How to change your thoughts and change your life

Change your thoughts change your life

What you are today is a reflection of your thoughts. The material provided here will give you a fairly good idea on how to change your thoughts and change your life. We are incessant thinkers, and thoughts are the product of the stimuli that we receive through our five senses. An average person has 30,000 thoughts a day. Every thought that we think is labeled and filed in our mind. We are habitual thinkers; we are used to a particular way of thinking and we are happy with it.

Our thoughts are predominantly negative in nature, and this is because every stimulus (people or events) in the environment is perceived as good or bad, ‘like’ or ‘don’t like’. Emotions and judgments are stuck to the person or event that is perceived and filed for future reference. All our present thoughts are coloured by these archives. This system of thinking may not always be the healthiest. Thoughts have tremendous power and we need to direct them rightly.

Have you ever looked at a vacant piece of land? Weeds, prickly shrubs and brambles cover the place if there is a little moisture. Our mind is like this too; if we allow any kind of thought without discretion into it, we will eventually find that, all kinds of unwanted vegetation grow there. We need to take thought about what we want to fill our minds with. Not only that we need to cultivate thoughts that will make us productive, we need to retrain our mind.

The importance of knowing the direction of your thoughts

How to change your thought?

We are unaware of the thoughts we think, we are always on auto pilot, doing so many tasks simultaneously that we even forget that there is a thought process going on. Thoughts cause us to act or speak in a particular way. Repeated thoughts and actions cause us to form habits; habits form our character or disposition. It is imperative to review our thought life, correct negative thoughts, replace them with positive thoughts and make it work for us. Ask yourself why it is that some people achieve much more than you in probably same circumstances and same period.

Where do we start?

“We are always getting ready to live but never living.” – Ralph Waldo Emerson.

Evaluate your thoughts

Don’t put off what you can do today for another day, get to work today. We often find that the fear of failure, the fear of the unknown deters us from embracing change. These fears need to be overcome as change is the only way to progress. Thoughts can be modified based on the knowledge that you acquire on that particular subject, which in turn causes change in your belief system.

The first exercise in changing your thoughts and changing your life is by simple evaluation of your thoughts. I suggest that you get yourself a fresh writing pad and make sure that there is no disturbance while you do this exercise. Don’t think of anything specific; write down the thoughts that cross your mind as they come for at least fifteen minutes. Now take a look at all thoughts and categorize them as positive, negative, critical of self or others and baseless or junk. If you do this sincerely for about three or four days, you will come up with a fairly good number of thoughts that point the direction of your thought life.

Sort out your thought life

Eliminate negative thoughts replace with positive thoughts

You need to take at all negative thoughts about yourself and deal with them in the right way. Negative thoughts always work against you. If you think, ‘I am no good at this job’, it is baseless- if someone has employed you, it is because you are good at something. A negative statement labels you as ‘no good’, leaving you with no hope or means of improving yourself. Engaging in negative thoughts and working hard to succeed is like having your cell phone switched off and trying to remain connected.

What you need to do is take that blanket statement that is not the truth and modify it, thus giving yourself scope for improvement. Find out your strengths and focus on them, gain more knowledge in the areas where you are weak. This puts you in a position to change the way you look at your potential.

Critical or judgmental thoughts about yourself only instill irrational fears in you. They only mean that you need to improve your knowledge base in those areas and modify your beliefs based on knowledge you have gained. If critical or judgmental thoughts are about others, you have to ensure that you are not biased. Try to understand their point of view; don’t jump to conclusions based on your limited knowledge of their circumstances. Make sure, that anger and bitterness towards them is not making you ineffective. Let go and forgive, it helps you recoup your energy and concentration and allows you to pursue your goals.

Baseless fears and thoughts need to be trashed immediately. Are you wondering why the positive thoughts are left untouched? Positive thoughts need to be enhanced and written down as statements of self affirmation . These need to be repeated to yourself and vocalized everyday! These are power affirmation or positive affirmation that revitalizes your thought life.

Replace negative thoughts with positive ones

Another way of handling negative thoughts is to substitute or replace them with positive thoughts that are realistic. For example if you are upset that you are not earning enough as a writer on the net, you need to look at it from another perspective. You are sharpening your tools at no cost, people are reading the material and reviewing it freely, you are obviously making a difference somewhere or in someone’s life. That would be a good motivator for a start. You will go on to find what you wanted. Overcome any unacceptable habits that are coming in the way of your success rightaway.

Changing thoughts can change your life

Do not live in an idealistic world

Most of the opportunities that we have in life are over-looked because we are waiting for something to happen. Speculation and wishful thinking rule our minds. It is good to have visions and dreams, but these need to be acted on and converted into reality. The ‘if only’, ‘should have’ and ‘would have’ statements are only excuses for not being able to achieve something. They do no take us in any direction other than self pity. Self pity is the biggest hurdle to positive action. To live a successful life we need to work on our thought life, direct our thoughts in the right direction and program our mind for success.

