How To Stop Internet Bullying. Be Safe On The Internet.

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Every single person who writes for the Internet is opening themselves up to harassment or even stalking. When we first sign onto a site, we believe that everybody else will automatically respect your privacy and just politely comment and then move on.

It seems that this isn't so. I have recently been harassed by another hubber, who's name I shall keep to myself. This was not just harassment, this was actually much more than that. It was more like stalking.

Purely because I have been polite to him on his hubs, he has decided that I must be interested in him enough to leave his own country, get on a plane and come to live with me. I am sure my new boyfriend who I live with will be really happy to hear about that!

So why does someone who has literally read a couple of my comments on their hubs decide that actually I am 'up for it?' so to speak.

This is a great question. And the answer? I have no idea. But I do know one thing. I now realise that the debate recently in the newspapers about whether you should give your real name out on the Internet, or whether you should change it so that its completely different does actually answer this question. I now know that I would never ever use my real name.

For anybody out there that thinks by writing a comment it will actually be an open invitation to come over and move in, here's the answer. Please don't bother. We are here to write. We all have our own private lives. I know I do.

I have recently met a great guy, and yes I call him my husband, go figure! lol! But seriously, why does someone who only reads my work, believe they know me so well?

And actually have the nerve to ignore the facts and think I am interested in them? I believe its because we all are so familiar with each other as writers, that we get to thinking that we actually know each and every person intimately.

But this is just not the case. Writing on any site is just a small part of our lives. What we do, where we go and who we interact with in the outside World is much more important and real.

Now I have that out in the open lets just take a quick look at what we should do to keep safe.

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Its Just Common Sense.

  • Never ever give your real name. I don't care if some stupid Politician decides that we must, according to a new survey.
  • Never ever give out your email address. If someone contacts you from hubpages or any other site, unless you trust them completely, make sure you send them a reply from another email address that has no money links. For example the same email address you use for Paypal.
  • Never write about the town you are living in. I did write about the town I was born in. Different thing altogether. Now that I have moved up North I felt that it was fine to mention it. If you still live there, don't bother to write about it.
  • Always be polite if you start getting harassed. But then remove your follow status etc from hubpages, facebook and any other site you have contact on.
  • If you feel as though the person doing the harassing won't listen, then contact Hubstaff or the Staff of the site you are writing for.
  • And last but not least, never ever send money over the Internet. In my case this wasn't even asked for, but just in case you are asked, never ever reciprocate.

To keep safe just use your common sense. And if you feel that these measures are not enough, then contact your local police.

Hopefully the person who keeps harassing me will understand that I am not available, and was just being friendly. I am sure it was just a misunderstanding. In this case I will give him the benefit of the doubt.

This time.

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lovedoctor926 3 years ago

Excellent information. I am sorry to hear what you are going through. These tips are very helpful. Thank you for suggesting us not to use our real name. I am going to go ahead and remove it from my profile. As far as personal email address, I will be more cautious as to who I give it out to. And no personal information either because like you said, as writers we know and respect each other, but we don't really know each other intimately. Thank you for sharing. Voted up!


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carol7777 3 years ago from Arizona

Of course I know this exists but we all feel that it does not apply..Of course it does. I like the way you presented this and it is a huge wake up call to take care and be careful. As always a great job!!! I am voting up of course and sharing on facebook...Thanks for writing this..we all need reminders.


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Nell Rose 3 years ago from England Author

Hi lovedoctor, thanks so much, yes it got a bit hairy for a while there! lol! had a chat with a hubber, she was so helpful, so it put it in perspective, thanks nell


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Nell Rose 3 years ago from England Author

Thanks carol, without going into to much detail, he totally took me by surprise, my new fella just said to laugh it off, but I didn't feel that I could do that, thanks!


klarawieck 3 years ago

Nell, I'm sorry to hear this has happened to you. I've been stalking sexy, young hubbers for two years, but have never gotten on a plane to go meet them! Ha! NO... no... no.. seriously... some people are so lonely that they mistake the faintest sign of friendship with an open invitation to become close. Yikes! I'm glad you're teaching us from your experience. Hopefully he got the message and will leave you alone. Best of luck to you, my friend. :-)


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Nell Rose 3 years ago from England Author

Hi klara, great to see you! lol! did you find any? seriously, I hope he gets the message, I have no idea why he did this, but hopefully he turns out to be a good guy, and leaves me well alone, thanks so much, nell


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Mhatter99 3 years ago from San Francisco

Thank you for sharing this. I have been lucky, so far. I do feel uncomfortable offering help, even for misspelled words.


