Confessions of a non dog-lover.

I know this article is not going to win me any friends, and probably will make me a lot of enemies, but I have to get this off my chest. Okay…here it goes…I am just going to come out and say it, I am not a dog person. What’s more, I don’t really like dogs, at all. I barely tolerate my own dogs and I know this may be hard to believe, but I don’t like your dog. I don't like it pushing its gross, wet, nose into my private parts, or humping my leg, or drooling on my hand or sitting next to me on the couch. Please put it outside. It smells bad.

I have two dogs. I admit these dogs entered my life when I was in the midst of many, many diaper changes, bedtime routines, homework struggles, etc. I really, truly have very little time or patience for these dogs. The worst of it is, they expect things from me. Things like walks and water and food. Not from other people, just me. Here is an example of their overwhelming neediness. The day is winding down; dinner is over, the homework is finally done, baths are given, the counters wiped clean, I sit down, lean back to finally relax and hear this..

(Whine, whine.)

“Oh good idea", I think, “Wine!”

Ahhh. I sit down again, this time with my nice glass of pinot and…

(Whine, whine!)

There they are. Two furry balls of pure annoyance staring at me with their googly eyes. Panting. Expecting something.

“What! What! WHAT!!” I scream. “For God sake can't I have two **&!!* minutes please.”

(Whine, pant, whine, pant, scratch, whine, pant, whine, whine, whine!)

I yell loudly, "God help me, did anyone feed the dogs! Today… yesterday…this month...Ever?"

I know there are people out there who love dogs. Just love, love, love them! I know this because the kennel where I board my dogs, (sometimes just so I can have a mental health day), offers a spa weekend for dogs including massage, pedicures and bedtime stories. That's right. Bed-Time-Stories. For dogs. This is surely a sign of a society that has gone right over the edge.

Now, don't get me wrong, I don't want anything bad to happen to dogs. I just resent the fact that we are all supposed to be crazy in love with them, and I don't understand why they are suddenly accepted in all facets of life. There I am eating at an outside cafe, enjoying my moment of solitude, and a dog and it's owner come and sit at the table mext to me. The dog plops itself at MY feet. Its hot breath on MY leg. Drool dripping down my ankle. The owner smiles at me, and starts to read his book. Then the dog sits up and puts his head in my lap, looking up at me, expecting something. The owner glances over. "Sorry," he says, giving the dog a feeble tug on its leash, "He loves people."

No, he doesn't. He loves my french fries, and you know what I don't want to share them. I give a grim smile and move down the bench, with my fries. The owner glares, "Sorry pal," he whispers loudly into his dog's raggedy ear, so I can hear, "Did she hurt your feelings?"

Huh? Why are we suddenly ascribing human emotions to dogs? The dog isn't insulted by my lack of affection, he just wants to eat my lunch. What if I had put my head in your lap, and panted and drooled all over your leg Mister? (Well...maybe that's not a good example.)

I know I am in the minority with my feelings because dog lover books are selling like hot-cakes, there are whole television channels dedicated just to dogs, and multi-million dollar movies are being made over and over about loveable dogs, and their supposedly hilarious antics. I am pretty sure I am the only one on the planet that hated Marley and Me. All I could think through the whole movie was, “If that was my dog I would have shot it by now."I just don’t get it, what has happened to us over the past twenty years or so? What is up with dogs? When I was little, people had dogs, liked them well enough, let them run around, and played with them occasionally, but, no one I knew was taking their dog to cafes, or pampering them with fancy daycares, Christmas presents, or bedtime stories. They were dogs. That’s it. Not humans, dogs.. surprise! Dogs are not humans! The more we try to make them like us, the more we are messing with their dogness. Let them be dogs. They don't need to be carried in pocket books, or go to summer camp or have therapy with a crazy person who believes they can actually communicate with animals (save your money on that one, you will need it for vet bills.)

Perhaps this is what is really bothering me. When did dogs stop being, well, dogs, and turn into humans? Why do we feel the need to pamper our pets, giving them manicures, massages and psychiatric medications? Aren't we just making them neurotic, fat and spoiled....sort of like us? I have enough neurotic, fat, spoiled humans around me all day. I don't want a pet that is like me, or you, I want a pet that is a pet. And I don't want to be made to feel guilty because I am not buying them expensive clothes, or canine teeth whitener, or sending them to doggy yoga, I have teenagers for that. And I resent the fact that as I (as a non dog lover) am seen as lower on the totem pole of evolution while the dogs are apparently rising up. Didn't you ever see Planet of the Apes when you were little? Look what happened when the the animals took over. Not good, not good...

So, why is it suddenly expected that everyone in this country should love dogs? Somehow not liking dogs is the mark of an inferior personality, or a serial killer? What is wrong with not liking dogs? Must we all bow to this canine obsession? They pant, they drool, they shed, they eat their own excrement, they eat their own puke, they roll around on dead things, they lick their own butts, they hump their own family members and, they go in and out and in and out all day! Haven’t they evolved enough through the thousands of years of domestication to learn how to open the freakin’ door by now! If they can't master that, then how can they ever hope to succeed in canine therapy?

Okay, I know there must be others out there who feel like I do. I say it is time to unite, to come out from the closet, to stand up for our rights! To scream from the rooftops, "I DON'T LIKE DOGS AND I'M OKAY!

Dog lovers, you can sign in too and attack. Defend your pets, excuse me I mean, companions…but I won’t be here, I have to stop at the new Doggy Donuts bakery before going to the Canine Holistic Health Center for my dogs chiropractor appointment.

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Rob Winters 5 years ago

Very interesting and brave hub to put forth.You're absolutely right with regard to how people refrain from expressing negative or indiffernt attitudes to 'mans best friend'.I don't mean to offend anyone but i will try to be just as honest. I agree with you that for some reason there is a taboo against people openly expressing dislike, contempt or even just disinterest in dogs.

Many people will jump to the defense of their canine compadres at the slightest hint of disapproval.It's funny how much more often i'll hear people openly express their hatred for cats for instance without any of the same "reprisals" or condemnations resulting. I'll put my hand up and state that i too am not "a dog person" - isn't it telling how that's what people tend to say as opposed to "i hate or i really don't like cats" etc. Sorry dog people (I'd do them no harm) but I too find them annoying,smelly, noisy, overly dependent and more trouble than they're worth and like AGSAWAN i had dogs(and cats)as pets as a child.

Here goes - I also am perplexed and sometimes disturbed and disgusted by the relationships SOME people have with their dogs allowing them to lick their faces and even their tongues etc. continually talking about them and attending too them continuously never mind dressing them up and doggie yoga and all the other nonsense that goes on.I have on more than one occasion met people who believe and describe their dogs as 'people' stating they're not dogs - go figure!. I appreciate the role dogs play in the lives of many (& the many ways working dogs contribute to society) and the love people have for them and how much they get back but to each their own. Assuming no harm towards any creature we should not feel inhibited to merely express any such negative sentiments or opinions.I also find it mildly offensive that SOME people infer something negative or lacking in the personalities of those that are not bitten by doggy love.

