Remember Common Courtesy

I can see clearly
I can see clearly

Where Has Our Kindness Gone

As a driver for 38 years or so I have noticed the lack of kindness shown by people while driving. Where has our kindness gone too, people use to wave when they passed you on the road, that is far and in between now. People are so rapped up in their own problems, and their own little world to notice that there are other people on the road with them. I have actually followed a person before that never looked in the rear view mirror, not once during the entire time i was behind them. The mirror was turned toward the person in the car (why do not ask me), and when they went to turn off the road they jammed their brakes at the last minute, no turn signal (i did not know where they were going) then the person came to just about a complete stop before exiting the highway. Not once did the person look to see if anyone else was on the road, or care if anyone hit them from behind, and maybe that was the whole purpose for their uncaring behaviour. I have learned over the years to stay back far enough from someone else's vehicle to be sure that I have enough time to stop in case they do something unexpected.

Blinders

what do you mean blinder
what do you mean blinder

Common Courtesy Lost

I was in the Army for 3 years and trained as a heavy truck driver. The classes that i went thru to get my license to drive heavy vehicles was extensive. The lessons of common courtesy that i learned in the Army is still with me today as i drive my own vehicle on the highway. If I see someone on the side of the road of a two lane highway stopped in their car, or walking, I move over crossing the center line (when no on coming traffic is in the other lane) or crowd the center lane to give the person on the side of the road some room to keep from hitting them. People do not understand that a person walking could stumble and fall right into the path or your vehicle, or if parked on the side of the road could suddenly open the car door. I have seen people stay as close to the edge of the road as they can get like they were trying to hit someone, without any care to the person, themselves, the person behind them, or the person coming in the other lane.  The person that is the most dangerous on the highway is the one that has blinders on, they do not look left, they do not look right or behind them, they just stare straight ahead at the car in front of them mesmerized by the tail lights.  People like this cause more wreaks than anyone else, because they will not look ahead at what is happening with the cars way up in front of them, and rear end someone when it could have been avoided just by watching what other people are doing on the road. 

tail gating
tail gating

Common Courtesy Lost - Continued

If people would just open their eyes, and look at what they were doing while driving it would make a world of difference in driver safety. I have seen women putting makeup on while driving, men and women talking on cell phones totally oblivious to anything going around them, and people driving with a cell phone in one hand, coffee and cigarette in the other hand all at the same time (who the #e!! was driving?). People do not get over on four lanes highways when someone it trying to merge from a side road, they ride in the fast lane blocking traffic, they go slower in the fast lane than the speed limit, and what is so bad about that is they usually get over into the slow lane after blocking traffic for miles and turn off to the right knowing that was where they were going to in the first place. I have had people look in the rear view mirror watching me, and go slower just to see what i would do or say. Or the person propped up against the drivers door with their hand stretched across the seat taking their ever loving time without any care to the person behind them because they do not have to be anywhere.

sorry brake lights out
sorry brake lights out

Common Courtsey Tips

Here are a few tips of common courtesy that can make driving more pleasurable, and safer for others on the road.

1. Leave a little earlier (ten minutes can make a world of difference). 2. Have respect for others on the road (just because you do not have to be anywhere does not mean others don't). 3. Do not talk on your cell phone while driving (pull off to the side of the road, or pull into a parking lot (get the #e!! out of the way). 4. Stay out of the fast lane unless you are passing a car (then speed up and get back over into the slow lane once you are clear of the vehicle you were passing). 5. Watch your surroundings (take the blinders off (WAKE UP!). 6. Have respect for other drivers needs (get the #e!! out of the way, stop blocking traffic). 7. Allow people to merge into traffic (get the #e!! over). 8. If someone needs to get over into the lane you are in (don't speed the #e!! up and block them, let them come over). 9. If you are the person being let over (wave, and thank the person for letting you over (then get the #e!! out of the way). 10. If you are turning off the road (get the #e!! out of the way, (safely of course) but get #e!! out of the way). 11. Put your makeup on while your car is warming up, or once you have arrived at your destination (you could be wearing the eye liner in the back of your head when you rear end someone). 12. Be aware of the person behind you (he may have a bigger gun than you). 13. If someone is on the side of the road (get the #e!! over, what if it were you there). 14. Finally obey the traffic laws, a. stay within the speed limit, b. stop completely at a stop sign, c. just because it say right turn on red does not mean slow down and turn (stop stupid), d. when you stop at a sign, or a light, look left, then right, then look left again (the person that is going to kill you while you are driving will hit the drivers door on the left side). These are a few safety, and common courtesy tips that that may save your life, or someone you love, so be aware, and be courteous to other peoples needs while driving.

