25 And Still Trying To Find The Right Career
What is everyone’s obsession with joining the rat-race?
I am 25 years old; I have an excellent degree in Business Management, and have had the luxury of living in both Spain, Italy and even France for a bit. But yet, I am constantly brought back to the same question – what am I going to do with my life?
I spent all my educational years making choices, narrowing down subjects until finally choosing a degree. But then what . . . ?
Now I know everyone says it’s normal not to know what career you want, even on graduation, but still, here I am 3 years later, and I still don’t know what it is I want out of life. I feel even more clueless than I did when I was 18!
I want to travel, I want to meet new people, I want to explore different cultures, I want to speak several languages, I want to live somewhere warm, a sunny place by the sea, in a small friendly town, but with a bigger town nearby. I want a job that I don’t dread getting up for in the morning, and where I don’t mind staying late now and then, with nice colleagues who aren’t bitchy, but supportive and make the working day fun and something to look forward to. But also not just a job, but one with prospects, a career, a chance to aim for something more, and a boss that is willing to provide these opportunities, and promote fairly!
So you see I am pretty clear on what I want, so how come none of this helps me?
Yes I know, maybe I am too fussy maybe I need to broaden my options, or is it that I need to be more specific? Now, all of this isn’t helped by the fact that all the people around me, my friends and family all seem to be landing their dream jobs, or at least know what they want to do and are taking steps to get there! And what’s worse is they are all the typical career paths – nursing, teaching, journalism etc. None of what I want to do!
So how do we find out what it is we want to do? And do we all have that one job that fits us perfectly, or will some of us always have to squeeze into that job that doesn’t quite fit?
Well, I’m definitely in the latter category, and as far as I can see, there really is only one approach left for me to take (whilst still of course holding out hope for that light bulb moment where I suddenly wake-up and realise what my perfect job is!) but until then I’m afraid, it’s going to have to be a case of good old trial and error. This is in fact, how most of the greatest medicines were discovered, and how some of the greatest inventions came about, so maybe there really is hope out there for me!
I can in fact, already confirm that it most certainly does work in terms of finding out exactly what you don’t want, which in a very small way is bringing me closer to what I do want.
So, what I am trying to say is that whilst some people are lucky enough to live out their dream careers and others are quite happy to scramble along in the dreaded rat-race, some of us are simply still trying to figure it all out.
But what I have come to realise is that whilst I may be getting through a lot more jobs than most and taking a little longer to find my place, it is the experiences I have and the people I meet along the way that make life that little bit more interesting.
Why follow the straight road that hundreds have taken - when I can carve the path out for myself and have much more fun along the way? And whilst those on the straight pre-ridden road will look over and not understand the wobbly path I’m carving, when retirement day comes, I will be able to look back at my working life proudly and say “I did it my way.”
So my message to all of you lost rats out there like me is to stop worrying about what other people are doing and just enjoy making your own unique path!
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