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stephhicks68 3 years ago from Bend, Oregon

Wow - scary stuff! I usually feel bad when I don't respond to emails via HubPages, but this hub just confirmed that its the right thing to do.

Very important topic that we should all keep in mind. Thank you for sharing your experiences, Nell. I hope that all goes well and you do not suffer any more harassment. Best, Steph


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Nell Rose 3 years ago from England Author

Thanks Mhatter, yes sometimes we have to sit back and try to keep out of it, thanks for reading, nell


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Nell Rose 3 years ago from England Author

Hi steph, thanks so much, yes I hope that it stops here, I will give him the benefit of the doubt, fingers crossed!


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midget38 3 years ago from Singapore

May he definitely do so, Nell. Am going to be like Lovedoctor and remove my name from my profile too. Thanks for the reminder!


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DanaTeresa 3 years ago from Ohio

Excellent advice. I think people forget that this online world is just as real as the local one we live in. We need to be safe and look out for ourselvs. Thank you for reminding us of that.

I hope you have resolved your situation with the ubpleasant hubber. I really think that some people get caught up in the romance of the writing and they feellike they connect in odd ways. Being online makes that easier to do. Best to cut off any private communication the second it gets uncomfortable and report any that goes to far.

Hugs! Take care! :)


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billybuc 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

Nell, I am really sorry this happened to you. Thank you for warning everyone; this is a valuable piece of information that everyone needs to pay attention to. Great job!


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go-barbara-go 3 years ago

Nell, these are warped (ugly, alienated, crooked) images of people online, trapped in their own labyrinth and they would want others to feel the same. Truly, hair-raising!

Thanks for the tips.


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cclitgirl 3 years ago from Western NC

You can never be too safe. Thanks for sharing your experience with us and so sorry this is happening to you. :\


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Petra Vlah 3 years ago from Los Angeles

Hi Nell,

It is scary out there in the cyber world! I thought HP was safer than that, but now you got me thinking. I am concerned about privacy and most of the Face Book requests will go unanswered, unless I recognize the name.

Thank you for sharing, Nell you are great


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Denise Handlon 3 years ago from North Carolina

well, since I use my name when I write I won't be deleting it anywhere, but I haven't had any propositions while writing here, thank goodness. I'm so sorry you experienced this. You've given everyone great tips to remember while dealing with internet interactions. If he has not already gotten the hint, I'm sure he will when he sees this hub! Rated up/U


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jpcmc 3 years ago from Quezon CIty, Phlippines

That's creepy! Thanks for the reminder that we should never let our guard down. Be safe always.


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lrc7815 3 years ago from Central Virginia

You have done all of us a favor by sharing your story and these great tips. Thanks!


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clark farley 3 years ago

(unfortunately) a good and timely Post. Sad that the very qualities and aspects that make 'the life virtual' so interesting and appealing can be so misused and hurtful.

Stay safe, this is too a good thing/experience/place to allow the haters and the deluded to prevail.


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bac2basics 3 years ago from Spain

Hi Nell. Crikey, this is serious and has made me much more aware of what I need to do and not do when writing. I never even thought of responding to emails via a different address to keep bank details etc safe, great tip for the future. I hope your stalker has now backed off, it must have felt really creepy.


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rcrumple 3 years ago from Kentucky

Nell - Well, I'm damn glad I didn't waste the money on a plane ticket! lol Seriously, life is strange to say the least, especially in web land. I don't believe I'd ever have a beauty show up at my door, but if I did, I'd probably be as frustrated as you. Some people have such pathetic lives that the web is the only source of reality they have, and they forget it's not true reality. Great advice, and thanks for saving me the price of airfare! : )


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CMHypno 3 years ago from Other Side of the Sun

There are some very strange people out there Nell, and unfortunately the internet is giving them a platform where they can show the rest of us just how weird they really are! Sorry you have been stalked, but just shows that the less personal stuff you reveal the better.


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Gina145 3 years ago from South Africa

I'm sorry this happened to you, but thankfully you seem to have the whole situation under control.

When I signed up for HubPages recently, I debated whether or not to write under my real name. Now I know I did the right thing.


