Kevin Donaldson is absoluely right. The past might influence your decisions, but it can't make them. It is what you think at this moment that counts. It is also what you do at this moment that counts. These affect your future. If you make a habit of being aware of what you are thinking, and learn at little bit about positive and negative 'mind talk', you'll be able to BE IN THE MOMENT much more of the time, and able to monitor your thinking but, even more important, give it the direction you need to go towards the future you want.