Does Your Boss LIKE You?

Many of us were told from childhood that if we were diligent & industrious workers, we would be noticed & promoted. We are further told that if didn't matter whether our superiors liked us or not;our promotionis would be based upon merit.
Many of us were told from childhood that if we were diligent & industrious workers, we would be noticed & promoted. We are further told that if didn't matter whether our superiors liked us or not;our promotionis would be based upon merit.
 We also have been told by our parents that the workplace should be a place of impartiality. We are inculcated with the premise that there is no room for like in the workplace & that partiality is the exception rather the rule of workplaces.
We also have been told by our parents that the workplace should be a place of impartiality. We are inculcated with the premise that there is no room for like in the workplace & that partiality is the exception rather the rule of workplaces.
You grew up & entered the workplace. Your paraents message has been implanted in you regarding the principle of meritocracy in the workplace. You really believe that the workplace is ruled by pure merit. Boy, are you in for a shock!
You grew up & entered the workplace. Your paraents message has been implanted in you regarding the principle of meritocracy in the workplace. You really believe that the workplace is ruled by pure merit. Boy, are you in for a shock!
You are about to be jolted into reality. Welcome to the REAL workplace where partiality is THE RULE instead of the exception.
You are about to be jolted into reality. Welcome to the REAL workplace where partiality is THE RULE instead of the exception.
The workplace is comprised of people, not automatons-people with their perceptions, dislikes, likes, &/or other idiosyncrasiesThese things influence how they react to each other & to YOU..
The workplace is comprised of people, not automatons-people with their perceptions, dislikes, likes, &/or other idiosyncrasiesThese things influence how they react to each other & to YOU..
Many will protest that THIS is totally unfair. They maintain that the workplace should be the epitome of ultimate impartiality & professionalism.They assert that personal likes & dislikes are to be discarded when entering the workplace.
Many will protest that THIS is totally unfair. They maintain that the workplace should be the epitome of ultimate impartiality & professionalism.They assert that personal likes & dislikes are to be discarded when entering the workplace.
In the workplace, one is judged by both superiors & coworkers alike by tangible & intangible factors.Oftentimes, likes, dislikes, perceptions, &/or other subconscious prejudices come into the picture.
In the workplace, one is judged by both superiors & coworkers alike by tangible & intangible factors.Oftentimes, likes, dislikes, perceptions, &/or other subconscious prejudices come into the picture.
In the workplace, one is often judged as to how well he/she interacts & interfaces with superiors & coworkers as well as technical work performance.
In the workplace, one is often judged as to how well he/she interacts & interfaces with superiors & coworkers as well as technical work performance.
It is NOT always the hardest working &/or most knowledgeable employee who gets promoted. Many times it is the EMPLOYEE who has a rapport with his/her immediate & higher superiors who gets promoted..
It is NOT always the hardest working &/or most knowledgeable employee who gets promoted. Many times it is the EMPLOYEE who has a rapport with his/her immediate & higher superiors who gets promoted..
Employees who are liked by their bosses/superiors tend to receive more favorable evaluations than the disliked employees although the latter's work performance may be much better.
Employees who are liked by their bosses/superiors tend to receive more favorable evaluations than the disliked employees although the latter's work performance may be much better.
Employees liked by their superior are less likely to be writing up &/or disciplined for offenses that their disliked counterparts frequently are.They also receive better assignments&other perks of the workplace e.g. privy information regarding jobs.
Employees liked by their superior are less likely to be writing up &/or disciplined for offenses that their disliked counterparts frequently are.They also receive better assignments&other perks of the workplace e.g. privy information regarding jobs.
Each workplace/company/corporation has its culture which each employee practices either covertly or overtly.In order to thrive in the workplace,one must be aligned with his/her respective workplace culture.
Each workplace/company/corporation has its culture which each employee practices either covertly or overtly.In order to thrive in the workplace,one must be aligned with his/her respective workplace culture.
It is of utmost importance in the workplace to have a harmonious working relationship with your superiors.Your superiors have THE POWER to either make or break your job &/or career.
It is of utmost importance in the workplace to have a harmonious working relationship with your superiors.Your superiors have THE POWER to either make or break your job &/or career.
Smart employees know how VALUABLE it is to develop & maintain a good rapport with their superiors. This is as important than technical work performance, oftentimes even more so.
Smart employees know how VALUABLE it is to develop & maintain a good rapport with their superiors. This is as important than technical work performance, oftentimes even more so.

It is Not Necessarily WHAT You Know, It Is Important That Your Boss Likes You!

From childhood, you were constantly inculcated with the paradigm that if you work diligently and perform your work well, you will be noticed and promoted. You were further told that it should not matter if the boss likes you or not, you should be promoted based upon your work merits. Some of you were even informed by your parents that partiality in the workplace is often the exception, not the rule.

Then you grew up and entered the work world. You absorbed all your parental and cultural ideas of what the work world should be. Boy, are you in for a rude awakening. Yes, there is partiality in the work world. Also, it is often the rule instead of the exception! Hello, is someone listening!

