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Calling All Men (And some women as well)

  1. Reena Daruwalla profile image61
    Reena Daruwallaposted 7 years ago

    This is one question I actually wanted to ask a bunch of men for an honest answer: When asked to pick between thin and curvy women, what would you pick? And what body type or rather who is your ideal woman?

    1. raiderfan profile image60
      raiderfanposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      it matters if she got a fugly face or not. but sometimes they got a bangin' body and you want to do it anyways. you can just do it doggystyle.

      1. Colebabie profile image60
        Colebabieposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        True. But I always feel bad for girls that are butterface. smile

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      ralwusposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      I like curvy, buxom and pretty too. Above all they must have dandelion toes so pretty and suckable kissable and....hehe

      1. Reena Daruwalla profile image61
        Reena Daruwallaposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        LOL! Really, really to the point smile

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          ralwusposted 7 years ago in reply to this

          Well I tho't that's what you asked for, to the point. LOL

          1. Reena Daruwalla profile image61
            Reena Daruwallaposted 7 years ago in reply to this

            Totally! And thanks for that!

    3. tomerr profile image80
      tomerrposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      Thin thin thin!

      : )

  2. Benjimester profile image91
    Benjimesterposted 7 years ago

    Yes, on both accounts smile
    Sorry, that's probably not helpful but to me, there are so many different things about a woman that can make her beautiful, I don't think the curviness matters too much.  But that's just me.  My ideal woman is someone that I admire deeply.  Sorry, that's just the old-fashioned romantic in me talking smile

  3. darkside profile image80
    darksideposted 7 years ago

    If both women are of equal intelligence, creativity, attractive face, beautiful eyes... I'd probably go for curvy.

  4. Reena Daruwalla profile image61
    Reena Daruwallaposted 7 years ago

    And this is not you guys being all politically correct and all?

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    Leta Sposted 7 years ago

    Reena-
    I'd say the ideal is probably a kind of 'thin-curvy'...  Slim, just not straight up and down.

    I think though it probably really depends on people's definition of 'curvy.'  To some (especially, say, on singles sites), curvy means larger or rounder, or even overweight.  To others, maybe it means an hour glass shape.  ?

    But!  I'm not a guy, so!

  6. Reena Daruwalla profile image61
    Reena Daruwallaposted 7 years ago

    See the thing I have a problem with, is the androgynous, angular and gaunt look that fashion tends to promote, which makes women think that it is actually desirable to be that way.

    I really do think that women are meant to carry extra fat because women undergo the rigours of child birth and breast feeding. It really takes is out of you (pun intended wink ).

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    Leta Sposted 7 years ago

    I actually know more about this whole topic than I should write about or even admit!  You probably would prefer some guys' real answers...

    Cannot say I know anything about child birth, though--I know it took my one sister a while to get back into shape after having her kids.  Now she's the slimmest she has ever been (she works out like crazy), but she did go through this period were she was just a bit puffy.

    I've read that the ideal BMI for female attractiveness is between 19 and 21--so that isn't the scrawny underweight runway model thing at all.  Those women often have BMI's under 18, which can be unhealthy. And you know, you look at Playboy, etc...and those women have curves--they don't look like scrawny teenage boys.

    Course, that's different from girls who are athletic looking & kind of more angular naturally--they aren't necessarily underweight--and some people prefer that kind of look.

  8. lxxy profile image61
    lxxyposted 7 years ago

    The first thing I look for in any perspective mate is thoughts...and a personality. big_smile

    The other stuff...well, thats why they invented beer.

    Just kidding ;D

  9. Justin McMarshall profile image61
    Justin McMarshallposted 7 years ago

    I honestly believe if a man choices his mate by the way she looks he is never going to be truly happy in life. Society as a whole has made women so insecure about them selves even women that are not visually attractive still have awesome minds and the ability to hold a conversation.

    So yeah this guy goes out and gets this drop dead girl who knows nothing about anything. How is this appealing? This works for obese women as well.

    I think that men as a whole have depended on the looks of their significant others for far to long. They treat women as trophies and not creatures of God that they are. All women are beautiful in their own way whether that one way is accepted by one man or the other.

    Men, look at it like this. How do you think women look at us and go "ewww that guys all fat and crap I don't wanna be with him"? Generally, No. Why, may we ask? Because women view the whole picture. for example, the way we present our selves, our confidence, and yes, our personalities.

    I think in general we all need to stop judging by looks and worry about whats truthfully going to hold us all together and that is trust, love and rationality.

    1. tksensei profile image60
      tksenseiposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      Do you really think that's ever going to happen?

      1. Justin McMarshall profile image61
        Justin McMarshallposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        Yes, eventually ignorance will fade.

        1. tksensei profile image60
          tksenseiposted 7 years ago in reply to this

          Is it ignorance, or human nature?

