I think that this varies from one person to the next. My husband is all about our kids leaving home when they turn 18, but I don't know that that will be appropriate. We're planning on home schooling so we know they should be through high school by that point, but I don't think that having graduated is enough.
Earnest, what if they don't go to University? What then? I don't know about in Australia, but here in the US more and more students are choosing not to go to college or Uni.
I moved out when I was about 16-17. Been gone since then. Not really the best thing I did, but I'm in a good place now with my boyfriend.
Edited to add: I didn't really answer the original question. I think whenever the kid stops being a kid (has his/her own bank account, is ready for college, can pay for his/her own bills) and is ready to go on should be the time to send them out. Typically, some folks will stay with their parents until 16 to 18, others will stay until their 20s or for quite awhile. There are even those who will pay some or most of the bills at their parents for lodging as their best option for college or work.
16-18 is probably too young except if they are off to college but thats not really moving out, thats moving away for a period of time. I think they should move out when they are fully prepared to move out. Some kids dont have a choice because of hardships at home but in healthy homes the parents or guardians should be teaching their children how to survive how to be responsible and how to be productive. If these things are not taught, there is a good chance they'll be moving back home.
yeah. I was thrown out at 18. I survived. Some kids leave because they want to..and move back becuase they have no idea how to pay bills or anything. My goal, with my children, is to teach them how to be healty, responsable adults. I want them to be able to take care of themselves. Pretty sure I wont throw 'em out at 18!
It is amazing how different people's attitudes are on this subject.... I got married at 17..... can't even believe it myself now, we are both the same age too..... so that's how old I was when I left home
I left home when I graduated at 17. Moved into my own apartment which I was grateful for the landlord to allow me to rent. Cost was $125.00/month all utilities. A friend of mine asked me to go to this enrollment program at a local hospital based nursing program because she needed the support. When we got there, I went in and took the entrance exam right along side her, and three weeks later found out I was accepted and she didn't make the grade. The school paid a stipend until graduation and the nursing degree helped me afford college. My brother and sister lived at home until they were in their early 20's.
Now it seems it is more difficult for younger people to move from their home because of wages not being compatible to the rentals unless you pull in roommates.
From the Mommy perspective...never. Kidding. My oldest will move into into the dorms this fall. I've never felt so empty & proud all at one time. Its her time to fly. If she needs to come back home after she graduates & is pursuing a job, she'll be welcome with open arms
Jane, I'm sure you will enjoy seeing your baby grow into a full, real person, which they seem to do when they leave mommy. No matter how smart they get, they are always as adorable and wonderful as when they were little.
Did you find a job right away or did you take some time off to think what you wanted to do? Did you go straight into grad school? I'm just curious because I'm graduating on Thursday. My ideal goal is to work but...