Finding a purpose in one's life is not always that easy. Sometimes we can't find it, but it will find us eventually if it is to be. By not pressuring ourselves might leave some creative thought as to what it is we are looking for to fill that void. We have a tendency to put a lot of demands on ourselves which can cause us such discomfort mentally and physically. There are times we need to focus on a few things instead of spreading ourselves too thin. Concentrating on doing one thing right and then moving onto the next, might help. Your purpose will come from within you, if you take the time to recognize it.
I'd love to swim with the intensive porpoises! While I was living in Chicago, the Beluga whale at the aquarium gave birth to two babies. For $300 per person, you could get in the tank with them and someone found out that they loved to have their tongues petted. I wanted to go and do it SO bad. Of course, we never have $300 at one time that isn't owed to someone or another, so we never were able to do it, but it sounded like SO much fun, and the babies were freakin' adorable!
Back in '06, I was about to face the worst time in my life, but I didn't know it yet. I tried to figure out what I should be doing with my life. I always dreamed of singing and I wrote a lot of music, but I didn't feel as compelled to pursue my dreams with 4 kids. Somehow I ended up with a Dr. Phil book about your topic and realized what I loved more than anything else was my kids. My youngest is adopted and I just wanted to keep on adopting. I think Dr. Phils msg. was basically whatever you loved and felt happiest doing was what you should pursue. You should get the book from the library though cause if it were that easy, he probably wouldn't have needed to go to the effort of publishing. Maybe you could even find it online and get the gist of it and apply some of the ideas.
I find the best way to decide your life's purpose is to just think about it. I would look out the window during a stormy night or even stormy day and just think about what makes you happy and what you feel you need to do. I found out that I had to be a writer this way. I hope this helps and good luck in your journey.
I like the idea of contributing to society. Which we all do whenever someone reads one of our hubs. I just want to somehow turn it into something more. Something that would give me passion. Something that would be my first thought every morning when I wake up.
I'm really into nature and conservation, but those topics will never bring me vast amounts of traffic or earnings. Other than this, at the other place I've written about helping ex-offenders find employment and helping lone parents raise money and get out of debt. Both of those topics do pretty well, but it's just so depressing that so many people are in such a fix.
Draw on some of the rotten times in your life, and think about all those people who are now going through the same things. You could help more than you know.
Look through your hubs. What do you write on the most? Perhaps this is what you are most passionate about? If so, find a way to make it more "concrete" in your life.
I found my passion by looking back at my childhood. I looked at what inspired me the most as a child, and for me, it was training my collie to simple obedience. I loved that and felt most alive when doing that. As an adult, I decided to relive that part of my childhood with my new dog, and it has lead me to new life. I'm now a professional dog trainer, compete Nationally at a very popular sport and was even blessed to decline an opportunity this year to compete at the World level for the USA in the sport.
What did you LOVE doing as a child, and how can that translate to today?
Also, consider volunteering. What better way to contribute to society!!!
I want to visit Ecuador, this year. Which is, of course, completely out of the question. I need around £3000 to do so, much more if my son and daughter are to come with me. (On second thoughts, leaving them at home might be a desirable option)
So, I'll go next year. Emm, where will the £3000 come from? Questions...thoughts...Crime perhaps?
The purpose for every male on the planet is procreation. It is an evolutionary imperative to spread your seed as far and as wide as you possibly can, whether that be into the next residence, the next valley or the next continent.
Now if we could only convince the fairer sex of that purpose...
It should help. Reading from your earlier post here, it will certainly provide a contribution to society. It will provide passion. It will turn into something more. Merely turning your head in the other direction will make you think of it each morning.
It fits all of your criteria, just as evolution intends.
Okay, I hate to sound mean, but I wouldn't put a cockroach into the care of Lindsay Lohan. I'm surprised she's still alive herself with her apparent lack of ability to take care of anything that lives and breathes.
Most passions can be converted to some form of contributing to society. I just got to find that passion. At the moment I'm revisiting every hobby I had as a kid. So far, no reignited spark; but we shall see... And btw..., I don't wanna grow up! I've already done that, and it's a pain in the a$$. My plan would be to keep the basics, and revert back to childhood for the rest.
