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Dating older guys

  1. lawretta profile image78
    lawrettaposted 7 years ago

    I am currently seeing someone who is fifteen years older than me, he is single and well educated. is it OK for me to date a 42years old guy or is he too old?

    1. profile image61
      badcompany99posted 7 years ago in reply to this

      Age is but a number well unless its bordering on the ridiculous like Ronnie Wood 61 and his g/f who is 22, ok so I am jealous of the bugger. But if you are happy then that's what counts, so enjoy being happy girl !

      1. lawretta profile image78
        lawrettaposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        Thanks Jenny and thank you Badcompany99, i am relieved.

    2. britishprincess profile image60
      britishprincessposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      There is nothing wrong with dating an older man; I have dated at least five. I don't know how old you are so it's hard to say if it is acceptable or not in your reagard. I am in my late twenties, but started dating men over forty in my early twenties. I find older men to be more mature, more settled in their life and more sophisticated them younger men in my age group. I prefer men in their forties; although I have dated some in their fifties. After a couple of fifties I decided that was too old for me and went back to forties.

      If you are young and want a family a man in his forties is a more likely candidate then a man in his fifties. A man in his fifties will have already had his children as well as grnadchildren; and he won't want any more. I also discovered that a man in his fifites is too set in his ways and not that flexible or compromising. I say go for it if you are getting your needs met and don't worry about the age difference. Besides, to him; you will always be his younger woman.

    3. NYMiskovic profile image82
      NYMiskovicposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      I have always dated older men.  In fact I am 30 and my husband is 43.  If the two of you get along and treat each other right, then there is nothing wrong with it at all.  Have fun and enjoy each other ; )

    4. Davinagirl3 profile image60
      Davinagirl3posted 7 years ago in reply to this

      If he is a keeper, it doesn't matter how old he is.  If he lights your fire, hold on and don't let go.

      1. Eaglekiwi profile image75
        Eaglekiwiposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        Well said!

    5. blondepoet profile image79
      blondepoetposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      My motto is 'if it fits wear it'.

      1. Misha profile image75
        Mishaposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        Umm, I would think it would have suited a male better, but I am prolly a sexist thinking this way wink

        1. blondepoet profile image79
          blondepoetposted 7 years ago in reply to this

          Haha Misha depends on what fits what!!!!

      2. Jellyrug profile image60
        Jellyrugposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        I'm learning, how does a girl wear a boy? Need to know more.

        1. blondepoet profile image79
          blondepoetposted 7 years ago in reply to this

          If she looks good with him draped all over her then he fits well, much akin to a fur coat smile smile

  2. Inspirepub profile image87
    Inspirepubposted 7 years ago

    Whose permission do you need, honey?

    If it's good for you, and it's good for him, go for it.

    I have known many couples (and been part of some myself) with that kind of an age difference, and physical age means nothing compared with the way someone thinks.

    I know a guy who at 21 was more mature than many 40+ guys, and a woman who at almost 50 is still like a child.

    So you do what's right for you, and don't let nobody else tell you what that is!

    Jenny

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    \Brenda Scullyposted 7 years ago

    I think it could be fun having an older wiser guy around.... enjoy all that comes your way and do keep us informed as to how things are going.....  xxxx

  4. Beth100 profile image84
    Beth100posted 7 years ago

    Age is strictly in the mind.  What makes you happy (and him) is all that counts ... Be happy!

  5. jenblacksheep profile image84
    jenblacksheepposted 7 years ago

    When I was 16 my friend started going out with someone who was 26. They were a really good couple, but it was a little weird. But then someone else I knew started going out with someone 20 years older than her! THAT was wrong.

    In your twenties, there's nothing wrong with going out with someone older than you. It's mental age that makes the difference. Don't worry about it.

  6. JonTutor profile image60
    JonTutorposted 7 years ago

    It surely can go both ways....I'm 20 and if I didn't have a GF  then I have no  problems dating older woman..... it does help if the woman looks like Demi Moore wink

  7. Misha profile image75
    Mishaposted 7 years ago

    I have 17 years difference with my wife smile

    1. anjalichugh profile image88
      anjalichughposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      Who's older? smile

      1. Misha profile image75
        Mishaposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        Me smile

        1. drummer boy profile image61
          drummer boyposted 7 years ago in reply to this

          Good for you Misha.  You hit the nail on the coffin.  How long have you been married?

          1. Misha profile image75
            Mishaposted 7 years ago in reply to this

            LOL Exactly on my coffin lol

            Together for about 10 years, married - four smile

            Oh, and welcome back Drummer boy, did not see you for a while smile

  8. Greek One profile image76
    Greek Oneposted 7 years ago

    If you were my daughter, I would caution against it

  9. Lady_E profile image82
    Lady_Eposted 7 years ago

    Hey Lawretta. Nice new pic smile

    Well, if you are both happy and he's treating you right, why not? I mean, your only dating for now. Don't look at his age, look at his heart - inward.

