Is it okay to let your / my dogs sleep on your bed?

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So is it okay to let your dogs sleep on your bed? A controversial subject by all accounts, as there appears to be two schools of thought, the one that thinks going to sleep with your beloved dog snuggled up next to you is wonderful and perfectly acceptable, and the other which thinks there is no way dogs should be allowed on your bed and they should have their own bed elsewhere. I will confess that I fall into the former category, and although I don't have a dog right now, in the past when I have had they have always slept on my bed, and I have slept better as a result. Sadly our current landlord does not allow dogs, but he does allow cats. Right now I frequently go to sleep with two cats curled up on the bed with me and it feels just great.

In this hub I want to list the various arguments both for and against allowing your dogs to sleep on the bed, and then ask you to decide whether or not you think it is okay to to let dogs sleep with you. Before you go rushing to the end of this hub in order to vote, please read the content thoroughly in order to form a fair opinion, after all, if you were on a jury you wouldn't decide on your verdict without first having heard all the evidence.

Remember it doesn't make you a villain if you don't allow your dogs to sleep on your bed, although personally I don't think it is fair to get a pet dog and keep it outside. Many people only allow their dogs to sleep in the kitchen or even the utility or boot room overnight, and this is acceptable because the dogs are sheltered and warm, but are you missing out by not allowing those same dogs to share your bed? Likewise if you do allow your dogs on your bed overnight, then would there be advantages to be gained for all of you by making your dogs sleep in their own bed rather than on yours?

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Why is it okay to let your dog or dogs sleep on your bed?

Remember many of these thoughts listed are just based on opinions, sometimes my own and sometimes other people's. You have to draw your own conclusions as to whether you agree with them or not.

  • It is a known fact that stroking dogs or even being close to them is good for lowering blood pressure and relaxing people. This is one of the reasons why there are often programs in place where dogs are either taken around hospital beds to visit very ill patients, or old people's residential homes to visit the senior citizens.
  • Dogs make a great hot water bottle on a chilly night.
  • It is comforting to snuggle up to an animal knowing it is a loving and loyal companion, (especially if you are single).
  • Having a dog on your bed makes you feel safe.
  • So long as you groom and bathe your dog regularly there should be no problems with smells, hairs or hygiene so why not sleep with your dog on or in the bed.
  • It stops children being scared of the dark or from having nightmares if the dog sleeps with them.
  • So long as dogs are treated regularly for fleas and worms, there should be no risk of parasites being transferred.
  • If the dog has no dominance issues anyway allowing him to sleep on the bed does not cause pack seniority problems.
  • Dogs are family members so why ban them from sleeping on the bed.

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Why is it not okay to let your dog or dogs sleep on your bed?

As with the case for allowing your dogs to sleep on the bed, this is only a list of opinions, and you still need to decide for yourselves if you agree with them or not before deciding which way to vote.

  • Dogs are dirty and smelly so they should not be allowed on your bed.
  • Dogs should sleep outside.
  • The dog will see itself as equal to you in the pack if you allow it to sleep on your bed which can lead to discipline problems.
  • A dog should be restricted to rooms like the kitchen to ensure the house stays clean.
  • How can a dog properly guard the house if it is on your bed and not near the entrances to the property?
  • It is unhygienic to sleep with your dog because they carry parasites and diseases that we can catch from them.
  • You'll wake up smelling doggy.
  • The dog hairs get everywhere, on the bedding, up your nose etc.
  • Your spouse gets annoyed if you suggest letting the dog sleep on the bed.
  • Having a dog on the bed interferes with a couple's love life.
  • One person might prefer to cuddle the dog rather than their partner if the dog is allowed to sleep on their bed. This can lead to arguments, and even serious jealousy on occasion.

Do you think it is okay to let your dogs sleep on your bed with you?

  • Yes that is perfectly okay.
  • No it is a terrible idea.
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Where does your dog sleep?

  • On your bed
  • On the floor in your bedroom
  • In another room
  • In a kennel/dog house outside
  • Other
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KeithTax 4 years ago from Wisconsin

Yes, it is. And cats, too.


