Hate Your Boss? I Like Mine

Some of you may have read my hub, "How I Did Not Get Fired".  For those who haven't, let me explain.  I was Director of Nursing in a small, private, for profit surgery center.  And by the end of two years at this job, I was ready to shoot myself.  I hated the politics, the constant whining from above and the hours.  At the end of my contract, I think I was about to be fired, but I was too thrilled to be able to step down to understand.  Now I am just another nurse in the same place and I have a new nurse manager.

My conditions for staying is that the new nurse manger was OK with it, and that I did not have to "charge" ever again.  Well, the new nurse manager was good with me staying and, as of the moment, I am still there.  The never being charge has not worked out so well, but it is not often and I just have to answer questions for the staff...not talk to the whiny-butt executive director!  That man will find anything and everything to whine about.

This is the road sign I was looking for when I stepped down!
This is the road sign I was looking for when I stepped down!

Before (we'll call her Jane) Jane started, management and the staff were pretty nervous about how we would get along.  The staff would ask me how I would take it if she changed something I had started.  My answer was it would be her decision and I was happy it was no longer mine. 

People are always nervous when a new boss is about to appear, and this was evident.  I told a couple of my strong supporters that they had better get along with and do well for the new manager.  If she did not work out, I just knew that I would have to step in.  I told them that I would not be able to stay if that happened.

Now Jane and I laugh about how many doubts people had.  She tells me that management was just as bad.  Asking her over and over if she was sure she didn't mind.  She says she did not understand what the problem was.  She and I are alike in many ways.

I did have some trepidation when she first started.  She came on the recommendation of the executive director.  I expected a liar and a cheat.  What I've gotten is a personable, friendly woman who now works 60 hours a week and allows me to go home after 40.  WooooHoooo!  There is so much to be said for a 40 hour work week! 

Jane has become a friend over the past 6 months.  I really enjoy her sense of humor and love of life.  She and I had a talk during her first week.  I asked her if she minded my staying, I knew I could not believe the executive director and asked her myself.  She laughed saying if I did not mind staying, she would love to have me.  I told her my goal was to make her look as good as possible, so that I would never, ever have to have that job again.  Thus it began...

This is how happy I feel that Jane is with us!
This is how happy I feel that Jane is with us!

Our working relationship is very good. I am there if she has questions about policy, procedure, or the history of certain issues. She makes sure I never, ever have to deal with the executive director. It is a perfect world. She has changed some of the things I instituted and I have backed every one. I never tell her it was something I started, who knows if the rest of the staff does. I just tell everyone else it's a great idea and do it.

The best part is that I am becoming myself again. I have been having a great deal of fun at work again. I get to work in the OR's on a regular basis. I have my "own" docs that I work with weekly (and they love me!). I also call the patients prior to their arrival to ensure they are healthy enough to come to our facility.

I smile much more and laugh often. My co-workers often comment on my change...previously I was mainly distracted and harassed. When they come to me, out of habit, to ask me about changes they may like to see, I ask them to talk to Jane. A few have commented that I seem much too happy when I say this. (Only because it is true!)

I do feel bad at times that she came to us looking so young and cheerful. Now she often looks tired and harassed. I thank her almost daily for being there and she does the same to me. She knows I understand and although she doesn't vent to me often, she knows when she does I will understand. I feel for her, I really do...but that doesn't keep my from being so happy that I no longer have to deal with certain "issues".

Yesterday, she told me that she was surprised that management still asks her if she is OK with me there. (I know who she means by management.) She and I laughed about this again. The staff seems to understand that I love having her there. The medical director and certain of the docs have commented about how changed I am. I think they all realize who was driving me crazy.

The change has been wonderful for me. I enjoy work much more. I made a new friend. I am happier. Remember that only you can make your reality. If you approach the future with hope and focus on good thoughts, your reality will match. If I had decided I would hate her before meeting her, my reality would have matched. And I would be missing out on a very special person!

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Queen of the Lint 7 years ago from The Laundry Room

From what I've read of your hubs, I wouldn't mind working for you! But I'm glad you have less hours, less stress and a good boss! I like my boss, but there's a queen bee of the bakery who can drive me completely insane. I'd like to do more Cooter's Cafe hubs so others can feel my annoyance! It sounds like you had a queen bee to deal with, too?


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Paper Moon 7 years ago from In the clouds

you have been Mooned.


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Christoph Reilly 7 years ago from St. Louis

Hi K@ri:  I'm so glad you're happy!  It's contageous!  You wrote, " I have my "own" docs that I work with weekly (and they love me!)."  How could they not?  You're a delight!

P.S. I love the new avatar!


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k@ri 7 years ago from Sunny Southern California Author

Queen of Lint, Yes, it's the "queen" bee who drives me crazy. Luckily now I no longer have to deal with him! :D

LOL Paper Moon! Reminds me of my younger years!! :D

Thank Christoph! I am very happy and I am glad you find me a delight! The feeling is mutual!


