Decoding Love

Since the beginning of my journey to decode love, I've come across many amazing and insightful realizations which I'm going to share with you here. In this particular hub I will open your eyes to the main beginnings of attraction such as Pheromones and chemicals the body produces that give you that feeling of love thats so addictive.

Table of Contents of Love topics decoded:

Definition of True Love, The Science of Passion, Intoxicating Kisses, Decoding Hickeys and cures, Decoding Loneliness, Decode Jealousy, Tribute to Love, Ride through the orgasms of love, Love thought potion, love yourself first then loving anyone else is easy, I see a future in us (song I wrote about love More coming every day!

I have linked you to several hubs I wrote to decode all the parts of this matrix called love, passion, loneliness, intoxicating kisses, jealousy, and more.. as I write new pieces of this puzzle I'll add them and link them here, so book mark this article/page and check back often.

I have at least a hundred more hubs to add that will break down and explain the many elusive concepts about love. I will write about everything from passion to sex, to relationships to tips and tricks to use on a date, to romance..

You can choose your topic and start your journey or just read this page here to start off with both feet planted on the ground. My goal is to make this your last stop in your research on the topic of love so you can relax and learn without all the stress of trying to find inforamtion on this topic. I've done extensive research and continue to so more and write hubs as I learn. Alot of the information in these hubs is based on experience as well, I've been there done that and these are my lessons for you to learn from.

Love is one complex creature and so it warrants some real research and explanation. This doesn't mean this has to be a long tedious and boring adventure. I've written hubs about love holographically, meaning I've attempted to nail all the different angles of love into several distinct and stand alone topics that all network to create the hologram of Love in all its glory.

Through the series of hubs all linked below you can learn at your leisure and pick your curriculum. I've made this as insightful and entertaining as I possibly could and included videos to really drive the information home for you. I hope you enjoy this journey as much as I loved creating it!

MY goal is empowerment through enlightening your sense of understanding and awareness about the world you live in. Feedback is very much appreciated and helps me make a better hub.

Love at first sight.. Science fiction or Plausible?

I believe in love at first sight, but not literally, sight can be deceiving. Our own minds can deceive us by how we define what we see. Sight can be a limiting ideal; however the exception is in reading body language which I'll get into towards the end of this...

Love at first feeling now that's a great possibility. I believe and usually this happens in sights reach, that love at first sight really means you truly "SEE" the person, not so much there external beauty but their amazing beauty inside, a feeling you get when you come into contact with them and just know... a networking of the senses and common sense, the blast of pheromones into your olfactory that deepen the physical stimulation to your senses. Its to know but not realizing how that is frustrating I think.

The body, in a lot of places, most predominately the skin, excretes pheromones, an air born microbiological agent that is picked up by the opposite sex's olfactory.

The olfactory is a section inside the nose that determines the "shapes" of smells, you see smell is just shaped air born micro agents full of different shapes.

When the shapes of the airborne particles hit the tiny and very sensitive hairs inside our nose, the stimulus much like a tickle but encoded by the textures on the particle, are picked up and an electric signal that's converted into a chemical signal is sent to the brain and what the brain sends back is the sensations of smell. It works a lot like being romantically tickled. Some tickles allure our skin, and tantalite our kinesthetic senses, some raise "Goosebumps" and others are annoying or too much. We experience tickles as a signal much like the smell senses only the stimulus is different. Our senses aren't only for pleasure however they do other things like warn us.

A bad smell is essentially (in part) a very roughly shaped particle. A complex biochemical particle with negative effects on the body. Like how a sour taste is much different than a sweet taste. In the beginning plants that were poisonous to us had a bitter taste to stop us from harming ourselves but over the evolution of man we've become immune to certain poisons of plants and certain vegetables. We still taste the bitterness and this is why children don't like for example, Brussels sprouts, but adults do. The genius of this evolution however is that animals and bugs are still susceptible to the poisons negative effects so some of our food is safe from such predators yet we can safely eat it ourselves.

I mention this because part of what turns us on about our lover besides pheromones is smells that they are radiating, both naturally (Chemically like colognes or their natural scent) and unnaturally. Our body puts off odors that warn of a lot of things, tempers, lust, fear is a rank smell that dogs can smell but human beings only subconsciously process, but none the less its there.