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CR Rookwood 4 years ago from Moonlight Maine

Awesome hub! I would let my dog sleep on my bed except he's bigger than I am, so he'd like push both me and my spouse OUT. I like the way you presented both sides. :)


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debbie roberts 4 years ago from Greece

I like the open minded way that you have approached this subject. Everyone is entitled to their point of view,if stroking a dog can lower blood pressure imagine what sleeping with one can do!!

We are a dog family and we had four dogs up until last year when we lost our very first dog. She had slept on our bed for nineteen years up until she could no longer get up and down from the bed, which was her last few weeks and it was strange and heart breaking not to have her keeping the quilt down. She was a small dog.

My daughters Yorkie is kept clean and roughly groomed and sleeps on her bed. I don't have a problem with that as she doesn't molt.

We also have a German Shepherd that isn't allowed on the furniture, but happily sleeps on her rug in the lounge at night and we have a pavement special that sleeps on a cushion by our bed.

All dogs are happy, well they seem it and there isn't any issues of dominance related to where they sleep.

As you have pointed out in your hub, it is a personal matter and I'm with you when you say that dogs are pets and shouldn't be kept outside.

Sorry I've rambled....Voted up and shared for sure!!


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mistyhorizon2003 4 years ago from Guernsey (Channel Islands) Author

Thanks Keith, I totally agree, I have my cats on the bed all the time and if our friend's dogs come to stay they all sleep on the bed with me. Lovely :)


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mistyhorizon2003 4 years ago from Guernsey (Channel Islands) Author

Thanks CR Rookwood, so pleased you liked this and thanks for the lovely comment :)


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mistyhorizon2003 4 years ago from Guernsey (Channel Islands) Author

Thank you for the wonderful and detailed comment Debbie. Sounds like your dogs are all very content and happy with their sleeping arrangements. Keep up the good work, they have a great owner :)


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JKenny 4 years ago from Birmingham, England

Great hub misty. My dog sometimes sleeps on my bed, other times she'll sleep on a mattress that I put on the floor. I don't see any problem with dogs sleeping on the bed, it's a sign of trust when they want to be close to you, so you should encourage it. Voted up.


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mistyhorizon2003 4 years ago from Guernsey (Channel Islands) Author

Thanks JKenny, I am delighted you liked this and that you do allow your dog to sleep on your bed if she wants to :)


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Maria Cecilia 4 years ago from Philippines

oh I'm so guilty of this...I know it's fine but making your dogs sleep with you will make you change your bedsheets more often than usual... I like your hub....and it made me feel at ease that I am not alone in this situation.


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Just Ask Susan 4 years ago from Ontario, Canada

My dogs will jump up on the bed for about ten minutes when we first go to bed. They are pretty big dogs and there's just not enough room, so we tell them to get down and they do. They seem quite happy having that ten minutes. I've talked to people that think allowing a dog on the bed is allowing the do to rule you. Each to their own opinion.


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homesteadbound 4 years ago from Texas

I do sleep with my animals. By the time you get 2 adults (my husband is 6'5") and 2 dogs (20 lbs and 45 lbs) and three cats, it gets quite crowded. I have truly considered trying to keep the larger dog off the bed, but she whines too much and no one gets any sleep. I think it is okay for them to sleep with me, and I enjoy reaching out to them during the night, but anymore dogs will be trained to sleep off of the bed. I am having too many pains in my knees and back, and competing with the dogs for space makes it worse.


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mistyhorizon2003 4 years ago from Guernsey (Channel Islands) Author

Hi Maria, thanks for your comment. I know you might have to change the bedding a little more often, but hey, it's worth it :)


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mistyhorizon2003 4 years ago from Guernsey (Channel Islands) Author

Hi Susan, at least you don't mind yours getting on the bed even if only for ten minutes. As for the people that tell you it creates a problem, well honestly they are wrong. Even wolves as a pack will curl up together, the leader of the pack and his mate do not sleep apart. The main thing is they know it is your choice to have allowed them on to the bed, not theirs, and that if you try to put them back on the floor they don't become aggressive. Thanks for commenting :)


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mistyhorizon2003 4 years ago from Guernsey (Channel Islands) Author