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Mighty Mom 7 years ago from Where Left is Right, CA

K@ri, this is such a refreshing work story! So nice to read something positive. Even nicer to see our pal smiling -- even though you look a little masculine in that picture:-). Seriously. I'm delighted for you. And it's wonderful that Jane has you there. Don't you wish you had had a K@ri when you took on the job!???


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Christoph Reilly 7 years ago from St. Louis

MM: Masculine???? I do not think so, so there!


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k@ri 7 years ago from Sunny Southern California Author

Mighty Mom, I do wish I had a k@ri when I took on the job. It may have taken some of the stress out. There, I changed to another picture with makeup! Is it better? :p

Christoph, :D :D :D


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Feline Prophet 7 years ago from India

k@ri you seem to have become noticeably happier over the past few weeks...and it's great to see! :)


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k@ri 7 years ago from Sunny Southern California Author

Feline Prophet, It is all about refocusing my thoughts. I just remembered that we make our own reality...and refocused. Thank you!!! :D


ralwus 7 years ago

Well k@ri I am so pleased for you. And yes, working only 40 hrs. a week is such a pleasure. I learned that one after 20 some years myself. Now you know that you being a Nurse are one of my favorite persons. Most of you are like angels to me and I have had many take care of me, never had a nurse I did not love. You have a very tough job, and there are a lot of whiners I'm sure.


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k@ri 7 years ago from Sunny Southern California Author

ralwus, I am very pleased myself. I'm glad you hold nurses in a high opinion! And the whiner is NOT a nurse...he is an accountant. :D


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Paper Moon 7 years ago from In the clouds

I am happy for your happiness. I myself have worked for a tyrant for 10 years now. I usually have 50 hour weeks, but they have turned into 72-78 hour weeks of late. Damn am I tired and stressed! Love the new pic, so happy.


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k@ri 7 years ago from Sunny Southern California Author

Paper Moon, I am sorry about your current hours...I so understand the tired and stressed! I really think over 50 hours a week should not be allowed, but been there, done that. Funny how we can do what needs to be done at times. :D


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dohn121 7 years ago from Hudson Valley, New York

You have a great philosophy in life K@ri. It will certainly carry you further and further along in your life. A positive attitude is much more important than what many are aware of. If you ever find yourself lost in a Brand Name book store like I do, see if you can find a book titled "The Secret." Because I myself have only just learned about it, I'm not sure of the exact author/editor. But from I've seen, it's certainly worth reading. Thanks for sharing, K@ri!


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k@ri 7 years ago from Sunny Southern California Author

Thank you, dohn! A positive outlook is so important. It helps us to be happier and more productive. Thanks for the tip on the book, I'll have to look for it! :D


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ethel smith 7 years ago from Kingston-Upon-Hull

Good for you. I think the thought of change is usually worse than the actual change ever is.


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k@ri 7 years ago from Sunny Southern California Author

ethel, Most people hate the thought of change. This change has been very good for me! :D


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lxxy 7 years ago from Beneath, Between, Beyond

I bet you love Scrubs, too, huh? ;)


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k@ri 7 years ago from Sunny Southern California Author

LOL, lxxy, I haven't really watched it, my kids don't like watching medical shows with me...I make too many comments! :D


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shamelabboush 7 years ago

This Jane had a great impact on your personality maybe bcz she relieved from the responsibility headache, or maybe you found the ideal superior. Good to know that you're happy with your manager while all people suffer from managers!


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k@ri 7 years ago from Sunny Southern California Author

shamel, If you had met the others I had to deal with, you would understand. I make sure she knows the history, and she makes sure I don't have to deal with it...a perfect symbiotic relationship!!! :D


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lxxy 7 years ago from Beneath, Between, Beyond

Awe man, you're totally missing out. It's not much about medical stuff. Mostly...about first year people trying to claw their way through the politics of a hospital.


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k@ri 7 years ago from Sunny Southern California Author

lxxy, LOL, not my first year or my first turn around this block. No hospital ever had politics this bad! Maybe I am missing out...to me it is all about caring! :D


Ghost32 7 years ago

Very cool Hub. For an old hayseed cowboy, I probably have more insight into the medical profession than the average civilian. My kid sister is a lifetime R.N. in Montana (and currently a charge nurse in a regional hospital there), I've been a commercial insurance underwriter handling professional liability for doctors, nurses, and hospitals, and Pam (my wife) and I have fought a thousand wars with medicos on her behalf (and lost the last one so far, as doctors here in SE Arizona are refusing to take her on as a patient so she's had NO meds for multiple serious issues for months at this point).

That said, I think your move was brilliant and wonderful and all that...and only hope your current boss can survive the stress and harrassment for a long, long time yet.


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k@ri 7 years ago from Sunny Southern California Author

Ghost, I'm sorry to hear about your wife. I know how hard it can be at times to find a doctor...it seems not so many are in it for the "helping others" aspect. I've met a few, but not the majority.

I hope she can survive the stress also. She has been looking pretty tired this past week.


Harry Paul 7 years ago

A good boss is one that becomes the mentor of their employees. They grow and develop their team to be the best that they can be.


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k@ri 7 years ago from Sunny Southern California Author

Harry, How very true. :D

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