Walk the talk - self-improvement

Walk the talk - people will respect you

Walk the talk! Do what you say! I have seen many who talk and seem to give a lot of advise but then never follow what they say in their real life. Preaching is easy, practice is hard! I hardly have much respect for such people and I am sure you don’t too. Walking the talk is not as easy as it sounds, but one could stop preaching until they could put into practice at least a bit of what they preach. I teach different groups of people including Bible study groups and one thing that I constantly find myself teaching about is attitude. The Bible stresses so much on the attitude of the heart. Sometimes when I teach on attitude I really have to stop and ask myself, ‘Do you do that?”. This is the hardest part of teaching or preaching. Most of the articles I write are on self-improvement and then again I freely dispense advice to everyone. Often I have to pause and introspect, ask myself if I really put to practice what I so confidently advocate. Walking the talk is easier said than done, it is a life of constant introspection and change. No wonder people run away from it!

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Influence people - walk the talk

Oftentimes we influence people more by what we do than what we say. I teach my children not to say lies, but at times tell them to tell an unwanted caller that I am not at home or some such excuse. This often backfires when I point out their mistakes I am told, ‘That is what you did... with so and so’. This puts me on the alert mode. I become so conscious of my actions, especially with regard to values. I have learnt so many things from some mentors that I have had in the past. One of my recent mentors who works so very hard became my inspiration. It is such a wonderful thing to have such inspiring people around you who inspire you with what they do rather than what they say. This is a more lasting way of influencing people than with plain talk. You influence others by walking the talk!

Commitment to what you say helps you walk the talk


Recently as I advocated to a group of women that they should mentor others who needed help they raised a concern, “We are not yet there, how can we mentor others?’
This sounds reasonable enough at the face of it, but what is that ‘there’ place that these women want to get to - is it perfection? Well then it is never going to happen. What I have found from my years of mentoring others is that, you bring your experience to educate the other but you also learn as much from your ward if you have an open mind. What I mean here is that, as much as you as a teacher/mentor have to offer from your experience, your mentee/ protege brings to the table a fresh and new fund of knowledge which could benefit you, in terms of use of latest technology, gadgets, or even later innovations in the field that you have not kept abreast to . But what has this got to do with your topic of walk the talk you may ask - well I am getting there.

Most people shy away from talking / teaching /mentoring as they believe that they are not perfect enough. No one is perfect, but you could become near perfect by passionately advocating what you believe in. The keyword is believe. Your faith or belief is as its strongest when it is alignment with your core values and belief systems. When there is a difference between what you advocate or talk about and what you really believe in you may find yourself in a conflict situation, being pulled in two different directions. A high level of personal integrity is possible only when your talk aligns with your values.

What you often talk about forces you to walk the path that you direct others into. This may not be the case for everyone, but those who are conscientious are often bound by their words. It is while I teach or present something that I have found that deep longing/motivation to truly walk the talk. That brings us to the point that we better not spout out what ever comes to our mind. If we advocate something we need to be passionately about it first. You cannot be passionate about something that you don't believe in. The more you talk about the idea the more passionate you become about that cause, it works both ways. Your passion makes you the person you want to be. I often say, “I am committed to happiness”, when I say that I cannot ever be unhappy. When the biggest dramas happen in my life (I know these emotional drams happen in yours too) and I am so pained, I repeatedly tell myself, 'I am committed to happiness'. It is often my commitment to the idea that helps me walk the talk.

Walk the talk - inspire the world

If we all walked the talk, the world would be full of happy people, less confused people to deal with and more doing people than saying people. Frequently I notice that people do a lot of pushing around with their talk, promise the heavens and the Earth and then don’t deliver. They don’t deliver because they cannot. As a Human resource professional while recruiting people for the organizations I worked in I would always mark an asterisk on the resume of the candidate who promises to do great things. Although many others like their dashing confidence I would always measure such talk against their ability. Their past records would tell me more than I need to know, a couple of reference calls would clear my doubts. I have had a high degree of success because I made it a point to recruit those who walked the talk.

A long time a go I read an comic strip that said (I am not quoting here... but saying it form memory) ‘you can bullshit your way to the top but cannot bullshit your stay up there, the weight of it would bring you down’... or something to that effect. If we speak for the sole purpose of creating an impression, an impression is all you might make, a good one or a bad one depends on how you back up your talk with your walk.

Politically correct statements do not mean much either. They may keep you out of trouble but do not really hold much weight to what you say. These statements any lack commitment and people are interested in knowing if you mean the things you say.

Walk the talk and you would inspire and influence people around you, but most importantly you would find your self-confidence and self esteem growing by leaps and bounds. The very fact that you take yourself seriously and are a person of your words make your credible and trustworthy in the eyes of others. You assume responsibility for your life and what you do. You become a person in your own right! You become your own boss! So I say once again - say what you mean, mean what you say, walk the talk and don’t just talk your way through life! Walk the talk and inspire the world around you!

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29 comments

kelleyward 4 years ago

Sofs, sounds like a great book "Walk the Talk". I think that one of the hardest things in life is to live the way you hope to influence others to life. Walking the talk is a very difficult but important concept for contentment. Thanks for sharing this book and idea!


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tsmog 4 years ago from Escondido, CA

Great article! Bookmarked for my planning session next week on vacation. I'm gon'na give some hard thought to this. But, I'm going to the races today. While walking about the pits I shall ponder my walk while reflecting. I think this article just influenced one of my next articles. I got to remember to bring the camera, thanks for reminding me - smile. (I know odd comment, but I'm walking and talking)


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timorous 4 years ago from Me to You

Hi sofs. Sage advice, my dear. You're right, many people like to go on about something they've merely heard about, and repeating it without really understanding or having any passion for it, just to get others to 'notice' them. Good work, buddy.