          1. earnestshub profile image88
            earnestshubposted 7 years ago in reply to this

            Even human nature can change with education.

            1. Justin McMarshall profile image61
              Justin McMarshallposted 7 years ago in reply to this

              So very true.

            2. tksensei profile image60
              tksenseiposted 7 years ago in reply to this

              LOL! I don't think so!

              1. Justin McMarshall profile image61
                Justin McMarshallposted 7 years ago in reply to this

                It depends on how weak minded an individual is.

                1. tksensei profile image60
                  tksenseiposted 7 years ago in reply to this

                  Why "weak minded"?

                  1. Justin McMarshall profile image61
                    Justin McMarshallposted 7 years ago in reply to this

                    Because one is only limited by what he/she accepts as fact. Whether or not you decide to accept these fact's shows just how strong or weak of mind you truely are.

          2. kblover profile image90
            kbloverposted 7 years ago in reply to this

            Judging the whole content of a person by what their body looks like?

            That is ignorant, even if it is "human nature".

        2. darkside profile image80
          darksideposted 7 years ago in reply to this

          I don't think physical attraction is ignorance.

          It's taste.

          1. Justin McMarshall profile image61
            Justin McMarshallposted 7 years ago in reply to this

            But when does taste evolve itself into ignorance? Physical attributes and the way a person is built from creation is not within their power to control from day one. So who are we to judge one on their outward appearance.

            1. tksensei profile image60
              tksenseiposted 7 years ago in reply to this

              I'm not sure why you keep using the word "ignorance" here. Ignorant of what?

            2. darkside profile image80
              darksideposted 7 years ago in reply to this

              Could it be instinct? Nature rather than nurture? If you have a preference for a certain type of woman, be they large or small, tall or short, darker or lighter, and provided it's not dictated by expectations of others, how can it be anything but personal taste?

              It's like music. It's like food.

              Some people dig skinny, some prefer muscular, others like a bit of cushion for the pushin'.

              If they go out of their way to put others down for not falling within their eye candy parameters then it's... well probably more arrogance than ignorance.

        3. cashmere profile image82
          cashmereposted 7 years ago in reply to this

          If only everyone was so enlightened!

  10. tksensei profile image60
    tksenseiposted 7 years ago

    Somewhere along the line 'curvy' became a euphamism for 'fat.' The terms are a bit misleading.

  11. packerpack profile image59
    packerpackposted 7 years ago

    The question looks like it is directed only on the looks of a woman. I have lot of criteria based on which I will choose my lady and looks being one of them. But speaking only in terms of looks and assuming that both of them have every other characteristics that I am looking forward to then I will go for curvy one!

  12. Justin McMarshall profile image61
    Justin McMarshallposted 7 years ago

    this is a very christian response considering your other forum reply's.

    1. raiderfan profile image60
      raiderfanposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      christians are allowed to do it doggystyle.

  13. Justin McMarshall profile image61
    Justin McMarshallposted 7 years ago

    do i need to post a definition of the word ignorance for you?

    1. tksensei profile image60
      tksenseiposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      Yes, please.

      1. Justin McMarshall profile image61
        Justin McMarshallposted 7 years ago in reply to this
        1. raiderfan profile image60
          raiderfanposted 7 years ago in reply to this

          you jus called TK stupid.

          1. tksensei profile image60
            tksenseiposted 7 years ago in reply to this

            He's not the first, he won't be the last.

        2. tksensei profile image60
          tksenseiposted 7 years ago in reply to this

          "lack of knowledge, education, or awareness"

          How does this apply to the topic at hand?

          1. darkside profile image80
            darksideposted 7 years ago in reply to this

            I'm wondering that too.

            Knowledge, education and awareness have little to do with sexual attraction.

  14. puppascott profile image81
    puppascottposted 7 years ago

    Wow. A simple question that has gone way too deep.

    Considering all the arguments layed on the table, I think it's intellectually dishonest to ignore the fact that, as a whole, men are visually stimulated. You can't fight nature. I think there are certain traits that will catch an individual's attention faster than others.

    I like curvy women. Women, to me, should be feminine, and nothing says feminine like curves. There is a reason that the female form is the most celebrated form in art.

    1. Justin McMarshall profile image61
      Justin McMarshallposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      I agree. And I choose to end my opinion on this thread.

    2. Reena Daruwalla profile image61
      Reena Daruwallaposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      I totally agree, visual stimulation is the main part of initial attraction and it would be hypocritical to say that it does not matter what you will be waking up next to for times to come. My point merely is, WHAT it is that is so stimulating?

      1. puppascott profile image81
        puppascottposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        You need more explanation than this?

  15. earnestshub profile image88
    earnestshubposted 7 years ago

    What exactly is human nature in your view tksensei?

