Domestic Violence and You
How Do You Know
Domestic violence is not a private matter. It is not a squabble or fight. It is not a momentary loss of temper or a direct extension of drug or alcohol abuse. Domestic violence or Domestic abuse is a problem that effects every community nation wide, most likely world wide. It touches all races, cultures, and religions. It touches every social and economic stature.
Domestic violence is a power and control issue used by one intimate partner over another. Most domestic violence victims are women ages 15-44. A conservative estimate suggested 1.5 million women are victims of some form of domestic abuse each year. In the United States a women, is more likely to be raped, injured, assaulted, or killed by an intimate partner than any other sort of assault.
There are several forms of domestic violence, to include but not be limited to;physical assault, sexual assault, isolation, intimidation, financial control, manipulation of children, and psychological abuse.
The abuser wants you to separate yourself from family and friends. The abuser wants you to leave your job. The abuser wants to have total control and will make you believe its your fault when in fact it is not. Fear, guilt, and low self worth are emotional factors the abuser will use on you. Domestic violence will become more frequent, more dangerous, and more violent over time.
A very small percentage, 23%, of reported cases every go to trial. The victim backs out or changes her story, without the victims testimony most prosecutors will not take the cases to court. This is where it being a social issue comes into play. If you or someone you know is a victim of domestic violence speak up, be the witness, be the evidence needed to help stop this horrible crime against humanity.
Most people don't realize its not as easy as they think it is to leave an abusive relationship. There is help out there. There are hot-lines, shelters, job training, legal services, and child care. No one, not one single person should live in fear. Don't let confusion, guilt, or self-blame keep you from seeking the help you deserve. You are not to be blamed for being battered or abused. You are not the cause of this abuse. You deserve to be treated with the utmost respect. You and your children deserve a safe and happy life.