I know that theft of our content online is a big problem for many of us but I am pretty much in shock tonight after having virtually my entire identity stolen from a very unexpected source - one of my best friends. How do I deal with this...???
A friend called me earlier tonight to tell me he had to confess to a terrible crime. He has met a woman on an adult dating site (in cyberspace only!) and basically decided to tell her he is a writer (rather than the truth - he is a joiner). He has sent her a link to one of my online profiles and basically told her it is him. He has arranged to meet her this weekend and (wait for it!!!) has asked me to agree to the ongoing story that I am only the photographic front for his work - no joke!
Firstly, I am p'd at the lies; secondly, what kind of relationship starts on that basis; thirdly, he probably earns three times what I do - and fourthly, one of my profiles is now floating around some dodgy porn/adult/whatever you want to call it site!
Comments and advice welcome and greatly received...
I guess you'll have to become someone else, since you aren't you anymore. Then everyone who knows you will be telling you, "Hey Gordon, you don't seem to be yourself anymore." "Then you'll say, yeah, that's cause I'm this guy online named Blake Flannery." Then I'll have to find someone else to be.
Your friend sounds as if he has confidence issues that he still has to deal with. He honestly thought being a writer is a better persona than being a joiner?? I know what kind of man I'd prefer! I mean, can a writer install my kitchen cupboards? I rest my case.
This is his issue.
You have been dragged into it, a little bit, but you know there is no such thing as bad publicity, unless Google hates the site you are linked to.
I'm obviously not in a position to know, but maybe your friend is really lonely, and thought that his life was so boring, no woman would ever want to know him?
So he thought up a little romantic plan and called himself a writer, (which is sorta romantic) and then decided to prove it by linking you.
It's not honest. It's not a good thing. But it got him a date!
Now he has to unravel the web of deceit, and he started with you. He came clean about something you may never have known about, so he is still a friend.
The link to your name is only dodgy if the site is frowned upon by Google.
Check that first, then give your mate a hug. He needs it!
Now that you are aware of it, if you do not act, she can sue you as a participant in fraud, intentional infliction of emotional distress, and whatever else she can make up. I'm not a lawyer, but I am paranoid...