LOL Cindy, you are just as bad as me. I would rather be uncomfortable than put them off the bed. Can I suggest waiting until you lose a pet before getting any more, and then get a small breed that you can squeeze on to the bed more easily :)


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RealHousewife 4 years ago from St. Louis, MO

This so reminds me of the whole "is it ok for your kids to sleep in your bed" debate. (I'll add babies are stinky and dirty too! Lol). I think that it's fine as long as both 'parents' are not annoyed. My husband does not want my dogs in our bed - I don't mind (they are small indoor dogs and I have them groomed regularly) but I don't because he would not appreciate it. They sometimes sneak in bed and curl up by me and if I wake up - I just pretend I didn't notice:)


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mistyhorizon2003 4 years ago from Guernsey (Channel Islands) Author

LOL Kelly, do what I do and get your Husband sleeping in the spare room as a matter of course, that way you can have your dogs on the bed with you :) I have to admit this happened more because the Hubby snores appallingly, and he has no issues over pets sleeping on the bed anyway ;)


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Nature by Dawn 4 years ago

My husband prefers that the dogs not sleep on the bed because they smell and because of the dog hair. So, when he goes out of town, I put a sheet over the top blanket and call them up. They love to cuddle - at first anyway. Then they get too hot and eventually get down to sleep on their own dog beds.

I firmly believe that dogs should have certain boundaries - this room is off limits or this piece of furniture is off-limits, this is your toy and this is not your toy, etc. Letting your dog be on the bed may or may not be one of the boundaries you set. So long as you set at least some rules and don't let your dog do whatever he wants whenever he wants, I see nothing wrong with allowing him to sleep in your bed if that is what you want.


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mistyhorizon2003 4 years ago from Guernsey (Channel Islands) Author

Thanks Nature by Dawn, a great comment that makes good sense. It always needs to be 'your' decision, not the dogs, and then there should not be a problem.


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jeyaramd 4 years ago from Mississauga, Ontario

Not unless there is lightening outside. Lol. Maybe on the floor beside the bed. That would be alright.


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mistyhorizon2003 4 years ago from Guernsey (Channel Islands) Author

That sounds like a good compromise jeyaramd :)


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Sherry Hewins 4 years ago from Sierra Foothills, CA

Most of my life I've had big dogs, like German Shepherds, and never would have considered letting them sleep in the bed. The massive gobs of hair they left behind anywhere they lay down would be enough of a discouragement. Now I have little short haired dogs, mini dachshunds and dachshund-pug mix and they do sleep in the bed. My rottweiler is not allowed on the bed, or even the couch. I know it seems unfair. I did buy her a crib mattress, so she does have a bed of her own, and it is in my room.


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mistyhorizon2003 4 years ago from Guernsey (Channel Islands) Author

Thanks Sherri, I really appreciate you sharing your thoughts and experiences on this. I used to have a Doberman, and he slept on the floor on a blanket, or on his bed downstairs. This was his choice not mine, but as we had a water bed at the time I am guessing a large male Dobie bouncing on and off it might have not been a great idea if we wanted it to last lol. I have to say he did lie on the couch though, and on occasion he would just park his butt on the couch and leave his front feet firmly on the floor. I am sure he felt like a human doing this, (two limbs on the couch and two off of it), he just got his front legs (our arms) and his back legs (our legs) mixed up :)


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Deborah Brooks 4 years ago from Brownsville,TX

well I do not have dogs but my cat sleeps with em no matter where I am. I love it.

great hub

voted up

debbie


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mistyhorizon2003 4 years ago from Guernsey (Channel Islands) Author

Thanks Debbie, you think like I do. Cheers for the votes up :)


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Michele Travis 4 years ago from U.S.A. Ohio

I have two dogs, one sleeps on my bed and the other sleeps on my daughter's bed. Both are small and need to snuggle.

My husband and I have no problem at all with that. My daughter loves to have the dog snuggle up to her. I never had a dog until we got married, so I was not used to it. But, we have had several dogs since then. At first, I thought it was strange, but the dog made me change my mind very fast. Cute face. They can smile you know. They can make you love them. Anyone who tells you dogs cannot smile or show you their emotions is very wrong.


