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Rude?

  1. tksensei profile image60
    tksenseiposted 7 years ago

    I have heard a lot of people say that speaking another language in front of someone who does not speak that language is rude.

    Do y'all think so?

    1. aka-dj profile image79
      aka-djposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      That depends on the insecurities of the person excluded. It is rude to the extent that the same person is left out.
      Sometimes things can only be said in another language, to make a point. My wife and I do it sometimes, with no intent on offending another. In most cases we translate, as best as we can what we said so they don't miss out. smile

    2. emievil profile image83
      emievilposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      The same thing was said to me when I and my officemates went to the U. S. and stayed there for 3 months. Some people seem to be conscious about that. I don't exactly subscribe to the idea that it is rude to speak a language in front of those who don't speak that language. But to be safe, I try to avoid it. If I can't avoid it, I try to ask the people I'm with if it's okay with them. Usually their answer is yes smile.

    3. LVM profile image53
      LVMposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      Of course it is.  Unless you know the speaker well and you are sure they are not talking about you.

      1. tksensei profile image60
        tksenseiposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        Why "of course"?

    4. Lady_E profile image82
      Lady_Eposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      Some people see it as being rude but it depends on the circumstance and how familiar you are with the person.
      When I speak another Language in front of anyone, I always excuse myself so they don't feel uncomfortable and I keep the conversation very short.

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      dennisemattposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      Not at all. Why should a person have to know less then someone else, just to avoid being rude? If someone knows a language, they should be allowed to speak it whenever they choose.

      1. Misha profile image76
        Mishaposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        The idea is you two might as well be conspiring on how to better punch the third in a face right in front of her, while she does not understand a word. smile

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          dennisemattposted 7 years ago in reply to this

          well, I suppose punching someone in the face might be rude. smile
          I thought the question meant more like, 2 people talking, and the other person was not involved in the conversation, no matter what the language was. I have never been in a situation where the other language people, were not strangers. I suppose that knowing the people could make a difference.

    6. wesleycox profile image82
      wesleycoxposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      Yeah its like whispering and looking at the person.  You never know if they are talking about you.

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      annvansposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      I do not think it is rude as long as the ones who are speaking are not pointing and making gestures like they are talking something about the person who does not know what they are saying. 


      I say if you must speak in a different language, make sure you are not saying anything about other people at all.  That way, they won't think you are talking about them or speaking in another language just so they cannot understand what you are talking about.

      1. tksensei profile image60
        tksenseiposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        Why not? Why is it the business of someone not involved in the conversation what the conversation is about?

      2. viryabo profile image86
        viryaboposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        How do i know they aren't talking about me? I cant understand them anyway. They might call me names without any indication whatsoever, and i'll just stand there grinning like a Cheshire cat, nodding like an Agama lizard! smile

        1. Eaglekiwi profile image72
          Eaglekiwiposted 7 years ago in reply to this

          lol..whats the alternative lol

          1. viryabo profile image86
            viryaboposted 7 years ago in reply to this

            I'll tell them there and then to speak for us all to understand. Or reserve their conversation for when they are alone, in a nice manner of course. smile

        2. Valerie F profile image61
          Valerie Fposted 7 years ago in reply to this

          If they don't mention your name or indicate by any body language that they're talking about you, they probably aren't talking about you. But as I said, it helps to prepare yourself for these situations. If someone's rude enough to say bad things to or about you, they're not going to change their language for your convenience.

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      cosetteposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      ¿Qué neutral

      1. Eaglekiwi profile image72
        Eaglekiwiposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        Kia Kaha smile

        1. Misha profile image76
          Mishaposted 7 years ago in reply to this

          Вы о чём?

    9. Drew Breezzy profile image80
      Drew Breezzyposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      if they are in the us and can speak english then yeah

    10. dohn121 profile image87
      dohn121posted 7 years ago in reply to this

      What I learned to do is this:

      1) If people are speaking with someone in a different language, I watch their eyes.  If even ONE eyeball of theirs happens to float over to me, I KNOW that they're talking about me!

      2) If I'm talking about someone present with someone else, I KNOW to NOT look at that person in question!

