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   sunilkunnoth2012posted 10 years ago

   Though the HP community stands for love and cooperation, some hubbers hurt the feelings of fellow hubbers through their harsh comments.  Recently I had such a bad experience. Have you ever felt a painful  experience here? Can you please share?

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      Maricarmjoloposted 10 years agoin reply to this

      so far..so good..

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         sunilkunnoth2012posted 10 years agoin reply to this

         Let it be so always....

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      Sarra Garrettposted 10 years agoin reply to this

      Yes, adults can be worse than children sometimes by hurting others feelings.  It's just jealousy.  I've had several heated 'discussions' but I eventually get over it.  Just ignore those people who get under your skin.  Think of it this way,  you have something that they don't.    Don't let a vew bad apples spoil your time here on hp. Some people just like to argue it's up to you to have the last say.  You would think that adults wouldn't act like this but they do.  It's sad.

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         sunilkunnoth2012posted 10 years agoin reply to this

         Knowledge is power. When people of wisdom speaks it emits peace.  Thank you for the kind comments.

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            Sarra Garrettposted 10 years agoin reply to this

            any time.

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      rebekahELLEposted 10 years agoin reply to this

      I think at times some posters forget the differences in cultures and communication and how words and tone are perceived.  I wouldn't let it bother you.  There are all kinds of personalities frequenting the forums.
      The abrasive ones give me a chuckle at times.  It's not really all about them..  Most hubbers want to help and give support.

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         sunilkunnoth2012posted 10 years agoin reply to this

         I will never hurt anyone here. I am too pleased to help the fellow hubber whatever I can.  Thanks for your comments.

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   justateacherposted 10 years ago

   The trick is to try not to take offense to the comments...even though some be meant as hateful, choose to take them as helpful criticism if you can. Or at the very least, think of them as great fodder for an ongoing discussion on your hub...at least you will get more reads that way!
   
   I have only had a few "mean" comments but have not taken offense over them because I know that they are just stating their opinion and I do not have to agree with them...

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      sunilkunnoth2012posted 10 years agoin reply to this

      Really helpful tips. Thank you dear.

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   Marie Flintposted 10 years ago

   I suggest clicking on "Deny" for such comments. Personally, I have had no bad experiences. I agree with justateacher. If the comments are about improving the hub, then you should consider them constructive. If the comment is a reaction to your point of view in the hub, then you should take it with a grain of salt. Hopefully, no derrogatory words were used. I sometimes edit a hub and send the file to the hubber in an effort to help them with their grammar, punctuation, and organization. Everything is a learning process, and you have a right to your opinion, just as the commenter has a write to his. Take a deep breath; be grateful for your ability to remain calm when less-than-nice comments happen to come your way (hopefully, there won't be any more); and move on to your next hub, whether it be a new one or a revision on an older one. Keep happy and keep writing! God bless your efforts!

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      sunilkunnoth2012posted 10 years agoin reply to this

      Hi Marie Flint,
      
      You have given some useful tips and I am thankful to you for the same.  I like to know is there any "Deny" button, if the unwanted or derogatory  comments are appearing in Forum post.  I appreciate your service to fellow hubbers to help to improve their write ups.  I request you to check a random sample of my hubs and give me an evaluation report as I still feel I am yet to improve. Thank you once again for your kind words and blessing.

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         Marie Flintposted 10 years agoin reply to this

         The "Deny" button only appears for comments on hubs. If the offensive comment appeared in a Forum, I recommend you contact team@hubpages.com through an email to let them know about it. They might have a way of deleting it. (I'm a little surprised they didn't catch it beforehand.) And, yes, I'll take a look at one of your hubs to see if I can help with anything. --Blessings, Marie

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            WryLiltposted 10 years agoin reply to this

            You can click "more" under a post and report as a personal attack.

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               Marie Flintposted 10 years agoin reply to this

               Thank you, WryLilt. I was trying to convey that to Sunil but didn't know how. And, now I'll know what to do if it should ever happen to me (which I don't anticipate). LOL!

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                  sunilkunnoth2012posted 10 years agoin reply to this

                  Marie, I got the idea. It is really helpful. I pray you don't have such bad experience here.

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   Cardisaposted 10 years ago

   I have had the same happen to me both in the forums and on my hubs. I have even had people email hurtful things to me. At first it didnt bother me but last year was a depressing year for me because I lost my brother and in the midst of it I had to deal with hurtful people here, so I sort of lost my passion for Hubpages because of it.
   
   I am sorry but I can't offer any helpful advice other than to try and ignore, though hard it is.

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      sunilkunnoth2012posted 10 years agoin reply to this

      Feel so sad about all these developments. Forget and forgive as Jesus preached. You will succeed. Thanks for your sincere expression.

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   Carola Finchposted 10 years ago

   Not me, but I have had people leave comments attacking each other's comments.  Some of the topics I write about are really controversial, so I guess it is to be expected now and then.

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      sunilkunnoth2012posted 10 years agoin reply to this

      Thanks for the comments made.

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   ComfortBposted 10 years ago

   I have never encounter such hostility on HP and I've been here over 2 years. But I know it exists because I've seen it being done on hubs as well as on forum.
   
   Hubpages is usually a friendly eNeighborhood. But there are some who are unhappy and miserable and they only take pleasure in making others such. Avoid them. Especially in topics about ones faith or beliefs. It's just not worth it to deal with such negative energy.
   
   And if it gets to you report it to the proper channel as Marie Flint suggested.

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      sunilkunnoth2012posted 10 years agoin reply to this

      You are exactly right,  I agree.  I am pleased on the comments flow. It concretes my belief that HP community stands for all good cause and not for spreading negative energy. Thank you.

