Female Soldiers Can Succeed

Introduction

Recently a female soldier left a comment on one of my previous articles. She had said that females are not any different than males in the Army. Though I really wish that were true, it just isn't- the other soldiers just won't allow it. I found that I couldn't respond in just a few sentences, so I'm going to hammer out my response in this article.

My kneejerk reaction to her comment

First, Who said that it's bad for females to be different than males?

Second, it is a known fact that males, in general, have the aptitude for more muscle and endurance capability than females. HOWEVER, this is not an excuse to allow females to stay weak.

Third, if a female works and makes herself stronger on many levels, she can whop virtually any male, in the military or not. She can create an aptitude for more muscle and endurance capability that can rival most males.

Basic Ingredients for a Superwoman-Soldier

  1. Hard work
  2. DISCIPLINE
  3. Mental strength
  4. Optimism (a.k.a "can-do" attitude)
  5. Never Give Up

Now, let me address ingredient number one: Being in the Army should be hard work for anyone and everyone. Yet a female needs to work harder still. Physical Training (PT) is a must. This PT will include a lot of running, upper and lower body workouts that turn you into jello, and a work ethic that keeps you going like the Energizer Bunny. To keep the energy going and going make sure that everything you consume is just what your body needs. So eat right.

Ingredient number two: In order to make "Hard Work" a reality, you must make Discipline a lifelong mantra and ritual. Discipline is what will keep a person's mind and body lethal sharp and combat ready. Never allow yourself to get as soft as the nextdoor neighbor's beer belly or as flabby as that person's love handles. Don't allow your concentration to stray, keep your goal in sight and gun for it.

Ingredient number three: If a person doesn't have a brain cell in his/her head, life and its decisions can be more difficult than it should be. Exercising the mind and expanding one's knowledge is a great way to sharpen oneself into a great soldier. Keep on learning and the information retained will be of assistance in the future.

Ingredient number four: A "can-do" attitude is a must. The males in the Army, even the females come to think of it, don't like a whiner. Confidence is an asset in the Army, so keep it wrapped around you like a warm blanket; optimism is a life preserver that can save your skin in many tight spots.

Ingredient number five: NEVER GIVE UP. It is the pessimistic attitude that never allows for success. If the pessimism starts creeping in, then the resistance in the battle begins to wane and all hope and goals will plummet into the deep. Dig your feet in and move forward because nothing of worth is ever gained when you give way to pessimism.

What Else?

It's really amazing how many times I've encountered a male soldier who immediately thinks the worst of me. I can tell you that it's always a euphoric feeling when I succeed or do better in something than them. It tells me that my work is paying off, and it tells them that they have way too many preconceived notions and that maybe they should start trying harder since I may just leave them in the dust.

In addition, there are many females who will judge you negatively. As of yet, I still don't have very many female friends in my unit. It just takes time. Though, I will say this: the female friends I do have in the Army, I will have for life. That counts for something, doesn't it?

Is that it?

Yep, for now. I wrote this specific article before I went on deployment; it has been almost three full years since I have written on Hubpages. I apologize for the long wait.

In an upcoming article, I will answer the most common questions I have received. Hopefully it will be helpful for those of you who are making decisions, and for those of you who have Basic Training coming up.


While I was on a mission, I saw this in an Afghan female's room. Inspiring, isn't it?
While I was on a mission, I saw this in an Afghan female's room. Inspiring, isn't it?

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Savannah 4 years ago

Please! Post more Hubs, these are written wonderfully and are more helpful than you could ever imagine!


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Jessica W 4 years ago Author

Thank you, Savannah. I will try :)


Nelson 4 years ago

I love this! I am in the Army and I always get in arguments with people saying that women are the same as men.. We are not as strong... We can do a lot of things... I tend to out think and come up with better solutions than many of the guys in my motor pool do. I may not be as strong as the men are but I definitely am an asset to our team. Thank you =)


Ryan 4 years ago

I've been in the military almost ten years and In that time I've worked with dozens of females. One thing that drives me nuts about women is this incessant need to let the world, and all it's men, know that YOU can do anything you want and be better than the best male ever thought of being.