Another sense that we become infatuated about another is touch.. Touch however is not limited to the realm of physical touching as we think of such as sex, kissing or the like. Touch can be the most stimulating of all because it encompasses ALL other senses both exporting (of signals and information from someone) and importing (receiving of their exported "signals").

The eyes see because light touches the iris, and the photoelectrical signals (light) are interpreted by the brain and converted into information fed to our perception of sight.

Touch in its popular definition is obvious. Kenesthetic signals are sent to the part of the body stimulated and converted into electrical signals interpreted by the brain and perceived as sensation.

Smell is the stimulation of airborne textured micro particles that "touch" the hairs inside the nose (part deep in the nose called the olfactory) and are decoded by electrical/chemical signals to the brain and interpreted by perception as aromas .

Hearing is moving air particles (sound is vibrations caused when air hits each other at different speeds) that vibrate the tiny hairs/sensors in your ear sending the vibration information as electrical signals to the brain the same way as sight and smell and touch.

Taste like smell and actually most commonly mixed with the sensations of smell, works the same way only the stimulation happens on your taste buds a more complex chemical process happens on the tongue. When we taste something we often also smell it as the olfactory is located very close to the inside of the mouth and the same particles that touch the tongue radiate as airborne particles that the olfactory pick up.

So now you know how the senses function lets get into how this all affects love.

Essentially pheromones are a much more advanced particle that the nose decodes, instead of merely shapes the pheromones you secrete contain biochemical agents that contain the DNA structure of the person, not really the DNA but essentially the same thing, pheromones are like biochemical hard drives that record an unbelievable amount of information about you as chemical signals (like a computer uses 1 and o or binary) and the nose contains a decoding devise that reads the code!

Its not so much literally giving you their background check as its encoding their chemical make up as contrasted to your own, this gives you a high degree of information that tells you if this person and you will get along, are sexually compatible and if you'd make a good offspring.

Chemical encoding of the pheromones are sent out when the brain determines a potential mate is near. When you become attracted to someone your body starts to generate pheromones and goes on a projection spree. You radiate these particles up to three feet away and anyone within your radius gets hit..

Some times the particles fly into the nose other times they land on the other persons clothing and they smell them when they take their shirt off, rub their nose with their sleeve and so forth.

Your pheromones are very specific to you so if for example you passed someone and they got tagged with your pheromones and later they smelled them, then saw you again and this time caught a whiff of your airborne variety, a certain deja' vue feeling would come over them, and they would feel compelled to talk to you.

Based on the chemical information you receive from the other you make a subconscious choice to talk to them or not. If they caught your pheromones but didn't see you, but something wonderful from the smell came over them they would start thinking about the connection, the type of person that would make them feel good.

It's when they smell you again (your pheromones) that they connect this elusive insight they got out of the blue (pheromones have no smell that you can detect as aroma, so when they get this information it seems like a fleeting thought entered their head) and when they catch you again they connect you to an intuitive feeling they think they just had as you matching the template of "making them feel good" and conversation is initiated with the mystery of "I don't know how you affect me so much but you do".

Life at its most basic levels is about attraction so babies are made, its the way we propagate our species, our very survival depends on it. If the person would make a good mate their pheromones will tell you and you will feel a "Connection" this is what love at first sight really is, it's also why you can fall in love instantly, EVEN if the physical attraction isn't there!

Now that the pheromones have activated your sense of attraction what happens next?

From there, a whole other set of chemical reactions happen. A chemical cocktail is created that makes you feel "in love". Oxytocin and Dopamine are the major ones that stimulate love to the next level, where by emotions take over and thoughts, filters, and expectations are forged into the mind.

What sustains the "Love bug" is the other person's ability to make you happy, when they stick to the rules determined by the beginning of the relationship then love is everlasting and in fact gets stronger and stronger.

love is actually literally addictive, because of the Oxytocin (designed to keep you together long enough to produce a child) but life has become more complex and people have found ways to sustain the Oxytocin release much more.

This is not a bad thing its hard to keep up but very possible if you know how, what happens though is people get with people for the wrong reasons, and believe the lies, don't listen to their intuitions (pheromones, body language, subconscious gut feelings etc..) and they make themselves love someone because their gorgeous or they fulfill some romantic but ridiculous need fed to them by the media like if you don't have someone you'll die alone, or on valentines day people are led to feel lonely if they have no "sweetheart" to fill their day with love.

