Similar Lessons about Success & Serenity: from the Perspectives of a former NFL Wide Receiver and a Theologian
In a superb training with Team X 88 leader, former NFL Wide Receiver Mr. JJ Birden, I was reminded of my seminary days.
Surprisingly, this happens often. I am so blessed to be on JJ’s team, and we frequently discuss topics related to values, meaning and mindset.
Mindset plays a tremendous role in whether or not one truly becomes a person of value, and thus fruitful, within network marketing or direct sales. Mindset, attitude, and a commitment to personal development are highly valued.
This particular team training was entitled, “Control What You Control.” JJ covered a list of things: some of which we can control, and others over which we have no control.
My takeaway is that the key to serenity and success is in knowing the difference between the two, and then taking action and living life accordingly.
The lists below do not adequately convey all of the material covered in this expert training, but they are an attempt to share some highlights. While it is geared toward those who work with teams in direct sales, the points are nonetheless applicable when dealing with others in a broader sense.
Things We Don’t Control
The “Why” of our distributors/teammates
The attitudes of others
The “No”s we receive
Whether or not others achieve results
Whether or not team members do their Revenue Producing Activities
Whether or not others invest in themselves & do Personal Development Activities
What the Company does
The longevity of our teammates
What our Upline does or doesn’t do
Things We Do Control
Our “Why,” or our own motivation
Our attitude & the level of our positive energy
Our amount of preparation
Perfecting our skills, learning the system
Whether or not we qualify for advancement
Whether or not we do our Revenue Producing Activities
Whether or not we do Personal Development Activities
Our ability to adapt to what the Company puts in front of us
Staying alert, focused on ourselves, our development & our example for others
This clear, succinct and compelling assessment was quite illuminating for me. It can be so easy to look for blame or excuses, to focus on our disappointments in others rather than to work on ourselves. To learn this distinction is to master Advanced Adult Living at its finest.
When I was in seminary, studying to become a clergywoman, I studied the works of Christian Theologian Reinhold Niebuhr (1892-1971). While his name may not be familiar to many, a certain prayer of his is very well known.
It is called, The Serenity Prayer and anyone who has even a passing understanding of the 12-step program or modern counseling will recognize it:
God grant me the serenity
to accept the things I cannot change;
courage to change the things I can;
and wisdom to know the difference.
Living one day at a time;
Enjoying one moment at a time;
Accepting hardships as the pathway to peace;
Taking, as He did, this sinful world
as it is, not as I would have it;
Trusting that He will make all things right
if I surrender to His Will;
That I may be reasonably happy in this life
and supremely happy with Him
Forever in the next.
While one may or may not embrace the entirety of this prayer, it is hard to take issue with the wisdom of seeking that unique and deep peace which accompanies the ability to “…accept the things (we) cannot change; (develop the) courage to change the things (we) can; and wisdom to know the difference.”
As Wallace D. Wattles puts it, “Do, every day, all that you can do that day, and do each act in an efficient manner.”
This means taking responsibility for our choices, actions and results. If we don’t like our results we need to change what we are doing, not worry about what someone else is or is not doing.
This process is very much like Niebuhr’s prayer and insights about serenity. Whether your goals are to live in minimalist simplicity or magnificent splendor, it is about being true to your own values and doing what is necessary to realize your dreams.
Wattles explains, “Mistakes come from acting hastily, or from acting in fear or doubt, or in forgetfulness of the Right Motive, which is more life to all, and less to none.”
Given all the givens, the above list about what we can and cannot control, as well as the beginning lines of the prayer, give us great guidance for work and life; for serenity and success.
Packed with insights and tremendous wisdom.
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