What about respect

What about respect?

 

It wouldn't be the first time that ambulance personnel who are occupied with a patient during a reanimation are bothered by curious people who obstruct them doing their job, or ambulance people who don't get past traffic because others won't let them pass. Doctors being stabbed while taking care of patients, policemen being obstructed while doing their job, Catholics against Protestants. Self- centeredness and aggression are becoming a normal daily event.

I think we all have examples. Whether it is at home, at school, in sports, on the street and in church. It seems to be a problem everywhere.

According Wikipedia; (disputed)

Respect is one of the most (if not the most) important attributes for society to maintain, yet it is hard to define. On its broadest level respect is the acknowledgment that someone has value. They may be rich, work very hard, or may simply treat everyone in a way that gives them value. The importance of this value is that it changes people's reactions towards you, usually in a positive way. Respect is treating others the way you would like them to treat you. A person is more likely to treat you with respect if you do what is asked of you instead of arguing with them. It is the value you earned while doing what you were told that has lead the person to respect you and therefore treat you nicely.

Lack of respect

A lot of misery in this world might be caused by a lack of respect. I often hear people say:"we need to have more respect for each other", "children need to have more respect for elderly, their parents, and their teachers", "we have to make them respect".

My vision on respect is the accepting of the way of thinking, feelings and needs of someone else and yourself, without wanting to change something or wanting to solve anything. This doesn't mean that I always have to share the same opinion, but I take someone's opinion serious. And I take my own opinion seriously.

re·spect [ ri spékt ]

noun (plural re·spects)

Definition:

1. esteem: a feeling or attitude of admiration and deference toward somebody or something

He has no respect for authority.

2. state of being admired: the state of being admired deferentially

3. thoughtfulness: consideration or thoughtfulness

4. characteristic: an individual characteristic or point

satisfactory in every respect

plural noun re·spects

Definition:

regards: polite greetings offered to somebody

transitive verb (past and past participle re·spect·ed, present participle re·spect·ing, 3rd person present singular re·spects)

Definition:

1. esteem somebody or something: to feel or show admiration and deference toward somebody or something

2. not go against or violate something: to pay due attention to and refrain from violating something

respect the law

respect another's privacy

3. be considerate toward somebody or something: to show consideration or thoughtfulness in relation to somebody or something

Belief

For example belief . I'm not a Christian, at least not baptized. I don't go to church, did read the bible anyway. I read it because in my work I had to deal with a lot of people who were dying. And if they or their family wanted me to, I read pieces of the Bible for them, to make them feel more comforted. And I saw the comfort it brought them, respected the fact that that was their way of living and dealing with aspects in live. Even when it would not be my way. A lot of my family members were/are Christians. Some of them judged family members who were not. It resulted in family fights.

I believe that religious belief is a someone's personal affair. We can have similar goals despite of ethnic group, including those who believe in a religion and those who do not. Therefore the people who believe in a religion and those who do not can unite and cooperate and respect each other's beliefs. Judging people because of their religion can create hatred. And hatred can cause war.

I think when we want to interact with others with compassion and respect; it helps to connect with the feelings and needs of others. If we only keep a certain distance and stick to what we think of others, we will effortlessly judge and manipulate, and if necessary use verbal or physical violence. But if we empathize with the other, we will feel connected and how can we use violence with someone who's a part of us for that moment.

Respect isn't something you can force on to someone. But we can develop it in ourselves and teach others and inspire them too. Having respect starts with having respect for yourself.

We can teach each other, learn from each other and use our common knowledge to make our societies a good place to live. Respecting each other. It's a start.

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Paraglider 8 years ago from Kyle, Scotland

I agree that we should respect each other's beliefs as long as they are kept private or at least not imposed on others. However, I do worry when people whose beliefs are extreme are able to insist on 'respect' extending to having them included in school curricula. We should not confuse our children.


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Lazur 8 years ago from Netherlands Author

I understand your concern Paraglider

Schools have rules that apply to teachers, students and parents  who subscribe their children into schools. These rules are known  to everyone, before they even start . Should it be the case that a teacher, student or parent  don’t respect those rules, then the school has the right to refer them a different school.