Don't mean to go all religious on you but have you seen Rick Warren's "The Purpose-Driven Life: What On Earth Am I Here For?" Regardless of your religious persuasion, it is helpful in giving you another perspective on finding your purpose. Once you get past his preachiness, it helps you to think outside of yourself in determining why you're here and what you were meant to do.
I know Rick Warren is controversial but just use the first few chapters to help you search. Don't let it be about him. I couldn't finish the entire book either and I consider myself religious and spiritually-based. I recommend the book as a tool.
It's interesting... I was just thinking about this yesterday.
What's to follow isn't interesting however...
First of all... the laws of science? The laws of NATURE, you say? What a joke.
Here's the real deal, gentlemen... every since we've made our existences, (to some extent,) cozy and domesticated, (and no, dears, I'm not talking about the lack of spreading your seed willy-nilly,) without the struggle of living, the ends and outs of maintaining "x" amount of calories, and the energy of providing "y" amount of warmth, the ins and outs of finding "z's" appropriate shelter for the evening... basically in essence fulfilling all of Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs: seemingly with the touch of a button: Life has no meaning. It was the struggle that made it worthwhile.
Anyways, that's what I was thinking about yesterday. I'm not suicidal or anything, just a diversion of my brain in a path I wandered down just yesterday.
Real answer - live you life as if it's your last and help anyone and everyone that needs help that you are able to.
Last week a close colleague lost her daughter - I cannot imagine losing my daughter and it made me think of how short life is and how I always get stuck in my own 'worry' box - my worries are simply financial, I still have my daughters..........
Ditto here. Leaving aside the joking, my grandchildren are a large part of what makes my life worthwhile. As I look around right now, there are 4 of them here, one on my lap, and they mean the world to me.
Those little ones will know that they were loved by you and that is something important they will carry forward into heir lives in the future. We may never know what influence we have left in the memories of others, especially those close to us. Our actions influence and carry forward even in the kind actions we do for strangers. Do you remember , to this day, any small surprising thing someone did for you? I do-- and it influenced my life and my future.
I've found that trying to live a Christ-like, married life has definitely given my own life purpose. I'm not big on Rick Warren... he's too much of a Universalist for me. I like Pastor Mark Driscoll and of course like our own Pastor Corey McLaughlin at our Sheffield Chapel. I'm not sure what your beliefs are paradigmsearch, but loving, helping and praying for others in a Christ-like fashion has been very rewarding in so many ways. Being strengthened by God and being filled with the Holy Spirit gives life more purpose than anything else I've tried or experienced.
Do what you enjoy doing pardigmsearch, regardless of whether or not people tell you it is impractical or a waste of time. Learn to be comfortable in your own skin regardless of what others think or say about you.
Ho - Hummmmm... don't feel a need to say hi to me huh SWOH?? Hope you're all well...
PS... the purpose of life will always be what you choose it to be and often it a change of perspective is the answer to finding or rekindling it. Have you ever deeply considered your purpose in life from your cat's perspective??
Which of your interests, would you miss if they were taken away or denied you? If you were in a prison cell and denied freedom of choice, what would it be that you wanted to do apart from escape? Do not answer that, just use it as a point to start a line of thought on what matters to you.
The replies posted here have been truly awesome. My deep, heartfelt thanks to all. The information in this thread could actually help lots of people. So much so, that I've posted links to it. The thread, itself, has turned into a contribution to society.
Paradigmsearch... I've looked at quite a few of your hubs and they are great, lots of excellent content! However, I see that most of your comments in the discussion areas seem to be frivolous, unrelated, or even sarcastic at times. My suggestion would be to simply pump out more of your excellent hubs and to not bother posting so many comments unless you're truly attempting to add some value to the discussions you're commenting on. If I've offended you, my bad, it just seems to me that such a brilliant mind should not be wasted on worthless comments. Peace!
Thanks. I really don't do sarcasm though. I'm now beginning to think some of my whimsical comments have been misinterpreted.
Here is a quote that I try to constantly remember, "Miscommunication causes more problems than all other factors combined." It is an original by yours truly. It used to be on my profile page, along with "One of the most important lessons a person can learn in life is that other people are as real behind their eyes as you are behind yours." Maybe I should throw both those quotes back up on my bio.
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