OK, Beth....I didn't think I had anything worthwhile to report (or divulge) until I read through this long....LONG thread. Now I have something to say that even I didn't know:
You and I have a VERY rare trait, in common. I don't often admit it or discuss it, but I TOO am a "recluse" at heart. Absolutely no one who knows me ( or better said, "thinks" they know me) would ever guess this or believe this about me...(either.) Yes, because I am friendly, outgoing, gabby, helpful and very active.....like you, it just doesn't "look like," at my very core, I adore solitude, peace, quiet and being my own person.....a "loner," so to speak.
The reason that this rare trait is not often admitted to, is because being a true recluse is erroneously believed to be "unhealthy," both mentally and physically. Nothing could be further from the true reality of it. The pure truth is that this is a positive sign of complete mental and emotional stability....and no bragging here, but usually people like US have a genius IQ. The vital fact to understand is that there is a complete world of difference between VOLUNTARY seclusion and solitude....and a FORCED and/or unwanted seclusion. Yes, this may be common sense...but many people would still argue it.
With the years, experience & knowledge under my belt, I do know what I'm talking about. BTW....and FYI.....this trait of ours becomes stronger & more important as we age....so, now you know what to look forward to, young one. I am extremely happy and grateful to be this way.