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allshookup 7 years ago from The South, United States

This is a good hub and good pics to go with it. Although written with some humor, I feel it's a serious subject. Well done. I think we, as a society, have lost common courtesy in all areas. Everything is all about us, we, mine and ours. We are an all-selfish society and we prove that daily. What has happened to our courtesy and what will have to happen to us for us to regain it? I think we would all be better off if we found what we have sadly lost. Well done!


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crazyhorsesghost 7 years ago from East Coast , United States

Yes great hub both the writing and the photos. And yes I see the humor but it is a great thought provoking hub and it needs to be said to people from time to time. I think we all forget and shouldn't a lot of the important things covered on this hub. Courtesy and saying thank you have really been forgotten by a lot of people and they should think. Bottomline like my Grandfather said ask yourself how you would like to be treated and treat other people that way.


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Lady Guinevere 7 years ago from West Virginia

It's called NOT PAYING ATTENTION and talking on cell phones, putting on makeup, reading something and simply thinking about your destination instead of where you are at each moment.


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Roger Renwick 7 years ago from Florence, Alabama Author

hi Allshookup, thanks for the great reply, people are getting worse and worse about not showing any compassion to each other.


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allshookup 7 years ago from The South, United States

You're welcome. It used to be odd to see it, now it's becoming the norm. Very sad. I'm glad you wrote this hub and made us all think.


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Reynolds_Writing 7 years ago from Atlanta, Georgia

Interesting Hub. I agree common courtesy is out the window. Related... One of my pet peeves is when smokers toss lit cigarettes out their windows! It's so rude and can cause accidents.. One hint.. I would break your longer paragraphs into shorter ones. Easier on the eyes.. Otherwise- great job!


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mistyhorizon2003 7 years ago from Guernsey (Channel Islands)

Very interesting Roger, and good advice all round. Well done for this educational piece of writing.


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mistyhorizon2003 7 years ago from Guernsey (Channel Islands)

Very interesting Roger, and good advice all round. Well done for this educational piece of writing.


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NDBEES 7 years ago from DEVON

B*ll*cks, move out the way


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six9k9 7 years ago

I agree about common courtsey being gone. I drive 40 mins to work everyday and usually end up flipping someone off or honking my horn because someone is either so close behind me that I cannot see their license plate. Or they just cut infront of me and almost hit the front of my car.

I kind of have written something along this same principle subject in my blog. It's about kids and dogs out in public. and people not taking responsibility for either one.


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Roger Renwick 7 years ago from Florence, Alabama Author

hi crazyhorsesghost, thanks for the great reply, and i agree with you courtesy is leaving our people and being replaced with a bird (you know which one too), and i agree with your grandfather to treat people like you yourself want to be treated, and i try to practice that every day.


SirDent 7 years ago

It is an interesting hub. I agree with Reynolds_Writing on formatting into shoter paragraphs.

Just don't let those who are uncourteous drag you to their level. I agree that courteousness is a thing of the past for the most part.


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Roger Renwick 7 years ago from Florence, Alabama Author

hi lady, thanks for the great reply and you are right, it is getting worse with more cellphone inovations for people to use, and the worst one is texting, how the hell can you safely drive and be aware of your surroundings while texting.