Be Alert

Now that you are on the job of transforming your thoughts and making it productive, you need to be alert. If you find yourself going back to the same way of thinking, check your step, admit you are wrong, correct your thinking and go on. This may be like weeding or pruning and enables better growth. This may be tedious initially; you will soon become conscious of your thoughts and be able to objectively view them.

If you react emotionally to a particular situation, you are more likely than not to be unreasonable or irrational. These thoughts that are brought on by feelings need to be corrected or modified at the earliest instance. Right thinking and aligning emotions to them is paramount to success.

Be unified in approach

Everyone wants to succeed, but not all our thoughts are directed towards success. Consider this: on the one hand you want a promotion, on the other you are thinking that promotion will never come your way. Even though you are working hard, your negative thoughts do not allow you to work at your confident best, you are under performing. It is important to be in complete control over your thought life and be singular in approach. Focus on winning.

Change your thoughts - change your attitude - change your life

Change your attitudes

As your thoughts are set right your attitudes change. Your fierce dislikes and tough stances are now being modified and changed. You learn to view failure as a means to grow. Your irrational fears are addressed and you look at circumstance that you face as opportunities to explore. Your fear of the unknown is now eroded and you are up to taking a challenge. There is one more thing that needs to be handled. Don’t discount the positive side of life. For example, saying, ‘Promotions never come my way, it happens only to my friends’. This is irrational and the probability of promotion is the same for every one in your cluster. Focus on positives and expect good to happen.

Persistence pays . Work hard at taking charge over your thought life. Never give up .

Life is not always about doing. It is also about being- being positive, happy, kind, etc. Remember that we are human beings and need to Be.

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TattoGuy 6 years ago

I really like this hub, I have printed it out to read in detail, look forward to yer future hubs !

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sofs 6 years ago Author

That is a great compliment Tatto guy. Even if this hub touches one person my work is done. I'm greatly motivated by such comments. Thank you for stopping by .. My best wishes to you!

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writersfengshui 6 years ago

First sentence in this piece sums it all up....What you are today is a reflection of your thought life. Isn’t that a mindblow? Your thoughts are talking to someone, and that someone is you. I know, it does sound convoluted and strange, but it’s pretty wild when you obtain the Aha! moment with it.

I would like to recommend a book it is by Ekhart Tolle’s called The power of NOW. It was the first place I heard about this idea even before I read The Secret. Great blog sofs MORE MORE MORE!!!! Sending you my positive energy I am filled with it today.

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sofs 6 years ago Author

Writersfengshui you have clearly summed it up well. Thanx for such encouragement. I am energized by your words. Thank you for stopping by and taking the time out to record how you felt. God bless!

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zzron 6 years ago from Houston, TX.

This was awesome and I totally agree with every word.

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sofs 6 years ago Author

ZZron Thanks for spending time here and recording your appreciation. Awesome is what we are, but how little of it we put to use is the question. Your thoughts are amazingly power packed so wishing you power thinking!!

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Social Discomfort 6 years ago from Central Valley, CA

This is an important idea. I especially agree with your point about being unified in your approach. A lot of the time, we'll THINK we're being positive thinkers, all the while undermining ourselves with negative thoughts to go against all of the positive ones. Thanks for sharing this!

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sofs 6 years ago Author

Social discomfort thank you for taking time to read, I am glad that you picked up that point, Unity of approach, we work against ourselves most of the time because we are unaware of the thoughts we entertain. I hope you profited from this reminder. Appreciate your comment. Best wishes to you!! May be you should take a look at your profile name!!! :)

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viking305 6 years ago from Ireland

Yes I agree with everything you say here, very good hub. Our thoughts are very powerful, we just need the disicpline to control them

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sofs 6 years ago Author

Hi Viking! Good to see you here again. I do appreciate and value your comments. Discipline or control your Thoughtlife is the catch phrase. Best wishes for a great future!

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tthudium 6 years ago

I love reading your articles, they always are very informative. Thanks!

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sofs 6 years ago Author

I am honored, its wonderful that this is of use to you, I do hope that this helps you weed out negative thoughts, replace them with affirming power thoughts and changing the direction of your life. My best wishes!!

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camlo 6 years ago from Cologne, Germany

I find this one Hub more helpful than most (entire) self-help books I've read on this subject. All we really need to know on how our thoughts affect our lives is here and, most importantly, what we can do to make the changes we need.

A very well reseached Hub, and a great read!

