Primrose my beautiful maltese shih tzu bichon frise puppy dog

Primrose my beautiful little girl!
Primrose my beautiful little girl! | Source

PRIMROSE: My beautiful Maltese Shih Tzu Bichon Frise.


Primrose was given to me as a surprise gift by my youngest Son.

Our gorgeous girl "Tinkerbell" had passed away with Thyroid Carcinoma a few months previous, at only eight years old. With tender loving care she was with us twelve months longer than the Vet had advised us that she would be and pain free, which was a huge bonus. She was the most placid and adorable pup that you could wish for. The whole Family missed her terribly.

Our children lived next door to us, well that is where they slept and their mail was delivered to, At this stage of their lives their cooking skills needed a little more practice, so they had their evening meal with us, that was no problem, I enjoyed it.

Primrose sleeping!
Primrose sleeping! | Source
Primrose when she was three years old!
Primrose when she was three years old! | Source

The Gift

One Sunday morning my youngest son came in which was not unusual in the least, what was a little different, he had something stuffed down his jumper and it was moving,he had a huge grin on his face and said Mum I have someone who is anxious to meet you ( they knew that we didn't want another Puppy just yet) but hey who listens to their Mother all the time. They also knew what would happen once I had seen what was tucked down his jumper,there would be no way that they would get this little bundle off me, well they got that right, she would be mine to keep. :)

Out of the top of his jumper came this tiny little head then the rest followed, the tears were rolling down my face she was absolutely beautiful, she had a card attached to a pink collar saying that she was mine. She was cream with champagne markings, a complete fluff ball and oh so beautiful,cute and cuddly.

Primrose with her toy
Primrose with her toy | Source

The Naming

The next thing was what are you going to name her, when I told them they all said you can't call her that, we are not going to go around calling out PRIMROSE. Well eventually they got used to it. We did call her Primmy sometimes, either way both names suited her.
She was quiet a Lady, liked to have bows in her hair, loved to have a bath and smell nice, slept on our bed, loved all her meals home cooked, she never had tinned food in her life, absolutely loved fruit and veg. She was my beautiful little princess.

She spent hundreds of hours of her life with me in the garden, where ever I was she was right beside me. never wandered away even if the gate was open, she had to see you at all times.

We chose our holiday accommodation. so that she could come with us, when that was not possible she stayed with friends that spoilt her something awful and never seemed to want to give her back, she loved staying with them. I almost had to kidnap my girl back.

Problems !!!!

She had just turned 12, when one day she wouldn't eat, highly unusual, she absolutely loved her food, so we took her to the Vets, had all types of test done, the end result was Kidney Disease.

The Vet tried dialysis for 3 days and it did not work, she wouldn't eat, wouldn't drink, wouldn't walk, she just wanted to lay in her bed, then after a couple of days she got up and started following me around, looking so sad and trying to tell me:

"Mum its time"

So we made the decision and took her back to the Vets, it was after hours so they waited for us, she went to sleep wrapped in her very special blanket.

Primrose say cheese!
Primrose say cheese! | Source

Warning to other dog lovers!

Please do not ever feed your puppy Sultanas or Grapes, Primrose loved them.

Had I known that they contribute to Kidney Disease in puppies I would never have given them to her. It was a very hard lesson to learn, and one I will never forget!

She was cremated and now takes pride of place in a beautiful polished box on top of our Crystal Cabinet, surrounded by her favorite toys.

17/6/1997 - 10/7/2009

I talk to her every day. She was my very special beautiful girl:  Primrose. :) :)

A Poem for pet lovers!

The Lady Vet and her staff could not have been more caring and understanding in our loss of Primrose and gave us a lovely poem.

I would like to share this poem with anyone who has gone through or is going through the trauma of making the 'last decision' for their beloved pet!

If it should be...............

If it should be that I grow frail and weak,
And pain should keep me from my sleep,
Then you must do what must be done,
For this, the last battle, can't be won.

You will be sad, I understand,
Don't let the grief then stay your hand,
For this day more than all the rest,
Your love and friendship stand the test.

We've had so many happy years,
What is to come can hold no fears.
You'd not want me to suffer so;
When the time comes, please let me go.

Take me where my needs they'll tend,
And stay with me, if you can, till the end.
Hold me firm and speak to me,
Until my eyes no longer see.

I know in time, you will see,
It is a kindness you do for me.
Although my tail its last has waved,
From pain and suffering I've been saved.

Don't grieve that it should be you,
Who must decide this thing to do,
We've been so close, we two, these years;
Don't let your heart hold any tears.

Smile, for we walked together for a little while.

I truly believe that this poem helped me make the right decision for my Primrose, it also made me realize that I had to rule from my head not my heart and to do what was best for her. :)

Tinker Bell
Tinker Bell | Source

Comments 32 comments

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VioletSun 6 years ago from Oregon/ Name: Marie

Oh, this was touching, so honest and full of love. As you share, you are also making potential dog owners aware of what not to do. Its good to know that your dogs lived with a loving human mom.