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Lady Guinevere 7 years ago from West Virginia

Well I know in Virginia they are trying to pass a law that forbids using a cell phone in a car. Way too many teens getting killed this way! About a year ago I was driving over the overpass near my house and I had a green light and as I was driving slowly through the intersection some lady (on a cell phone) was pulling out and it was a red light where she was and she proceeded to tell me off! Where are the Police when you need them!?


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Roger Renwick 7 years ago from Florence, Alabama Author

hi Reynolds-Writing, thanks for the great reply. people do not care any more, even when i smoked years ago (24 yrs. clean) i would get on to my friends for throwing out cigarettes from my or their car, that is what ash trays are for. i have had people flip their cigarette back at me, and hit my car because i was angry over them blocking the fast lane going slow, this happened twice, one got away, the other i reported to the police and pressed charges. thanks also for the advice on my hub too.


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Roger Renwick 7 years ago from Florence, Alabama Author

hi misty, thanks for the great reply, and thanks for your advice on my hub, all help is appriciated.


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Lady Guinevere 7 years ago from West Virginia

The smokers who do that haven't a clue to how fast that can start a forest fire. They need to take lessons as to one of the big fires in California a few years ago was started by someone flicking a cig from their car window--for real!


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Lgali 7 years ago

interesting hub. Lot of good advice


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Roger Renwick 7 years ago from Florence, Alabama Author

hi NDBEES, thanks for reviewing my hub, i hope we can be friends on hub pages, i just do not understand why people block someone, i know some of it is ego, because i have tried to pass people before with on comming traffic in the distance, and they were hell bent not to let me pass them, but being the person i am, i started moving over on them and they gave way with all the customary salutes of the times.


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Roger Renwick 7 years ago from Florence, Alabama Author

hi six9k9, thank for reviewing my hub, and i hope we will be friends on hub pages. i know what you mean about loosing your cool, i live 5 miles from where i work, leave in pleanty of time, usally happy when i start out, but by the time i get to work some stupid a$$ has changed my whole outlook on life (sorry for the french ladies). i will be sure to check out your related hub.


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Roger Renwick 7 years ago from Florence, Alabama Author

hi sirdent, thanks for the hub information, i will use your advice, and thanks for the reply, i think it started when prayers were taken out of schools (i could be wrong, but i do not think so).


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Roger Renwick 7 years ago from Florence, Alabama Author

hi lgali, thanks for the great reply.


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Roger Renwick 7 years ago from Florence, Alabama Author

hi lady, cell phones are dangerous, they take your mind away from what your doing, and i do not care what anyone says, you can not operate a vehicle safely with something chewing your ear off. i also hate when people throw cigarettes out of the car, my house is surrounded by trees, and about 300 yrds away from the road (and anybody sing "FIRE" burning, burning, burning). i was watching cops the other night and a yourn person threw out his cigarette out in front of a police officer and got a ticket of $500.00, and his ash tray was full of ashes but no butts.


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Roger Renwick 7 years ago from Florence, Alabama Author

hi allshookup, people should be aware of this rising problem, please tell your friends, all of my friends, please tell your friends. thanks my friends for all of your support on this hub.


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NDBEES 7 years ago from DEVON

Hi Roger R. Of course we can be friends. We English used to pride ourselves on courtesy and manners, but it is no longer the case with most people. It costs nothing to be polite. I for one will carry on with, please, thank you, opening doors, making sure the wife and kids walk on the inside away from the road and giving up seats for those in need. I could go on for hours about this subject.


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Roger Renwick 7 years ago from Florence, Alabama Author

hi NDBEES, i am the same way if i see someone in need of help, opening a door, picking up something, throwing kids out the window in front of passing cars (ha, got ya!), i saw this little old lady trying to lift a tray of dog food in to her cart, and the cans went everywhere, and this guy passing by just laughed and kept walking, needless to say i stopped what i was doing and helped her, she thanked me several times and said no one helped people like that anymore.  boy she hit the nail on the head with that one, people are getting so self absorbed and selfish that it makes you think we are coming to the end times.