In the hopes of sparking some more discussion i'll end with a qoutes(i may be paraphrasing slightly) from a comedian whose not shy about coming forward.

" Is there anything sadder than seeing someone who owns a dog following behind them picking up their S**T - I suppose seeing someone who doesn't own a dog doing it"


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danielleantosz 5 years ago from Florida

I have a dog and three cats, and I do love my animals. But not loving them is okay, too! I noticed alot of your annoyance comes from rude animal lovers who assume their dog can do what ever because it's cute. I like to take my puppy to the coffee shop, but I make sure that she behaves and doesn't bother people. And yes, letting your dog lick your face is gross. It does happen sometimes by mistake, but making out with your dog is disgusting, and don't give me any of that "dogs mouths are cleaner than ours" crap. My dog licks her butt and eats poop, I don't want her licking my face.


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agsawan 5 years ago Author

Yesterday I was at an outdoor coffee shop with my daughter and friend and a few feet away sat a woman with a small dog. The dog was snarling and snapping at everyone who walked by. All I could think was, "Why would you bring a dog like that to a place this?" I can see bringing an old dog that is lying around not bothering anyone, but this dog was pure evil!


Ashley Woodruff 4 years ago

As a dog lover, i do have to say i liked what you were saying and i agree that we have gone from the point of dogs being just dogs to treating them like humans. I refuse to take my dogs to a spa or what ever else they have for dogs out there. I do how ever take them to the vet. That is the extent of business places they are allowed to go, well and the car wash. Its funny watching them try to get under the seat. But moving on, i don't like going out in public and when im trying to eat or have a cup of coffee i get a dog in the face. If i wanted that i would have stayed home and let my own dogs do it. I give you kudos for you post. And i do not think anything less of you as a non dog lover. It is perfectly fine with me. Have a wonderful day. :)


Evan Profant 4 years ago

Dogs give people nothing but stress, worry, trouble, dirty health habits, bad hygiene, big health bills that most people pay and are in debt anyway, allergic reactions, dirty houses, dirty clothes, slobbery pants, torn up shoes, unexpected innteruptions during your long awaited vacations, just to name a few...


Robyn 4 years ago

Thank you for sharing so honestly and openly about your feelings towards dogs. I am not a crazy dog lady, but do like the companion of my dog. Unfortunately my husband Of 15 years is not a dog person and the dog becomes a source of disagreement. I don't think I'm over the top crazy about my dog, but often I feel he is cruel and heartless to my dog. Don't take me wrong, he has never beat the dog or anything like that, but he has the ability to become enraged and a little rough with the dog at the simplest things. For example, like the dog getting on the furniture. It hurts me so much when he is mean to my dog. I guess I feel sort of a maternal instinct for this helpless creature. I was looking for some insight from a non- dog lover. Since my husband is a man of few words, I thank you for your insight.


Dr. Gone-to-the-Dogs 4 years ago

I just wanted to comment on the message of this post. People may find it strange that I am a veterinarian and I am not a dog (or animal) person for that matter. I like my job for the fact that I am helping animals, solving problems, and saving pet lives through medicine and surgery. I don't really care for the part of my job that requires me to be a thereapist to both owner and animal, gush over everyones holiday cards with their pets, be nice and smile even as Fluffy is trying to bite me, and listen as people tell me that there dog means the world to them but they decline the recommended and nessicary treatment or medications. I grew up on a farm were animals were just that and dogs didn't go to spas. I guess what I am trying to say is that animals are animals and I try to help them as best I can when they come in my door, but I feel a distinct shift in the way people view there pets and I think it is somewhat disturbing. Many of the illnesses and behavior problems I see are directly linked to people treating dogs like people not like dogs.


Caroline H 4 years ago

Boy, you're just a ray of sunshine, aren't you? Not just about dogs, not just about dog owners, but about all humans in general. "I have enough neurotic, fat, spoiled humans around me all day."


szol 4 years ago

I agree that people shouldn't pamper their dogs to the point of ridiculousness, but I am an animal lover and all animals need a home, especially a home where they ARE loved and treated like family...not like humans. They should have a good routine, treated with patience and love, get enough exercise, constant obedience, rest and decent food and medical care. I have a yellow lab and she is smart and communicates very easily. She is also easy to command. I would never give her up or "rid" of her for anything or anyone! However, I will not put her in situations that annoy people (i.e., begging, barking, licking, etc.) That annoys me as well. I think it all comes down to... with your dog, as much as it is with your children....teach them to behave or remove them from the situation until they learn! Children can easily annoy as much as a dog! But the part I don't like about YOU non-dog lovers is treatment and regard for animals. A lot of people who dislike dogs will leave them chained up outside in the worst weather conditions, ignore them, never bathe them, forget to feed them, leave them home for more than 10 hours a day - alone, deny them medical care when needed....so any cruel treatment, neglect, carelessness or that expression - it's just a dog.... I absolutely will not tolerate! And with those people who do such a thing....yes they do have a personality disorder or were raised with lack of compassion! I find these same people to be very anal retentive and somewhat narcissistic anyways!


Julie 3 years ago

I have to agree with you, I am not a dog lover AT ALL, cats for me are worse!!. I wouldn't dare tell anyone, otherwise you're looked at as evil, not compassionate etc. As mentioned in the above posts, its mainly a hygiene thing for me. Sorry but They are dirty, they smell, they run outside stepping in all kinds of dirt and poop , then run around in the house, in your bed on your couch, they cause allergies, they put their dirty bum just about everywhere, not to mention lick their bum after a poop and then want to lick you. Absolutely disgusting. Not to mention they are needy and greedy. I do find certain dogs to be very cute and I understand the love people have for them. But I cannot stand when people let their dog jump all over you, shove their nose in your crotch, and non stop sniffing you. I would not stand for any animal being mistreated. I believe people who love them should have them and non dog lovers should not.


Bob 3 years ago

In many places the world seems to be getting smaller. Less space, more annoyances less consideration for others . In the interest of political correctness we are exposed to many things in public that we find offensive that in years gone by we would not have been exposed to in public. You can pick your annoyances, I'll pick mine they will be different. We would all enjoy life more if we stop thinking only of ourselves and consider the feelings of other people. Let's just keep our strange behavior at home, to ourselves and consider other peoples feelings, especially above those of an animal, act as civilized as possible in public and respect reasonable social norms.


maria 3 years ago

thank you I feel like I am the only one!!!


Eve3715 3 years ago

I agree with Julie, it's mainly a hygiene thing. And if I were to choose between a dog or a cat, I would definitely choose a dog. I dislike cats even more. Dogs also eat their own crap and vomit. What gets to me is that when you tell a dog lover that you don't like dogs, they look at you like you're crazy. Don't I have the option not to like certain animals? I would never hurt an animal. It breaks my heart when I see an animal being abused. I just don't like dogs or cats. To each his own.


