How to be happy when you work in a miserable job
You sat through a nerve racking job interview. Everyone seemed friendly and full of smiles; the job sounded like it was going to offer you some new and exciting challenges.
You left the interview really hoping to get the job and then after much anticipation, you finally received that all important phone call that notified you that you had the job. Your thoughts went crazy for a moment “Great, fantastic, the bills will get paid, I’ll meet some nice new people and I’m going to give this job my all”.
Then before you know it, your eyes watch longingly over the clock as you desperately wait for home time everyday and you realise the exciting challenge’s that you had been expecting are more like a very stern kick in the teeth, and your biggest challenge is going to be trying to smile your way through it.
So how can you possibly stay happy in yourself?
First of all, always try to be true to your self, if you are a happy go lucky type of person then don’t let anything stand in the way of that. They hired you happy so they’ve got you happy, they might not like it, but that’s who you are so tough luck on them, “kill them with kindness” as the saying goes. If you can keep up your smile it may soon start to rub off on other people. Try to remember that even if they don't say it out loud, they might hate the job as much as you do.
The next time your boss hands you a gigantic pile of paper work or a tedious amount of phone calls to get through, remind yourself that whilst you are sat/stood there bored out of your brains, you're getting paid for it. (Crazy isn’t it, that someone actually pays you to be bored). Have you ever sat at home, bored and wished you could get paid for it?
Dealing with broken or faulty equipment at work
If you’re already feeling a bit down then, getting frustrated with faulty or broken equipment at work can soon get on top of you but try not to let it, after all – it’s not your fault if something is not working!
Take a deep breathe and let your boss know that whatever it is, is not working properly or is broken. Unless you’ve been hired as the handyman or engineer then it’s probably not your job to worry about fixing it.
It’s a bit like someone giving a builder some bricks and telling him/her to build a house without allowing them any cement, and then asking why the house has fell down. If they don’t provide the tools, you can’t do your job properly. When they ask why you’ve not finished everything at the expected lightening speed, then simply and politely explain to them that you can only work as quickly and effectively as the tools will allow you to do so. This will certainly make them realise that they could be getting more work out of you, and they are likely to try and fix the problem as quickly as they can, so try not to let it worry you.
Stand up for yourself
If you have a boss that expects you to never leave your desk/work place to take a break, remind yourself that you are human and you are still your own boss. You have every right to a loo break when you need one. That’s just how the human body works, if you’ve ‘got to go’, then you’ve ‘got to go’ and that’s all there is to it. They would soon have a problem if you started leaving nasty little wet patches lying around the work place.
Know your self-worth; if they want you to work for them, then it’s just something they will have to except.
If you are the type of person that will usually bust your guts out at work to get a job done and find a small 10 minute break here and there helps you to work better, then your boss should be able to see your true value to the company. Try to explain to your boss that you it would benefit you and your work to be able to take a quick breather when you feel you need one, and they might just be willing to allow it. (But don’t push your luck with extended breaks as they would probably stop the privilege just as quick).
Learn to switch off
Avoid taking your work and stress home with you. Learn to switch off. If you finish work at 5pm then your wages also stop at the same time, so draw the line and stop stressing about work at 5pm too. It’s your time now so worry about tomorrows work when tomorrow gets here. The day has probably already been long enough, the evening is yours to enjoy now.
Being in ‘work mode’ becomes an automatic thing when you put on your work clothes, so the first thing you should do when you get back home is take them off. Make your self feel at home again and slip into something comfortable (if you're like me, then that'll be into your pyjamas).
Even though you still have a lot to do at home, try extra hard to find at least 10 minutes to yourself so that you can really rest up with a nice cup of tea or coffee / a glass of wine / pint of beer or whatever takes your fancy. It’s important for the sake of your inner peace to have even just a really small amount of ‘you time’ if you can.
Living for the weekend?
There are two types of people and two ways of making it through the week.