All the best, Camlo

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sofs 6 years ago Author

Camlo this is a great compliment indeed. Yes it is years of working in the mental health field that makes me write on this subject. Thought life has been a passion for me all along. Thank you for stopping by and recording your appreciation. It adds so much value to my thought life!!!

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PegCole17 6 years ago from Dallas, Texas

I love what you've said here. Yes, we do become what we think about. Norman V Peale was one truly deep man. Others like Earl Nightingale talked about this in his recording "The Strangest Secret". I loved the movie "The Secret" too.

Our negative thoughts do work against us. We must use our mind filter to control our thoughts and be willing to change our negative habits!

Thanks for a great read with lots to think about.

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sofs 6 years ago Author

You summed it up well, we need to filter our thoughts and ensure that only those thoughts, that mirror our goals be entertained in our minds. All else needs to be weeded out.

Yes, Norman Vincent Peale has been one writer who influenced my thinking years ago as a teenager, I haven't read any of his works since then. Thanks for the reminder.

Thank you PegCole for stopping by and recording your positive thoughts here!! God Bless!

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lctodd1947 6 years ago from USA

Enjoyed this article on changing our thoughts. I believe fully that changing our thoughts will change our life and how we feel. It is so hard for negative individuals to see that their thoughts are what keeps them in the state they are in. As you have said; it happens to others, but not me; attitude. I wish I knew the secret to helping people I love change their thoughts. Thanks for sharing.

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sofs 6 years ago Author

Yes,thoughts are powerful and just changing the way we think can change the very direction of our lives. Thank you for adding value to this hub, I hope with the knowledge you have you will continue to help people change their lives. Believe in yourself. God bless!

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MrTokarsky 6 years ago from Flordia

Good stuff! I love to find amazing nuggets like this! When I need an attitude change, I seek out humor or state of mind changing articles like this... Thanks

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sofs 6 years ago Author

MrTokarsky, I am glad that you called it "state of mind changing article" that is what I set out to do while I wrote this piece glad to have it acknowledged! Thank you for your kind words of appreciation and acknowledgment!

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carrie450 6 years ago from Winnipeg, Canada

A wonderful uplifting hub sofs. Positive thinking can make all the difference, nicely written.

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sofs 6 years ago Author

Carrie, You are an inspiration, just changing the way you think may change your whole out look on life. Positive thinking keeps the mind focused in the right direction and hopeful of the future. I am glad that you found this hub uplifting. I wish you all the best and I can assure you that you are in my prayers.

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Supercellbaebe 6 years ago from LONDON

Beautiful. I think this Hub has the potential to transform lives, very very beautifully written, thank you xxx

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sofs 6 years ago Author

To be able to make a difference is the reason that I write, if I have done that my life's mission is completed. Thank you Supercellbaebe your comment gives me new inspiration!!

CJTrader 6 years ago

I need to work on my Self Control and Discipline which led me too your site. I have know read two articles and have book marked your site so I can read more.Thank you for the articles.

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sofs 6 years ago Author

CJTrader,Glad that you found the articles useful and thanks for bookmarking them. I have written more on how your mind works in my blog at you could check it out too. Hope you do benefit from them, God Bless!

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richtwf 5 years ago

Thoughts are such powerful things and ones which make our lives what they are.

Excellent hub and I enjoyed reading it very much.

God bless

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sofs 5 years ago Author

Ritchie! I am happy to see you again. I hope all is well with you. Yes, thoughts have power and you are what you think. I am glad that you enjoyed this hub, but more glad to see you... God Bless!

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cherrycrime26 5 years ago from NY, Now Living in Atlanta Ga

Wonderful wonderful Hub, i work on my positive thinking daily.

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sofs 5 years ago Author

Cherrycrime, great to hear that you work on changing your thoughts daily. It is true, we really have to work on our thoughts to ensure that they are positive and optimistic. Best wishes to you and keep thinking positive!! :)

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clark farley 5 years ago

enjoyed the hub!

true but very challenging endeavor, it is always of a benefit to read another person's approach to altering our thoughts/realities.

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sofs 5 years ago Author

Clark, thank you for reading this hub. It is one of my favorites and yes, a very personal learning that I share in these pages. Changing the way I used to think has changed my very approach to life, it would be very difficult to identify me from the past. This is almost like a personal testimony. I do appreciate the read and the comment and I am glad that you enjoyed it.

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Happyboomernurse 5 years ago from South Carolina

Well written hub about the importance of monitoring our thoughts and replacing negative, self-defeating thoughts with positive ones.

I first became aware of the power of thoughts through Dr. Wayne Dyer's books. Before that, I didn't fully realize how much control we have over what thoughts we choose to fill our minds with. Now, I'm much more discerning and careful.

Thanks for sharing this useful hub.

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clark farley 5 years ago

...funny you make that statement, '...Changing the way I used to think has changed my very approach to life, it would be very difficult to identify me from the past'...