Josefin 3 years ago

As someone who just lost my dog, my best friend since 13.5 years, I say that this text and the attitude displayed is hideous...especially some of the comments stating that dogs give nothing but negative things to their owners. Oh yes, people are so stupid that we've kept dogs for 30k+ years just to get allergies, dirty homes, drool on our clothes and expensive bills to pay...

Disgusting. And as for the author of the text, your dogs shouldn't have to be around a human such as yourself. If you dislike them so much and yell at them, why do you even keep them? Dogs can be rehomed you know...

I don't like children, I think they're rude (ruder than any dog I've ever owned), loud and ungrateful...that doesn't mean I take offense by people loving children, not just their own, and choosing to pamper and spoil them...would I take my dogs to a spa? No, I'd take them for a run and some fun in the woods. But I do understand why people feel that they wanna give their dogs the very best even if they should remember that the very best for a human isn't the very best for an animal.

Dogs are so much more than a nuisance and dirty, watch "And man created Dog" by National Geographic and learn a thing or 2. Some dogs do more good in 1 year than most people EVER manage to pull off...


Tiffany 3 years ago

Oh thank God someone else feels the same way as I. My sister and I live together and she is gone all day... and I am stuck taking care of her dog, listening to it howl and bark all day when I have clients, watching it annoyingly whine at me as I try to eat. I have 2 kids, I don't need a dog. And I don't really like them. They stick and they annoy me. There, I feel better!


ReptileLover 3 years ago

Thank you for writing this! I have a dog. I feel like I got suckered into owning a dog. I also have a snake. She is my pride and joy and if it were socially acceptable to have a spa for reptiles, I would probably consider taking her to it. Back to the dog. I though I knew how much of a commitment it would be and I was dead wrong. It is basically what I feel having children would be like (and I am a female who has known I didn't want children since I hit puberty). Someone mentioned "Dogs can be rehomed you know..." and I want to ask, have you ever tried? All of my close friends either already have pets or are not living in stable situations where they could own a pet. Posting on Facebook or Craigslist means you have to screen people you don't know and can't necessarily trust to make sure they aren't trying to take your animal for a fighting ring or that they are just going to neglect it. All the no kill shelters within driving distance are full and not accepting new pets. And I refuse to take this dog to a "kill" shelter because, as much as I am not a dog person, I couldn't bear the thought of not knowing if my dog was dead or adopted in 30 days. So seriously, how do I rehome this animal who is slowly sucking me financially and mentally dry?


aj 3 years ago

I hate dogs...they smell...pee puke and destroy carpet and hardwood floors.......I wudnt own one or allow one in my house for anything.....They are costly and troublesome.....I absolutely HATE-more like loathe some of these first class idiots that allow dogs to sit on furniture.....beds...worse YET in the bed......it is so gross...GROSS!! Even worse are the dipshits who allow their dogs to jump on people and don't train them......walk them....even worse are the first class idiots who refer to dogs are similar to humans in care--HA! HA! HA!


DogsRgreat/Lioness 3 years ago

Haha, I can understand your sentiments; however, I'm a diehard dog enthusiast. Animals are one of my greatest enjoyments, and dogs are #1 with me. Why do I love (my) dog so much:

- I love walking, running, and biking with her

- I love training her

- I love her silly antics that make me laugh

-I love playing with her

- I love her companionship

-I love her protective instincts

- I love her looks


dina 3 years ago

I don't like to be criticized for not loving dogs. I don't like animals in general, I am afraid of them. My home is my castle and I don't like anything that is dirty in my house. I love children to death and I don't understand when people don't like children. Well, they can be very annoying, I agree. So indeed, to each their own. Maybe when I'll get old and lonely I will change my opinion and get a small companion dog. We will both stink but nobody will care anymore.


dolores 3 years ago

You love your dog. That is wonderful. I DO NOT want your dog on my lap. How do I say this without looking like a bad person? I am not, I just do NOT want your dog all over me.


nomore 3 years ago

i have owned two dogs and i have to say i feel the same as most of you, they smell, they stare at you while you eat and follow u all day and trip you because they need to be under your feet all the time. I can not stand the neediness of them, they are so dependent its really ridiculous. I have kids and cats and i must say i love my cats very much, mostly because they are very independent and loving and do not follow you every where you go! The dogs are drooly and sloppy and just over all annoying!! Glad i can let that out! My husband loves our current dog and i just want her GONE! I liked her at first, but as she gets older she is getting very annoying habits, such as chewing on my tennis shoes!! That's BS! Thanks for letting me vent! :)


nodogsatwork 3 years ago

THANK YOU for posting this. I was doing a search online about pet policies at work when I came across your article. A co-worker of mine recently got a puppy and brings it to work often. It has jumped on me and scratched my legs and playfully bitten my hand (eww, my hand was just inside a dog's mouth). It barks on occasion, too. Sure, it's a friendly do g and I'm sure it wouldn't hurt anybody, but I have absolutely NO INTEREST in it and do NOT want it sniffing my crotch or licking my legs or begging for my lunch. Since when is it acceptable for people to bring their dogs to work? It already chewed through the ethernet cord under the desk and I'm sure that won't be the last of the damage it causes. But I have never said a word because the rest of the world thinks its SOOOO CUTE and love petting it and playing with it. I have a very sensitive nose and the smell of the dog (even though it is clean) grosses me out. I have seen dogs eat poop, puke, dead animals, shoes . . . even drywall. And all the Dog People say that a dog's mouth is cleaner than a human's. Bologna! My dad's old girlfriend used to share a popsicle with her dog. Nasty when you think that the dog has just used its tongue as a washcloth AND toilet paper. AND drinks from the toilet. And as pampered as they come, are their teeth getting brushed after licking the garbage can or every meal of "thing I found on the sidewal?" And I dislike the panting and drooling, too. My parents think that I have a fear of dogs. They think that because I was attacked as a child that I am scared of them. That is NOT the case and I wish people would stop making assumptions. I grew up with dogs my entire childhood and into adulthood. I certainly am not frightened of them (unless there's good reason for it, like a growling, barking, "I'm going to kill you" Kujo or something). I just think they are kinda gross and rude. My co-worker told me "Don't let her jump on you" as the stupid dog jumped on me. Really? Am I supposed to train YOUR dog while I'm trying to work? Don't think that's part of my job description. And I'm sick of people carrying their dogs inside their jackets, purses, etc. in public like they're babies. I've even seen them in Baby Bjorns. Last I checked, dogs can walk. And if they can't make it down aisle 9 at the grocery store then they SHOULDN'T be there in the first place! I have nothing against work dogs. If you are deaf or blind or need a service dog for a legitimate medical condition, then that's great! THOSE dogs are trained. They don't sniff your private area or jump on you or beg. They are providing a valuable service to those in need. And they are well behaved. If all dog owners would train their dogs that way then it wouldn't be so hard to accept them all over the place. But when they are sticking their head in your lap and the owner takes offense because you aren't treating the dog like a friggin' princess, (who the hell wants dog hair and dog drool all over your new skirt???), that's when the problems begin. I wouldn't plop a baby in your lap while you're trying to enjoy your coffee (Awwww, whatsa matter? You don't like a drooling, puking, pooping, crying infant in your lap while you read the morning paper?) It's common courtesy.