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always exploring 4 years ago from Southern Illinois

Say what you mean, mean what you say..Good advice Sophie. I attempt to do that. It is not always easy, esp. after reading an article that you disagree with..My motto, " If you can not say something nice, do not comment." I like this hub. Thank you for sharing...


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teaches12345 4 years ago

Great coaching for those who need some encouragement in mentoring others. We are not perfect but we can model truth as much ad possible. Apologizing for mistakes can only help others know that failure helps us learn and keeps us humble. Enjoyed your hub.


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Eiddwen 4 years ago from Wales

Brilliant hub sofs and an up up and away without a doubt.

Take care;

Eddy.


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Docmo 4 years ago from UK

Inspiring thought, assertive words. I do agree on 'walking the talk' there's far too much ineptness in the world and lack of inspiring words and emotions. Mumbling mediocrity must be swept aside and a message for excellence comes through loud and clear... aspiring for excellence and inner self confidence are essential traits for any human.


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sofs 4 years ago Author

I am truly sorry for not being able to respond to these comment earlier. Each comment on this page is invaluable to me. The problem with the feed and the fact that I have got tied up with some urgent things have held me back. I appreciate all your comments. Thank you. God bless.


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prasetio30 4 years ago from malang-indonesia

Very inspiring hub. Again....you come up with substance of life. I learn much from you and you are great mentor. Good job and rated up!

Prasetio


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MsDora 4 years ago from The Caribbean

Really, if we wait till we're perfect to share what we know, nobody will talk. We can also admit our struggles and the effort we're making. Thanks you!


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sofs 4 years ago Author

Kelly I am sorry if I confused you, this is a not a book... just a picture I designed for the hub. I do appreciate your comment it is hard to walk the talk but it is something really worth changing our lives about. Thank you for taking the time to read and leave a comment.


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sofs 4 years ago Author

tsmog, you comment brought a smile to my face and my heart. Thank you, your generosity does leave me humbled. Your words are enough reward for writing this hub. Have a wonderful day and week ahead. God Bless!


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sofs 4 years ago Author

Tim, I thank you for bringing that up, some people just say stuff they have no clue about, to get attention.. It would be important to be able to back up what you say with actions. Thank you for stopping by to leave a comment. Have a wonderful day! God Bless!


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sofs 4 years ago Author

Ruby, how true, I often avoid leaving a comment on a hub that I do not agree with on principles. Nor do I follow everyone just to be true to myself ... I appreciate your example and your comment greatly. Thank you and have a wonderful week my dear!


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sofs 4 years ago Author

teaches, what a lovely point you have raised up here. we could model the truth as much as we can while apologizing for our mistakes when we fail... walking the talk is a process of refinement of life. It is well worth learning. Have a lovely week. God Bless!


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sofs 4 years ago Author

Eiddy, thanks for the up up and away! That is the way our life will go if we walk the talk. Have a beautiful week and God Bless!


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sofs 4 years ago Author

Doc Mo, powerful words here, my dear. That just underlined the passion and the integrity in you as a person. This endorsement is something I will read , re-read and treasure, because it is so inspirational! Have a splendid day!


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YiMin 4 years ago from Malaysia

Hi, great hub. We must have the courage to take our first step. And with it, we can change others.


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sofs 4 years ago Author

Prasetio, Thank you for your kind words sir. I appreciate that very much. Have a wonderful day! God Bless.


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sofs 4 years ago Author

Ms Dora, you have hit the nail on the head.. perfect situations never happen and waiting for it is meaningless.. I have always found talking about my struggles helpful especially while mentoring. I appreciate your comment very much, thank you and God Bless!


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sofs 4 years ago Author

YiMin , you are right on with that comment... do what you can, be true to yourself. Back up your talk with your walk. Thank you for stopping by. Have a wonderful day. God bless!


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John Sarkis 4 years ago from Los Angeles, CA

Great hub sofs. ...so true.... People do spent a great deal of time creating "the impression" as I call it. However, false confidence can only get you so far. You may look like a winner at first, only to become the biggest loser later on.

Take care

John


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sofs 4 years ago Author

John, thank you for your insightful comment. Yes, just the talking will not stand the test of time.. walking the talk would, impressions do fade. I appreciate the comment very much. Have a wonderful day! God Bless!


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Tams R 4 years ago from Missouri

Very true and insightful hub. It is sad people give in to behaving like the influences they are around. That can be bad or good depending. Rarely are they themselves and show others what they consist of on the inside.

While most people are doing the same thing, it is difficult to know who everyone would be if they all stopped being followers.


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sofs 4 years ago Author

Tams R, Being yourself is the most difficult part of being in these day of imitators. Everyone aspires to be someone else.. I do agree with what you say..Walking the talk is a challenge .. a huge challenge that not everyone is up to! Have a wonderful day!


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Dim Flaxenwick 4 years ago from Great Britain

Great advice in here. Voted up and awesome.


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sofs 4 years ago Author

Dim Flaxenwick, thank you. have a wonderful week ahead! God Bless!


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Rosemay50 4 years ago from Hawkes Bay - NewZealand

A great hub Sofs, with good advice. Nobody will ever achieve perfection thats for sure. To be a good mentor we have to be true to ourselves first. All too often we see the attitude 'Do as I say not as I do'. How can someone put trust into a person who does not follow their own advice.

The saying that actions speak louder than words is so true.

A great thought provoking hub


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sofs 4 years ago Author

Being true to oneself is the hardest thing of all for many, isn't it? Trust is what you inspires through your behavior not just words. Thank you Rose May for highlighting theses vital points. Hope all is well with you.. Have a beautiful day! God Bless!

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