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Earth Angel 4 years ago

Yep, all my six fur-angels sleep in my bed! Three dogs and three cats! We all cuddle and snuggle! I've actually noticed they form kind of a circle of energy ~ as long as one is touching one of the others, usually cat~dog~cat~dog, etc. and touching me, we are all happy! When one needs to go out in the middle of the night, everyone goes! 30 seconds later everyone has done their business and back into the bed we climb! I love it! Sheets get washed often and they get groomed constantly! GREAT Hub Misty!! Earth Angel!


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mistyhorizon2003 4 years ago from Guernsey (Channel Islands) Author

Hi Michele, thanks so much for commenting. I totally agree they can smile and show their emotions. I can't wait until we move house and can have a dog again (right now at best I can borrow them for a few days while people are on holiday as officially we can't have dogs in our rented competition).


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mistyhorizon2003 4 years ago from Guernsey (Channel Islands) Author

Ahhhh Earth Angel, that sounds so sweet and what a wonderful feeling of love and security for all concerned. Thanks for commenting :)


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tirelesstraveler 4 years ago from California

Great hub- My husband is allergic to dogs and not a fan of them sleeping on the bed. One of ours will jump on the bed with me and sleep for awhile if not booted out. He gets too hot after awhile and leaves to sleep on the the floor with his nose under the bed. This causes disputes between he and his brother. We have found that keeping them both out of our room keeps them from fighting. They are welcome to sleep with any of the kids.


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mistyhorizon2003 4 years ago from Guernsey (Channel Islands) Author

This sounds like a good compromise tirelesstraveler, and the kids will benefit by having their furry friends to cuddle up with instead. Thanks very much for commenting :)


HeidiJoMar 4 years ago

I have a boxer and a boston terrier. They both sleep with us. We even moved up yo a king size bed so all of us have room. My boston Terrier sleeps by my head and snores, a lot!!!! lol I could not imagine not sleeping with them. I keep them well groomed (i hate smelly dog smell). My dogs make me smile when i wake uo to them. First thing i do in the morning is wake up and snuugle close to them and tell them good morning!!!!!!


Corie 4 years ago

I sleep with my dog too :) and I believe I am as healthy as anyone else...they said that the benefits of having pets whether you sleep with them or not far outweigh the negatives...I believe so...:)


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mistyhorizon2003 4 years ago from Guernsey (Channel Islands) Author

Hi HeidiJoMar, I totally admire the fact you upgraded the size of your bed so you could fit your dogs on more easily. That is so cool :)


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mistyhorizon2003 4 years ago from Guernsey (Channel Islands) Author

I totally agree Corie, I have always shared my beds with our dogs and cats, and the feeling of warmth and snuggly furry creatures around you is totally unbeatable.


michael 4 years ago

we let our dog sleep in our bed[ REASON WE LOVE OUR DOG AND OUR DOGS CLEAN AND HEALTHY. if you don't want to that's your bis


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mistyhorizon2003 4 years ago from Guernsey (Channel Islands) Author

Hi Michael, did you read the article or just comment, as actually I agree that it is fine for dogs to sleep on the bed, but your comment and the bizarre capitalization for no apparent reason seems to imply that you didn't and might have been drinking or something similar?


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Peggy W 4 years ago from Houston, Texas

We have always let our dogs (and cats) sleep in bed with us. I see that most people answering these polls of yours agree to a large extent. Thanks for answering my question with such a great hub. That last video was funny! Up votes and will share.


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mistyhorizon2003 4 years ago from Guernsey (Channel Islands) Author

Thanks Peggy, nice to know you are another member of the 'dogs and cats on bed' club. It was a great question by the way, and I was compelled to answer it. Pleased you enjoyed the video too ;)


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moonlake 4 years ago from America

Our dogs would sleep on the bed with us but they are to big. Our Springer was crate trained by his other owners so he only wants to be in his crate. Our lab has a pillow he sleeps on but when my husband would leave for work he would get in bed with me. Now he's to old he can't get on the bed and he now sleeps in a chair in our room and we have to help him get on that.

When we had little dogs they always slept with us and our cats do sleep with us.

Enjoyed your hub.


