Are You Feeling Trapped by Fate or Are You Living Your Dreams?
What keeps you up at night? What causes you more concern than anything else? Money issues, health problems, family challenges, an unfunded retirement, fear of aging?
How aware are you of what drags you down, and saps your energy and enthusiasm for life?
The Swiss psychiatrist and founder of analytical psychology, Carl Jung (1875-1961) stated, “Until you make the unconscious conscious, it will direct your life and you will call it fate.”
There are so many people today who are unhappy, frightened or unfulfilled, and yet they are unwilling to make the changes necessary to live the life of their dreams. Perhaps, deep down they don’t believe it is possible. And yet, if they could only come to believe it, they could achieve it.
As Napoleon Hill has written, “Whatever the mind can conceive and believe the mind can achieve.” This is actually true and I know because I am doing it. I also believe that if I can do it, you can do it.
Years ago during my seminary training I heard the phrase, “can’t means won’t.” It was something I encountered a lot during my pastoral counseling days. “Oh I couldn’t do that, even though I really want to.” “There is no way.” “As much as I would love to, I don’t have the time, the money, or (fill in the blank).” Can’t means won’t.
Today I sometimes encounter a similar kind of resistance. There are people who say they want something but they just can’t afford it. Generally this claim has very little to do with money. It has more to do with our priorities.
This is fine, we all have priorities which are important to us, and we make countless choices based upon what we most value.
My only point is please do not say it is about money when it isn’t. Don’t say you cannot do something, when what you really mean is that you are not willing to do what it takes to have what you say you really want.
I remember years ago talking with the young son of a friend of mine. He was a very thoughtful young man and also quite inquisitive. One day I said, “You know, I can save you a lot of grief, and time and money on future therapy sessions if you can just learn and practice this one thing. Would you like to know what it is?” In earnest he replied, “Sure, yes, I would.” So I looked directly at him and said, “Always mean what you say, and say what you mean.” He thought about it for a moment, brightened, and said, “OK, yeah, I think I can do that.” I said it isn’t always easy to do, but it is always worth doing; and that if he could do it, he would live a more satisfying life.
W.H. Auden (1907-1973), the well-known poet made this astute, if a bit harsh sounding observation:
“We would rather be ruined than changed.
We would rather die in our dread
Than climb the cross of the moment
And let our illusions die.”
It has been said that we can only do something differently when our fear of continuing on as we are becomes stronger than our fear of change.
Whatever the reasons, it does seem that many prefer clinging to current conditions and just complain, rather than to do what it takes to change.
Then there are those who wake up. They finally capture a vision of what is possible, get charged up, tap into what motivates them, and become fully engaged.
Few things are more exhilarating than helping others to discover and realize this ability, which we all have within us. It is a joy and a privilege to see it stirring and help it emerge.
Yesterday I was talking to someone and he asked what I did and where I live. I told him I am a network marketer, with a wonderful team of folks who help others enhance their health and fiscal fitness by sharing healthy chocolate; and I live totally off the grid on 50 acres.
After my brief reply he grinned and said, “Wow you are livin’ the dream aren’t you?” “You are really living the dream!” I smiled and said maybe eating and sharing healthy chocolate for a living isn’t for everybody, but I am indeed living my dream, and I am very blessed.
If you would like to get beyond that feeling that someone or something else is determining the direction of your life, and if you truly want to make a change which involves helping others and positioning yourself for a brighter, healthier future, I’d love to explore the possibility of having you on our team.
What is your dream? If you are living your dream, then I rejoice with you here and now. On the other hand, if you are feeling trapped and want to make some changes, know that it is possible for you when you move beyond a belief in fate and start believing in yourself.
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