    Good Luck.

  10. Anti-Valentine profile image94
    Anti-Valentineposted 7 years ago

    As long as it's not Hugh Hefner...

    http://hubpages.com/forum/post/261304

  11. Joelle Burnette profile image86
    Joelle Burnetteposted 7 years ago

    If you have found love, go for it. But as a woman who is married to a man 10 years my senior, if you do end up together, there will come a day when that 15 years will make a difference in the dynamics of your relationship. For instance, my mom is 7 years younger than my dad and they are getting to the point when she is the one taking care of my dad. He's 79 with health issues and even though she is 72, she has a young spirit and wants to travel. Unfortunately, her choices are limited because of his health.
    Still, you can say, "screw the health," do what you want and take your chances like they did last year...they travelled to South America and took a cruise down to Antarctica. A pretty brave thing to do, I think.
    So, go for it, just realize some of the future limitations if it goes in that direction.
    Good luck!
    Joelle

  12. Anti-Valentine profile image94
    Anti-Valentineposted 7 years ago

    My parents are quite similar. My dad is 70, and my mom is 68, so there's only a two year gap, and yet she looks and acts as though she's younger, like in her 40s or 50s perhaps.

    She also has to amuse him and clean up after him all the time, and doesn't find much time to do much else.

  13. Jellyrug profile image60
    Jellyrugposted 7 years ago

    Lucky guy!!!

    It depends on whether your interests are compatible and if you can fit in with both your groups of friends. He may have friends in their 50's while you may have friends in their 20's, not so easy to blend at times.

  14. kmackey32 profile image81
    kmackey32posted 7 years ago

    I personally like the younger ones. My husband is 7 years younger than me.

  15. Eaglekiwi profile image75
    Eaglekiwiposted 7 years ago

    Usually boys/men take longer than females to mature, so older probably means just right , lol.

    Love doesnt really have a 'right age', though experience cant ever be learned from a book (my opinion) smile

    1. anjalichugh profile image88
      anjalichughposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      Absolutely right. smile

    2. Jellyrug profile image60
      Jellyrugposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      Watch it Eaglekiwi! Some men mature so fast they will never get as old as they look, it all depends on the kind of mileage during the trip.

      1. Anti-Valentine profile image94
        Anti-Valentineposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        This old argument again. wink

        1. Jellyrug profile image60
          Jellyrugposted 7 years ago in reply to this

          Mmmm, do you have a linky, so I can catch up and add a little maturity?

          1. Eaglekiwi profile image75
            Eaglekiwiposted 7 years ago in reply to this

            Awww...lol...what?

          2. Anti-Valentine profile image94
            Anti-Valentineposted 7 years ago in reply to this

            No, I meant age-old argument. Not just in the forum.lol

            1. Eaglekiwi profile image75
              Eaglekiwiposted 7 years ago in reply to this

              No its all good, just wondered what linky meant lol

              1. Anti-Valentine profile image94
                Anti-Valentineposted 7 years ago in reply to this

                Not what it rhymes with...big_smile

              2. Pearldiver profile image87
                Pearldiverposted 7 years ago in reply to this

                I think he means Leaky smile You know some old guys are! big_smile

              3. Jellyrug profile image60
                Jellyrugposted 7 years ago in reply to this

                Linky is a term you use when you are young at heart, it means pointing your "Google" in the right direction.

                1. Pearldiver profile image87
                  Pearldiverposted 7 years ago in reply to this

                  Oops sorry.. I stand corrected... But don't take it to heart... I'm sure it's best we don't oogle ya google eh?

                  1. Jellyrug profile image60
                    Jellyrugposted 7 years ago in reply to this

                    It's all cool pearl diver, I just pointed my Google to "age difference between couples" and got a whole lotta linky's. Here is one for ya, http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Age_dispar … ationships

  16. ngureco profile image88
    ngurecoposted 7 years ago

    Hi,Lawretta.

    Go ahead and don't look backward. It's love that matters not the age. In as long as the guy is still breathing, he is active for love.

  17. drummer boy profile image61
    drummer boyposted 7 years ago

    I agree with the first comment.  Whose permission do you need?  I think most all of these are good advice.  As long as you are both over 18 I would say go for it.

  18. Pearldiver profile image87
    Pearldiverposted 7 years ago

    Being an older guy is a huge advantage over the younger ones; but I don't know that I'll be able to say that with as much conviction, when they reach my current age. big_smile

  19. Pearldiver profile image87
    Pearldiverposted 7 years ago

    big_smile big_smile

  20. Eaglekiwi profile image75
    Eaglekiwiposted 7 years ago

    Gravity sucks , everythings headin south lol

    1. Misha profile image75
      Mishaposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      I thought stuff heading north on your side of the pond though tongue

 
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