Anxiety: Driving

You Aren't Alone
You Aren't Alone

I'm 22 years old and I can't drive. This is the biggest challenge in my life right now. It's not like I woke up one day and said "I don't want to ever drive." It is such a simple task. A basic life skill. For me it isn't.

I don't even have my drivers permit. I took the test and failed by one freaking point.

I know a lot of people don't understand what the big deal is. The fear and panic is so hard to explain, but for me it's very real.

It's ironic because I'm such a perfectionist in every other aspect of my life and a control freak. You would think driving would fit into that, but the way I see it is there are too many variables that can happen on the road. You can't control what other drivers and cars are going to do. Sure, you can control what you are going to do.

Also the idea that I could kill someone is terrifying. It's not just other cars you have to look out for, it's pedestrians, animals, objects. TOO much.
Even as a passenger in a car I have a hard time and feel on edge.

Anxiety manifests in many different ways, and it's different for everyone. Yes, it is embarrassing, inconvenient, and debilitating. That's the thing about anxiety, it's embarrassing to get anxious over such simple things.

People need to remember that it's hard and that we work everyday to deal with it.

Yes, one day I would like to drive. Hopefully this will help someone dealing with the same issue.

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Titen-Sxull 11 months ago from back in the lab again

I can totally relate to this. I'm 27, I'll be 28 in less than a month and I only just learned to drive this past year. I still have driving anxiety and often look for excuses and ways around going out unless I have to. But I did manage to get my permit and just recently got my license and bought a car.

I come from a bit of a dysfunctional family so I was never taught by my parents and instead had to get taught by my Brother-in-Law. I told myself for years and years that I didn't care, I was happy to walk to and from work, but really it was just my anxiety forcing me to put it off.

The worst, for me, is driving in the rain or driving on very busy highways with a lot of other cars around. I always get so nervous driving in the rain. Someday I'll get used to it, but not yet.

People at the dealership kinda looked at me funny, here's this guy in his late 20s rocking a beard and I'm only getting my license now, only buying a car now...

So don't feel bad about it, you're not alone Jen. And when you do decide you're ready I think you'll be able to do it, it just takes someone you're comfortable with teaching you and lot's of practice.

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