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Rufus rambles 4 years ago from Australia

Great hub! It's funny how everyone has different ideas about animals in the bed. Growing up our cats used to sleep on/in our beds. One cat just loved to go under the sheets and crawl to the very end - I used to be afraid she would suffocate but she just loved it. Another cat wanted to sleep on my pillow and clawed my head all night. When I tried to move her she bit me! My dogs that I currently own sleep on the floor under my bed. I don't think they need to sleep on the bed. They are not allowed on furniture and honestly they are perfectly happy. In fact sometimes when I put them on my lap they get too hot and want to sleep on the floor. The funniest thing is my boy dog - who is a woolly mammoth fur ball, has a favourite sleeping spot which is the coldest, hardest place in the house - a cement slab under my sister's bed! Voted up!


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mistyhorizon2003 4 years ago from Guernsey (Channel Islands) Author

Hi moonlake, thanks for commenting. It sounds as if all your dogs are quite happy with what they are either used to, or comfortable with, so it's all good. My cats definitely sleep on the bed, and when we move and can have a dog again I am certain the dog will too :)


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mistyhorizon2003 4 years ago from Guernsey (Channel Islands) Author

Hi Rufus, I had to laugh about your story of the cat clawing your head all night. My smallest cat (Squish) does this to me too, and it is a little bit of a nuisance as I have to keep on turning over to avoid her claws. She also 'suckles' on the duvet whilst constantly purring and if hubby tries to get in bed she virtually sits on my head and pushes her bum into his face so he can't get near me. It is really funny, but not great for our love life lol.


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Rufus rambles 4 years ago from Australia

That is very funny - it seems like we sometimes let our animals wrap us around their little claws!


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mistyhorizon2003 4 years ago from Guernsey (Channel Islands) Author

Absolutely we do Rufus, but I wouldn't have it any other way :)


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Thelma Alberts 4 years ago from Germany

I let my dog Angus sleep on my bed with his own bed sheet when my husband is away. But he does not stay for long as he then transfer on the floor. I know that it is not hygenic but I keep him clean. I also feel comfortable and safe when he is in my bedroom sleeping when my husband is not home. Thanks for SHARING. Voted up and useful.


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shampa sadhya 4 years ago from NEW DELHI, INDIA

A good hub. I liked the way you have presented both the sides of the subject matter. Actually, after reading the hub and all its comments I felt myself a misfit here. I have no pets because I am not at all fond of pets so there is no question of having pets on my bed. Well, I liked the hub as you have addressed the finer aspects of the topic very well. Voted up and interesting!


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mistyhorizon2003 4 years ago from Guernsey (Channel Islands) Author

Hi Thelma, At least you get him on the bed for some of the time, and if you are keeping him clean I don't think you need to worry about it being unhygienic. To be honest I believe those who say it is are largely being paranoid over nothing. I know exactly what you mean about feeling safe when you have your dog in the bedroom with you.

Thanks so much for commenting.


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mistyhorizon2003 4 years ago from Guernsey (Channel Islands) Author

Thanks Shampa, it was really nice of you to comment so positively when you admit you have no pets of your own and are not fond of them. Perhaps you might give 'having a pet' a try in the future, because I am sure if you do you will soon be a convert.


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dappledesigns 4 years ago from In Limbo between New England and the Midwest

We have always let our dogs sleep on the bed with us. We have a German Shepherd / Elkhound mix now and he cuddles right up with us. He waits impatiently until we call him up. Once he thinks we are sleeping he sneaks off the bed and sleeps at the top of the stairs. Both so he can see both floors, upstairs and downstairs and it's right under an open window with a great breeze. He also chills out in the recliner on our lap whenever he can.

I however do not allow my dogs to lick my face - which isn't because I don't love them or think they are dirty... I just don't like it. So Kaydo has improvised and nuzzles with his nose. It's all about compromise.


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mistyhorizon2003 4 years ago from Guernsey (Channel Islands) Author

Great comment dappleddesigns, sounds like you have the balance perfect :)


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Pannonica 4 years ago

I really enjoyed reading this thank you, Now to be honest if I owned small dogs I would have no objection to them sleeping on the bed however I have rather large dogs and if I let them on the bed well I would have to sleep on the floor!