Thing is you always get the right "gut" feeling about them (based on a lot of variables such as body language decoding, pheromones, common sense, and experience) but your emotional responses (usually based on greed) overwhelm reason and there you are with another loser and blaming them for the relationship not working.)

When a bad relationship becomes a problem it feels impossible to leave them because the Oxytocin is flooding you so much now that your literally dependent on it (love becomes literally a chemical dependency.. hence the rebound effect is the equivalent to methadone for a heroin addiction!

Other problems start out mental and become chemically backed. People wrap there entire self esteem into it and convince themselves that being with this bad person for them makes them happy even if there miserable.

Time heals right? Why? Because over time you develop will power and distract yourself, thoughts of the person which were producing the Oxytocin chemical that makes you feel a need to connect with someone, fade, and eventually the Oxytocin stops producing and you get over the "love withdraws". As long as your convinced that the only way to feel better is to have them in your life the Oxytocin and those thoughts will trap you into that relationship.

If you can suffer the effects of mental reprogramming and chemical withdraws, you will get over them much faster than if you try to wean off them, or use them to escape the pain until they make you so mad over time that animosity overwhelms you with negative chemicals that literally make you sick and become more overwhelming than the Oxytocin withdraws.

The other person wasn't really the focus that you thought you had. You knew better really, but you had convinced yourself that you loved them because you based the entire relationship on the first 3 months!!! In those euphoric three months the chemical bonds are created and mentally backed and before you know it your mentally creating those chemicals in conjunction with being with them, and when they turn out to betray you the chemicals reinforce the psychological ideals around them and you literally lie to yourself about what you know is the truth so you don't feel bad, but unfortunately this imprisons you to being with an abusive, cheating or other bad for you kind of spouse or lover.

Body language is 80% of our communication. Words don't mean anything if body language doesn't agree. In fact we see body language and then words, and the authoritive force is the body language.

You make determinations based on almost purely body language, i.e. subconsciously you have the entire rule book encoded in your DNA and when you see or talk to someone this gives you answers like are they lying, or are they full of crap, are they nice, or are they mean... Mixed with pheromones and body language you can fall in love at first sight but only chemically, real love develops with respect and true admiration of the person holistically. True love is powerful because it is empowering, it does not leech, it does not steal or pillage your mental state, it does not manipulate, it is all the forms of love (physically, chemically, and mentally (mind body spirit) working in unison to generate an amazing synergy.

If people just trusted their gut they would never fail to be happy. Some people have gotten a clue and started to listen to their instincts, there intuition. Some of us are born with this developed. I think being psychic is just paying attention, there's no magic to it, unless you don't get it..

I love the phrase "Technology Sufficiently advanced is indistinguishable from magic" that one phrase tells all, technology is just information rather the understanding of information.. Knowledge is pure power, rather potential power, if you know all this and still do things against your "better judgment" well it holds no real usable power right?

To help you focus on what each link takes you to heres a description of each hubs purpose:

The most impactful however is this Definition of True Love which some say is so compelling it feels like an altered state of mind while reading it.. The Science of Passion, and the other one on Intoxicating Kisses takes you deeper down the rabbit hole.

To avoid getting caught up in the "loneliness dating syndrome" fancy this article to help you not get stuck in a bad dating situation that you'll regret! ---> Decoding Loneliness

Just in case you two love birds do make it, let's avoid pitfalls shall we? What's the worst thing that can happen in a relationship? Jealousy.. so to prepare your mind for success in a relationship, Let's Decode Jealousy too The Jealousy hub has a bit in it about the "Lovers Body Language" which may help you as well.

Other ways to enjoy the decoding of love is through poetry and my hubs on decoding what real love feels like in these powerful eye opening explanations I take you intimately into a perfect relationship, these were my own relationships and how they felt, how love should be and what you can expect to feel when you "connect" perfectly with someone.

I write this "Tribute to Love" to describe the perfect love Format and this Ride through the orgasms of love and Love thought potion will help you visualize a perfect sustaining and passionate relationship. These also help you gain the correct mindset when looking for love.