One: This is where you can still live your life to the max all through the week and at the weekends too. Experts in this field will tell you that you should still make time to see friends during the week, go to the gym, go out and let your hair down and they are probably right, you should try to enjoy every single day of your life no matter what is going on. That’s brilliant if you are the type of person that can do that, it’s exactly what you should be doing and you will still have a very well balanced life style.
Two: You live for the purely weekend (I have to admit that I’m guilty of this one). I know this is not how it should be, but it just is! So if you’re a live for the weekend person then try to work even harder during the week. (No I don't mean at your job, I’m sure you already work way too hard at that already). I mean with your everyday chores, even though you probably come home from work feeling tired, try to push yourself that little bit more and get as much of the boring stuff out the way with during the week so that you can really enjoy the weekend.
Make the most of your weekend
Whether you live for the entire week or just for the weekend; you should always try to make the most of your weekends. A good weekend can really help carry you through the following week, and keep some of those feel good feelings inside you. Don't spend it worrying about work on Monday, worry about Monday when it gets here. Do the stuff helps you to relax and have some fun, whether it’s lazing in front of a DVD, spending time with your family or going off to do a bungee jump, just enjoy it!
Have a plan or a goal
So you don't like the job, you’re either going to go the rest of your life putting up with it or you need to come up with a plan to help you. It could be a plan that helps you keep your sanity while you’re working there or a plan on how to get you out of there.
Speak to your boss about such things as being allowed loo breaks or maybe you feel you need to be better at something in the job, see if they have any training resources that can help you. You may like to work on building up your confidence so that you find it easier to deal with clients.
If you’ve decided that you want out of that job as soon as possible, then you need to think about the things that are stopping you from leaving. Fear of insecurity and having no money usually come top of the list, so what can you do towards solving that problem? See if you can save up a bit of money so that you have something to fall back on, it will help you to feel less insecure. Think positively and try not to fear change too much. It can be scary but you took the chance on this job and if you really want out, then it could be well worth your while to take a chance again.
You can try go straight from this job into another one. Take a look at your CV, all the stuff you have done at this job so far can now be added to it, so consider updating it and sending it out to some potential employers. If your CV still need’s a few more things on it to buff it up a bit more then see if you can get the most out of your job while your there and ask if they have any free courses they can send you on or you could check around your local area to see if they have any course.
Have you ever considered setting up your own business? Now might be a good time to think about it a bit more. How nice would it be to leave your job and never have to go and work for someone else ever again?
At your next interview
If you’ve decided that going for another job is the option you want to take or need to take, then the last thing you want to do is end up in the same situation all over again, so look for some tell tale signs.
Take a deep look at your interviewer, do they really look happy in their job or does that big old smile of theirs look a bit fake? If they look like it’s all a bit put on then the chances are they don’t want to be there any more than you will. Ask the interviewer how long they have worked there for and what they think the up’s and down’s of the job are. Ask them about the other people that you will be working with; they might tell you that you will be working alone when you actually prefer to work as part of a team.
Remember that not only are they interviewing you to see if you are suitable for the job, but you are also interviewing them to see if their company and the job is suitable for you.
Ask about what your job role involves. If there is one thing that you particularly hate doing, for example ‘sales’, then ask them if there is any sales involved in your role. That way you can be certain you won’t get stuck with it unexpectedly, and if they do ever request you suddenly take on that job role, then you can protest that it was not in your job description.
The interviewers like it when you ask questions. It shows that you are interested in the job and that you are confident, so don’t be afraid to ask as many questions as you like. If they are not willing to answer them, then ask your self if it's maybe because they have something to hide. See if they appear to be passionate about their work. Do they get carried away when discussing a certain aspect of the job with you? When people are passionate about their work, then they are generally happier to be there than someone who just works for the sake of having to. Remember that no matter how much you need or want a job, you have the right to be happy!
“If you find a job you love, you will never work again” - Winston Churchill
"Any organization is like a septic tank. The really big chunks rise to the top" - John Imhoff
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