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missyme 2 years ago

I sooooo ageee with this article. I used to think I wanted a small dog that was before I met my boyfriend and his animal LOVING family. Both him and his dog live with me, and his dog is actually a sweetie pie...BUT I hate the way they smell, the shedding, the scooping of dog poop(makes me wanna heeve everytime)& the constant need for attention (he just stares at you while you're eating or just sitting watching tv...talking to company ..and runs under your feet EVERYTIME you get up to walk around). Listen, I know little kids have some of the same issues..the difference is...kids don't shed their fur...they can be taught to clean themselves, use the toilet, feed themselves, stop eating from the floor...respect people's boundaries and get their own life..Animals on the other hand can NEVER be taught these things. So PLEASE stop the comparison to having a dog as having a child...its vastly different. Ive since learned that I would be perfectly ok with NEVER having a pet again. But while hes here ill be kind to him and treat him like what he is...a PET.


J.J 2 years ago

I think that you should only have a dog if you can train them really well. Otherwise its not a good idea because then they become a burden and you don't really enjoy having them.


Stephanie 2 years ago

We need to be friends. Love this post.


FN 2 years ago

Best post ever! In my personal opinion, keeping a dog has become a fashion in our country. People want to stay in this shell and keep this mask on to gain an extra credit for being caring. You don't need to like dogs to be a good person. I am an animal rights advocate but I hate it when animals are given more rights than human beings. I find it kind of a disorder.


cris 2 years ago

It seems like people have more compassion for dogs than other human beings at need. Its sick. No I don't like dogs and yes I believe in every living creature being treated in a humane way. I just can't stand dogs!!!!


Sinderton 2 years ago

What really disturbs me is stumbling upon people who are super in love with animals. The kind of people who would save a dog from a burning building before helping a human. The kind of people who defend a dog after it attacks a child. That makes me sick. I find that these people are mentally disturbed, and I know a lot of people like this. It is quite frightening. Thank you posting this, it is comforting to know I am not alone.


Michelle 2 years ago

I own two dogs, and I love them like I love my family members. I am completely OK with people that happen to dislike dogs. That's their own opinion, and I can't expect everyone in the world to adore dogs. The thing that ticks me off is that some of the people that aren't dog people tend to say they don't like dogs because they are "dirty, needy, and annoying". I agree that some dogs are like this, but believe it or not they aren't born this way. It's the dog's OWNER that's responsible for certain behaviors, not the dog. Like if someone else's dog puts there head on your lap, chances are they do that because their owners haven't taught them that it wasn't acceptable in the first place. But I agree that the people of today have been humanizing our dogs, thus causing many of the "annoying" or bad behaviors you mentioned. I love both of my dogs dearly, but I have given them clear rules that they MUST follow, and I discipline them correctly (no, not punish, discipline; there's a difference). Look at the cases Caesar Millan had been called into! The people today need to learn that in order to raise a stable, balanced, and happy dog, the owners must supply them with exercise, discipline, and affection last, in that exact order. Anything else most likely confuses the dog and creates problems.


Doggynomates 2 years ago

I am in a very frustrating situation that quite frankly is depressing me. I have never been, and will never be a dog lover. I can find them entertaining or cute from a certain distance and wish them no harm at all but do not particularly want them near me. I can't stand the smell, it makes me feel nauseous and I don't like that grimy greasy coating they leave on your hand. I find them a nuisance, a waste of energy and I juts don't need or enjoy their company.

I can't actually think of much I do like about dogs....... barking, licking, hair everywhere, whining, screeching, dog farts, dog poo, jumping up, neediness, demands, vet bills, reduced social life etc etc.

I understand that they fit into some peoples lives and they are happy with that. However, I choose not to have that kind of lifestyle. I never ever wanted to have to say the phrase 'I have to get back for the dog'.

Unfortunately though, I have fallen for a guy who has a dog - feels strange calling it a dog, it's more like a baby. You can't leave the room, go upstairs, go into the garden etc without the dog following you or crying if it can't. At first I tried to accept all that goes with dating a dog lover/owner but after a year - and making the mistake of moving in together - I can't take it any more. The constant irritation is effecting my health. It has gotten to the point where the scraping of its claws up and down the floor boards - as it stalks us all day long make me want to cry. Constantly tripping over it as it lies across the bathroom doorway or sits at my feet in our 'gangway style' kitchen when I am trying to cook.

I feel that I can not commit to this relationship no matter how much I love my boyfriend because I don't want to feel like this everyday. We argue about it relentlessly, me saying the dog is too much, him saying he needs to give the dog more attention. It has sucked the passion right out of our relationship and I now resent the dog.

The thing that gets my back up the most is that you are not allowed to dislike dogs. If I'm brutally honest I genuinely feel that they are pointless, I just don't need them in my life, I don't see the benefit. I literally have no room, time or patience for them. I swear saying you don't like children is more socially acceptable. People have all sorts of dislikes. you frequently hear people admit to not liking mushrooms, coffee, cats, gardening etc etc and no one judges you. If you admit to not liking dogs you are made to feel like you have just drop kicked a pensioner or baby! Plus none of the aforementioned 'dislikes' follow you around or ruin your social life. It makes no sense to me.

My partner kindly allows us to have a break from the dog by taking it to his mums for a holiday. Or should I say Daddy gives the doggy baby to Grandma for a few days, that is literally what they call themselves, it's quite creepy and disturbing. Grandma spoils the dog rotten, giving it treats, allowing it on the furniture, to jump up, bark, whine and sleep in her bed. So the 'break' we get is almost counter productive because the dog is worse when it gets back. There would also be no point training it because It would be inconsistent and confusing for the baby, sorry I mean dog.

My partner would have the dog in our bed if he could and I expect he does when I am away. It's paw prints are all over the sofa when I have been out of the house. It jumps up at my friends and forces itself on them, licking and whining to get attention, it's so embarrassing and stressful. It chews our belongings when it is not getting what it wants. My partner rewards this by giving it more not less.

If we do ever go out briefly without it the tv or radio and lights have to be left on and it has to have full run of the house otherwise it gets upset and chews thing's or makes itself sick. I suspect it barks and whines continuously as well, annoying the neighbours. Annoyingly and ridiculously it does almost the same thing if we bring it with us. You can't win.

I just feel exasperated and can't commit to a future with this much stress. Many people say that I can't love my partner enough if I can't tolerate the dog but I love him completely, just not his dog baby.

I resent it so much now that I couldn't even commit to a plan to train the dog to improve it's behaviour. I don't believe it is possible, the dog is so anxious and needy it would be endless. I know it is not the dogs fault, it has been spoilt - although daddy and grandma are adamant that it hasn't - and does not know any different.

