Wanting to Be A Leader, and Changing Character
Why be a leader?
Some wonder why anyone would ever want to be a leader. They must have the responsibilities of the group, having good qualities, and having a good understanding of those around them. Being a leader is certainly not easy. However, most leaders say it is always worth the effort. They gain respect, gratitude, followers, etc. Even so, there are certain qualities leaders should have.
- Positive Attitude
- Problem Solving
What must everyone know about leadership?
Leadership is more than just talk. Anyone can say they are a leader, however, action is what shows a true leader and a lion hidden in zebra stripes. Your character determines who you are and it shows through your actions.
Though it is sad, we have no control over a lot of things in life. Who your parents are, what country you are born in, what time you exist in, your talents or IQ. All of these are not our choice. But we do choose our character and leadership qualities. What is so amazing is that we create them every time we make choices. When we are given the option of lieing, instead we tell the truth and take the consequences of our actions. To sell our neighbors lawn mower, or to just borrow it and give it back when we are done. To throw someone under the bus, or to say it was us and earn respect from them. All of these create character and leadership qualities.
What some people don't understand is that true leadership involves other people. There is a leadership proverb that expresses the importance of this main point. "If you think you're leading and no one is following you, then you are only taking a walk." If no one follows you, there is no point in leading.
I am sure you have heard. But have you noticed there are some individuals that once they reach the high level of success they always dreamed about, they fall to pieces? They spend years working and slaving for their main goal, still once they reach it, they don't know what to do anymore. This is apart of their character. It is called "The Success Syndrome". Yes, they might strive and work to get to great hights, but they lack the character foundation to keep them through the stress and this leads to certain disaster. In the "Success Syndrome", this means they are headed for one or more of the four A's: arrogance, painful aloneness, destructive adventure-seeking, or adultery.
How to Improve Character for Leadership
Search for weaknesses in yourself. Look at each main area in your life. Work, education, family, social, service, etc. Where have you let people down? Where are you growing? Look at these areas and notice every little detail about them.
Observe for patterns in the different areas of your life. Look at what you have written down. Are there any that repeat? Committment to work and relationship, communication with co-workers and friends and your special other, lack of motivation in projects at home and work and school, etc. These patterns will help you diagnose character issues. The beginning of changing character is when you face certain aspects you need to work on.
Notice these weaknesses. Study them and create a plan on how to overcome them. Do you need to work on handling stress? What about committment? Are you constantly having difficulties remaining focused on a project? Your goal is to try to overcome these weaknesses and become a person others could only dream of being.
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