How To Develop A Pleasant Personality

To Be A Vital Member Of A Team It Is Vital That You Develop A Pleasant Personality

Why Develop A Pleasant Personality?

You can be the smartest person in the world and you can be willing to tackle whatever task is at hand but if you have failed to develop a pleasant personality you will be hard pressed for an audience and it is unlikely that you will be chosen as a vital member of a team. It is therefore vital that you develop a pleasant personality.

It is essential as you go out and about in life that you be aware of what your personality is saying and demonstrating about you. Whether you like sales or not every time you interact with another or others you are giving a sales pitch. You are building a reputation and you are telling others who you are not just by your name but by the knowledge you have and the level or responsibility you take for that knowledge. Of equal importance is the personality you use to convey your messages to others. 

If you are not consciously creating then you will create through default with the outcomes being random, unpredictable and often unpleasant

What Is A Pleasant Personality?

No matter what you create in life before you can create it you have to know and understand what it is that you are creating. If you are not consciously creating then you will create through default with the outcomes being random, unpredictable and often unpleasant. A personality is your set of characteristics which is made up of your attitudes, your beliefs, your knowledge, your perceptions, your behaviours, your interests and other personal traits that you hold. Your personality communicates your quality as a person . Your pleasant personality distinguishes you and is what makes you appealing to others. We have all met and interacted with those who have unpleasant personalities and have experienced the upsets created that come from our exchanges with them. In order to consciously create your pleasant personality you must first be aware of what your attitudes and behaviours are towards people and life. You have to take ownership of your knowledge rather than pretending not to know or worse, refusing to acquire knowledge and skills . You have to examine your beliefs and your attitudes . Further, what mood level do you operate in? Can you move easily through the different moods or are you chronically stuck or fixed in a low mood level or in the pretense of a high mood level that you really don't feel?

Use Your Attributes And Abilities To Create Your Own, One Of A Kind, Pleasant Personality!

Your Pleasant Personality

Your pleasant personality is defining you for those with whom you come in contact or interact with. What do you want people to know about you? How do you want to be perceived by others? What characteristics do you have? Are you helpful? Are you an inspiration to others? Do you have a sense of humor? Are you dependable? Are you empathetic? Are you friendly? Each of us has a unique blend of characteristics that contribute to our individual personalities. Draw on the best of these characteristics, the most positive of them and use your attributes and abilities to create your own, one of a kind, pleasant personality!

Make a list of them if you have to. Your pleasant personality will shine through whatever identity you are wearing, be it your business identity, your spousal identity, your parental identity, your friend identity or any other number of identities you wear as you play your games in life. You may not wear the same identity to MacDonald's as you would to the Four Seasons but your pleasant personality will co-ordinate with any identity that you consciously and purposefully choose to wear.

"Oh The Places You Will Go!" Dr. Seuss

What Are The Consequences Of Having A Pleasant Personality?

From the above you will have identified the characteristics of your pleasant personality.

If you find that your personality has been predominantly unpleasant ask yourself, "What have been or could be the consequences of having an unpleasant personality? Keep asking yourself that question until all the consequences of having an unpleasant personality have been brought to view.

Then, with your identified characteristics of a pleasant personality ask yourself, "What have been or could be the consequences of having a pleasant personality? Keep asking yourself that question until all the consequences have been brought to view.

If you find that you already have a pleasant personality your having defined the characteristics of that personality will allow you to take full ownership of and empower your pleasant personality. Ask yourself, "What have been or could be the consequences of having a pleasant personality? Keep asking yourself the question until you have viewed all the consequence thereby acknowledging yourself while raising your confidence level.

Having a pleasant personality and using it to its full extent will empower you in life and it will serve to empower and inspire others. Then, as Dr. Seuss so aptly put it, "Oh the places you will go."

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Greatlife 6 years ago

I have rated this hub up, practical advice. This hub is having a winning spirit all along till the end. There are some great pointers here to enhance the way we communicate. As we humans advance into the techonology era, the communication seems to the most confused phenomenon. Thanks for an insightful hub which shows that having a pleasant nature and calm can help fight obstacles. Thanks to hubhop for bumping me into this hub.


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raisingme 6 years ago from Fraser Valley, British Columbia Author

Thank you. Your comments are very much appreciated!


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Nellieanna 6 years ago from TEXAS

Raisingme - as usual, you've brought forth a valuable article. I suppose as much as any other theme, it is an underlying theme of all great philosophies & religions. It's the essense of "by their fruits ye shall know them." - "as a man thinketh" - "do unto others" and many other wise tenets.

I like a little thing that says: "They don't care how much you know till they know how much you care." And the way they know is almost totally by attitude and personality.

I was especially pleased that you emphasized it has to be true and honest. Faked good spirits wear thin. Being cheerful must be true and to be true it may not always be constant. But there is a difference between having a set-back or bad day and making every day a bad day for everyone else! Even on days when one's own outlook may have some shadows, if one is generally a pleasant person, a "down" moment won't be imposed on others and will be let go when it's over.

Thanks - and I am also rating it up & useful!!


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raisingme 6 years ago from Fraser Valley, British Columbia Author

Great comments Nellieanna. People with pleasant personalities are like corks, the minute they are not weighed down they bob back up to the surface n' float!


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SomewayOuttaHere 6 years ago from TheGreatGigInTheSky

another good one...i like your comment above '...like corks...bob back up to the surface n' float'!


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raisingme 6 years ago from Fraser Valley, British Columbia Author

There have been times SomewayOuttaHere when I have had to remind myself "be the cork"! Spiritually we all have the ability to float, just a matter of remembering who we are. I do not use the word "just" lightly here because there are times when things happen that are downright unjust!


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Haunty 6 years ago from Hungary

I always wanted a pleasant personality. Thank you, raisingme. :)

So you can even develop multiple pleasant personalities this way?


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raisingme 6 years ago from Fraser Valley, British Columbia Author

One pleasant personality backing multiple identities. We all have multiple identities - identities are to beings as wardrobes are to bodies. We chose what to "wear" based on the game we are playing. Just as one would not show up at a wedding in a track suit one must chose the appropriate identity to wear when they show up in life. A pleasant personality works with any positive identity. An unpleasant personality works with any negative identity. When you develop a pleasant personality it becomes very difficult to wear a negative identity! Thank you for your comment your question.


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Stan Fletcher 6 years ago from Nashville, TN

Useful, awesome and voted up! I love the way you write. A lot of people could really benefit from this....


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Mrs. J. B. 5 years ago from Southern California

Well it seems I have some changing to do. Thanks for the great information


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celeBritys4africA 5 years ago from Las Vegas, NV

One vote up, this hub is an online learning directory.


Anon 23 months ago

"What have been or could be the consequences of having a pleasant personality? Keep asking yourself that question until all the consequences have been brought to view."

I have given up my sense of self & allowed my emotions to be (ab)used by people around me who have no concern for my comfort level.

OK - now what?

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