    1. tksensei profile image60
      tksenseiposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      That's sort of a big question, isn't it? The short answer is those things that humans naturally tend to do, pursue, or prefer in accordance with the general qualities of the species.

      1. Sufidreamer profile image82
        Sufidreamerposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        Could half agree with that - it all seems to stem back to the nature/nurture debate. Cultural values seem to have an influence, as do 'general' inherent values.

        Of course, head-over-heels love is the wildcard in this one smile

        1. tksensei profile image60
          tksenseiposted 7 years ago in reply to this

          That deserves its own thread.

        2. earnestshub profile image88
          earnestshubposted 7 years ago in reply to this

          I'll say! The "falling in love" thing involves less sight than a bat minus radar!

  16. Sufidreamer profile image82
    Sufidreamerposted 7 years ago

    TK - lol - Very true.

    Does it exist? That could be an extremely interesting discussion.

  17. bgpappa profile image84
    bgpappaposted 7 years ago

    For me as to the original post,

    Curvy. I hate the stick figures that appear on magazines.

    1. Reena Daruwalla profile image61
      Reena Daruwallaposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      Ah! Thanks! A straight, to the point answer!

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    \Brenda Scullyposted 7 years ago

    I have never been thin ever, but recently have put quite a lot of weight on, and it is getting me down,  I am on a strict diet now, and the weight is coming off,

      I was really surprised last night when my husband said he was pleased I was losing weight, ( and I want to continue to lose much more. )  he was kinda begging not to change the person I am, not to lose the personality I have not to be sucked in to thinking thin is better, .... I have to say I was quite surprised, maybe he thinks I will get myself a younger model or something.  We have been married years, and his comments were heartfelt, so I suppose there's an insight in to one man...... He certainly said my body was not the attraction, thank goodness for that.....

    1. Reena Daruwalla profile image61
      Reena Daruwallaposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      I think it is important for us all to be at a weight that is natural to us, be that stick thin or curvy. The important thing is that we don't obsess about being a certain size or looking a certain way. Kudos to your husband, he seems to echo the thoughts expressed by mine when I was getting back into shape after our second daughter. He was pleased that I was getting back to the size and shape I was meant to be rather than that I was losing X amount of weight.

  19. Dame Scribe profile image60
    Dame Scribeposted 7 years ago

    O wow, guess I better put on some weight tongue lol I am one those stick girls and am tall tongue but really wasn't intentional big_smile as for me, I prefer a guy who doesn't put importance on the exterior, is tall, medium weight is good and intelligent hmm

    1. Reena Daruwalla profile image61
      Reena Daruwallaposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      Of course you must not put on weight! My precise point is that we all have size that nature meant us to be and not labour that size issue as long as we are healthy.

      Someone here mentioned that we are all programmed to be attracted to different body types; I agree. In fact I strongly agree, which is why the media's preoccupation with a certain body type while eschewing others really puzzles me.

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    \Brenda Scullyposted 7 years ago

    wish I was a stick girl Dame Scribe, whatever the men think, you are fortunate.....  in my humble opinion

  21. Lisa HW profile image82
    Lisa HWposted 7 years ago

    I think most people (at least those past their teens) will say that being attracted to someone's appearance isn't the ONLY thing that matters, but that it matters - and matters a lot (whether you're a guy or a woman).  There are names for those people we love but aren't attracted to - and those names are "relatives" and "platonic friends".    smile    People have different tastes in what they find attractive, regardless of what the fashion industry tells everyone.  Still, I think it's ignorant (and I know the definition without looking it up) to say that it's "ignorant" when people acknowledge that being attracted to someone matters.    hmm   The Charlie Brown/Little Red Haired Girl thing is nice when it happens.

  22. bgpappa profile image84
    bgpappaposted 7 years ago

    Dame, pehaps my words were poorly chosen.

    Calista Flockhart (sp) not attractive, at least to me.  Hans Solo doesn't seem to mind though.

    Initial attraction is the exterior, but if the interior is no good, for me, the attraction goes away.  I got lucky though, my wife is beautiful in every way.

  23. Colebabie profile image60
    Colebabieposted 7 years ago

    My boyfriend likes my hips. If you ask him his favorite body parts on me, he'd say ass, boobs and hips. Those tend to be what makes some women look more feminine. For girls without them, they are seen as feminine because they are petite.

    Hips, nice to hold on to during sex, and curves accentuate the body smile

    The animal-like response would be that the hips and boobs are involved in reproduction, and male animals want females to have offspring. Apply to humans? Not as much.

    Everyone has their own preference. I like bigger guys.

    1. Reena Daruwalla profile image61
      Reena Daruwallaposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      That brings us to the other question then, do men have to be all macho and muscular and tall and sinewy to be attractive to women? It may be such a cliche but I love wit and intelligence in a guy. That; and nice forearms.