I simply do not want a doggy lifestyle. I have lots of family and friends, I am an active, busy, sociable person and I can't seem to deal with the ties of a dog, a needy one at that. My partner doesn't earn much as he works from home and won't get a real job. He doesn't admit it but I feel it is because he won't leave the dog alone during the day. He says he feels bad about going upstairs to work and leaving the dog downstairs. Surely this dog is a disablement rather than an enhancement to his life? I just can't get my head around it all and it is making me miserable.

I have no one to talk to and am made to feel like a bad person because I do not like or want a dog. I have thought about taking anti depressants just so I can be numb to these feelings and commit to this relationship, I have considered counselling or even hypnotism. Can a little dog really stop you from being with the person you want to be with?


frustrated 2 years ago

I Married a man with a dog...while dating him it was fine..I rarely went to his house because it was a huge dog house...stinky..dirty...the sofas was a huge bed for his dog...hair all over it..sofas were so stinky and dirty!!! No one woul sit on them..but of course he did..he would visit me at my home..and he would stink like a kennel..really bad...now were married..and this man has tjese nast habbits on dealing and doing things for his dog!!! He puts the dogs bowl from the floo on the clean kitchen counters..dosnt wipe it down...he serves the dog food with the dog bowl right next to my food pots..like hes serving a human...the dog licks his face and mouth..then he wonders why i wont kiss him!!! NASTY!!!! hes offended cause i don't want the dog in our bedroom!!! Iv never liked dogs and i don't like the way they smell!!! Its not rhe dogs fault..its these nasty dirty people that don't know how to give a dog boundaries...or keep them clean!!!! They think their dog can do anything they want in the home!!!! Hide bones in the couches and think its so cute!!!! Really!!!! Its their fault!!!! Im so sick and tired!!! Weve been married 2 months..and i already feel like its been a big mistake...and i want out of his relationship!!!! I want a pet free..hairfree home!!! That smells like sugar cookies!!!! He calls me a clean freak..and self centered!!! Why? Because i want my home clean and smelling yummy everyday? I have a cat..but you cant tell i have a cat...you will never smell the cat litter...and my ca is neutered so hes never sprayed in the home...but this dog..omg...he STINKS!!!! constantly..telling him get off the furniture!! Get away from the table when were eating!!! My husband is more annoying than the dog..cause its his fault..with his nasty dirty habbits on the way he takes care of his dog..big mistake..HUGE!!!! ive even been thinking of the other D word...DIVORCE!!!!!! Cant do this..i really cant...im depressed...a.d were constantly arguing heavy about this matter...and im done.


nicole 2 years ago

Lol....absolutely love this article. I am right there with you. I have a dog too. He's a very well behaved dog but I still can't stand him.... it's just another job to me...on top of my full time overnight job and my 2 kids. I also have 3 cats but they do not bother me at all. They don't smell....need a bath....be taken for walks or taken out to shit!!!! I have to say...i am DEFINITELY not a dog person either!!!!!!!:)


barb 2 years ago

Hooray! Well said. There are more of us out there than you know but we are in hiding. No matter what you think, THEY ARE NOT CHILDREN.


Janie the Dog Hater 2 years ago

Thank you, thank you and thank you!!!! I detest dogs, any and every kind of dog!! We have two...one old, mean, demanding Yorkie that thinks his crap don't stink!! I hate to tell him, but it does!! Of course my husband was finagled to take this piece of s**t from his ex wife's dying mother because she felt NOBODY ELSE could care for him like my husband. And there's the other...this ugly, black cur that his son dropped off for us to "dog sit." He's been here for two years now. This dog does nothing but whine all day long. Such a needy, stupid dog. We let him out, a car comes along and WHAM!! He's been hit, but guess what?? He survives!! $2000 later we now have an ugly, black cur with a titanium plate in his arm!! Does the "son" pay for it?? Nooo!! I will gladly admit that I don't like dogs. I have to take them out, feed them, give them baths and on top of that, they piss on the carpet!! You can't get that smell out of carpet. But, I'm expected to embrace them, love them and to treat them as equals. When did the day come that I'm supposed to conform to them?? Bullshit!! I'm so glad to know I'm not alone. Geez I feel better!


Unknown. 21 months ago

I agree with you. Im NOT a dog person. I LOVE dogs, until they are in my home or have a parent whose not a good owner. They BUG me to death, just them sniffing around my house for crumbs annoys the shit out of me. I mean she eats pieces of poop, feathers. So stupid


Bigv 19 months ago

Finally a rational human. I have a dog, a good calm dog. I leave my dog at home when I shop, eat and go out in public.. I realize a dog is a dog, not aspecial being. Why can't people gout without their dogs? Are they that pathetic? The dog an take it. Kep your dog out of grocery stores, restaurants, movie theaters, off airplanes etc. I'm not buying your comfort dog certificate .fake fake fake! Time to grow up


Emily 18 months ago

I don't like dogs either, they scare me so much!!!


Kennedie 17 months ago

I HATE my boyfriends dog and I hate that my boyfriend thinks the sun rises and sets with this dog. Not to mention the dog is ugly and has long hair that gets literally everywhere. It sticks to the walls. The absolute most annoying part is when all of my boyfriends friends just completely worship this dog. "Oh he's so good" "he is so smart" blah blah blah. He's a dog, he isn't smart. The dog isn't good he's really bad. He jumps on everyone, doesn't listen at all to anything and pretty much destroys the house. He chewed through a door last week. I hate people who worship animals. I hate that my boyfriends brother lets the dog do whatever it wants including getting on the furniture even though he isn't supposed to. Lets him jump all over him and tells me to mind my own business when I say stop. I can't wait until this dog moves on into the next life. I really don't care what people think about me I hate this dog.


Diana 17 months ago

Love your article. I am the only one in my family that doesnt't like our dog. It stinks and makes the house smell dirty. I knew there was a reason why we didn't have a dog for 15 years. Silly me I forgot how much work they are!


Jackhannah 17 months ago

I am so happy that this is out there. Ive always been a dog owner but had dog boundaries. You do not beg at the table, sleep in my bed, and are not allowed on my carpet. The smell drives me nuts.

With all of this being said, my boyfriend has two large dogs. First night over he fed his dog on my carpet in my bedroom. I thought to myself I will slowly broach this subject. However it is going to be the death of me. We've had some discussion about this and I feel as though we are fighting over kids. I think that would be easier as I don't understand his frame of thought. For example he sits at work thinking about whether the dogs miss him, or if they are ever homesick. He will walk over to the coach and tell the dog how he thought about her all day while at work. The dogs are good dogs (a few issues) but how does a relationship continue with these issues?

I like dogs but not to this extreme. I agree with this article and at times feel frustrated that I must not get it.