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Jackie Lynnley 3 years ago from The Beautiful South

Man, been there, done that, lol and it is not fun! Hope it turns out alright for you. It was really embarrassing for me and you do hate to hurt feelings but sheee. Great thing to write about and bring to light!


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Nell Rose 3 years ago from England Author

Hi Jackie, thanks so much, he is just not listening, well he better had now, I can't be bothered with it anymore! lol!


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Jools99 3 years ago from North-East UK

Nell, great hub. Sorry to hear you've had some unwanted attention - this advice will be useful to all of us.


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Nell Rose 3 years ago from England Author

Hi midget, that's a good idea, I did write my name to start with, but didn't feel comfortable, good thing I removed it! thanks for reading, nell


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Nell Rose 3 years ago from England Author

Hi Dana, yes reported it last night, and cut him of facebook etc. I am really annoyed at him to be honest, I didn't mind being a hub follower and reading his stuff, he should realise that this is just for writing, you can't push a friendship because of a few, 'Thats a great hub' comments! thanks for reading, nell


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Nell Rose 3 years ago from England Author

Thanks billy, it got a bit hairy there! now I just feel so annoyed at his continued harassment. I am not interested, in the slightest in fact. wish people could just understand that the internet is just for writing and making a few friends when its reciprocated, thanks as always, nell


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Nell Rose 3 years ago from England Author

Hi barbara, yes that's so true, I will definitely be careful in future who I follow, thanks so much, nell


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Nell Rose 3 years ago from England Author

HI cc, thanks for reading, nell


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Nell Rose 3 years ago from England Author

Hi Petra, yes me too, I think the facebook requests are so easy to accept, we have to remember that they are real people, its easy to forget that, thanks so much for reading, and nice to see you, nell


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Nell Rose 3 years ago from England Author

Hi Denise, thanks so much, hope so, I just couldn't believe it when I read his message, talk about bold! lol! thanks, nell


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Nell Rose 3 years ago from England Author

Hi jp, yes very creepy, if he keeps on I will name and shame him, but not yet, I will give him the benefit of the doubt first, thanks nell


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Nell Rose 3 years ago from England Author

Thanks Irc, glad you found it helpful, nell


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Nell Rose 3 years ago from England Author

Hi clark! still wearing your hat and T shirt! lol! nice to see you. Yes I am batting down the hatches so to speak! mentally I mean! lol! sorry its taken me a while to get back to your site, glad of the reminder, nell


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SkeetyD 3 years ago from Barbados

I can't believe that actually happened on Hubpages. I know there are some strange and frankly vile people in the community but now we have to add downright crazy to that list. I'm sorry this happened to you and anyone else that experienced a similar situation.


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TToombs08 3 years ago from Somewhere between Heaven and Hell without a road map.

Nell, my bell, I am so sorry you had to go through this. Your stalker had some nerve. But then again, most of 'those types' seldom have touch with any kind of 'reality.' I do have to give you a HUGE pat on the back for creating a fantastic way to take a horrible experience and turn it into a lesson we can all learn from.


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DeborahNeyens 3 years ago from Iowa

Thanks for sharing your experience with us, Nell, so we can all learn from it. Those of us who write under our real names should be extra careful. This is a good reminder.


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mary615 3 years ago from Florida

I had a lot to learn when I first started writing here. We like to think that everyone here is "buddy-buddy", and we can share our real names, etc. I avoid using real names in my Hubs when writing about personal experiences. Also, I never thought about not using our real name on our profile. I'll delete mine.

I guess when a man reads my profile, he will see that I am older than dirt, and he wouldn't be interested in this old Granny!

Great Hub, good advice to all of us here. I voted this UP, and I will share with my followers.


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lindacee 3 years ago from Southern Arizona

That's the main problem with any kind of social networking. I agree -- the less you divulge of a personal nature, the better off you'll be. Hope things have calmed down for you. I can imagine it is quite disturbing to be stalked online. Thanks for sharing your experience with us.


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RTalloni 3 years ago from the short journey

Important topic--so sorry you had to deal with such a thing. Not realizing that privacy is g-o-n-e once we go online is a mistake, but an easy one to make.


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innerspin 3 years ago from uk

Gosh, Nell, what an uncomfortable experience for you. I had a pretty odd response one time, deleted it, and fortunately nothing else came through. There's so much talk of keeping children safe on the net, the same thing's true for everybody. Great advice in your hub, thanks.