Why do women have this incessant need to let everyone know how great and strong they are? Your articles often leave many with the impression that all men in the military are these blathering apes who think, "me hungry. Me eat food. Me want sex, me get female" types. It's ridiculous. Many men, including myself, sort of get tired of female's incessantly trying to prove their smarter, stronger, and greater than anybody else. In fact, these type of women are everywhere in the military and they get horribly annoying. Men cover for each other, that's why men can make easy friends with other dudes. If a make is beat out by another male, though it sucks, we realize that's just life. Women get absolutely outraged that sometimes in life other people are better than them and they act accordingly- like jerks who think they know it all and repel everyone else away.

My point is that, instead of creating this idea that women are either just like men and can do everything as good as them, or better than men because they work harder and smarter than all the men they've ever known- just be who you are. Many men in the military are not apes who eat canned dog food, but men who have families, have degrees, are thinkers. So they, including me, don't think women can't do anything. In fact, we know women are better than us in many respects. It's just, in the military such a big deal is made over a woman who does something. I just view a woman as another human trying to get by, but many women want to be viewed and understood as smarter and better than everyone else. This is why women don't easily make friends with each other and men do. Men just see it how it is and roll with it while women turn unfairness into some thought that it's because the cause of that unfairness has a preconceived notion of them as women. Lol. Quit being so obsessed with the fact your female and start just being yourself and normal. Smart men respect that the most.

IMO, a down to Earth woman who is happy with herself and is a genuinely good person who understands life isn't always fair-for all genders.


Lucy P 4 years ago

Hey Jessica! I love reading your articles - they're so inspiring! I've wanted to join the British Army for as long as I can remember but I never thought it would actually happen. Now I'm choosing university courses I'm finding out that actually, it is possible. I know that if I joined, I would join as a female officer. I know the British Army is different from the USA but the fundamental issues faced are the same.

I have one big question that I've desperately been trying to find out from people and maybe you can help me.

I've been warned that joining the army, and in my case, having to go through Sandhurst, can destroy any creativity/imagination in you. The degree that I will be doing at university is English Literature with creative writing - when/if I decide to leave the army, do you think that I would find my writing/creativity had rotted and similarly, do you think that finding jobs in, say, publishing or producing would be difficult? The reason I thought I'd ask you is because I can see, obviously!, that you still write and very well!

Thank you very much!


Kelly 4 years ago

Hello,

I have been reading many articles from many worthy sources stating that rape is an epidemic in the military. That females joining the military are more than 40 percent likely to be raped just be leaving civilian life. Do you have any thoughts on this. To be honest this i the biggest part holding me back. I have read countless scholarly and media articles on the matter. I thin the Army would be a great opportunity but at what cost? I assumed there is a lot to prove as a woman in a male dominated world. I am actually teaching English in Asia and visited Korea recently. Many bars in Seoul had sings "will not serve American military". At night the soldiers were piss drunk and complete disgraces to America as a nation. I was really shocked. It was in the news that a drunk soldier raped a young Korean girl one night. Reading and seeing things like I have stated makes me question a woman's safety in the military.

Kelly


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Jessica W 4 years ago Author

Lucy,

I'm very intrigued and impressed by your question. Yes, my experience in the Army and my subsequent deployment to Afghanistan eroded my ability to write well and, literarily, think outside of the box. It has taken me the last year to beat my writing skills back into submission. They're still not up to par, but as you can see, I can at least string a coherent sentence or two together.

If you are willing to work at it, then all is fine. Creativity can never be truly lost. All you need to do is dig for it, then clean it off, polish it, and watch in amazement as you see it sparkle anew. You'll see your true experience and your true self then.

The military changes us, but if we know who we want to be and strive for it while at the same time serving in the military, then the change shouldn't be a bad thing. As long as you know who you want to be, the service can't change you into someone else.