Amber 16 months ago

Dogs gross me out and I don't get the appeal...at all. Don't get me wrong, I like seeing animals at the zoo...but I think it's disgusting to have a dog in your house. My husband's family is full of dog lovers, but I warned him that if he planned on getting a dog ever in life, he shouldn't marry me. I hate going to his sister's house and to her talk about how smart her dog is...who cares? The dog follows me (because I think it knows I hate it) but I ignore it. IT licks its privates, scoots it dirty butt across the carpet, begs for food, jumps, acts hyper amongst other things...how do people enjoy that? I would never pay for bet bills

I will never, ever, ever have a dog.


A-little-personality 16 months ago

Personally, I've tried to like dogs for the sake of my partner, but he treats it like his second (or first) wife. Ironically enough, we joke about how she comes first. It's annoying, I'm not a dog person. I hate when they beg for YOUR food, because for some strange reason their food that we spend a good chunk of money on isn't good enough.We have two dogs, one he takes care of for his mother and one is his. He takes his mothers dog out for a walk by herself because she's slower, so his dog will whine and whine and whine as loud as she can until he returns which is impossible because I need to sleep during the day to work an over-night shift! He wont put her in her own bed, and insists she sleeps in ours and scolds me when I kick her off. It's stupid, I understand the "treating the dog like humans" bit. I'm just glad someone else feels the same way. Don't get me wrong, I love him, he's very sweet, but the "She was here first" rule will always apply.


sam 15 months ago

I am not a dog lover or lover of dog lovers they are useless human beings.


Zum 15 months ago

I can't stand dogs either, and can't stand how we're all supposed to worship them. Dog lovers are mentally deranged people.


Rj 14 months ago

I thought i was a dog lover until I got one. The thing would dirrahea all over if left alone. Even in a crate. I relentlessly tried house training him for months. I was unsuccessful and determined I was too clean a person to want dirrahea and pee all over my house. I now hate dogs. Happiness was bringing him to the shelter. My house smells nice, no mess, no needyness, no yelping.


TGSH 14 months ago

Thank god. I finally have a place to vent a little. So i used to think that i liked dogs until i met my husband's family. They go a little too far. I really dont mind dogs that much as long ad they are outside ....and we do own a dog that my husband takes care of, but she stays outside. So i dont know where or how my in-laws got the idea that it was okay for them to bring their dogs inside my house for the weekend when they come to visit us. At first i was like it is just for the weekend they will be gone pretty soon and what is the worse that can happen.... Well as soon as they came into my home i am not even exagerating here, the house started smelling just awful, and thw dogs just ran in acting like they owned the house they rubed themselves all over our couches and carpet and started sniffing at anything and evething, but that wasn't the end of it by the time the weekend was over one of the dogs had dragged his bottom across the floor,his balls also, they had gotten on the table were we eat, and they got fed from the bowls that we use ( it got throwned away as soon as they left) and not to mention what my mil thought was so cute, the dog needed to scratch his but and he did it on our couch it litterally smelled like ass....it was disgusting and nobody seem to notice but me. I did talk to my husband about at least not having the dogs get on the couches and he talked to his parents and maybe it worked for about a couple of minutes..... I can't stand it but everytime i say something about it my husband just treats me like i am being completly unreasonable and a b#@$. I mean really he would most likely choose the dog over me, I knew it the moment he tried to make me ride in the backseat ao the dog could ride in the front seat and have more room to move.... Ummmm excuse but you bet i said hell no! I was 8 months pregnant at the time i wasnt about to sit in a small backseat so the dog could have more room and of course he called me a b@$$. This is a big deal for me because my husband has never spoken to me that way before and to do it over a stupid dog..

Yeah no... So this is why i dont like dogs...and i have no clue how much longer i can take of all the shedding, the smell, all the extra laundy because they insist on the dogs sleeping on the beds and getting on the couches, all the disenfecting i have to do, oh and my favorite my kids get scolded if they do anything wrong to bother the dogs, really they are little they are still learning and also i believe it should be the dog that should get used to the kids so that he doesnt end up trying to bite like he already tried .....and everyone keeps trying to get me to focus on the fact that he didnt, the only reason why he didnt was because they were able to move my daughter just in time so that she wouldn't get bit. i have been dealing with this animal situations for about 3years now...long story, these dogs haven't been the only uninvited pets at our house. Thanks for letting me vent...


Erin 13 months ago

OMG THANK YOU. I realize this is a very old post but I am currently staring at my boyfriends dog and fanticizing a life without his existence. Before moving in with my boyfriend I was indifferent about dogs but leaned more so on the dislike, but I thought his dog was pretty cute and good. 10 months later? I hate dogs. But I do agree whole heartedly when you say "Now, don't get me wrong, I don't want anything bad to happen to dogs. I just resent the fact that we are all supposed to be crazy in love with them." I found your article in a google serach trying to figure out how I am supposed to deal with the fact that I actually dislike being home because of the dog. I hate the neediness, that I can't take a minute and chill out when I get home because he needs to immediately go out and pee and given attention or he'll pee on the floor instead to get my attention. And then he wants to go out every hour as if he is incapable of holding it but I know he can cause he's alone all day without a single accident! I wish my boyfriend didn't love his dog so much because I would've given him up for adoption by now to a family with a kid who loves loves loves dogs and would give him the attention he so desperately wants all the time. We go out of town on the weekends too much and are not home very long during the week, we just don't live the lifestyle that fits a dog. That's just the tip of the iceberg, I could go on for hours. But I'm going to stop and say thank you for letting me know I am not alone.


Carrie 13 months ago

This is very relieving to discover!! I hve been made to feel like a bad person for not wanting dogs in my house. I grew up being taught that dogs are pets. They smell and do many dirty things that should not be allowed in a home. You love them and take care of them, but ultimately they are pets!! My husband was raised that dogs are family and they are completely helpless! His sister rescues dogs and fosters them, which I think is a very respectable thing to do, however she is very opinionated about dogs and expects others to feel the exact same. His parents are this way too. His mother insulted my parents by saying that they didn't respect us for asking us not to bring our dog over because they don't want dogs in their house. I, personally, would feel rude if I brought our dog to my parents house knowing that this is their house! If they don't want dogs in their house, that's their business! Thankfully, my husband is becoming to understand my feelings, he is not completely there, but he's beginning to. I can't stand going to his parents house and having four big dogs harrass me while I have my meal. The smell while I'm trying to eat just turns my stomach!!!! I've never said anything because this has only happened in their home and I respect how they want to live. However, I've told my husband that when we have our house built I absolutely do not want all of his families dogs running around my clean home after working 40+ hours a week! I dread when this time comes because I know they will all have a fit! I don't hate dogs, I just strongly dislike having one living in my home that I have to keep clean with an unending busy schedule. Not to mention all of the vet bills and relentless whining even after playing a long walks. I can't get work done at home because of this! Not to mention, she wants to be outside!! The poor thing has to stay locked in our tiny apt until one of us gets home. I know she doesn't like it. I could go all day but I'll leave it at that.