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   duffsmomposted 10 years ago

   I want things to be positive. I write for pleasure and if someone doesn't like my writing or my subject matter then are free to leave - but I will not allow negative comments on my hubs. It is not that I don't want criticism.  If someone contacted me personally and told my work was offensive or they thought it needed editing, I would take that to heart and attempt to fix it. But I believe criticism is best done privately so the person being criticized can digest it and act on it if appropriate. There is no need to do it in public way.
   
   Delete the negativity and move on.

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      sunilkunnoth2012posted 10 years agoin reply to this

      I too share the same feeling. Thanks for your sincere comments.

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   Barbara Kayposted 10 years ago

   I've noticed that a lot of forums have been negative lately. Writers are in a foul mood, because of loss of traffic etc. It still isn't a good excuse to put down other people.

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      sunilkunnoth2012posted 10 years agoin reply to this

      Let's educate them the value of love and kindness through our hubs. Thanks for your comments.

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   brakel2posted 10 years ago

   A few people come on forum to create trouble. Many times they have 0 hubs. They have a need to create controversy and ruin the discussion. Ignore them and they may go away if they get no attention. Sorry you had bad experience

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      sunilkunnoth2012posted 10 years agoin reply to this

      Ok, Let's igrnore them. We have serious business here. So our energy can be channelized to the positive path.

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    WryLiltposted 10 years ago

    What were the harsh comments in relation to? If they were to do with anything about your hubs, then this is something you'll need to learn to deal with on the forums.
    
    Most experienced hubbers aren't going to butter up advice; they've been here long enough to see what does and doesn't work. You'll find if you mention how fantastic your hubs or scores are, you're leaving yourself open for constructive criticism.
    
    We are not a group of writers here to pat each other on the back; most of us are here to make money, improve our writing skills or both.

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       sunilkunnoth2012posted 10 years agoin reply to this

       Ok, no pat is required. But please note  an insult is more painful than an injury.  At least it could have been avoided. No problem, I forget and forgive.  I too stay here for making SOME money and improving MORE writing skill. Thanks for your comments.

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    DrMark1961posted 10 years ago

    Hi Sunil I read that comment when she made it to you, and your response. I do not think it was personal, just her method of being very harsh with everyone. She has made similar comments to others, native speakers too. A lot of her comments to me have helped my traffic, so it is best just to ignore the harsh words and work with the underlying message.
    Anytime you post on the forums there are going to be all sorts of strange replies. I posted a joking comment the other day about a thread on the HOTD, and the original poster answered as if I had personally attacked him. Most of the people that participate in these forums are too uptight.

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       sunilkunnoth2012posted 10 years agoin reply to this

       Thanks for that information.  Regret to note that she is not following the HP culture of love, cooperation and sharing.  Thank you very much for the detailed expression.

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    Kathleen Cochranposted 10 years ago

    I've been here for two years and this subject comes up time and time again.  Personally I've been hurt when a hubber only wanted to hear from others if they agreed with him.  Silly me thought he actually wanted to discuss and see where the discussion led.  Boy was I wrong.  And there have been other times when I simply struck a nerve in someone and got back way more reaction than I'd expected.  Personally, I don't delete any comments.  I ask for comments.  Sometimes I get more than I expected!  As far has corrections or criticism, I really appreciate getting a private email and having the chance to fix a problem in private.  Good luck and don't let it get you down.

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       sunilkunnoth2012posted 10 years agoin reply to this

       Thanks for the encouraging words.

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    peachpurpleposted 10 years ago

    yes, i did encounter a couple of bad comments and hurtful ones from some hubbers. Although they are open-minded but they should know that some people are the quiet ones, sensitive to words. I usually delete their comments, never reply or rebuke to their comments. Not worth to waste my time arguing over the hub, making a bad image to others. Be a good and kind hubber to encourage more people to post new exciting hubs here.

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       sunilkunnoth2012posted 10 years agoin reply to this

       I will always be good and kind to the fellow hubbers. Thanks for your advice.

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    Millionaire Tipsposted 10 years ago

    One thing to keep in mind is that people here at HubPages come from many different countries, different life experiences, and different cultures.  In some cultures, people are more forthright, while in other cultures, people are more gentle in their presentation of criticism or advice. 
    
    I have been writing here for more than a year, and most of the issues I have seen here are based on these types of simple disagreements.  One person answers a question, and the other person seems to take it personally and it escalates from there.
    
    I don't think I have received any bad or hurtful comments - there was always a grain of truth underneath even if it was hard to read.  In fact, I think that the negative comments are more honest and more helpful than undeserved praise. The writer didn't intend to cause me  pain - s/he intended to help me.

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       sunilkunnoth2012posted 10 years agoin reply to this

       Yes, if the cryticism is made in good spirit, it is ok and helpful. thanks for your comments.

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    shielamaeparrenoposted 10 years ago

    I agree with Millionaire tips. It's really about the culture. The first week I was here I already thought of leaving because of a hurtful answer to a question I posed. But I'm glad I stayed. For the past two months I've learned to love those kind of comments. We learn more from them.

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       sunilkunnoth2012posted 10 years agoin reply to this

       Nice words. thank you.

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    Kathleen Cochranposted 10 years ago

    It is our responsibility to welcome new hubbers and give them the support we received.  At least once a week look at the latest hubs and encourage somebody new.  That's what so many great hubbers of the past did for me two years ago.  The debt goes forward.

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       sunilkunnoth2012posted 10 years agoin reply to this

       Sure, I will follow your great advice. thanks for the same.

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