Yes, office and corporate politics are integral parts of the work culture. The issue of office and corporate politics has been, is, and always will be. No one who works will escape it. Each company and corporation has a work culture. Those who conform to their particular company and/or corporate culture are amply rewarded while those who do not are oftentimes receive negative reactions, ranging from just being barely tolerated to outright derision and subsequent exclusion.

Yes, it is important for an employee to fit into a particular corporate culture if he/she wishes to thrive. If an employee fits into a particular corporate culture, his/her work environment is easier and more endurable. It is far easier for an employee to work in an environment where people like and respect him/her.

Even though people are extremely loathe to include the word "like" in the work environment, likability is usually an important component in the work environment. If a person is likable, he/she surely will find it easier to obtain the necessary support from either coworkers and/or bosses. Many people find it difficult to include likability regarding work relationships. They contend that the word likability should be a total nonissue in the work place. To them, everything should be entirely impartial.

Well, news for everyone-the work place is composed of people, not automatons. People come to the workplace with their cultural/familial conditioning and subconscious prejudices, likes, dislikes, and other idiosyncrasies. No one comes to the work place with a clean slate.

Of course, someone is in disagreement with such a premise. He/she strongly contends that personal prejudices, likes, and dislikes should never have a place in a company and/or corporate environment. He/she asserts that in the work place, everyone should be a professional and cast his/her personal prejudices, likes, and dislikes aside for the efficient running of the organization.

Well, welcome to the real world. This is not necessarily the case. When one enters the work world, one will be judged by employers and coworkers in almost every aspect, both tangible and intangible. Oftentimes, one is judged at work as to how well he/she interacts and/or interfaces with her coworkers in addition to how well he/she performs the job at hand.

In many cases, it is not the one who works the hardest and/or knows the most who gets a promotion. There is often another intangible factor regarding promotions. That is the employee who has a rapport with the immediate boss and/or higher bosses. What some employees neglect to realize that it is important to have a positive relationship with their immediate and/or higher bosses. This is an essential component of work life.

Many people are in jest regarding this issue. They contend that it is not important whether their bosses like them or not as long as they do their work properly. They are living in a surreal world. In the real work world, oftentimes if a boss and/or superior likes an employee, his/her evaluation is oftentimes more favorable than if the employee is not liked even though the latter's work performance may be much better.

Employees liked by their immediate bosses and/or higher superiors are less likely to be written up and/or disciplined for offenses that employees who are not liked by their superiors are. In my second job as a supervisor, there were two employees who let their work pile up for 4 months. One employee was written up with discipline applied against her while nothing was said to the other employee. The head supervisor disliked the first employee while she liked the second employee. The latter employee had a rapport with this supervisor although she was a less than exemplary employee while the first employee was quite an industrious employee.

Even in my last job as investigator, one supervisor stated that an investigator who eventually become an administrative court judge was promoted because he was so well liked by his superiors. One employee was given choice investigation assignments because he was extremely well liked by his supervisor. Another employee at my last job was permitted to go home two hours early each day without charging time because he was liked by his supervisor. In addition to that, this employee was given the easiest assignments which required little or no investigation.

Yes, things run quite smoothly for an employee if his/her superior likes him/her. He/she often gets the choice assignments and is oftentimes placed in quite an advantageous position for future promotions. He/she also is written up and disciplined less, if at all, for offenses that less liked employees would be penalized for. An employee whose boss likes him/her oftentimes have access to inside job information and are privy to other job related things that other employees are not. This means that this employees usually do not have to go through proper channels to get promotions and/or other job related assignments.

Corporate culture is indeed very intricate. Every working person participates either overtly or covertly in his/her corporate culture. It is an integral part of life whether people wish to admit or not. The most important component to job survival and subsequent job thriving is to have a positive relationship with one's superior and/or boss. One should realize that bosses and/or superiors have the power to make an employee flourish or to utterly make him/her a persona non grata.

In conclusion, corporate culture is an integral part of working life. Another component of corporate culture is having a positive relationship with one's boss and ascertaining if it is reciprocated. Although people scoff at the issue of a boss liking an employee, this component is necessary aspect of working life. An employee whose boss/superior likes him/her usually have an easier work environment than a similarly situated employee who is not liked by his/her boss/superior.

Employees who are liked by their bosses receive less writeups and disciplines for offenses that other employees are penalized for. They are also privy to inside job information such as promotions and choice assignments that other employees are not privy too. They are more likely to be promoted faster. The old paradigm that says that it is WHO you know, not WHAT you know that is a determining factor for success is partly true. The paradigm should be revised to state that is not what you know; however, it is of tantamount importance that your boss and/or superior likes you! Now, that is an ageless truism which is becoming more commonplace in the postmodern work place!



© 2012 Grace Marguerite Williams

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Nate Penn 4 years ago

It pays to be liked by your superiors. But one must be careful not to abuse this liking. Some may even misinterpret it. I almost got fired once because of rumors that I was dating my boss. I just read another article about gossip in the office and it's just so true. Gossip can ruin a career.

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