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How are men more promiscuous than women?

  1. earnestshub profile image87
    earnestshubposted 7 years ago

    Not just on hubpages, but our whole social structure seems to have a myth that men are more promiscuous than women, with the never ending stories of unfaithful husband and the much mentioned "Most men will screw anything" attitude we men cop all the time.... I want to know... if men are so much more promiscuous who is it with or is it that they are having it off with the fauna! If men are having affairs, surely it must be with a woman.An "It takes two to tango" situation no?

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      Leta Sposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      Absolutely.  A voice of reason.

      I believe it has to do with all the evolutionary psychology--truly pseudo-psychobabble crap being written and distributed (not to denigrate psychology as I know some are apt to do--there is good science and bad science in every discipline).  You know, crap like men like to grill steaks because they hunted mastodon in the ice age; women like to shop because they were gatherers (yeah, like that makes any sense in hell--it's mainly just about idiots wanting to get themselves published).  Also let's all guestimate sexual inclinations based on raw physical/biological facts, but only take a couple factors into consideration--ie, men produce lots of sperm and women only a few eggs, and get pregnant, therefore OBVIOUSLY men are more promiscuous and have affairs.  I believe much of this is post hoc ergo propter hoc--a fallacy most don't even take time to consider, they are so busy buying the current myth.

      Culture--the behaviors we have created via our mental capacity and traditional conditioning--has an enormous amount to do with our behavior, as ONE factor not being considered by the populist 'science.'  Also the advantages women >may< have either biologically or culturally being 'promiscuous.'  Those are just a few thoughts for starters...

      And yes, this is just anecdotal in nature--but most of the people I know who have had affairs in my immediate sphere are indeed, female.

    2. lisafwg01 profile image60
      lisafwg01posted 7 years ago in reply to this

      As you said, the notion that men are more promiscuous than women is a myth. The main difference between the two genders is that men are far more blatent than women about it. Men discuss their "conquests". Women, on the other hand, will fudge their sexual histories or even their true thoughts/feelings/desires because that is what society expects.

      For example, many women complain about their "other half" looking at other women, but I guarantee you that within five minutes of walking into a room, most women will have "scoped out" every good-looking male present; they are just far more discreet about it.

      All that being said, I do believe that in reality both men and women truly want to find that one person to be with/share their life with; cheaters, of either gender, are the exception, not the rule.

  2. Jewels profile image82
    Jewelsposted 7 years ago

    Maybe there needs to be a survey done on how many single women are having a sexual liaison with a married man.  And then how many married woman are having a sexual liaison with a single man. What you say is valid. If the men are the only ones sharing the love, are they doing it with other men?  It does take two to tango.  Maybe a scorned woman is more vocal?  Or is this changing?

  3. LondonGirl profile image89
    LondonGirlposted 7 years ago

    Prostitutes, a factor you've not considered.

    1. earnestshub profile image87
      earnestshubposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      Well, I had considered LondonGirl, but did not think they would dent the stats too much.

  4. Princessa profile image85
    Princessaposted 7 years ago

    I don't think that men are more promiscuous, what I think is that it is more accepted for men to be so.  Men not only accept their promiscuity, but some of them are proud of it.  On the other hand, women prefer to keep the issue "under the duvet", mainly to avoid gossip, from who??? most of the time from other women!

    1. RooBee profile image84
      RooBeeposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      Leave it to you, Princessa! I think this is hitting the nail on the head.

  5. Everyday Miracles profile image93
    Everyday Miraclesposted 7 years ago

    I once read a book on relationship psychology (straight relationship psychology specifically, to be absolutely clear). The book stated that women are almost twice as likely to have an affair as a man.

    In general, I hate "statistics" because who ever knows who has done the study and what if they have a poor sampling of individuals when they are asking their questions? It rocks the female sensibility to think that we might actually be more "promiscuous" than men.

    I don't believe that men *are* more promiscuous than women. I think we just "do sex" for different reasons than one another.

  6. LennyP profile image91
    LennyPposted 7 years ago

    Men are more promiscuous because it is in our DNA to spread our seed as far as we can. It is in a woman's DNA to find a mate and keep them. This is why men are more likely to have sexual affairs but women are more likely to fall in love with another person.

    1. RooBee profile image84
      RooBeeposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      "Spreading seed" always sounds kind of icky to me. Guess it's that female DNA desiring more romantic terminology. smile

  7. mandybeau profile image60
    mandybeauposted 7 years ago

    Equal, if u are promiscuous, you are promiscuous, Gender isn't really a factor. Some woman just seem pathetic and needy, and wouldn't want to admit that their sex was as bad as the male species.
    Takes 2 to tango.