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John MacNab 3 years ago from the banks of the St. Lawrence

In reply to mary615's remark about someone not being interested because she is 'older than dirt' - don't believe it, trust me. I'm sorry to hear about your problems Nell, and I must admit I'm shocked. I've assumed that most writers on Hubpages are friendly and when I receive these 'so and so is following you' comments, I check out the so and so first to make sure it isn't just a spam comment. - and I shouldn't admit this, as it shows my bias and could be construed as some kind of 'ism - if the so and so can't spell or doesn't understand grammar, I delete the said so and so immediately.

It took me a long time to realise that your given name should never be online - in fact it seems to take me ages and ages just to find an online pseudonym.

You surprised me with your 'don't give out your home town' comment, as mckbirdbks suggested to me a few weeks back that one way to get more readers was to take photos of my hometown and promote it on Hubpages.

Thanks for the hub, Nell. It put things in perspective again just when I was thinking of expanding and saying who I was/is/used to be/


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aviannovice 3 years ago from Stillwater, OK

Anything can happen on the internet. One never knows who is out there to try to prey upon others.


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Nell Rose 3 years ago from England Author

Hi avian, that's it exactly, at least the good thing about it is that I am now checking and double checking who I follow etc, not on here so much but much more on facebook. We just sit there and accept a follow request, now I have gone through it and got rid of about 10 people I have no idea who they are, seems my age doesn't stop stupid! lol!


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Nell Rose 3 years ago from England Author

Hi John, yes I did try to keep the spammers etc away, and check out whether they can spell etc, I did in fact get rid of a few just recently, but this one, like a boomerang just kept coming back. I also wrote about my home town that I was born in, but have deleted it now, makes me so mad! but I don't want people out there knowing where I used to live as my relatives are still there, so bang went a good hub and photos, I may put it somewhere else under another name, thanks so much for reading and your feedback, nell


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Nell Rose 3 years ago from England Author

Hi innerspin, yes we adults can be forgetful sometimes like me, we presume that we can trust someone but its not always the case, thanks so much for reading, nell


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Nell Rose 3 years ago from England Author

Thanks RTalloni, yes time brings complacency, is that the saying? lol! we are on here for such a long time we get complacent, thanks for reading, nell


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Nell Rose 3 years ago from England Author

Hi linda, yes it did give me the creeps a bit. Apart from being angry I did sit back and think, did I encourage him? 'er no, was the answer! so it seems these days just being polite is too much to ask without someone thinking they can take it further, thanks so much for reading, nell


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Nell Rose 3 years ago from England Author

Hi mary, older than dirt? lol! I am not that far behind you there mary! its good to have a reminder sometimes that we need to double check who or what we follow and give our names too, but I hope he gets the picture! lol! thanks as always mary, nell


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Nell Rose 3 years ago from England Author

Hi Deborah, so true, maybe the names though are safe as long as we don't give out address's, home towns and emails, fingers crossed of course! lol! thanks for reading, nell


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Nell Rose 3 years ago from England Author

Hi Terrye, thanks for your help, I was getting a bit jumpy there last night! lol! and thanks, I was going to bed then this hub just shot out of my fingers onto the page so to speak! lol! if I get any more problems I will come get the high kicking thump on the nose terrye to sort it out for me! haha! thanks!


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Attikos 3 years ago from East Cackalacky

If you ever get to the bottom of this, you'll likely find the man is seeking a way to achieve United States residency status and was pushing too hard to get you to serve as his tool for doing it. The sad part is he'll probably keep rolling the dice until he finds some lonely, vulnerable woman who'll take him in.


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Nell Rose 3 years ago from England Author

Hi Skeety, thanks so much, maybe he did it to others too, not sure about that, but as far as I am concerned I am not a follower any longer! I don't like people who presume something, its my choice whether I like someone or not, I hate it when I get pushed, thanks so much for reading, nell


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Nell Rose 3 years ago from England Author

Hi Attikos, hes actually American, and wants to come over here to England, same thing I would imagine. luckily I am two things. not stupid, and broke! haha! in other words I would never fall for it, and second I have nothing to offer as I am out of work. He will have to start again! and yes I am sure he will find one somewhere, that's the sad part, thanks so much for reading, nell


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StephSev108 3 years ago from Atlanta, GA

Thanks for the info. I voted up.


