn't be the...

  • My journey with cataracts and surgery
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    My journey with cataracts and surgery

    12 months ago

    This has been a journey of around 5 years for me. I had my eyes examed before I married my husband. I was told at this time that I would need cataract surgery some time as I had the start of cataracts on both of my...

  • Visions of the End of Time
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    Visions of the End of Time

    6 months ago

    This is an exciting topic for me to write about this night. With all that is going on in the world today I imagine the end is near.

  • vision and how much it can mean to your independence
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    vision and how much it can mean to your independence

    19 months ago

    . I will be the first to admit that vision means a lot to me. It means being able to drive and do what I want when I want. Now that my vision is dimming due to cataracts I find that vision means a lot to me.. I have...

  • Marriage and Babies
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    Marriage and Babies

    22 months ago

    The big red and grey bus pulled up to the curb, its sides plastered with advertisements. I stepped on quickly, grateful to be in out of the crisp spring air. Wedging my way into a seat between an old man and a boy about...

  • Alzheimers review
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    Alzheimers review

    23 months ago

    I don't know ho w many people receive a survey from the state and a medical school after they loose a loved one to Alzheimers disease but I did the other day. I was totally surprised and amazed that they asked me...

  • Truckers  wives  it takes a special person
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    Truckers wives it takes a special person

    24 months ago

    hello I am a truckers wife. I admit it is a tough life but I wouldn't trade my life for anything. Yes I have to learn to do things for myself I have my independence. I have never depended on men so this was the rigtht...

  • trucking from a truckers viewpoint
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    trucking from a truckers viewpoint

    23 months ago

    Hello I am a trucker. My handle is Road Hog. I want to relay an adventure I had some years ago. I was snowed in in South Dakota. I and my partner were about a mile from the tck stop which was full and closed to...

  • the throw away parents
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    the throw away parents

    4 months ago

    I have seen it time and time again. Mom or Dad are badly sick and taking care of them would be a burden to us You know what I mean. We have two jobs. We have tickets to the opera or the kids have soccer, or some other...

  • Alzheimers from the victims view
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    Alzheimers from the victims view

    12 months ago

    I see the way you look at me. You cant understand what I say. You see my looks at you and think they mean one thing and all I want to say is I love you. You see me as a sick person. You think I don't know what is going...

  • alzheimers an emotional walk
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    alzheimers an emotional walk

    4 months ago

    One week after Mom's death in 2009 was a week I will never forget. I realized at that point that Dad was sick. I hadn't realized how much Mom had hid for years. I had to go to his doctor and see what I was up against....

  • hospice question
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    hospice question

    2 years ago

    Hospice care was something new to me. I thought it dealt with comfort at end of life. I didn't realize that there was so many decisions to make. I hope that my experience with hospice will make your experience easier...

  • Sandy   What's Wrong
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    Sandy What's Wrong

    2 years ago

    what depression can do when things dont go as planned

  • Forgiving Families
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    Forgiving Families

    2 years ago

    the true meaning of Christmas

  • No Not Charlie
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    No Not Charlie

    2 years ago

    Well one day it happened. Mom announced, "I'm getting married. You will have a father." I never really knew my Dad. Mom and Dad were divorced when I was just six months old. Mom worked and was never...

  • Fuzzy on the job
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    Fuzzy on the job

    2 years ago

    Doing his job was nothing new to my therapy cat. He knows when I say, ":Mommy and me time" it is time for him to be more than the beautiful. black cat that he is. He knows that something is bothering Mommy,...

  • hospice care the final choice...
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    hospice care the final choice...

    2 years ago

    today I made the final choice a family member who has someone terminal has to make. I knew it was the right choice by it hurts as well

  • death of my   loved one
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    death of my loved one

    2 years ago

    this is about watching a loved one. It is hard.

  • endometriosis as a teenager
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    endometriosis as a teenager

    2 years ago

    This is a subject close to my heart and one that doctors do not explain to the poor patient

  • Alzheimers disease affects on the caregiver.
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    Alzheimers disease affects on the caregiver.

    2 years ago

    This is an eye opening article about not only does the victim suffer but so does the caregiver.

  • different rules for everyones life
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    different rules for everyones life

    2 years ago

    This is something that has been bothering me as of late. The two sets of rules for every one in life. I know I will probably have some comments over this article and I want to hear other views.

  • tribute to friends
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    tribute to friends

    2 years ago

    This is something I have wanted to do for along time. It is a thank you to my four best friends for being there when I finally could have friends. Love you all dearly. To Traci, you are the friend that showed me...

  • things I'm thankful for this year
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    things I'm thankful for this year

    2 years ago

    This is going to be an upbeat article for once. It is time of the year to give thanks for what we have. I have much to be thankful for. I have a loving husband who puts up with my strange behavior at times. I have had...

  • The life of a caregiver
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    The life of a caregiver

    2 years ago

    the day is long but the night is longer still. Being a caregiver is a 24/7 job when it comes your way. In my case I am the only advocate my loved one has.

  • alzheimers days
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    alzheimers days

    2 years ago

    oh watching someone go downhill with this disease is so very hard. I have been watching my father go downhill the last year. Now he is considered a feeder. He is to the point where he doesn't feed himself. I cant begin...

  • my ADHD
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    my ADHD

    2 years ago

    Hi again, ADHD is attention deficit hyperactive disorder. It means that a person had trouble with attention staying on something. Usually a person is really hyper as well. I have this disorder and the doctor will...

  • a therapy cat
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    a therapy cat

    2 years ago

    my counselor told me that having a therapy animal would be good for me. It would give me a reason for living and getting up. She was so right.

  • the fawn caught in the cruel headlights of life.
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    the fawn caught in the cruel headlights of life.

    2 years ago

    I was a fawn in the cruel headlights of life. Where did I go? Where did I turn? How did I survive? Thank heaven for a lady who helped me through this. I would love to name her by name but not yet.

  • My life as a diagnosed depressed person
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    My life as a diagnosed depressed person

    2 years ago

    I was not diagnosed with depression until I was living on my own for the first time in my life at the age of 48. My girlfriend noticed that I didn't seem to sleep. I was on the computer for hours.

  • my life with an undiagnosed Bi-polar Mother
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    my life with an undiagnosed Bi-polar Mother

    12 months ago

    this is my story and adventures of an undiagnosed Bi-Polar Mother.

  • Alzheimer's view
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    Alzheimer's view

    2 years ago

    there should be a better way for the caregivers to understand a disease so horrible that it robs the family of their family member.

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