ROI: Some Differences Between Rich & Poor; Discipline & Regret; Freedom & Indebtedness
The measure you give will be the measure you get
Whenever Duke, my Wire Hair Fox Terrier, brings me his rope toy to play tug-of-war, I always learn something. He pulls, yanks, twists, and will even hang suspended in mid-air without letting go.
When he loses his footing on the hardwood floor, he hangs on. Slipping and sliding, he keeps on pulling until he regains traction. And he absolutely loves it.
If you are not getting the results you want, look at your efforts and you may see a meaningful correlation. If you want to be more, you must become more; if you want to have more, you need to give more.
“For the measure you give will be the measure you get back.” That is the way it is expressed in Luke chapter 6.
Remember that when it comes to a true Return on Investment, there is no R without the I. That is, if you are unwilling to invest – in yourself, your health, your future, what kind of a return do you honestly expect?
The great news is that when we make a decision and act on it to discipline ourselves and become more, combining vision with purposeful action and gratitude will take us to new heights.
Freedom and Indebtedness: A Key Difference That Defines Us
Throughout the course of my week, I speak with people who express an interested in having a home-based business. Some are more curious than serious, and I always love helping an individual understand enough about what we have to offer, so that they can make an informed decision about whether or not it makes sense to have this product line and business as a part of their life or not.
Recently I followed up with a fellow who had requested information about a home-based business. I explained I was responding to his request and he immediately wanted to know if there was an “upfront investment” required. Not how much, but if.
This is the mindset of someone brand new or unclear on the concept of owning a viable business, or most likely someone who has the mindset of an employee, rather than that of an entrepreneur.
When we think in terms of where we are, and where we want to be, it is important to remember that we aren't trying to become somebody else. Rather we are striving to become the best we can be. It is about becoming our personal best, so ultimately, the only meaningful comparison is between where we are today and where we were yesterday.
Of course there are various kinds of investments and returns, and for those who think in these terms, life is very empowering. It is widely documented that people who value financial freedom invest in education and personal development, whereas those who have a scarcity mindset invest in entertainment. The first group invests in assets, the second group in depreciating toys. The first group values financial freedom, while the second group typically incurs great debt. The first group is focused on creating the reality they want, while the other group watches reality shows on television.
Discipline or Regret: The Choice is Ours
Tom Corley in his book, Rich Habits – The Daily Success Habits of Wealthy Individuals, provides a decisive look at some significant differences between those with material wealth and those without it.
As a baby boomer, I’ve learned a lot about delayed gratification and discipline. Anyone who has pursued higher education understands the concept. Professional athletes, birth mothers, and anyone in a variety of other disciplines and professions realizes the choice to give up certain things now in order to have something more in the future.
This is also true in the profession of Network Marketing. The efforts invested on the front end pay dividends in the form of residual income for the long term. When I was in graduate school and friends called on Friday night with an invitation to go out, I would forego the outing and endure the studying. It paid off. I followed the traditional route of getting a good education and then securing a good job.
Over the years my advanced degrees and work experience enabled me to enjoy a six-figure salary with excellent benefits. But as is typically the case with employment, I was paid well while I was trading my time for money; and then the nice compensation ended whenever I left my position.
Of all the ways this can be conveyed, I think Jim Rohn says it exceptionally well. He explains, “We must all suffer from one of two pains: the pain of discipline or the pain of regret. The difference is discipline weighs ounces while regret weighs tons.”
We live in a world of instant gratification, which is often deeply unsatisfying; instant messaging, which often lacks meaning or value; and fast food, which is frighteningly devoid of nutrition. A tremendous price has been extracted for the vastness of all this fastness.
My business partner and friend, former NFL wide receiver, Mr. JJ Birden ends every video email or training he does for the Team with, “Stay positive.” Two words that consistently practiced can change your life.
We also both like the quote attributed to various individuals which beautifully and succinctly puts it this way, “There are those who watch things happen, those who wonder what happened, and those who make things happen."
Over the course of my career life, what has become increasingly clear to me is that many if not most people watch, wonder, whine and wait; while a relative few invest in themselves, see and seize opportunities, delay or defer fun, and discipline themselves to take persistent action in order to make things happen.
Discipline or regret truly is a choice: our choice, yours and mine. Life is not meant to be lived as if we were onlookers. It is not a spectator sport, it is a contact sport; a participatory activity where our full and authentic engagement is asked of us. If we invest little, we can expect to receive little in return. Fortunately, the choice is ours and it is up to us to decide. If we don’t like our results we can change them by changing our mindset, choices, and actions.
Looking at the disciplines we have or don't have; and at how we spend our time, money, and energy offers us a superb indicator of what we can anticipate in terms of a return on our investment.
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