Are we really Listening?

•••► Quick Question... "Don't you just hate it, ,when people talk over you? ~ Me too!

I listen to Judge Judy a lot and I laugh when she says: “God gave you 2 ears and one mouth for a reason.” I think listening is a skill and a quality. Some were born with it, but like me, most of us have had to learn it.

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I have learnt:

a) Listening to your Spouse/Partner - You will know what they need, what makes them happy or if anything is hurting them deep inside.

b) Listening to little Kids – You will hear what they are not saying. What really happened in the playground. The bit they missed out and more. If a kids is inappropriately touched, it will come out at some point, if a parent listens. (I was hesitant to include that, but child abuse has risen in the last few years). On a positive, what they say could give clues to Christmas/Birthday gifts you can get them.

c) Listening to Teens – From their conversation, you will know where they are heading to, or if they are being led astray. Without even meeting their friends, you will already have an idea of who they are.

d) Your Heart - Everyone has an intuition. What is yours saying to you about certain situations? What is your gut feeling? Our gut feeling is usually right.

e) The sounds of Nature – Isn’t nature beautiful? Listen to the sounds of the sea, birds singing. Listening to the sounds of nature is also therapeutic and helps with creative ideas.

f) Listening to a Friend – Was there a cry for help in those words spoken, when they were talking to you? Are there warning bells you need to give them? Is there something that warrants you planning them a nice surprise? Maybe, they casually mentioned they passed an Exam or achieved something.

g) Listening to Customers – No need to get all defensive, if there is Criticism. A business should see it as constructive criticism. Customer feedback helps improve business.

h) Listening to my Creator – “Be still and know that I am God.” Psalm 46:10 God will speak if we are quiet and listen.

Some Effective Ways of Listening:

  • Listen without Judging – Try not to jump to conclusions. If someone is telling you about one side of a fight, remember you haven’t heard the other side.
  • Listen without interrupting – It’s not nice talking over people, when they are talking to you. Some actually would stop talking because it implies they are not being listened to.
  • Listen using eye contact – Give some eye contact.
  • Re-assurance – the usual “Umhs” and “ahs”, nodding of head etc. So they know you are listening.

In summary, there are many benefits of Listening and every profession requires it.

Quote: Every person is a living Treasure Box. ~ Listening holds the key.

~ Are you a Good Listener? ~

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~ Food for Thought ~

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lctodd1947 13 months ago from USA

Elena, I love this article. I have a book; "Quick to Listen, Slow to Speak. This is a great article and thank you for sharing with us a HubPages. Listening is so important to our interpersonal relationships.


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Minnetonka Twin 13 months ago from Minnesota

Wonderful hub on listening. True listening is a skill that we can all work on. I too do not like when someone talks over me. I believe that some people do it because of anxiety and insecurity.

I noticed that there is no voting buttons on Hubpages today. I wonder what this is all about. I would have hit many buttons and voted up if I could.


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Neverletitgo 13 months ago from Minneapolis, MN

Awesome! I really got more benefit about this well organized hub. I have to learn this and I need it. How you treat people is how you want to be treated. thanks for sharing Elena :)


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manatita44 13 months ago from london

Beautiful and necessary Hub, Elena. So important! Much Love.

P.S. It would appear that you took a rest. I dedicated this loving Hub to you some time ago. http://hubpages.com/literature/With-Love-Unspoken-...


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always exploring 13 months ago from Southern Illinois

As you say in this article, listening is so important. It takes practice to be a good listener, at least it did for me. Great article Elena. Good to see you..


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Lady_E 13 months ago from London, UK Author

@lctodd1947 Thanks. I like the title of your book. That's wonderful and I wish you success with it.

@Minnetonka Twin Thanks Linda. The buttons are missing on all Hubs today but it's nice to know you would have pressed many of them. I'm glad you stopped by.

@Neverletitgo - You are welcome. Hope all is well. I haven't seen you for ages. Salaam.


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Lady_E 13 months ago from London, UK Author

@Manatita44 Thanks. I read it before replying here. It's beautiful and I have a left a comment. Very kind of you and thanks for visiting this Hub too. Best Wishes.

@AlwaysExploring Thanks Ruby. I agree it takes practice and patience. Hope you are enjoying summer.


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Matt Easterbrook5 13 months ago from Oregon

Yes a lot of people only like to hear themselves talk. We all need to remember that being a good listener is recipe for helping others and being respectful. I really enjoyed your article Elena. Keep them flowing and great message.


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Lady_E 13 months ago from London, UK Author

@MattEastebrooks Thanks again, Matt. So, true. If we don't listen well, we will not be able to help others. I'm glad you enjoyed it. Best Wishes.


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lctodd1947 13 months ago from USA

Hey Lady E. clarification on the book. I did not write the book 'Quick to Listen' it is a book I read. It was a good book though and I do have a book on Amazon Kindle ...'Is God Real." Not too good yet...lol


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BlossomSB 13 months ago from Victoria, Australia

An interesting article and a good reminder. We often seem to like the sound of our own voice, rather than listening to others. It's better to be like the 'wise old owl.'


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Lady_E 13 months ago from London, UK Author

@lctodd1947 Thanks for clarifying. I like the title of your book and noted your comment "Not too good yet" but I'm glad you wrote it. With all the bad/shocking things happening in the world now, people ask "Where is God?" "Is he real?" So, I believe God led you to write it and He will direct people to buy it.

It's worth putting the Amazon link for your book on your Hubpages profile. People will Tweet it for you. (I definitely will).

Good luck. :-)


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Lady_E 13 months ago from London, UK Author

@BlossomSB Thanks Bronwen, I like the phrase "wise old owl."

I appreciate you stopping by. Enjoy the weekend.


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MsDora 13 months ago from The Caribbean

What a revelation in the spelling of listen and silent. Your article underscores the importance of listening for we need regular reminders. Thanks!


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DDE 12 months ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

A great hub here. You said it all her and so true.


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Lady_E 12 months ago from London, UK Author

@MsDora Thanks so much. I appreciate you stopping by.

@DDE Cheers. Nice to hear from you.


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stricktlydating 11 months ago from Australia

Great information on this topic. I know I need to practice listening more!


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Matt Easterbrook5 11 months ago from Oregon

Listening is an important skill. Great hub with valuable information.

Thank you for writing it.

Matt


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rasta1 11 months ago from Jamaica

I try to listen, I really try very hard


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Lady_E 10 months ago from London, UK Author

@stricktlydating - Thanks. I appreciate you stopping by.

@Matt Cheers Matt, nice to read your comment.

@rasta1 Aaawh....that's kind of you to really take your time. The best part of communication.

Best Wishes to you all.


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Matt Easterbrook5 10 months ago from Oregon

Happy Thanksgiving Day to you and yours.

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