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relationship advice

  1. HubChief profile image67
    HubChiefposted 7 years ago

    a few hubs are there already.. However all of us has one or other piece of advice that we may not be keen to create hub about... Well you can add here

    Any one advice that you think is most important and would create a big difference in a married relationship.

    go on. smile

    I have a hub on this and some question/answer trail however would love to hear from those who do not have a hub who missed posting that killer advice in hubs.

  2. RooBee profile image83
    RooBeeposted 7 years ago

    Maintain respect for your partner as their own individual person who has chosen to team up with you on this exciting journey. I mean this as opposed to viewing your spouse as a work-in-progress; something to be molded, improved, and changed to suit your fantasies.

  3. Shadesbreath profile image89
    Shadesbreathposted 7 years ago

    Don't have sex with their siblings.

    1. wesleycox profile image83
      wesleycoxposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      That's some funny advise.

      I would say to always enjoy each others company.

  4. yoshi97 profile image87
    yoshi97posted 7 years ago

    Learn how to communicate better.

    Never find fault in your partner, instead, show them how they can improve.

    Try to see things from your partner's view, to better understand where they are coming from.

    Never continue an argument past a day. Resolve it or admit it must be nothing important.

    Never bring up past issues unless they are occurring again - the past is the past.

    Never expect a person to be more than they were when you first met them.

    Never cheat - break up - it causes so much less pain in the end.

    Never have a backup plan. You're totally into someone, or you're not. If not, allow them to move on.

    Don't ask for respect - earn it.

    Give as much as you would like to receive.

    Never EVER say anything to belittle your partner, as it belittles your own self for being with them.

    If you pull back your hand to slap your partner in the face, take a moment to change the trajectory to your own - as you surely deserve it for even considering such an act.

    1. nikitasnow2 profile image60
      nikitasnow2posted 7 years ago in reply to this

      well put yoshi
      also try to take time and remember the good times rather than the bad times.

  5. Davinagirl3 profile image60
    Davinagirl3posted 7 years ago

    First, and foremost, always remember that your partner is  his/her own person.  They can't read your mind.  They will make mistakes, and as long as they are honest mistakes you can forgive them.  Realize that you, yes even you, will make mistakes.  Learn to forgive yourself.  There will be times when you can't stand each other.  The best thing is to realize how much you love and need each other, and you can weather any storm.

  6. Dale Mazurek profile image57
    Dale Mazurekposted 7 years ago

    One of the biggest reasons my wife and I have stayed together is because in 21 years we never went to bed mad even if it took all night to figure things out.

  7. Earthscribe profile image83
    Earthscribeposted 7 years ago

    Face the same direction... not each other.

    (well, unless...)

  8. TamCor profile image80
    TamCorposted 7 years ago

    DON'T yell or scream at each other--TALK to each other if an issue comes up between you.

    My husband and I have had a wonderful marriage of almost 21 years now, and not once have we ever raised our voice at each other.

    'Course, it helps that we really, really do enjoy being together...big_smile

  9. profile image0
    L. Andrew Marrposted 7 years ago

    Spice up the sex life...

    Heck, I don't know why I'm on this forum...I'm only 17!

    1. beautyrose profile image59
      beautyroseposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      oh boy your just like panda man below 18. I think you have to study well first.

    2. Uninvited Writer profile image83
      Uninvited Writerposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      Bye...

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    L. Andrew Marrposted 7 years ago

    I should probably have added..."and unmarried"... on the end of that

  11. fortunerep profile image61
    fortunerepposted 7 years ago

    communication, no secrets good sex that is totally mutual, and a little help around the house would help

    guess that is why I am not married.

  12. RooBee profile image83
    RooBeeposted 7 years ago

    Step outside the day-to-day drudgery and look at your partner as if you are crushing on them and wishing to be with them, as you once did. Now, if you are looking over at a chubby hubby picking his nose you may want to choose another time to practice this one. smile
    Anyhoo, it's good to remember the qualities that attracted us initially and to praise said attributes thus encouraging the partner to display them more often. Sometimes I think people in long-term relationships feel that they are just fulfilling a role and not being honored for the unique individual that they are. This can make outside affection and attention all the more desirable.

    1. Davinagirl3 profile image60
      Davinagirl3posted 7 years ago in reply to this

      It is funny you would say this, because I am missing my husband today.  He is at work and it is rainy and dreary here.  I just want him home to snuggle.

      1. RooBee profile image83
        RooBeeposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        He's a lucky guy, Davina!

  13. blondepoet profile image80
    blondepoetposted 7 years ago

    Play dress-ups on the weekend.
    Use good scripting.
    "Do you come here often.?"

    http://i696.photobucket.com/albums/vv328/Ramblinroze/kiss.jpg

  14. Jane@CM profile image60
    Jane@CMposted 7 years ago

    Very lucky Devina!

    Sad to say my advice would suck right now.  Hubby has been on furlough for 5 weeks and I'm quite sick of him big_smile big_smile

    However, we've been married 20 years and I say stick it out through the tough times & always say I love you before you go to sleep.

  15. fierycj profile image85
    fierycjposted 7 years ago

    Above average performance in the hay. Never fails. wink

    1. blondepoet profile image80
      blondepoetposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      Too right Fiery.

    2. Ron Montgomery profile image61
      Ron Montgomeryposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      Where did you read that? yikes

      1. Uninvited Writer profile image83
        Uninvited Writerposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        lmao! big_smile

  16. HubChief profile image67
    HubChiefposted 7 years ago

    good tips.

    keep it coming

  17. AsherKade profile image76
    AsherKadeposted 7 years ago

    http://hubpages.com/hub/WHAT-YOU-DONT-K … RPRISE-YOU


    I wrote a hub about it just now...not porn and not vulgar...

  18. AsherKade profile image76
    AsherKadeposted 7 years ago

    O-M-G how do these kids still get in here??????

  19. Mighty Mom profile image90
    Mighty Momposted 7 years ago

    Imagine yourself broke and miserable -- that's what divorce will do for a marriage. Hey, sticks are always stronger motivators than carrots, even if you're using the carrots creatively in the bedroom. I'm not joking!

  20. AsherKade profile image76
    AsherKadeposted 7 years ago

    LMFAO on the floor.....


    hey, someone did a hub on orgasms...how the hell is my stick figure hub any worse....it's much milder in my opinion!

    1. beautyrose profile image59
      beautyroseposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      I think I can read what's on your mind married women. hehe

      1. AsherKade profile image76
        AsherKadeposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        and what would that be?

        1. beautyrose profile image59
          beautyroseposted 7 years ago in reply to this

          About the carrot and stick. A while ago I was wondering about it. I only got the meaning when you mention about that O ......m word. hehe

  21. GoldiString profile image61
    GoldiStringposted 7 years ago

    Know the BEST and WORST side of your partner, attitude-wise.

    1. AsherKade profile image76
      AsherKadeposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      and that's ecentually what my hub is  about....

  22. AsherKade profile image76
    AsherKadeposted 7 years ago

    a LOT worse is said on hub pages...this is helpful and inforative and not sleazy....

 
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