My sister lost her teenage son 6 years ago, and she had a dream a couple of years ago, where her late son gifted her with a Maltese dog, and she woke up feeling a deep sense of love and peace. Upon researching I found out that Maltese dogs are good for healing, and are recommended for those who are in grief, we had no idea!

The photos are adorable!


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oliversmum 6 years ago from australia Author

VoiletSun. Hi. I thank you from the bottom of my heart for your very kind words.

It was a little hard and very emotional to write about my beautiful Girl.

I kick myself everyday for not knowing what Sultanas and Grapes can do to a Puppy, and hoping that it will help other pet lovers in not what to give their pets food wise.

I'm so sorry for your Sisters loss, that must have been so very hard to accept.

To dream that her Son had gifted her a Maltese to help with healing her grief that is just wonderful, and I totally agree that is exactly what they can do, They are an absolutely beautiful and caring little dog and love to be close to their human Mums and Dads.

Thank you again. It is always so very nice when you drop by. :) :)


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Feline Prophet 6 years ago from India

It's never easy to make a decision like that, especially when it concerns a beloved pet. But you have lovely memories to hold on to. Look at it this way - Primrose was in your life when you needed her, and she needed you. :)


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oliversmum 6 years ago from australia Author

Feline Prophet. Hi. It was heartbreaking, but you have to do what is best for your pet no matter what.

Yes we have some great memories to hold on to.

She was with us for twelve years and everyone was very special.

You are so right. We filled each others needs.

Thank you so very much for your beautiful comment, its always lovely to hear from you. :) :)


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attemptedhumour 6 years ago from Australia

Just can't talk at the mo, tears are flooding....xxxxxxxxxx all the best.

This is Lin, Keith's wife.

How beautiful and yet so sad


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MPG Narratives 6 years ago from Sydney, Australia

Primrose was so cute, how wonderful that you had her in your life,Oliversmum. Tears were flowing as I read your story. Thanks for the tips too on grapes, I have fed Sassie them occasionally, definitely won't now. Thanks so much.


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Pamela99 6 years ago from United States

I agree that Primrose was adorable. I'm glad you have the new pup as it is another one to love that will love you and ease the pain . Very toughing hub.


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oliversmum 6 years ago from australia Author

attemptedhumour. Hi. Yes the last couple of weeks were very sad, and knowing what we had to do was so hard.

On the other hand we had twelve perfect years with her.

As I read through what I have written, especially the poem the tears roll down my face, can't help it.

Thank you so much for reading about Primrose's life with us, and leaving a lovely comment. :) :)


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Georgina_writes 6 years ago from Dartmoor

Yours is such a touching story - beautiful pictures too! Absolutely heartbreaking for you. Hang on to those memories.X


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oliversmum 6 years ago from australia Author

MPG Narratives. Hi. She was beautiful and a real Lady.

I was extremely lucky to have her in my life, and I thank my Son for such a precious gift.

I hope it did not upset you too much reading about my Girl.

Also I am so very happy that you will not give Sassie (love her name) any more Grapes.

Your comment was beautiful and very much appreciated. Thank you. :) :)


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oliversmum 6 years ago from australia Author

Pamela99. Hi. Thank you. She was very special.

Primrose was our beautiful little girl, and now Oliver is our very handsome little man, and very much loved by the whole family.

Thank you for reading about my Primrose it means so much to me. :) :)


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Hello, hello, 6 years ago from London, UK

It was written from a loving heart right through She was very adorable but so is your new puppy. The trouble with pets when you loose them it is so traumatic and heart breaking. I know.


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oliversmum 6 years ago from australia Author

Georgina_Writes. Hi. Thank you so much for your lovely comment.

We have so many Photos of Primrose, it was hard to choose.

Somethings are harder to let go than others, but as you say keep your memories close to your heart,which I am doing.

Thanks again for reading about my Primrose. :) :)


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oliversmum 6 years ago from australia Author

Hello,hello. Hi. Thank you so much.

Primrose was absolutely beautiful,

It is so very hard to say goodbye, but that is part of life unfortunately.

Yes Oliver is a very handsome little guy, with his own personality and special way of doing things.

We love him and would not be without him for an instant.

Thank you again for reading about my girl and leaving such a lovely comment. :) :)


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attemptedhumour 6 years ago from Australia

Hi oliversmum, we shouldn't treat your story as sad because you all made sure that Primrose's life was a happy one. We have had many dogs over the years and we cherished all of them in their different ways. Our six current ones , yes six, are spoilt rotten we'd be lost without them. A lovely hub. Cheers


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oliversmum 6 years ago from australia Author

attemptedhumour. Hi. I do believe that we did celebrate every minute of the twelve wonderful years that Primrose spent with us, maybe that,s what made it so hard when we lost her.

You have six similar to Primrose in your Family, Oh you are so fortunate, and to loose any one of them would be hard.

I understand spoiling them would be easy, as these little guys and gals just slot so easily into your heart.

Thank you so much for your comment. :) :)


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katyzzz 6 years ago from Sydney, Australia

You made me weep, but that's good because it is not very often that I can do it, I've lost the capacity, too much grief for me.