      So, yeah, I believe that it CAN be rude but not purposefully rude all the time.  For instance, if I'm with my mom (who speaks broken English, BTW) and her doctor or mechanic is telling her something that she doesn't understand where I have to step in to translate, it's not rude but necessary for me to do so. 

      But hey, what goes around comes around...If you are a rude bi-lingual then it'll come back to haunt you!

      I've been a good boy lately big_smile

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        Crazdwriterposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        ewwwww dohn! after reading your comment I just pictured a person with one eyeball actually moving and the other one staying straight...kinda gross image thanks lol

    11. darkside profile image79
      darksideposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      I've known situations where two people have spoken about another, in their language, not knowing that the third person understands that language, and what was being said was unflattering. So I guess that that is as rude as speaking behind someones back.

      I have a friend who is a polyglot. Before he got out of his teens he spoke 3 or 4 languages, now 20 years later (after having caught up with him via Facebook) he speaks over 20.

      It was interesting looking at all his recent photo album additions to his Facebook account from the 2009 Miss Universe contest where he was working as an interpreter.

      I think he's well equipped for plenty of situations where people might try and be rude, thinking he doesn't know. But otherwise if people are speaking in a different language in front of him, he can often join in.

  2. earnestshub profile image86
    earnestshubposted 7 years ago

    It would depend on who and where. In my city like many others we have 180 languages being spoken, so unless the conversation is meaningful or involves the person/people who do not speak the language I would think it's fine at least here. smile

  3. mcbean profile image83
    mcbeanposted 7 years ago

    There are other factors i think.
    If you speak the common language fluently, i think it will be considered rude as the implication is that you wish to hide something from the group.

    If you have some difficulty with the common language i think it is acceptable to revert to your native tongue - this is seen as merely clarifying points.

  4. Misha profile image76
    Mishaposted 7 years ago

    At least impolite - without consent. smile

  5. frogdropping profile image85
    frogdroppingposted 7 years ago

    Happens to me day in, day out smile

    Depends on your environment I guess.

  6. Uninvited Writer profile image83
    Uninvited Writerposted 7 years ago

    We were talking about that at lunch yesterday. One woman sits at a table with 2 others at work and they talk to each other in their own language all day long, ignoring her. We decided it was rude. Maybe once in a while is okay...but not all day.

    1. earnestshub profile image86
      earnestshubposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      Yeh that qualifies as rude!

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      badcompany99posted 7 years ago in reply to this

      That's so weird people in work ignore me like that at lunchtime and I can never figure out why smile

      1. Helen Cater profile image61
        Helen Caterposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        Maybe your name puts them off lol!!!!!

      2. Mrvoodoo profile image60
        Mrvoodooposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        Well I don't mean to alarm you, but according to Misha they're all conspiring to punch you in the face.  big_smile

  7. Helen Cater profile image61
    Helen Caterposted 7 years ago

    I would find that rude and frankly I would also find another lunch buddie.

  8. viryabo profile image86
    viryaboposted 7 years ago

    I think its rude. If the 3rd paty is all alone, WAITING for you to finish your "another tongue" conversation, they will feel ill at ease. Its not very nice to exclude that 3rd party. Even if you haven't mastered the common language to all present, speak it as you can.

  9. tksensei profile image60
    tksenseiposted 7 years ago

    Is it anyone else's business who or what they are talking about?

  10. Ms Chievous profile image81
    Ms Chievousposted 7 years ago

    It really depends.  If you are a part of the conversation then yes it is rude.  If others are conversing among themselves in thier language it doesn't bother me.  I worked with a woman doctor who spoke persian on the phone to her husband all the time.  it was funny to hear because you could tell they were in a heated arguement most of the time

  11. carenmorgan9 profile image60
    carenmorgan9posted 7 years ago

    of course its rude in all terms ......its always become uneasy for the third person as its doesn't create a right atmosphere while talking.(i love the picture of your dog...very cute)

  12. Lisa HW profile image81
    Lisa HWposted 7 years ago

    I can see how it seems that way; but if I think of it, and imagine I moved to somewhere outside the US (say, Italy), I realize that if I out were with my American family members I'd be speaking English (because I don't know more than about 3 Italian words).  Then, too, I know of a woman who has lived in the US for over 30 years and who still doesn't speak English well.  Someone explained to me that she is "of limited mental capacity" (so if she hasn't learned English very well she can't help it if she isn't "sharp" enough).