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christin53 3 years ago from UK

Unfortunately there are so many weirdo's on the internet who come across quite normal to start with. I have several email accounts for different things such as one for Hubpages,one for banking and money stuff and a personal one just for family and friends. My facebook account is only for friends and family and not strangers on the net. It's good advice not to use your real name or full name either.


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Nell Rose 3 years ago from England Author

Thanks for reading Steph, glad you liked it, nell


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Nell Rose 3 years ago from England Author

Hi christin, so true, the weirdo's are there even though we think people are okay, I just hope the one who was writing to me is genuinely mistaken, I would hate to think he really was trouble, thanks so much for reading, nell


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Ruchira 3 years ago from United States

I agree Nell.

I use a lot of caution when friending people cause Internet is virtual and we can't trust. However, I am glad to have found a bunch of good and worthy pals like you along this way.

Cheers!!


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Nell Rose 3 years ago from England Author

Hi Ruchira, thanks so much, and yes I totally agree with you, it's a scary business sometimes but well worth it to meet good friends on the way like you, and I really appreciate you reading, thanks nell


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always exploring 3 years ago from Southern Illinois

Rose I had the same experience with a hubber. I admired his poetry and he wanted to meet me, anywhere! It is really difficult for me to not comment from my heart, but I am more aware now. Great hub, very important info. Cheers..


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TToombs08 3 years ago from Somewhere between Heaven and Hell without a road map.

You just let me know, Nell, and I'll but my butt kicking boots on and head over. ;)


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Pamela99 3 years ago from United States

Nell, I wish I had been more careful. I think your guidelines are really wise. I know you can block someone from making comments on your hubs, but if they have your email address you can still get harassed. It is unreal that someone thinks they can just come and more in with you, uninvited! That is a lot of nerve. I'm glad you wrote this useful hub. Voted up and shared.


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fpherj48 3 years ago from Beautiful Upstate New York

Nell....I'm shocked this has happened to you! I'm also sorry that you've had to deal with this kind of issue. You have handled it in your usual sweet manner, bless your heart.

Some people have overly-vivid imaginations! We are all "nice" to each other, I would hope, but let's not get the wrong message, huh?

If you have any more trouble with Mr. Stalker, call me. I know what to do, believe me! And I have references!!!.......Great tips!! UP+++


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Nell Rose 3 years ago from England Author

Hi Ruby, I never realised that you had to put up with this too, what a nightmare! why don't some people realise what they are doing is stupid? thanks so much as always, nell


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Nell Rose 3 years ago from England Author

Hi Terrye, lol! and I will get out my karate things and join you! thanks again, nell


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Eiddwen 3 years ago from Wales

Thankyou so very much Nell for another gem. Take care and have a wonderful day.

Eddy.


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MartieCoetser 3 years ago from South Africa

Excellent hub about harassment and stalkers on HubPages and even elsewhere in CyberSpace. After almost 3 years online I, too, have learned a couple of costly lessons, but in the process I've also developed the necessary defense mechanism against stalkers and even against online relationships in general. We HAVE to realize that online relationships are NOT comparable with relationships in reality. Online relationships remind me so much of mother-baby relationships BEFORE the baby is born. The difference is the baby realize in 9 months - an individual with their own personality - not at all what we have envisioned. The online friend may never enter our real world.

Take care, Nell! Enjoy your real friend! But also enjoy your online friends and slam the door in the face of stalkers and harassers :)


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CASE1WORKER 3 years ago from UNITED KINGDOM

Wow! I am speechless but also realise that these guys prey on women who are alone- I guess he didn't realise that you had a fella ( incase you are reading this Mr Stalker I am not available either

Thanks for letting us all know and I think this applies equally to the guys as well


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Nell Rose 3 years ago from England Author

Hi Caseworker, yes evidently there was another mentioned on facebook, why the heck don't they go to a dating site?! how stupid can they be? at least I have tightened up my security on here, maybe it was a good thing, it brought it home to me just how many people out there are just downright odd! lol! thanks again case, and great to see you, nell


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Nell Rose 3 years ago from England Author

Hi Martie, great to hear you have got your defence up too, so many of us just get so carried away with chatting to people we forget that we just don't know them, and yes I will thanks Martie, I know who my online friends are thank you, and of course you being one of them! lol!