They do sleep in the bedroom, right next to my bed, some mornings I can't find a space to get out of bed. I like them to be upstairs with me, they are apart of the family, for security and I love the big monsters.

Truly a great hub, voted up.


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mistyhorizon2003 4 years ago from Guernsey (Channel Islands) Author

Thanks Pannonica, a really good comment and thanks for posting it here. I am flattered that you enjoyed this hub :)


mariah g 4 years ago

i have a 4 month old puppy. i try having him sleep next to me but he prefers the floor lol unless its nice and cool then he'll cuddle xD but he does help me wake up in the mornings :) which is good cuz i am not a morning person xD


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mistyhorizon2003 4 years ago from Guernsey (Channel Islands) Author

Hi mariah, that sounds great, and like you I am not a morning person, but I have to say all the dogs I have ever had on my bed seem to fit in with my sleeping habits, rather than the other way around, so if I sleep 16 hours, so do they, quite happily lol.


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Dancing Water 4 years ago

Wonderful hub! My fur babies, one German Shepherd and two cats sleep with me. It would seem inhumane somehow not to allow them to. I see them as a vital and beautiful part of my family, and snuggling with them at night is an extension of that participation in the family. I feel that we all are comforted by it. Thank you for a lovely, sweet hub. It is always inspiring to meet other people who love animals. Bless you!


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Kiwi Max 4 years ago from New Zealand

"Dogs should sleep outside" - is this a stereotype? I can't see a reason why a dog shouldn't sleep with you.

A very good hub, Misty :)


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mistyhorizon2003 4 years ago from Guernsey (Channel Islands) Author

Thanks Dancing Water, so lovely to meet someone who feels the same way. :)


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mistyhorizon2003 4 years ago from Guernsey (Channel Islands) Author

Hi Kiwi Max, I totally agree, a dog is a part of your family, and forcing it to sleep outside is just unnatural and wrong. This is not how they would behave in a pack, and is not showing the love you commit to when you take on a dog as a pet.


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Shannon Paigah 4 years ago from Irvine, CA

Nice hub! I tend to treat my dogs and cats more like children; they're allowed in the house, have their own beds, and lots of toys. However, I will say that I weaned my puppy from sleeping on my bed. ~ Learned the importance to set a few boundaries. :)


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mistyhorizon2003 4 years ago from Guernsey (Channel Islands) Author

Thanks for commenting Shannon, sounds like you really love your pets. Not sure there is any 'importance' to setting sleeping boundaries if your dog already knows you are 'allowing' it on your bed as a lower pack member, but I covered that in the hub, so I won't reiterate it now. The main thing is you love your pets, and that is what really matters :)


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Dubuquedogtrainer 4 years ago from Dubuque, Iowa

Nice hub - the pack theory is outdated, erroneous information - far too many people still believe this is a reason not to let dogs sleep on the bed, but as a professional dog trainer and registered nurse I would have to say the only reason to not let your dogs sleep on the bed is that they take up too much space and disrupt your sleep! As long as they are clean, cleanliness should not be a problem! Dogs provide much more therapeutic benefit than risk to our health and I believe that this is purely a personal decision but should be made on fact, not fiction. Thanks for laying this all out so nicely in a well-written hub!


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mistyhorizon2003 4 years ago from Guernsey (Channel Islands) Author

Thanks Dubuquedogtrainer, so nice that you can verify that it is okay to let dogs sleep on the bed with you from a professional viewpoint. I appreciate that and you having commented :)


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mythbuster 4 years ago from Utopia, Oz, You Decide

Nice hub, mistyhorizon2003. I don't have a dog anymore but I suppose many of the same arguments can be used for cats. My cat puts me to bed every night, settling on the covers at the outer edge of the bed after I climb under the blankets... I read for a while and he lays on a spare book (he learns by osmosis, I believe, while I have to read everything) and will stay until the light is turned out. I think dogs AND cats provide such therapeutic value to our lives that they should both be allowed to nap with us, so long as they are clean and cuddly! I enjoyed the "Sleeping With Greyhounds" vid - funny stuff :)