    So, unless the "excluded" English-speaker is actually with the non-English speakers and they don't make an effort to share, I don't think it's fair to just assume people speak to their companions in their own language.

  13. DoodleLyn profile image79
    DoodleLynposted 7 years ago

    It is considered rude to whisper secrets in front of other people, and speaking in a language they don't understand equates to the same offense, in my book. It puts the person excluded in an uncomfortable position.
    ie: My daughter took Spanish in high school. We were at the doctors waiting room. Two ladies were speaking Spanish, and looking at us. I, of course, assumed they were talking (negatively) about us. My daughter translated for me after they left the waiting room that they were commenting about what a pretty girl she (my daughter) is, and that she is probably adopted (she's Korean). They also said they liked my outfit!
    My point - When they spoke in Spanish I felt isolated and defensive, when they were actually making very nice comments. Making others feel uncomfortable is rude.

    1. tksensei profile image60
      tksenseiposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      Why?

  14. tksensei profile image60
    tksenseiposted 7 years ago

    If two people were speaking (in a language you speak) about - ANYTHING - and were just far enough away that you could not hear what they were saying, would that be rude?

    1. DoodleLyn profile image79
      DoodleLynposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      Of course not. BUT, if they were speaking and looking at you and it is obvious they are talking about you, then it is.
      As far as why I believe it is rude to make others feel uncomfortable, I retort to the old Do Unto Others rule (the Golden Rule). Would you like others to whisper (or speak in language you don't understand) in front of you to your obvious exclusion? Just some thoughts, and certainly not hard and fast rules to live by. Just my feelings on the subject.

      1. tksensei profile image60
        tksenseiposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        But if they were behind a partition it would suddently NOT be rude?

    2. Eaglekiwi profile image72
      Eaglekiwiposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      No because im not in the same space.(although thats never stopped me commenting) lol

    3. viryabo profile image86
      viryaboposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      Nope!

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      dennisemattposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      i think its kinda rude to think you have the right to know what other  people are saying at all times. talking mean about a person to thier face is rude in any language, but so what? if someone wants to have a conversation without me, im fine with it

      1. tksensei profile image60
        tksenseiposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        I agree with this.

  15. Aya Katz profile image88
    Aya Katzposted 7 years ago

    There are many situations involving bilingualism and children where if a parent were to abide by the politeness rule you suggest, then he or she would never be able to maintain the less common language with the child. People who work outside the home have so little time with their children that when they do have a moment with their child, it makes sense to speak the minority language, even in public, or else the language will be lost. So if you see a parent in the grocery store speaking privately with a child in a different language, don't assume it's being done to exclude you.

    Also, there are families where one but not both parents speak a language. In those situations, the family members who speak the language are encouraged to do so, even in front of the non-speakers, because abiding by the politeness rule would mean losing all opportunity to use the minority language.

    1. DoodleLyn profile image79
      DoodleLynposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      Aya - Your point is well made, and I agree wholly. I am speaking about using another language in an obvious attempt to exclude another when they are in a social situation where it is customary to interact together. Speaking to your child in a grocery store is not such an occasion, and I would not feel excluded.

  16. SweetiePie profile image83
    SweetiePieposted 7 years ago

    There are people that stare at and talk about others in English when their object of conversation is within earshout, so people can do the same thing when speaking the same language as you.  A friend once said she was disconcerted when working in an office setting how two ladies talked in Spanish all day to each other and excluded her from the conversation, except to ask her basic questions.  I have been around co-workers talking in Spanish, and yes a few times I heard them say things about me.  People do this in English to, and I have even over heard those conversations.  At work I do talk to people, but I am known as the one who does what others do not always like to do, and not part of the in crowd.  It has always been that way, and personally I would just rather do my job and help people rather than stop to chat frequently.  People are not very discreet, and I always find that amusing. It keeps life interesting smile.