  8. SweetiePie profile image83
    SweetiePieposted 7 years ago

    I have known some women that are much more sexually experienced than the men they are dating.  One friend broke up with a guy because she said he was not good enough in bed, I kid you not.

    1. mandybeau profile image60
      mandybeauposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      I know of heaps like this. Quite funny because I am sure the guys wouldn't see themselves in this light.

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        Leta Sposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        Never!  And yeah, absolutely--as if women don't talk about these things.  My sis (casually dating) relates that there is quite a range out there.  LOL  Reports that the guys who are the most 'promiscuous' by the numbers and their own accord, are usually the worst...

        OOOooo, this is probably not a good topic to start talking about.. (must be genetic female reticence) wink

      2. Jewels profile image82
        Jewelsposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        Maybe they do, maybe they don't. Why don't women teach their 'partner' how to please them?  To think men and women are automatically experienced lovers and know it all is a bit shortsighted, no?

        Is the crux of the problem of wanting to sleep around because of a lack of satisfaction with the current partner?  Does take two to tango.

        1. Princessa profile image85
          Princessaposted 7 years ago in reply to this

          I think it is a great idea to "teach" your partner how to please you, specially as this is a concept that varies from person to person.  I have done this with great success tongue Some  men are very open to this, they are eager to "learn".  However, other men think that they are perfection on earth and will not change their ways regardless of how sweet you talk them sad

          1. earnestshub profile image87
            earnestshubposted 7 years ago in reply to this

            I think it would be a lot better outcome when you teach what you like, otherwise men are lost in their idea of what you want.

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      badcompany99posted 7 years ago in reply to this

      That was me, I was Gutted !!

  9. Pearldiver profile image88
    Pearldiverposted 7 years ago

    Are we really? Or do guys tend to just 'boast' of it more openly than women?

  10. Dame Scribe profile image60
    Dame Scribeposted 7 years ago

    I would not date guys that are promiscuous tongue not with all them STI's out there hmm too skeery tongue the promiscuos ones I have found usually more interested in bragging rights hmm

    1. Colebabie profile image61
      Colebabieposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      Thanks Dame. Aww you used the right terminology! I'm so proud of you smile Usually the promiscuous ones are bad in bed anyway hmm

  11. Shalini Kagal profile image79
    Shalini Kagalposted 7 years ago

    Like the ones above said, men talk about it, women are much more discreet!

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      Leta Sposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      Well, maybe some!...lol  Actually--that's the beauty of long term relationships--enhanced communication in all areas/both parties.

  12. Paper Moon profile image84
    Paper Moonposted 7 years ago

    Men are more promiscuous than women.  Just look at my wifes boyfriend!

    1. Hope Alexander profile image81
      Hope Alexanderposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      You just won this thread.

  13. Shalini Kagal profile image79
    Shalini Kagalposted 7 years ago

    @Paper Moon:


    http://www.freesmileys.org/smileys/smiley-laughing025.gif

  14. Pete Maida profile image60
    Pete Maidaposted 7 years ago

    I think if there was an even playing field from the beginning the statistics would be different than they are now.  It's a matter of the strength of the relationship, attitude, and opportunity.  Some a prone to wonder, some will wonder because of factors at home, and some would never consider it.  The numbers presently put the more men on the bad side, but that may more be due to social constraints than to better virtue on the part of women.

  15. Shadesbreath profile image90
    Shadesbreathposted 7 years ago

    LOL  @ Paper Moon.

    And "promiscuity" is not the same as "adulterous" or "cheating."  Just to set the record straight. There seems to be a bit of term melding going on in places up there.

    1. Colebabie profile image61
      Colebabieposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      Agreed. Someone may have only been with their husband/wife sexually and cheat. Those terms do not mean the same thing. Are men more promiscuous than women? Don't know. Anyway who cares? Pay attention on the individual level, not the big picture. Just worry about you, and your body. Guys and gals have sex for different reasons. But I know plenty of women who just wanted to get some smile Their is a double standard with women however.

    2. getpaidtopost profile image61
      getpaidtopostposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      It may not be exactly the same but in most cases these are the results of promiscuity

  16. Mezo profile image77
    Mezoposted 7 years ago

    I agree with earnesthu and princessa, i don't think men are more promiscous...in fact when i watch a show like "desperate house wifes" i think that there are many women willing to fuck anything that moves!...

    cheating is another issue

  17. getpaidtopost profile image61
    getpaidtopostposted 7 years ago

    be careful what ever you do. I seen a site a few days ago that will pinpoint a mobile phone and display a map of where the phone is. So you say to your wife i am working late when really your with a bit of skirt they can now find out. Not that i am a cheater, well i look but don't touch which i presume a normal Man.

 
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