Alisha 13 months ago

Oh thank the Lord! I thought I was alone on this island! For years I have had a dog and hated it! Don't get me wrong, she gets bathed, flea treaments, goes to the vet, gets fed, stays inside and let out etc etc. We even go on the occasional run... but I've always felt... meh. It's a DOG! I'll be sad when she passes but holy crap she is a lot of work! Not only does the mess drive me crazy but she chews the hell out of everything! How are you supposed to love something that destroys everything with her teeth!? This will be my last dog! I would never do anything to hurt an animal but is it not cruel to pass judgment on people who would rather simply not own a certain animal? How is that fair? I do love cats though...


Stephanie 13 months ago

Thank you for this! It makes me feel like I'm not alone. I hate how people always say things like you can't trust a person who doesn't like dogs. It's so annoying! Why do I have to like a dog to be trusted? I own a dog and she is well taken care of because I have respect for all living things but I literally have her in my house because my husband and son love her. I hate her shedding, I hate how she chews on everything, I hate how she expects attention from me. I already have enough of attention to give out to my 19 month old son and husband. I guess I'm not mature enough or loving or patient enough to handle another thing wanting my attention. I didn't grow up with pets, this is my first so that might have something to do with the reason why I have no patience for her. Anyway, thank you for being brave (unlike me) and putting it out there.


Jessie 12 months ago

Ugh, I feel you. I'm sick and tired of people thinking I'm some kind of psychopath because I don't adore their dogs. Yes, they can be nice from a distance and some of them are even smart. I just don't want to pet them, play with them or have them licking my face and begging for food, let alone own one. I hate animal abuse and would never ever hurt one, so no, I'm not a psychopath.

My boyfriend owns a dog, which is annoying the crap out of me. He's quite well behaving, but the endless neediness and being hyper active is really getting on my nerves. He's running around the flat most of the day with his ball, wanting everyone to throw the ball around and needing constant attention from everyone and BARKING. God, the barking is the worst. He gets into bed with us, sleeping right between us, on me or on my damn pillow. These are obviously faults in his training but he was adopted at six years old and the old habits die hard, I presume. I don't even want to move in with my boyfriend cause of that dog. I don't want to end up taking care of him and sharing our bed with him.


Adia 11 months ago

This article is so refreshing. I am not an animal lover - period. I do own a cat and have had a couple of dogs in the past. I am just not the animal nurturing type. Especially dogs. For the most part I find them nerve wracking and just too damned needy. When I come home from work I don't want to be bothered with a jumping , tail-wagging , furry , ball of happiness and energy that needs my constant attention. I hate cleaning up the messes they create - and well ... they stink and make everything around them stink. Not my cup of tea. Don't need it in my house. I work hard for the things I buy and NO animal (cats included) are welcome to come in and destroy my stuff. My cat is pretty well behaved (for a cat). He does not get on my bed , or jump on countertops or pee or shit anywhere except the litterbox or outside. When I come home from work , he meows a couple of times then sits and stares at me. I acknowledge him and stare back. Then he goes to sleep. That is about as much as I want to deal with after 10 hours of work.

So , for the dog lovers out there - God bless you for wanting to deal with a high maintenence animal. But there are those of us who don't want to and don't feel one iota of shame about it.


Raven 11 months ago

I do NOT like dogs, yet here I am, looking down from the couch, at my husband's dog. She's rolling around on a toy and eating the eviscerated fluff.

She's harmless, friendly, stupid, but above all, stupid. Stupid in that window-licking kind of way. Other than her imbecilic, impossible to train mind, she's harmless.

I like my cats. I like their independence and their aloofness. We share affection, I feed and clean up after them, but I don't have to arrange my schedule around them. I would do anything for my cats, within the realm of: "They're still just pets." But the dog?

I hate that I have to take her for walks: I like my time for me.

I hate that she's too stupid to learn basic obedience and I don't have the patience to, daily, go over the same three commands, that regardless of incentive, she never grasps.

I hate the smell, the drool, the need for crates, toys, and leashes, the pointless energy, the whining, and above all, the barking. Just shut up, already.

I hate feeding a lap-warming poop machine; I have cats for that job already. At least the cats smell nicer and take up less real estate.

If she weren't my husbands dog, I would not have her.


David 11 months ago

Here's a thought. I would never lick you without your permission, certainly would never stick my nose in your crotch without being invited there. If I'm in a coffee shop, I'd never flop my head on your girlfriend's lap and drool down her leg. If I am at your house (or my own) I would not lick my genitals, surf your counter for food, lick your floor, or yell, "HEY! HEY! HEY! HEY! HEY! between the hours of midnight and 6 a.m. If I did, I would likely be reported to the police and find myself in a bit of trouble, deservedly so. SOOOooo, why am I held to a different standard than dogs are??? Because it is civil? Because I don't consider myself beyond reproach, God's gift to the f&*#in rest of the world? Space is getting tighter, people. Have some common courtesy and rein the mutts in a little. If you have guests over, keep your dogs politely at bay. You should never assume your friends enjoy the canine molestation as much as you do, and if they don't they "aren't your friends" then perhaps you should ask first. You might be surprised what you hear...


Emily 10 months ago

I agree with your article. I don't mind dogs but I'm more of a cat persona than a dog person. I grew up with cats but not dogs. I don't really like dogs because most of the dogs I met have jumped, drolled and bitten me for no reason. Yes i know that they can be trained not to do that. It doesn't help that my mom's dog (it's a puppy right now) isn't trained properly. He jumps on everyone, but i have pushed him away and gently kneed him in the chest when he did that to me and has stopped jumping on me. But he begs at the table (I don't give him anything) he leaves me alone but my mom and step dad get a staredown and constant whining. It doesnt help that they treat him like a kid. Sure i love animals but they are only animals, not kids. They have their food and we have ours. We also have 2 cats and 2 guinea pigs (the pigs are mine). The cats and piggies despise the dog. Both cats hiss and puff themselves up should the dog be upstairs. They can't even go downstairs anymore because of the gate we keep at the stairs and the fact that the dog doesn't know when to stop chasing them. The dog even almost hurt my guinea pigs!

The dog was obtained to appease my sister but she doesn't really play with it at all. I am stuck walking it and cleaning up its crap in the yard. I don't mind the dog but it is poorly behaved. Before people assume that people who don't like dogs are monsters, they should ask why they don't like them and respect people's opinions. I know though that i am not getting a dog, i rather have cats.


forestforthetrees 9 months ago from Charlotte, NC

Relieved to see I am not the only person that feels this way. Thank you for making so much sense.