Dee 7 years ago

I have also seen what you speak of here but I will tell you that courtesy is alive and well in the rural areas of the midwest. I just last week was driving on highway 34 (little 2 lane highway with 55 mile speed limits-remember those?) anyway.....I noticed when the on coming driving did "not" smile, or nod the head or raise a hand of hello. It is common (courtesy) to acknowledge the on-coming driver and also acknowledge a driver passing you. SO, come to the midwest rural highways-enjoys the beautiful landscape and friendly faces.


Kim 7 years ago

I like the humour, satire and even the graphic photos for effect. This is a serious situation though. Indeed where has the kindness gone? It has gone the way of all flesh basically because I have noticed an emerging, boiling anger in a lot of people. Hell, it will probably get worse - job losses, horrid economy, personal problems, living on the edge of your car seat or any seat , hoping to God Almighty you won't be next. More recently, people have taken it upon themselves to not ask questions and take a route less travelled by way of some iota of optimism and blow themselves and their families to smithereeens. I can't respect that, though I can understand and empathize. Where there is life there is hope. As I said, the overall kindness-o-meter suggests that on a scale of 1 - 10, people APPEAR to be like 3 on that scale. On the other hand, there is an inherent good in people but we have to look for it too. Maybe we do not do enough of that either because we are all too busy worrying about "what next". What next comes on the cell phone while driving, overtaking in blind corners, e-mails you have to read chock full of stress-inducing bad news, bills at the mailbox while you drive home in a rush all the while giving the finger to your gandma Ethel who is driving a tad slower than you might be (not you exactly) and you know the rest. Even in this time, we have to wake up and smell the coffee, appreciate the roses and take a road trip and enjoy the landscape as Dee says. I think there is still some hope out there.lol

Kim


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Patti Ann 7 years ago from Florida

I totally agree with you - I think that cell phones should not be used at all when driving. This is a good reminder to all of us to be more courteous to others. Thanks!


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Silverlining 7 years ago from Port Elizabeth

whish there where more people like you on the roads! ;-)


willowraintree 7 years ago

Thanks Roger...I drove a Freighliner with my husband for 2 yrs. Never had put make-up on while driving and do not like cell phones while driving. My husband got use to knowing that while I am in town..my phone is on off. Will call him when I am in a park car or in store.

Like U I also pull over when I see anyone on the side of the road. I also slow down when animals are on the road. Where I live U can come around a curve and there will be someone on a horse..so it is always best to keep aware of your surrounding. And I agree with U on people behind you. Thanks for the advice.


cjrobb 7 years ago

It is not just a loss of common courtesy on the road but a symptom of just generally not caring about others at all.


pooby 7 years ago

Great hub....I drive for a living and have a 45 hour to then from work. I see a lot of crazy, selfish and down right mean drivers. Most of the time it best to stay far away from them but.....

The post about the cigarette butts strikes a chord with me....I was so tired of seeing people throw their butts out the window. (If you dont want them in your car then dont smoke!!!!) A lady in front of me threw a lit but out her window and it hit my new car...I was ticked off to say the least, so when we got to the stop sign at the end of the road, (Im usually not like this at all but) since I dont smoke I took the gum out of my mouth and threw it at her car....it stuck to her back window and i laughed my you know what off. I hope she didnt notice it till it had a chance to melt really good on there.


galenbrent 7 years ago

The one about look left, look right, then look back left again is absolutely right. I nailed a girl and totalled both of our cars because she she didn't look back left where I had crested a hill. Thank GOD for airbags ... as for the rest of what you said, I can understand your frustration, however care and compassion also allows others to make mindless mistakes.


Crazdwriter 6 years ago

GREAT hub Roger! The pictures, the video at the end, and your words definitely strike true. It is totally true how common courtesy has flown right out the window. And it is so sad when you see people driving and doing other things. I saw while driving down to my parents a man dressed up as Santa reading a map, driving FAST, and talking on the cell phone. WTH? Why do people have to do other things while driving. If they didn't then hmmm maybe less accidents?

Great hub Roger great hub! I appreciate you writing this one.

And about the waving thing, when living in Hawaii they ALWAYS waved when you let them in your lane or whatever the reason. It was really nice to see.

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