I hope to be getting a new little dog and a cat soon, too.

God bless and weep no more!


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oliversmum 6 years ago from australia Author

Katyzzz. Hi. Yes No more crying, easier said than done.:)

I would love to know about your new Pup and Kitten and their names when you get them. Maybe you could write about how they took your heart and settled into your home.

Thank you so much for reading about my Primrose and leaving such a lovely comment. :) :)


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Mountain Blossoms 6 years ago from SE Thailand

That really was so moving OliversMum and I can so easily relate to it after losing our beloved old Tess this year. Little Primrose sounds such a character. The poem is beautiful too and I've printed it off for my daughter who's just lost her old Westie, Smartie. Thank you for letting us share this. Mai.


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oliversmum 6 years ago from australia Author

Mountain Blossoms. Hi. Thank you.

I am still missing my Girl, but it's getting better as times go on. I'm really a softie at heart.

Your story about Tess was very sad and beautiful at the same time, have not commented on her as yet,but will do so soon.

We now have a new little Guy named Oliver, He is so handsome and sometimes naughty, but we love him dearly.

I do hope the Poem helps your Daughter in coping with the loss of her Smartie(love the name).

Thanks again for your lovely comment, it was very much appreciated. :) :)


Maureenlovedmybichons.. 5 years ago

Just lost two Bichons this year.male Cody 16 and female Candy just yesterday..she was 14...She died of renal failure too....Donot beat yourself up...Dogs get renal failure for various reasons..the gerapes may not have been the real cause....heredity and other factors playa large role too...You gave her 12 good years and maybe that was her destiny anyway....you were a good and loving mom...and she knew it...it shows in tour story and your sorrow..all our pets teach us to be better owners in the furure..


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oliversmum 5 years ago from australia Author

Maureenlovedmybichons. Hi. I am so sorry. It must have been so hard to loose Cody and Candy so close together, and Candy with the same Renal failure as my Primrose.

You were a little more fortunate than I, to have your beautiful pets a little longer.

I do realize that the Grapes and Sultanas did not cause the disease, but they did very much contribute to it.

Primrose was my girl, but very much loved by the whole family, and she did have a wonderful life.

I still miss her a lot. We now have Oliver and he is absolutely beautiful, oh so different to Primrose, attitude plus.

You are right our pets do teach us to be better owners and in some ways better people.

Thank you so very much for your lovely comment. :) :)


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Juliette Morgan 5 years ago

Oh pretty, pretty Primose and how you love her. 12 yrs was a good life and you'll all be reunited one day. On the odd ocasions I've dropped grapes on the floor, I've always picked them up as my Dougie rushes for them - luckily he doesn't like them. Say hi to little Oliver from Dougie and I.


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oliversmum 5 years ago from australia Author

Juliette Morgan. Hi. Yes she was and we did.

Her 12 years were pretty good, but I would have loved a few more happy and healthy years with her. It was not to be.

It is wonderful that Dougie does not like grapes. I rarely buy them any more, just in case Oliver snoops them out, he is good at nicking things he should not have.

Thank you for your great comment. Hello to you and dougie from Oliver and I. :) :) :)


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Mrs. J. B. 5 years ago from Southern California

OH THE TEARS...... This is a beautiful story


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oliversmum 5 years ago from australia Author

Mrs.J.B. Hi. Thank you. She was my beautiful girl.

Each time I read through this hub there are a few tears still.

I am sorry that it brought tears to your eyes.

Thanks again for your lovely comment, it is very much appreciated. :) :)


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Peggy W 5 years ago from Houston, Texas

We know how hard it is to lose a beloved animal who has become a part of the family. My heartfelt sympathy to you on the loss of your beloved Primrose. You did the right thing. It was failing kidneys that had us put our sweet Trudy to sleep. You honored Primrose (and your son who gave her to you as a gift) by this hub. Up and beautiful votes!


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oliversmum 5 years ago from australia Author

Peggy W. Hi. Yes many,many folks go through the trauma of loosing their beloved pets,each affected in a different way.

Thank you so much for your very kind words,I do appreciate them.

I am sorry that you lost your beautiful trudy in a similar way to my Primrose.It really is hard.

My son knows how much his gift of Primrose to me meant and how important they both were/are in my life.

Thanks again for your lovely comment and your votes.They made my day even better. :) :)


sherbearw 5 years ago

WOW oliversmum, this was really soo true. I brought tears to my eyes. It really makes you stop and think. Thanks so much for sending me the link, I really enjoyed it.


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oliversmum 5 years ago from australia Author

sherbearw. Hi. Thanks for reading my story on my beautiful Primrose.

I hope it helped you to make the right decision for your beloved pet.

Good luck. :) :)


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Joyfulcrown 13 months ago

Thank you for sharing your beautiful Primrose with us. I was very touched.


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oliversmum 13 months ago from australia Author

Joyfulcrown Hi. Thank you for your very kind comment. Primrose was such a very special and beautiful girl. We still miss her terribly. :) :)

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