Here in the Netherlands separate schools can be found for each educational denomination,  whether it’s religion or ways in teaching. The chance  that  a certain view is forced upon someone , is a lot less. However I ask myself if this is the right way to establish respect. Sometimes it  just seems to create more distance between groups.


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Paraglider 8 years ago from Kyle, Scotland

Much depends on how it's taught of course. When I was at school (in Scotland in 50s & 60s) we were taught bible stories as stories and as part of 'the culture'. But kids at the Catholic schools were catechised - forced by punishment to rote-learn the catechism. The regimes were very different. Also, in senior school, there was a reference in a Burns poem to the world being 6,000 years old. The English teacher explained that in 18th Century that's what folk used to believe. We all had a good laugh. Much later, I learn that in America many people still believe it and insist that children should be taught it as fact. So, what can I say - I respect someone's right to hold that belief, but I don't respect the belief itself and certainly think it should never be taught to impressionable youngsters in any institution.


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allshookup 8 years ago from The South, United States

i think you're right Paraglider. It does depend on how it's taught. I feel parents should determine what their children are taught. It is our responsibility to make sure they are taught what they should be and not taught things they shouldn't. Exanple: I do not want my son to have Sex Education at a school. The teacher would not know our values and besides, it is our responsibility to teach him about that subject and in a way that we feel is right. We don't want him to be taught to have sex and use protection. We want him taught to wait until his wedding night. Only he can decide what he will do, but it is our conviction that we teach him what we feel is right. Does that make sense? I love that we have the freedom to believe what we want. I'm thankful I live where I can freely practice what I believe, but when I see people who, for example, don't believe in God, it's so hard for me to say nothing. I want so badly to explain to them how real He is and how much He loves them. I don't want anyone to go to Hell, neither does God. But it is our choice as to where we will go. He gives us that choice. I don't want to argue about the Bible, but when it comes to someone calling God a moron or ignorant, it upsets me greatly because He loved me enough He sent Jesus to die for me and every single person on this earth. I want to help them understand so badly. But I fall short. I respect that they don't believe and that it their right, yet, I don't want to see any one die and go to hell. Does that make sense?


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Lazur 8 years ago from Netherlands Author

Calling God a moron is disrespect.Even for me. If you get mad about it, you're right. And I think it's your right if you tell them that. But someone who won't listen to what you have to say, does not have respect for you or your belief and helping them to understand badly can cause that they start to dislike it more because they may feel it's forced upon them. You don't fall short because they don't want to listen. It's their choice not to listen. You just care.


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allshookup 8 years ago from The South, United States

Thank you for your comment. I never want to come across as pushy. And I know a lot of people who call themselves Christians do that. I feel that that makes those of us who come along later and share our beliefs with others get shut out because of how people are treated by others first. You cannot push anyone into believing anything. You can't even do that to your own children. All you can do is share what you believe and they choose. Thanks again for the comment! :)


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Paraglider 8 years ago from Kyle, Scotland

Well, someone said on the religion forum that the blood of pigeons or bulls was not good enough to redeem mankind, but a sacrifice of human blood (Jesus's) did the trick. Someone responded to that by saying if that was what god was about, god was a moron. And I wouldn't argue. Blood sacrifice is stupid and primitive. Is that the god you want? A god of blood sacrifice??


pgrundy 8 years ago

I'm getting to the point where I just avoid discussions of religion altogether. I've said before in Hubs that I am not required to answer to the Christian community, I don't have to defend my beliefs, my beliefs are personal and private. To demand that someone defend their religious beliefs is presumptive and shows a lack of respect, but that happens all the time here in the U.S. I love the lady who works next to me at my job, she's a wonderful person, but she's constantly trying to convert me to be a Baptist and I won't even go there with her, I just gently kid her until she knocks it off. But when I write, people come at me like a freight train sometimes on religion, and I'm so weary of it. Thank you for the hub.


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Lazur 8 years ago from Netherlands Author

Thank you for reading the hub.:)

Religion is just an example in this hub considering it's about respect in general.But maybe it's a good example to show the lack of respect in this world:)


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VioletSun 8 years ago from Oregon/ Name: Marie

For some people "respect" means intimidation/fear, this was the way of my brother in law, but the respect of which you speak of, which means being non intrusive and just simply being accepting of others, is one I resonate with and express in my life.

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