You have a perfect side - no kidding!

The Perfect Side Harnessed

As a child bred in a Catholic household, I was always reminded that I was imperfect, thus the need to be humble all the time. Certainly, there was nothing wrong with this. But as I grew up and had a problem with my self-esteem, I realized that this type of child rearing was unbalanced. I’m not saying that we should have been taught the other way around. If my parents did the opposite, similarly, that would have been unbalanced.

I followed up the story of how a young man, Nick Vujicic, born without arms and legs, developed a stable, amazing and contagious self-confidence. I found out from him that crediting yourself with what you see as best in you and holding on to that is a very good way to build your self-esteem. Finding the perfect balance between affirmation and a sense of incompleteness (and therefore the need to be humble) is a daily challenge. Of course, we don’t want arrogant people messing with our life and work. But how do we reach a culture where people develop their full potential and yet they don’t bully people around simply because they hold on to what is perfect in themselves?

It would be an interesting moment to be able to hear from the couple Wu Zhengdan and Wei Baohua,a pair of Chinese ballet dancers who lives in Guangzhou, China how they did the balancing effort so that they emerged as wholesome persons despite their genius in dance whose peak level they were able to harness. Suffice it to know now that these two dancers were able to spot and credit themselves with that perfect side of themselves - their genius in dance. And they built on that. The awesome performance of Wu Zhengdan and Wei Baohua captured in a You tube video tells us about the limitless capability of the human spirit. As embedding the link has been disabled, kindly just search:Chinese Ballet Circus pas de deux troupe du Guangdong. You can still get to the You Tube video this way.

Another amazing witness to that perfect side in every person is this ballet performance of a young lady without an arm and a young man without a leg. After watching the performance, though only in video, you will feel that you are not the same again.

She without an arm, he without a leg - ballet - Hand in Hand

The Perfect Side Harnessed

Born with an arm and no legs

Here's another example of a person's perfect side harnessed by the person and supported by those who love him.

Nick's unsinkable spirit

The Challenge to each person

Indeed each person has a perfect side. When a person fails to see this point, confusion and a sense of meaninglessness hounds the person. Weren’t moments like these that part of the human condition that challenged us to retrieve that part of us that is perfect? Sometimes there is a stubborn little voice that tells us we don’t mean a thing to some people. This is a time when we have not worked out the balance between seeing that side of us that is perfect and accepting that side of us that is imperfect. To reach this sense of balance is not a totally cerebral effort. A lot of exercises on the emotional and intuitive level will help keep the balance.

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franciaonline 5 years ago from Philippines Author

Like you, I was overwhelmed too when I first saw that video, that's why I did a hub on it.

Thanks for dropping by and leaving an inspiring comment.


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ahorseback 5 years ago

Francia , Soo inspiring. When I see this I think: what have I to complain about!...Awesome ......:-}


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franciaonline 7 years ago from Philippines Author

Yes, we can! The key to excelling into new heights is, like what your hubs say: CHARACTER. Thanks for dropping by, Marisue.


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marisuewrites 7 years ago from USA

We can overcome and then excel to new heights. wow!!!


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franciaonline 7 years ago from Philippines Author

Thanks for dropping by dear Doctor. I have been sharing your hub on how to cure cancer without worrying about a lot of expenses. Suddenly, people I talk with are no longer afraid of cancer after knowing about your formula!


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Kelley Eidem 7 years ago from Panama City, FL

Very nice. Very nice, indeed.

The best to you.

Kelley


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Cris A 7 years ago from Manila, Philippines

You have done perfectly France and in the spirit of the season. :D


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franciaonline 7 years ago from Philippines Author

It's a holy week hub, Cris. Even if I don't go to church often, there is that part of me that wants to be in touch with that perfect side of people.

Thanks for dropping by.


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Cris A 7 years ago from Manila, Philippines

Hi France

I believe that achieving balance is as close to perfection as we can get. Incompleteness should not derail anyone from leading a balanced life - physically and emotionally. Another thoughtful hub. Of course, I expect nothing less :D


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franciaonline 7 years ago from Philippines Author

Hi cindyvine,

Thanks for dropping by and leaving a generous comment.


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franciaonline 7 years ago from Philippines Author

Hi Elena,

The Holy Week climate here has sent me looking for sources of inspiration in a not-so-perfunctory (this word again!) way. I must say I succeeded in getting my most needed energy to push me away from a kind of "spiritual" boredom I was in. On the cerebral level I know what I should do to live that meaning I want but on another level I felt dry...no verve, that's the term. Finding the story of people who normally would have called it quits but didn't really makes me get up and run run run. That's why I am sharing this hub.

Thanks for leaving a comment, Elena.


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cindyvine 7 years ago from Kyiv, Ukraine

Definitely a thinking hub! Well done!


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Elena. 7 years ago from Madrid

Francia, finding balance is a life quest for some of us. These stories (I read you other hub the other day) are inspirational to say the least. As in, one's gotta stop and wonder what one has to complain about, considering.... Makes me feel ashamed that I'd like to be prettier or taller or... well, you get my drift!


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franciaonline 7 years ago from Philippines Author

I do strive too. Thanks for dropping by, goldentoad.


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goldentoad 7 years ago from Free and running....

I strive.

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