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Nell Rose 3 years ago from England Author

Hi Eddy, thanks so much as always, nell


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Sunshine625 3 years ago from Orlando, FL

WTG Nell Rose! Kick that weirdo to the curb! I'll continue to kick the Facebook casanova wannabe's to the curb!

Some people are just looney and full of malarky! ;-)


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Nell Rose 3 years ago from England Author

Hi effer, lol! I will call you, and let you sort 'em out! thanks so much, yes it was a bit hairy at the time, but I think hes got the message now, nell


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Nell Rose 3 years ago from England Author

Hi Pamela, thanks so much, yes what a stupid man, but then again maybe he thought he was being funny, who knows? thanks for the votes, nell


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Nell Rose 3 years ago from England Author

Hi Linda! Haha! yes so full of malarky! between us we will sort out the hub monsters, glad to see ya, nell


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Gordon Hamilton 3 years ago from Wishaw, Lanarkshire, United Kingdom

Hi, Nell

First off, I'm sorry you had to go through this experience. It's not pleasant and not on and I promise I'm not being sexist but I believe it must be worse for a woman.

Having said that, I've had just such an experience, that went on for a few years. It started circa five years ago, when I was living in London with my ex. I started getting all these e-mails from a woman in Spain (who made no secret of her age - akin to my mother's!) asking me to marry her. I remember showing one e-mail via a site to my ex, who asked, "So how do you do know her?" I think she (my ex) was joking...

It went on for a long time. She tracked me down around the Web and at one stage (I've never discovered how) even managed to get my personal e-mail address. Honestly! I would love so much to know how she managed to do that. She even sent me an e-mail of pictures of her naked.

I am glad to say that I haven't heard from her for over a year and hope she has finally got the message, as I hope your idiotic stalker has as well, my friend.

Good luck in your new life! :)

Gordon


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Nell Rose 3 years ago from England Author

Thanks Gordon, what a nightmare! I think in our real lives we tend to spot the odd person and totally avoid them, but to do it on the internet like that! Wow! I suppose we should all really look into internet harassment and see if there is a law, I know I haven't really looked into it yet. I think the guy who was doing it probably gets the point now, but it would be nice if I got an apology, lets face it, he must be reading this! thanks as always, nell


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Rolly A Chabot 3 years ago from Alberta Canada

Hi Nell... you are so right here about all the different people who attempt to defraud you of your time and money. I do think governments need to get tougher with laws to stop what is happening...

Hugs from Canada


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Nell Rose 3 years ago from England Author

Hi Rolly, sorry about cutting you off on facebook! lol! my stupid pc has a mind of its own! thanks for reading, nell


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marcoujor 3 years ago from Jeffersonville PA

Nell,

So sorry you had to experience this for the price of being your sweet self.

Hoping this is an isolated case and you can be free now to write and enjoy the support and friendship of those of us who care for and respect you on HubPages.

Take care and be happy, Maria


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alocsin 3 years ago from Orange County, CA

Nell, what a pain. Have you reported this to HubPages? What did they say? Since this is an excellent warning for everyone, this hub is voted Up and Useful.


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Glimmer Twin Fan 3 years ago

Really useful hub Nell! Makes me think about online safety!


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drbj 3 years ago from south Florida

Sorry you had this experience, Nell, but the Internet makes it very easy for lonely folks or those with ulterior motives to stalk another person. Thanks for these common-sense tips.


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Nell Rose 3 years ago from England Author

Hi drbj, yes that's so true, thanks so much for reading, nell


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Nell Rose 3 years ago from England Author

Hi Glimmer, thanks for reading, yes it certainly made me think, must be more careful about information about ourselves in future, glad you liked it, and thanks, nell


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Nell Rose 3 years ago from England Author

Hi alocsin, yes I did report it, they are just keeping an eye on him for me, but it did take a strange turn today, just checked my facebook and he apologised! so good for him, I am glad he did that, thanks as always, nell


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Nell Rose 3 years ago from England Author

Hi Maria, Aw thanks so much, I just found an apology from him on facebook, I am glad he realised that he had stepped over the line, nice to see a guy has manners when he realised that he was wrong, nell


Chewy Mommy 3 years ago

It's kind of scary how some people feel they have enough of an attachment to someone they don't really know to resort to stalking methods. That's part of the reason I use a pen name here and a couple other sites I write for. Hopefully this situation will be resolved and he will leave you alone now.