  17. Eaglekiwi profile image72
    Eaglekiwiposted 7 years ago

    My father spoke two languages, one my mother and the rest of the family did not( though we learned and had the benefit of body language) but he mainly used it speaking to same language friends and not in a group of mixed languages..

    He was considerate and would translate otherwise.

    Example

    Dinner: Dad greets friend Kei pea a koe MAC., how ya doin?

    Friend replies: Kia ora , acknowledges all of us with a hand wave..
    Dad ..haere mai kai? stay for dinner? etc

    I think in general its rude,and people only have to ask themselves how would I feel , or how do I feel when it happens the other way around.
    Maybe that is the attitude , for some foreigners ,they too get irritated with English speaking people ?

    1. Aya Katz profile image88
      Aya Katzposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      Eaglekiwi, perhaps in your family it was decided that the children would not be fluent speakers of the minority language. Different families make different decisions about that. Any choice the family makes is fine.

      But if you really want your child fluent in the minority langauge, you can't stop to translate. You have to make it hard for the child to lapse into the majority language in the middle of the conversation, because the moment that happens, the child will probably just take the path of least resistance and speak only the majority language.

      1. Eaglekiwi profile image72
        Eaglekiwiposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        Interestingly enough ,out a family of nine children 4 speak fluently in English and Maori ,but even so they adapt easily wherever the dominant language is spoken.
        Whether its partial or full emersion into the language ,the lesson we learned over all was to be considerate and respectful.

        Culturally the second language is now recognised as an being officially recognised alongside English ,much like Spanish as in the USA.

        However I totally can see it from both sides, and no matter what the language if it excluded someone else ,that to me is simply bad manners.

  18. Aya Katz profile image88
    Aya Katzposted 7 years ago

    Eaglekiwi, were there many other Maori speakers around with whom the children could speak? That might be a completely different situation from the one I am familiar with.

    With my own family, Hebrew is always an isolated language. We have no Hebrew speaking community around us.

    I've spoken Hebrew with my daughter when we were surrounded by Chinese speakers, some of whom were also speakers of English, but there were no Hebrew speakers.

    Then we moved to the U.S. and I continued to speak with my daughter in Hebrew, when we were surrounded by English speakers. Bow, my chimpanzee, has been exposed to Hebrew as the home language and English as the language of people from outside the home.

    When there is only one person in the area who speaks the language, every opportunity for using it has to taken, or the language will die.

  19. tksensei profile image60
    tksenseiposted 7 years ago

    Um, "chimpanzee"?

  20. Misha profile image76
    Mishaposted 7 years ago

    You did not know this? I would recommend reading Aya's hubs about Bow, quite an eye opener smile

  21. tksensei profile image60
    tksenseiposted 7 years ago

    It is criminally irresponsible to keep a chimp as a pet.

  22. Misha profile image76
    Mishaposted 7 years ago

    Not sure why. And he is not exactly a pet, Aya is studying him. smile

  23. SweetiePie profile image83
    SweetiePieposted 7 years ago

    What is wrong with people having chimps as pets smile.  Some people decide to have dogs, some snakes, so if someone wants a chimp why does it matter?  He sounds more like a member of their family though.

    1. tksensei profile image60
      tksenseiposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      Gosh, I wonder why?

      http://www.nytimes.com/2009/02/17/nyreg … .html?_r=1


      People can be so stupid with animals it's hard to believe sometimes.

      But this is way off topic.

      1. Aya Katz profile image88
        Aya Katzposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        TKSensei, I realize I'm not allowed to post a link to my own hub here, but if you are interested in the other side of the argument, please read my hub entitled "Anti-Primate legislation."

  24. Aya Katz profile image88
    Aya Katzposted 7 years ago

    Misha and SweetiePie, thanks for the support!

    This is kind of off topic, but TKSensei, if you are interested in the issue, you might want to read my hub about Anti-Primate Legislation.