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mistyhorizon2003 4 years ago from Guernsey (Channel Islands) Author

lol, loved your remark about the car 'learning by osmosis', what a wonderful thought :) Glad you enjoyed the greyhound video, I thought it was funny too. By the way, both my cats happily sleep on the bed and I find it incredibly comforting to know they are there :)


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Sure2purr 3 years ago from southern CA

My two small dogs sleep in my bed under my covers. my medium size dog sleeps on her plush bed pad next to the bed unless my hubby isn't in bed and it's cold outside. I've heard that the place your dog sleeps in your bed is the key thing. If your dog sleeps above you say up on your pillow, they see themselves as the leader. So that making your dog sleep at your feet is much better for keeping your dog in line. Personally I think it's not a good idea to leave a dog outside to sleep at night. For many reasons and attacks by other animals and chance to get very sick are just two good reasons to bring them into your house, or garage at night.


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mistyhorizon2003 3 years ago from Guernsey (Channel Islands) Author

Thanks for your comment Sure2purr, really glad to know that you are another person who does allow their dogs on the bed and clearly loves them dearly. I haven't heard the thing about the being 'above you on the bed' I have to say, and am not really convinced the dog perceives sleeping above you as relevant bearing in mind in the wild it wouldn't be a case of being 'above' or 'below'. but simply 'near' to the dominant member of the pack.


Mogheh 3 years ago

I will let my dog sleep on the bed, but he sits and waits at the foot of the bed until I say he can get up, then he's not allowed near my pillows or under the covers. I would only let dogs with a certain temperament sleep on my bed though.


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mistyhorizon2003 3 years ago from Guernsey (Channel Islands) Author

Thanks for commenting Mogheh :)


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dwpeanut 3 years ago from Ontario, Canada

I have two dogs... a Jack Russell and a Rottweiler... the Jack sleeps on the bed every night but the Rotti cannot... he is just two big! I do love having my dog on the bed... he is a little heating pad and very cuddly :)


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mistyhorizon2003 3 years ago from Guernsey (Channel Islands) Author

lol, I used to have a Doberman, and he used to sleep on the bed whenever he got the chance, but I have to admit he took up a load of room. Still, I managed later on with a very 'lanky' greyhound, a Cairn cross terrier and a cat (where there's a will there's a way).


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Sure2purr 3 years ago from southern CA

Thank you for your response to my comment mistyhorizon2003. I do love my four legged friends very much, you got that right. Yeah, my pet sitter told me that deal about the above your head position vs below your head when dogs share your cozy bed with you. I don't how true that is either but my pet sitters pets all mind her very well. I was actually very impressed. She also said that letting your dog walk in front of you is another thing we do that's giving him/her the leader role. Dogs should walk next to us only. My thought is as long as my dogs not pulling me down the street on "their walk", and I'm clearly the one in control of which way we go and when it's time to go home. They can walk in front of me all they want. After all it's a walk for them and I'm just the tour guide and coordinator. My pet sitter also noticed that my dogs bump/butt my arm which she said is them telling me to rub their heads/pay attention to them over the other dogs when I'm returning home after being gone all day long without my four legged friends which is not that often at my house. And I've had to work on my dogs rushing the front door as I'm trying to get in after a long hard day at work. I was told to ignore my dogs jumping all over me and go put my things away and greet members in my household, kick off my shoes and only when I'm comfortable and sitting down should I then call them and give them my undivided attention for a good 5 to 10 minutes. What was your welcome home greeting like when you did have your dogs? How'd you handle them jumping on you in their excitement that you were finally home? Ahhhhhhhh, I think another great article created by you on that subject is about to be born???


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mistyhorizon2003 3 years ago from Guernsey (Channel Islands) Author

lol, not writing hubs right now Sure2purr so that article might be a while coming. Working on an ebook about gardening right now.

Re-your pet sitter, actually I agree with everything else she has told you completely, it is only the 'pillow' thing I doubt. On a walk the dog should walk next to you or behind you as in front is the pack leader's position. Upon entering your home (or leaving it) you should likewise be the first through the door, not the dogs. Ignoring them in favour of saying hi and greeting all your human family members first is another good piece of advice, as is waiting until they are calm before greeting them, and not doing it when they are jumping all over you. Bumping your arm in order to get attention is something my Dobermann used to do too, especially when I was using the mouse on my desktop computer. It shouldn't be encouraged because again the dog is taking control of the situation as opposed to you being in control as the pack leader.