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tillsontitan 3 years ago from New York

You're really having a time of it....between your Internet idiot and the flu shot! My, my. I hope he gets the idea after reading this hub. You know we could form a posse and really round up this guy!

In spite of it all you've come across with good information. Voted up and useful.


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Nell Rose 3 years ago from England Author

Hi Chewy, yes he did eventually apologise, but it should never have happened in the first place, what on earth was he thinking? theres nowt so strange... as we say over here! lol!


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Nell Rose 3 years ago from England Author

Hi tills, lol! maybe I should sneeze on him! thanks tills for the laugh, nell


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moonlake 3 years ago from America

I once saw where someone on hubpages said we should all put our real pictures on and I thought at the time, is she nuts. She said she wouldn't follow anyone that did not use their real picture on their profile. How would you know? I also think it is a big mistake to use pictures of young beautiful women or handsome men. Even though it may not be you some weirdo will think it is and want to get friendly.

I think we all do many things on the internet we shouldn't and do it without thinking.

Your advice is right on. So sorry you have had this problem.


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Nell Rose 3 years ago from England Author

Hi moonlake, thanks for reading, yes it does make us think we this happens, at least it gave me the reminder to be careful, thanks so much, nell


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Vinaya Ghimire 3 years ago from Nepal

I have read some true stories of online harassment. Thanks for sharing yours and making us aware about online safety.

Once I was also harassed my a hubber, she said, I write craps and try to influence my views. I politely said English is not my first language, so I'm not as better as you. And I earn fairly well by writing on newspaper and online writing is just my hobby.

She is no more on hubpages.


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Nell Rose 3 years ago from England Author

Hi Vinaya, that's terrible! why do people do this? I am sorry to hear you had to go through that, and I am glad she has gone now, thanks for reading, nell


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Au fait 3 years ago from North Texas

One of our fellow hubbers has gotten pretty angry with me because I won't tell him my real name or age, etc. I don't tell anyone those things over the Internet. I have had lots of others nag and ridicule me because I won't share those things with them.

One can't be too careful on the Net. Anyone can be whomever they want to be on here, and so even though I am pressured for personal information as proof I am who I say I am, I turn the tables on them. How do I know they are who they say they are?

The same thing is often true of people we see in our neigborhoods or at our workplace. Just because we are in close physical proximity doesn't mean they are who they seem to be or that they are honest or trustworthy. In fact, the people in one's neighborhood have easier access to us than people on the other side of the world. It goes without saying one should be careful with whom you share financial information with even if you do think you know them.

How many women end up beaten to a pulp by their own husbands? Men they thought they knew well enough to marry them, but it would seem they didn't know them so well after all.

Protect your identity from theft and protect your bank account from theft. Your address, birthday, and name is all that is needed often times to get a credit card in your name. There are plenty of places one can get your Social Security # and driver's license number online if you just have a name, address, and/or birthdate.

Excellent hub. Voted up and useful. Will share.


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Nell Rose 3 years ago from England Author

Thanks Au Fait, I totally agree with everything you say, at the end of the day its down to us to keep safe, nell


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vespawoolf 3 years ago from Peru, South America

How scary! It's so true that we're all open to harassment and stalking. I hope your situation improves soon. Meanwhile, these are great reminders about our privacy. It may seem like paranoia to some, but it's survival on the internet.


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Nell Rose 3 years ago from England Author

Thanks vespawoolf, yes he got the message! Well I hope he did, so it is definitely worth using a different name on here, I live a long way away from my original town, so now I can write about it, but there is no way I would write about the place I am staying in now for instance, thanks again for reading, nell


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rajan jolly 3 years ago from From Mumbai, presently in Jalandhar,INDIA.

Nell, this is indeed shocking! I mean how could someone just on the basis of a few comments entertain such thoughts. As writers we need to be polite and courteous to our readers.

Thanks for putting out this warning for others to benefit and be aware of these types of individuals.


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Nell Rose 3 years ago from England Author

Thanks rajan, yes it did get a little bit silly, but that's the trouble there is always someone out there who sees into it too much, thanks for reading, nell


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DDE 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

Some people have sick minds and sometimes are bored so decide to target someone who is trying to be friendly. The don't see themselves as accepted in society and decide to corrupt other people's loves, good tips here thanks


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Nell Rose 3 years ago from England Author

Thanks DDE that's so true, hopefully one day the powers that be will sort out the bad guys and somehow keep them from causing the trouble, thanks!

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