  25. Eaglekiwi profile image72
    Eaglekiwiposted 7 years ago

    To begin where you left off ,yes the language does die if not nurtured ,which is why it was fought for so passionately by my ancestors. The Maori language has witnessed a rebirth so to speak because of their efforts to safe guard the language (and therefore history)

    Today it is used much more naturally by professionals ,TV presenters ,Lawyers,Doctors,Teachers etc it is a now a component of the majority of the New Zealans Schools Syllabus.

    It is after all the language of the First Nations People,and the result as I said earlier laws and treaties upheld.
    As a result today more Maori ,including Non-Maori are familiar and committed to nurturing language nests on all levels.
    As a result of several changes connecting both languages ,Governement and teritary levels are well represented by both cultures.
    80 yrs ago it was quite the opposite and English culture dominated the language and the land.
    30 yrs ago, Boundaries were sensitive but warming
    Today Inter racial language has bridged the gap and both cultures are much more intergrated ,so the language has survived!

    Protocols are easy to undertsand and its noticeable if another culture ( there are several other cultures now also) are excluded or noticeably being left out.

    My niece has decided to teach her children only Maori, and there are pre-schools through to high school set up for this.
    But still , she will not allow them to exclude others from play (socialising) based on language inability.

    I enjoyed learning about your own history and experiences too!

  26. Valerie F profile image61
    Valerie Fposted 7 years ago

    Gossip, insults, and deliberately excluding people from the conversation is rude in any language. If anyone does that in any language I know, they should be prepared to hear about it from me in that language. Those who do that should never assume the subject of their insults doesn't understand what they were saying, as did a few rude guys who called me a very nasty name in Spanish, assuming because I was white I would not understand. I had a few choice words for them.

    For those who don't know more than one language, I would suggest arming yourselves for these situations with at least some basic knowledge of the other languages spoken in your area rather than demanding everyone else speak only your language in your presence. And don't assume that people are saying bad things about you unless you know for sure that they are. Indeed, it may not be about you at all. If you're feeling excluded, maybe politely asking for a little help following the conversation would be in order.

    As for the languages in my family, my father, being the son of German immigrants, barely knows their language. I consider that a tragic loss.

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    Louidam1posted 7 years ago

    Now if your with others and your speaking a different language to certain people and it is leaving some people out then it is rude.

  28. Jane@CM profile image61
    Jane@CMposted 7 years ago

    Just my 2 cents...when I get my nails done, the salon is owned by an Asian man & all of the employees are Asian.  They all speak Asian to each other & only speak English to their clients...kind of bothers me, but I don't know why!

    1. Helen Cater profile image61
      Helen Caterposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      Because it's rude. it bothers you because you don@t know if they are talking about you and anyway in any business your customer should come first.

  29. Aya Katz profile image88
    Aya Katzposted 7 years ago

    צריך לדבר רק אנגלית פה

    1. Eaglekiwi profile image72
      Eaglekiwiposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      Yes thankyou I would like the salad smile

  30. Aya Katz profile image88
    Aya Katzposted 7 years ago

    I was just pointing out to everyone that it's English only on Hubpages!

    1. Pearldiver profile image86
      Pearldiverposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      That's fine.... But the lady ordered a salad! hmm

  31. nicomp profile image58
    nicompposted 7 years ago

    ת יך לדבר רק אנגליפהצר
    ליפאנגהצרליפ

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      dennisemattposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      HOW RUDE lol

  32. Aya Katz profile image88
    Aya Katzposted 7 years ago

    That didn't make much sense, Nicomp. Nice try, though.

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    Crazdwriterposted 7 years ago

    I do think it is rude. I have to deal with it when people start speaking Spanish when I'm around. I have to stand there and wait for them to finish up and it's like hello yea I am still here.

    1. marinealways24 profile image60
      marinealways24posted 7 years ago in reply to this

      No habla espanol?

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    Crazdwriterposted 7 years ago

    nope marine I failed it back in HS so I on;y know a few words.

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      Crazdwriterposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      only time I don't think it would be rude is for those who are deaf. My second language is American Sign Language but I sadly have not kept up with it and need to study it. But for them to talk with sign with others around is not considered rude in my opinion

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        dennisemattposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        why is sign laungage dhfferent? what if you went to spain, wouldnt you be rude then?