To answer your question re-my dogs, well I am no saint, and confess I have experienced most of the same problems. Dogs jumping all over me when I got home (I knew less then so tended to make a fuss of them back), being dragged along the road by my excited Dobermann was commonplace, getting him to come when he was called impossible, being hauled in and out of my front door another problem. I tried very hard to solve the latter problems, even sending him away for professional training, but nothing worked and he simply wasn't food, toy or praise motivated, so it was hard to find any way to reward his good behaviour. The other dogs weren't really a problem and were easy to motivate, plus already being very well behaved. Few people are the perfect pet owners and get everything right. The most important thing is to get the dog to have a good temperament and not be nasty towards people or other animals, and give him or her the best quality of life possible.


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KDeus 3 years ago from Florida

My Boston Terrier not only sleeps on the bed, but has to be under the covers even in the heat of the Florida summers. She does make for a good legwarmer, though, in the cooler months!


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mistyhorizon2003 3 years ago from Guernsey (Channel Islands) Author

I have to confess my little terrier used to sleep under the covers KDeus, frequently with her head on the pillow next to me. She made a great hot water bottle.


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JayeWisdom 3 years ago from Deep South, USA

My dog sleeps beside me every night with her head resting on her own pillow. When I stop reading and turn out the lamp on my bedside table, she backs up to me (I sleep on my side facing the outside of the mattress), and we both go to sleep. I do not subscribe to the "necessity of dominance" theory touted by the dog whisperer and other so-called experts, especially since I read the book THE GENIUS OF DOGS by scientist Brian Hare, a real expert who disproved that theory.

Besides, my dog's "personal" hygiene equals my own. She has routine baths, I ensure she doesn't have fleas or other parasites, plus she sees her "doctor" regularly, gets her teeth brushed and--don't laugh (well, go ahead if you really must)--I use baby wipes to clean her butt after she goes outside on leash to potty. She's clean, doesn't smell and harbors nothing harmful to me. I even wipe off her feet when we come back indoors because pollen makes both of us sneeze.

I waited until I was 61 years old to get my first pet, not knowing the joys of sharing one's life with a loyal and loving dog. She's made the past eight years better for being here. She's my protector and friend. No way will I make her sleep on the floor! (So, PHOOEY! Dr. Cavanaugh!)

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Jaye


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JayeWisdom 3 years ago from Deep South, USA

P.S. I forgot to mention that, since I'm retired, both my dog and I like to sleep in some mornings. She usually awakens first, then she wakes me. She likes a tummy rub first thing, so after she "mumbles" at me to get me awake, she turns on her back and holds her paws up so I'll know it's time for the tummy rub. If I'm slow about it, she "grumbles" until I comply. I remember (even though it was decades ago) what it was like when my children were toddlers and would climb into bed with us early in the morning. They were soft, warm, cuddly and playful. My dog is much the same! I think this is why so many people with dogs refer to themselves as "parents." It's like having a sweet toddler around all the time.

Jaye


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mistyhorizon2003 3 years ago from Guernsey (Channel Islands) Author

Hi Jaye, what wonderful comments, you are a woman after my own heart. What more can I say? )


almorr 2 years ago

I only had a dog staying with me about 15 years ago and only then for about 6 months, in that time the dog slept on the floor, not on the bed, my wife at that time would not allow the dog on the bed.

Since my wife died just over 4 years ago, as you know Cindy I have had a cat, my ginger cat Oscar died about a year ago but like the cat I now have, given to me by my sister, 10 months ago, despite having a double bed, both cats have slept in another room, this is because the cats was in the habit of licking my face in the middle of the night,

Regards

Alan


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mistyhorizon2003 2 years ago from Guernsey (Channel Islands) Author

Hi Alan,

I confess one of my cats tends to try to lick me or put her paw on my face in the night. It can make it hard to sleep but I have learned to just keep turning over until she gets fed up and goes to sleep herself.

Regards

Cindy

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