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Can't Find a Suitable Network Site for Hub, Please Help

  1. Kylyssa profile image94
    Kylyssaposted 3 months ago

    I have a hub that currently gets an amount of Google views per day I'm not allowed to specify, but which is certainly much more than most of my hubs that have already been moved were getting on Hubpages proper. Unfortunately, I think that there may not be a place for it on a HubPages network site because I see other hubs in the same topic that are ranking above mine in popularity on their topic page on HubPages (and thus getting even more views than mine) still sitting here in the slushpile, too.

    It's OK if there's no place for it on a HubPages network site, but I'd like to figure it out sooner rather than later so I can move the hub to some other site where it won't get its traffic throttled by Google penalties.

    Anyway the hub title is "Secular Condolences and Non-Religious Sentiments to Write in Sympathy Cards." Its topic is currently listed as HubPages»Health»Death & Loss of Life»Goodbyes & Tributes for the Dead.

    I've gone to all the sites that seemed like they might be relevant such as the health, education, and relationship sites, but I couldn't find any suitable category for it.

    1. Christy Kirwan profile image
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      Christy Kirwanposted 3 months ago in reply to this

      There is a correspondence category on LetterPile where we have included condolence and sympathy message Hubs.

      1. Kylyssa profile image94
        Kylyssaposted 3 months ago in reply to this

        Thank you! LetterPile had not occurred to me! I was thinking of the hub as about either health (as it's categorized on HP) or etiquette, but now that you pointed it out, I can see how advice on what to write on a card could be considered writing advice. I guess it wasn't obvious to me, being autistic, because I see person-to-person writing as conversation rather than composition.

        1. Solaras profile image93
          Solarasposted 3 months ago in reply to this

          It was not obvious to me not being autistic.  Good luck on the new niche site!

        2. Will Apse profile image90
          Will Apseposted 3 months ago in reply to this

          I don't think it is a good idea to assume that every difficulty that you have here is down to the fact that you have been diagnosed as autistic.

          Many people who pass for normal have far more issues when it comes to understanding and using the site.

          You also have a better grasp of what is undeniably true, and what is undeniably not, than most users, as far as I can see.

          Bottom line: if you are worried about how you appear to others on this website, it is unnecessary. You don't stand out as especially odd. And I can't imagine anyone sees you as incapable in any way.

          1. Kylyssa profile image94
            Kylyssaposted 3 months ago in reply to this

            Thank you for your kind words.

            I wasn't feeling odd; I was remarking on a sort of blind spot I never realized I had until I asked this question and received Christy's response. I didn't express myself well in my excitement, but it was one of those weird epiphany moments when I realized yet another way in which people think differently from each other.

            Language profoundly affects thought and I'm aware that my use of language is atypical in that text is easier for me to talk in than sounds, not due to anxiety or uncertainty, but because it's quicker and easier for me to translate thoughts into text than it is to translate them into sounds. Writing is literally talking for me, in daily life as well as online, and it's a fairly common autistic trait. It's just a fact, not a placement of blame, little different from saying my eyes are like my father's because I carry some of his genes.

            There's nothing wrong with the way my interior language shapes my view of the written word, but I believe it predisposes me to see writing as conversation so much so that I have a hard time understanding people who don't see exchanges of written words as talking.* I'm fascinated with the way language shapes thought so it was actually pretty nice to have a new tidbit of that type of information fall into my lap. I was also delighted to learn I don't have to move the hub somewhere else myself unless it gets rejected.

            *My friend's mother said to me she couldn't understand why young people just sit around pushing buttons on their phones instead of talking to someone on the phone like she used to at that age. I was baffled because the teen right next to her was texting with his girlfriend and the rest of our one-sided conversation made it clear she saw it as an isolated activity, as if there weren't a living, breathing girl on the other end. Weird. I wonder what she thought was going on?

            1. Will Apse profile image90
              Will Apseposted 3 months ago in reply to this

              My grandmother was frightened of the telephone. Voices! From thin air! How do you know what to say if you cannot see someone's face!

              I think there is something in that. It is a sort of disconnect. But then people learn to negotiate the space and inject plenty of comfort and meaning into phone calls.

              I imagine txting is similar... But I won't be trying it, lol. Too old.

              1. Solaras profile image93
                Solarasposted 3 months ago in reply to this

                What, no texting??? Shutup! You won't be texting? Get real. 

                Do you know how many friends I have lost via text?? I do, and it's not pretty.  What I don't know is exactly why...

                Autocorrect "seems" to have intervened.  I am accused of "secret job discussions" with another party aka friend... I never had such things...Who can really say?

                The point is, that texting wars have saved my soul.  Gone are those that try to bait me just to find fault with my imaginary conversations with others. I invite you too to join the texting community, and clean house.

                1. Will Apse profile image90
                  Will Apseposted 3 months ago in reply to this

                  I have this image of you living in a forest with squirrels for friends. Some of them are imaginary. I simply cannot believe that you have ever owned a smartphone, lol.

                  1. Solaras profile image93
                    Solarasposted 3 months ago in reply to this

                    I wish; if only I could grow a little unabomber beard.

        3. Christy Kirwan profile image
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          Christy Kirwanposted 3 months ago in reply to this

          Other greeting card message content is located on Holidappy, but we thought it seemed insensitive and in poor taste to include somber subjects like condolence and get-well messages on a site about celebrations and festivities, which is why we ultimately chose LetterPile for this type of correspondence.

  2. firstcookbooklady profile image82
    firstcookbookladyposted 3 months ago

    i think texting is like being in the 1960's, early seventies using a tele type.

    1. Kylyssa profile image94
      Kylyssaposted 3 months ago in reply to this

      That's an interesting way of looking at it and very close to the origin of text devices for autistic people.  The text devices they used just a few years ago before cell phones became ubiquitous were developed for deaf people to communicate. Some people with autism who were previously believed to be severely mentally retarded were discovered to be of much higher intelligence than that after they had access to text devices of one sort or another.

      I'm lucky in that I can hold conversations verbally if I focus intently. If I don't also simulate the expected facial expressions and body language at the same time, people misunderstand me even though my words are clearly enunciated and used according to their definitions, so it is very tiring.

      1. Will Apse profile image90
        Will Apseposted 3 months ago in reply to this

        That sounds very difficult.

        I will be honest though, I smiled when I read 'people misunderstand me even though my words are clearly enunciated and used according to their definitions'. I had an image of Mr Spock trying to communicate with a not especially intelligent species.

        Anyway, good that you cope.

 
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