Corinne 8 months ago

Finally! Someone like me! I can barely tolerate the two dogs I have as well. They really stress me out and cause me a great deal of anxiety. No one in the house takes care of them except for me. Sometimes my husband will feed them, or tell the kids to feed them and give them water, but it usually falls on me,The non-dog lover, which makes me detest them even more. It is so hard to take care of something that brings you absolutely no joy. I like quiet and dogs are not quiet. i'm definitely in the minority and I'm OK with that. I look at these people who like love dogs and think what is wrong with me? And then I realize I'm not the one that has the problem! People are elevating dogs over other people ,over other human beings and I just don't agree with that, at all.dogs in your bed? Gross! dogs cannot have a conversation with you. The only emotions they evoke In me are anger and frustration. The best investment I've made regarding these dogs is the indoor invisible fence. Set that thing up and they can't come in my kitchen or anywhere near me where I don't want them to be. I'll take a cat any day but of course my husband doesn't like cats so we don't have any.thanks for letting me vent, I feel better.


Lauranyc 8 months ago

Omg finally I'm not alone!! I'm not a dog lover at all but I married a dog lover/owner. I feel like I've made the worst mistake of my life. My husband and his family adore the dog but because I don't touch him or want him near me they think I'm the most heartless person ever. We moved in together and I have all white furniture and a lot of NYC style clothing, I had to go to Walmart to buy some cheap clothing to wear so my nice clothes don't get ruined with dog hair and smell. The worst part is going out to eat and smelling the f*#%#%* dog as you eat. I just want to puke every time. They hug and cuddle the dog and he licks them after licking his ass and balls and they would go straight to the food without washing their hands, so gross!! We are newlyweds currently sleeping in separate bedrooms since the dog haven't had a bath in 2-3 months and can't sleep outside our bedroom in which I think is a private area for couples, it's driving me insane. I often feel frustrated since if I say something about the dog it will cause a fight between my husband and I. We are already financially struggling and with the dog on special pain meds it's putting a huge dent into our finance. The other day my MIL said "how is your son doing?" I wanted to say the last time I checked nothing popped out my vagina. Aaaarrrr!! Thanks for letting me vent!!


Nat 6 months ago

I feel like the world has gone crazy with the dog worship bullshit!! I really think it is a mental disorder. People who love dogs more than people have got to be the most emotionally stunted clueless individuals. They delude themselves into thinking that their dog is their best friend and loves them so much when in all reality it just wants some food and attention. I can't stand it when people act like dogs are the same as children. I have three kids and it does not even come close, not one little bit. I can't stand that there are people starving in the world yet people spend millions upon millions of dollars on expensive dog medications, dog costumes, pet spas, and all of this nonsense. It's a freaking dog it eats its own crap for fu** sake. It doesn't care about handcrafted organic dog biscuits. My husband had a dog before we got married and while she is a good dog, I never wanted another dog. She is a jealous bitch that has started peen and pooping all over the floor since our youngest two kids came along. Unless absolutely necessary I refuse to clean up the mess anymore I'm not the one who gets the so-called enjoyment out of the stupid beast so my husband can be in charge of cleaning up after it. When I'm at home the dog is either outside or in our heated garage on her dog bed. I'm glad when we moved in together I told him The dog wasn't allowed in our bedroom or on the furniture and if that was a problem that this wasn't going to work out. I really hate that our carpets smell of dog. Our house constantly feels dirty and I clean all the time. I get no enjoyment whatsoever out of this stupid dog.


legstump 5 months ago

Dog loving has become akin to religious fanaticism --it is morphing into the absurdly distasteful-- and it keeps those disengaged from the many issues facing us as a civilization.

Criticizing the behavior of dog lovers --and their dogs-- is deemed to be a taboo subject.

Please note, I don't condone cruelty in any form to animals --be they dogs or other animals-- but from the perspective of the "dogs do no wrong" cult everything and everyone that does not accommodate the needs and whim of dogs and dog lovers is deemed cruel.

Dogs are not appliances, yet it is apparent that many people should never 'own' them. The idea of responsible and respectful ownership is beyond them. Moreover, the lack of realism of the dog lovers cult is astounding. Think of the numbers of dogs that are euthanized every day? Not just in the United States, but globally. At the same time, people go out and purchase puppies, and revere them until they become too much to handle (thanks to never ending disobedience, defecation, urination, general uncleanliness, and disorderly conduct) and in turn, these dogs eventually get dumped at a shelter to be euthanized, Concurrently, other cultures see dogs as part of the food chain. There is no consistency, yet in North America, anyone who doesn't care about the dog loving cult is deemed a sociopath.

I commend you for having the bravery to articulate your views; we have every right to do so in a free society.


morgue 4 months ago

Turn all pet dogs into protein and feed a third world country.


jupe 4 months ago

Haha, these comments and anecdotes are great!!


Lisa 4 months ago

Thank you so much for this. I'm glad I'm not alone.

I'm happy that my friends enjoy their dog's companionship, but I don't see why I'm expected to share their enthusiasm. It's their dog, not mine. I have no desire to be licked, barked at, or jumped on. I refuse to give a Facebook like to a doggie costume because I find dress-up clothes for dogs ridiculous. If they want to dress their dog, fine, but why do they expect me to pretend I find it cute? Why are they disappointed when I don't want to coo at their pooch in a high-pitched voice or let their dog chew on my sandals? Why do they need me to validate their love for their "fur baby"?

The weird thing is that friends are generally tolerant of differences in taste. I can like different music, cook different food, pursue a different career, or practice a different religion from my friends, and no one really cares. But if I admit I'm not a dog person, people back away as if I'd committed a crime.

I would never hurt an animal, and I can respect the fact that some people are really into dogs. I just wish people would respect the fact that I'm not.


Liza 3 months ago

I am so glad I've found this article. I really want to be a good dog owner. After 25 plus years of having dogs I am at the end of my rope. There isn't a day that doesn't go by that I wish we didn't have dogs. I am overwelmed with cleaning, vet bills, having to get back home because we have dogs. It is a HUGE responsibility and I want to rehome my dogs. I know a shelter would kill them. I am not so calous that I want them to die. My husband loves the dogs but my son and I are the ones who take care of them....I really want to have zero dogs and take my life and home back! I too am depressed feel like there is no way out. My husband always thinks my feelings will pads but I deal with these thoughts daily and try to supress my feelings. Soooo frustrating!


Tony from Ga. 4 weeks ago

God bless you for your fine article. You have a great flair for writing. I'm almost at the end of my rope. My girlfriend has 3 big dogs that she never scolds. Her mother lives with her and is even worse. When they invariably annoy me or other people they just say "No!" and then give the dog a lecture on why that was bad. As if the animal knew our language. No punishment.It's becoming a big problem and putting quite a strain on our relationship. She has a huge backyard that the dogs enjoy, but won't let them stay out more than 10, or 15 minutes. I hate being licked by dogs,and would just react without thought and really hurt the animal without meaning to. I see red, so to speak. Of course I have explained this to her quite a lot. Like a previous comment I saw, I grew up on a farm also, and I like dogs OK, but I hate when they aren't trained to behave. also, I have asthma, and I can't take dog dander. I really love her, but if she / they keep treating dogs like kids, I don't know what I will do. I feel like The dogs are #1, and I'm not even a close #2.

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