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          Crazdwriterposted 7 years ago in reply to this

          Because sign language is for the deaf. They can't hear what others are saying PERIOD.

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            dennisemattposted 7 years ago in reply to this

            im just saying, and maybe this is not the situation being discussed here, if i went to france i would still speak english. not to be rude. i know that deaf people cant hear, so they must use sign language, but maybe some people cant speak english. all things have the potential to be rude, but life sucks when you go around taking everything personaly. just my opinion

  35. SweetiePie profile image83
    SweetiePieposted 7 years ago

    Even if I do not speak a particular language I can pick up on the gestures of their conversation through hand gestures and facial expressions.

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      dennisemattposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      thats a good point. like babies can comunicate thier needs to mommy.

  36. SweetiePie profile image83
    SweetiePieposted 7 years ago

    I understand only a few words of Farsi, but I was able to pick up right away when this boy did not want his sister to ask a question he thought was silly.  His tone completely changed and he started shaking his head.  He looked kind of surprised that I could figure this out.

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      dennisemattposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      i bet you can learn languages fast.

      1. SweetiePie profile image83
        SweetiePieposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        Actually I do not really learn languages fast, but I can pick up on facial expression and certain words in various language.  However, when it comes to speaking any language besides English I am hopeless.  I can read and write a basic amount in Spanish and French, but that is about it.  Of course if I tried to study languages on a more frequent basis I might improve smile.

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          dennisemattposted 7 years ago in reply to this

          smile   i wish i knew another language, besides pig latin

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    annvansposted 7 years ago

    If I put myself in others place and went off to a country and I did not speak their language.  I would sure not look at others and whisper or I would make sure that when I am talking that all my eyes were on the person I was talking to.  I would not want anyone to think that I was saying anything about them that they could not understand.

    I am all for people speaking in whatever language they want to as long as they don't look at me or point my way while they are doing it.  I do not like to feel like they are talking about me and hiding it by using another language.  I have worked with people who did not speak english, but I knew they couldn't speak in my language and as long as I didn't feel they were talking about me...didn't bother me one bit.

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      dennisemattposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      i think that was well put. the issue really isnt the language itself, rather, you just shouldnt say something you wouldnt say to someones face, in any language.

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        annvansposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        I just say...speak in any language you want to and however you want to, but when I feel like I am being talked about and the words are being hid from me by using a language I do not know, then its offensive to me.

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          dennisemattposted 7 years ago in reply to this

          makes sense. where i live, its not much of an issue. did anyone see sienfeld, when elaine offended the nail tech, cuz they were really being rude?

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            annvansposted 7 years ago in reply to this

            LOL, I have seen that a long time ago, but cant remember exactly what it was.

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              dennisemattposted 7 years ago in reply to this

              she was all....i know they are talking about me...'n they were...but then (maybe it was a haircut?) but anway.....she made them all mad and couldnt get the service

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                annvansposted 7 years ago in reply to this

                lol, yeah I think I remember that.  lol.

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    annvansposted 7 years ago

    Someone asked me one day if I knew their language.  I said "no, but I know when you are talking about me as I have heard some of the language before and know what is going on by the tone of voice and some words that I do know.

    1. tksensei profile image60
      tksenseiposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      Sounds a little paranoid if you ask me.

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        annvansposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        lol, this was a girl who I worked with.  Her and others used to sit there and talk and I did not know their language, but I still could communicate with the friend who did not know any english.  I think that is what led her to believe I knew their language.

  39. SweetiePie profile image83
    SweetiePieposted 7 years ago

    In Southern California there are many people from different countries, so it is not unusual for me to hear people speaking in a different language around me.  Personally I just do not care if they are talking about me because as I said people even do that in English smile.

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      dennisemattposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      rude people are rude. in any language, i try to not take things to heart. ya know? my aunt lives in ca

  40. tksensei profile image60
    tksenseiposted 7 years ago

    Will do.

  41. Aya Katz profile image88
    Aya Katzposted 7 years ago

    Thanks!

  42. Pete Maida profile image61
    Pete Maidaposted 7 years ago

    It is rude if one of the people can tranlate and doesn't.

 
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