My own view of life and (significant) change allows that the past can and usually is altered when a major change is effected in my life (which, of course, the only thing that can be changed).

So it is hardly ever, 'my how you have changed, I remember when you used to...'

People will simply assume that what I am now is the only reasonable way I would/could be!

(I continually appreciate the wisdom that Castanada offers with the concept of 'clouding one's personal history')

Fun Hub.

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sofs 5 years ago Author

Happyboomernurse I became aware of this concept as I delved deep into the Bible. I have been able to not only control my thoughts, but direct them positively and live life on my own terms. Thank you for the read and the comment:) I greatly appreciate it.

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sofs 5 years ago Author

Funny?? I can only state what has happened in my life and it is not my view of the past that has changed but my very life. Thank you for the comment and your funny statement that rest on someone else's understanding.

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anjana9876 5 years ago


Life is not always about doing. It is also about being- being positive, happy, kind, etc.

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sofs 5 years ago Author

True life is not just about doing, it is how you think and be-have too ... positivity is about being and what you are you do with it :). Thanks for the comment. Maybe you should read some of my other hubs :)

Naveen 5 years ago

Thanks for sharing this great info on thoughts. I agree with your views on the thought process & life.

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sofs 5 years ago Author

Thank you Naveen for the visit and the encouraging comment. I appreciate it greatly :)

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FloBe 5 years ago from British Columbia, Canada

It is easier for some reason to slip into negative thinking and affirm the negative to avoid disappointment. "Expect the worst and you'll never be disappointed." But, in fact, the opposite happens. You never get to experience success because of self-sabotage and then discouragement sends you into a downward spiral. So, your challenge to change that pattern is a good one and important for everyone's well-being. Controlling and directing our thoughts in a positive direction will improve our mental and physical health and that should be motivation enough! Thanks for encouraging us in the right direction.

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sofs 5 years ago Author

Flobe welcome back. I missed you. Yes, it is easy to fall back into negative thinking.. Positive thinking is a process of changing your attitude and your thinking..more of a change in lifestyle. We really need to be alert so that bad habits do not hold us in their power. Thanks for the read and the comment.

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cavallo 5 years ago from Newmarket,UK

Ever had an idea ? Then the first person says '' No ! That's no good '' Personally I always look for the up side of something and give back positive feedback. Wish more folk would !

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sofs 5 years ago Author

True.. I wish that more people would be positive and see the good in others.. the world would be a beautiful place if they did. Thanks for the comment!

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Eiddwen 5 years ago from Wales

Another gem which will inspire so many; it is priceless.

Take care and enjoy your day.


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sofs 5 years ago Author

Eiddwen, thank you for the endorsement. I appreciate your kind words, thank you and have yourself a wonderful day :)

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Enlydia Listener 5 years ago from trailer in the country

Interesting. I will read more.

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sofs 5 years ago Author

Enlydia Listener, Thank you and you are welcome to read any of my hubs you think fit. I appreciate this very much. Have a lovely day! God Bless!

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loua 4 years ago from Elsewhere, visiting Earth ~ the segregated community planet

Nicely put...

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sofs 4 years ago Author

Loua, Thank you, I appreciate you stopping by and leaving a comment.

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vocalcoach 4 years ago from Nashville Tn.

What a marvelous and eye-opening hub! I enjoyed reading this and will save it to review again and again. You've touched on so many good points regarding the power of our thoughts. I particularly like, "Our thoughts are predominantly negative in nature, and this is because every stimulus (people or events) in the environment is perceived as good or bad, ‘like’ or ‘don’t like’."

Thank you for putting so much skill into writing this hub. Voting up and across, except for funny.

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sofs 4 years ago Author

Vocal coach, Thanks for that comment. This was my third hub I guess.. on a subject that I really love to write about. I appreciate your comment very much and the votes too. Have a lovely day lady and thanks for making my day!

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sofs 4 years ago Author

Pat .. this is the most awesome comment ever... I am glad that you feel this way about it... I truly hope it helps you.. Follow through and it would be a motivation to other readers if you keep me posted.. on how it has helped you! Have a wonderful day, all the days of your life :)

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vocalcoach 4 years ago from Nashville Tn.

I see that your Hubscore has reached a whopping 100! A huge achievement. Congratulations!

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sofs 4 years ago Author

Audrey, my hubscore hangs around the perfect figure a lot lately. Thanks for stopping by to congratulate. I appreciate that. Have a lovely day.

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Happylovejoy 12 months ago from Singapore

I really like your statement "Don’t put off what you can do today for another day, get to work today." - and I completely agree. I think procrastination can be a huge problem. Glad I stumbled upon your posted. Enjoyed reading it.

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