Good luck, Lucy. If you would like, email me; there's an option on my Hub to do so.

Take care!


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Jessica W 4 years ago Author

Kelly,

I'm very interested in your experiences in Asia, Korea included. In any institution as large as the military, there's always going to be someone who's disgraceful and an overall reprobate. It's always disheartening to hear of such things, though, and highly frustrating.

I'm also interested in these rape epidemic articles you're reading.

I agree that it is a major problem in the military, though it hasn't affected anyone I personally know.

I have an answer for you (and all the others who have asked me this question), Kelly, but not many will like my answer. So, as such, I'm working on an article concerning this question. As you can imagine, it's a touchy topic and everyone has read the articles.

If you can wait, I will post my response.

Thank you for the info, Kelly!


Tiffany 4 years ago

Jessica,

I love reading your articles! I have been searching for information about females who are interested in joining the army. I am a seventeen year old and am becoming more and more interested; however, I am into the medical part of all of it. Would I still possibly have to pack up and help fight even though I want to be an Army nurse? Your response is greatly appreciated!(:


Liz 4 years ago

I'm 17 and strongly considering joining the Army. My boyfriend finally is supporting my decision and reading your articles makes my decision that much stronger. I know it's going to be hard but I cannot tell you how excited I am to start the new chapter of my life. I hope it's as much of a life changer as I've imagined.


Sarah 4 years ago

I'm 17 too and I never thought I'd consider the Army. But I know that it is what I want to do if I don't get into the college I want to go too. I will be applying in a few months and I'm applying only to that school. If I don't get in the Army is my next option. I don't look at it as if "oh if I fail at getting into this college ill just go into the Army" It's not that at all. I want to go to an Art school and If I don't get in (it is a very hard school to get into) then I want to go into the Army. I have a lot of relatives you have been in the Military. My dad was in the Navy and my older cousin is off in Afghanistan. I'd be the first girl and I haven't talked to my parents about it yet, I'm afraid that they will bring me down if I tell them. It's a lot to think about in a little bit of time. Especially being a female....


Steph 4 years ago

Ill be 17 this Wednesday October 10th. An im planing on going into the army. I havent been able to find alot on females in the army. If anyone could give me tips and what to expect an maybe a few stories of there experiance I would greatly appreciate it. Can you please email me at pcutesteph@hotmail.com.


jamie 3 years ago

iam thinking about going to the army.


kimberly Hance 3 years ago

im going to be going to basic in a few months but i cant run long distance im having trouble with a mile right now! :-0 any advice how to build distance and endurance o ready myself for the demands of basic?!


Sophie 3 years ago

Hi Jessica!

I live in Canada and am thinking of joining the army once I graduate high school, I'm nervous because I've heard a lot of stories about harassment by men. Is it actually that bad? Or has it become slightly exaggerated by the media? Also do you get time to shower in the morning/night and is there time for personal hygiene or is that the last thing on your mind? Thanks so much!


BCrawford 3 years ago

Hey,

I am Britney.. I just wanna ask you a question or two. So I want to join the Army, active is what I am aiming for, however my husband is active Navy. I am not sure how dual military relationships go. Do you have any knowledge on the subject? My best guy friend is Army & staioned here were we are, he has agreed to shape me up for basic.. if you will. I know I can do it I just don't want it to hurt my marriage, but I want to make myself proud. You seem to know your stuff and I have really enjoyed your articles. Thanks in advance! I am sure I will come up with more questions but right now mainly worried about the hubs..


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emge 11 months ago from Abu Dhabi

I served in the Air Force and rose to be a Group Captain. I am afraid my view of women in a combat role is pretty poor. Firstly they are unsuited for combat biolgically and secondly most women in forces also lack mental toughness so essential for a warrior. One can disagree with me, but these are the practical aspects from my experience. Lastly god created woman for men, and I am afraid that holds true inthe armed forces as well.

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