      1. Colebabie profile image60
        Colebabieposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        It isn't muscles that I'm attracted to, just bigger. Taller and bigger. I like the big teddy bear type. Sure wit and intelligence is also important. Men don't have to bee macho and muscular and tall etc. to be attractive to women, just like men, women have their "type". Some girls like skinny guys, some don't. It totally depends on the person.

        1. Reena Daruwalla profile image61
          Reena Daruwallaposted 7 years ago in reply to this

          Exactly my point that that we come is all different shapes, and sizes and each of us is unique and uniquely attractive. Which is why there is really no need to conform to any particular type of shape or size promoted by the fashion industry or the weight loss industry.

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    \Brenda Scullyposted 7 years ago

    Intellegence would be high on the agenda for me, though it's nice to look at all these vain men, not sure I would like to be married to them..........

    1. Reena Daruwalla profile image61
      Reena Daruwallaposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      LOL, I also would not know how to deal with a high maintainance  guy

      1. tksensei profile image60
        tksenseiposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        But wouldn't it be convenient to have a maintenance guy around if anything needs to be repaired? Over time you could convince him to cut back on the pot.

  25. soni2006 profile image44
    soni2006posted 7 years ago

    First of all, for me I do not like picking up girls. If the girl loves me and is compatible, the curviness and slimness will not come in between. I will love her the way she is, though I will try to tell her afterwards to modify and this also depends on her own wish.

    1. tksensei profile image60
      tksenseiposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      Maybe if you hit the gym once in a while...

      1. soni2006 profile image44
        soni2006posted 7 years ago in reply to this

        could be.

  26. jcales profile image73
    jcalesposted 7 years ago

    somewhere in between, medium. semi-athletic but with breast

    1. soni2006 profile image44
      soni2006posted 7 years ago in reply to this

      Ya they are definitely required to be a complete woman I think.

  27. gspot911 profile image60
    gspot911posted 7 years ago

    give me a thick woman over a skinny bean pole anyday of the week! thick but not fat. there is a difference! thats my honest answer.

  28. Reena Daruwalla profile image61
    Reena Daruwallaposted 7 years ago

    Thanks for all your opinions guys, it gives me a great deal of insight.

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    Leta Sposted 7 years ago

    smile  Yeah, it is a matter of taste here, too...  I like attractive, athletic looking guys with a measure of grace (not big, just nice). Intelligence very important...

    Actually wrote a hub on this...

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    \Brenda Scullyposted 7 years ago

    I am going to check it out......

  31. Colebabie profile image60
    Colebabieposted 7 years ago

    Exactly. Last night on 'Real Sex' there was this guy whose fantasy was to be with big women. Not curvy, but biiiiggg women. Everyone has a preference. There is love out there no matter what size you are. Whatever floats your boat!

  32. Mezo profile image78
    Mezoposted 7 years ago

    both are fine big_smile

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    Blackngoldbananaposted 7 years ago

    I think it depends upon the age of the man (or boy).  First, there is the teenage boy and his "urges" who basically thinks any girl is attractive just because she's a girl.  Then the guy goes through the "hot chick" phase just because he things she makes him look hotter or more cool and its more about impressing his friends.  Then there's the marriagable age guy who is thinking about maybe someday settling down and starts judging women not only on attractiveness, but also on earning ability and other things that his mother would approve of...and so on and so on...until finally a guy chooses a girl becaause they both want companionship.

  34. Uninvited Writer profile image81
    Uninvited Writerposted 7 years ago

    I know a few guys who thought Rene Zellweger was much sexier as Bridget Jones than her normal skinny self.

    One thing I do not like in men is muscle bound bodies. I found them so off putting. I prefer men with a swimmer's build. However, that is the ideal. Normally, if the guy is nice and easy to talk to his outward appearance is not that important to me.

  35. lumberjack profile image83
    lumberjackposted 7 years ago

    SCENE GIRLS ARE BEST

  36. Colebabie profile image60
    Colebabieposted 7 years ago

    suicide girls are best

    google it

    smile

  37. Reena Daruwalla profile image61
    Reena Daruwallaposted 7 years ago

    Thanks for increasing the sum of my knowledge Lumberjack and colebabie.Today I have learnt about Scene girls and suicide girls.

  38. Colebabie profile image60
    Colebabieposted 7 years ago

    No problem smile

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    logic,commonsenseposted 7 years ago

    I prefer curvy medium girls.
    Like my daddy used to say, "the more the cushion, the better the pushin". smile

  40. scheinandras profile image59
    scheinandrasposted 7 years ago

    There is beauty in every woman, skinny or curvy... doesn't matter:)

  41. Bard of Ely profile image87
    Bard of Elyposted 7 years ago

    Visually I find curviness more attractive.

 
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