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Why I am being an Ass..........

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    Ryan Kettposted 7 years ago

    ........... I haven't had a cigarette for 12 days...... thats the first 12 days without a cigarette for me in 8 years..... so sorry if anybody has come on the end of my frustration.

    x

    1. emdi profile image73
      emdiposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      Good luck. If u succeed in a quitting smocking, plz let me know. U will be an inspiration for many

      - a little cat (cats don't smock)

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      Lisa HWposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      12 days is great.  A lot of people can't get through the first 3 days.  Congratulations.  Good luck not turning back now that you're this far.  As far as the "grouchy" thing goes, everybody gets to have their grouchy moments for one reason or another - and everyone else usually completely understands because they've had their own moments at one time or another.

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      megs78posted 7 years ago in reply to this

      Been there, and I will completely forgive you for being an ass in advance.  Im going on 5 years now of not smoking and I will tell you now that it was SO hard, if I started smoking again for some ridiculous reason, I wouldn't quit again.  Does that sound discouraging?  What I mean to say is that I understand how hard it is on a body and brain to quit, so I will put up with your sh*t in the meantime smile (ps, the patch worked for me)  oh yeah and candy...lots and lots of candy smile

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      rednckwmnposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      your not an ass
      congratulations!! It is hard, but it gets better, HANG IN THERE!!!

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      Daniel Carterposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      [Sigh...]
      Well, if you are an ass, and I don't think you are, please make sure you're a sweet ass.
      smile

      As Brenda said, bloody well done, ryan. Your body will thank you and reward you, particularly as you age. I know. Although I don't always miss my youth, I do miss the ability of my body to rebound and recover more quickly.

      Kudos in every way, friend.

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        Daniel Carterposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        Oops, it was froggy who said that, not Brenda. Sorry froggy. smile

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      cosetteposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      awesome! good luck in your quest to be smoke-free!

    7. Misha profile image76
      Mishaposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      He-he, isn't it a pandemic? I know of at least one more hubber suffering immensely from withdrawal, and it definitely shows lol

    8. missalyssa profile image60
      missalyssaposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      Good job buddy...the day I quit smoking I would probably scare Rob Zombie, which I imagine is a rather difficult thing to do (have you seen House of 1000 Corpses and Devil's Rejects)?!?

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      jiberishposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      Yippee...Good for you!....But does this mean that when I finally quit I'll be like you?

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      Crazdwriterposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      Good for you ryan. yuo keep it up and you'll kick that bad habit. and you can be cranky with me all you want...just to warn you I'll be cranky too but because of woman issues lol

  2. frogdropping profile image84
    frogdroppingposted 7 years ago

    Bloody well done Ryan. And no excuses. Cigarettes or lack of don't make you an ass. Something which you're not anyway. Not in my opinion smile

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      Ryan Kettposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      Thanks big_smile

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    frogdroppingposted 7 years ago

    Mark Knowles is on the same road Ryan. He's a bit ahead of you though. Perhaps you should drop him a line and grizzle with him. I know he's not found it easy - but he's sticking with his choice to give up - which I applaud.

    Seriously - well done and keep going smile

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      Ryan Kettposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      Yeah I know he is..... but I think that this is something you can only do by yourself.... he must be twice as far as me, maybe I will drop him a line if things get hard.

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    Pearldiverposted 7 years ago

    Good on you mate - Did that too! smile

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      Ryan Kettposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      Thanks, how long had you been smoking? And how many per day?

      1. Pearldiver profile image86
        Pearldiverposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        20+ years and too many per day. But I have to say the first thing you get back within about two weeks is your sense of smell and your coffee doesn't taste as good. smile

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          \Brenda Scullyposted 7 years ago in reply to this

          and do you find girls like to kiss you more

          1. Pearldiver profile image86
            Pearldiverposted 7 years ago in reply to this

            Nope.... I just stopped licking the ones that smoke lol

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          Ryan Kettposted 7 years ago in reply to this

          Cant say that I have had the coffee thing yet.... but I have had that with tea.

          My sense of smell is defo coming back, I have gone back to a daily bath (I know that sounds bad, I must have stunk).... and my farts are that little more toxic lol

          I know its an unusual one.... but it was my yellow teeth that made me stop. Not health, not money, not smell..... just couldnt sit and watch my teeth get worse.

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            \Brenda Scullyposted 7 years ago in reply to this

            now you are just being an ass again

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              Ryan Kettposted 7 years ago in reply to this

              Trying my hardest not to be sad

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    emievilposted 7 years ago

    I thought this thread is an attempt to get you banned again smile. Seriously, if this is what quitting smoking can do for you, I think I won't quit yet. People might wonder why I suddenly become a b*tch smile (j/k).

    Uhhhmmm, seriously seriously, I don't know why you said you're an *ss Ryan. I haven't seen any indication (so far) that you're one. smile

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    \Brenda Scullyposted 7 years ago

    you have such high expectations of yourself dont you.... being so nosey i would love to know about your up bringing........

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      Ryan Kettposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      Lol, maybe thats one for another day Brenda. I am moving house today, need to go move boxes. It was just a simple apology, hope that you can take it for how it is. smile

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        \Brenda Scullyposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        wow moving house is soooooo stressful, maybe you picked a bad time to give up the fags....... of course we accept your apology, you must know we are all on your side...

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      Ryan Kettposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      For what its worth, I dont really know how it affects expectations..... but I grew up with not a lot in a rough deprived area, and have since achieved a lot - including paying my way through uni and gaining a first class degree. I grew up in a single parent family, as an only child, with little money, but with grandparents who did have a lot of money; but whom also started with nothing and died owning a big house. I idolised those two, and still do, and they managed to make lots of money and be very happy.

      They were the hardest working people I have ever known. Thery retired at 55, and lived for 6 months a year in Southern Spain. They had a large family, 26 grandchildren, 8 children....... and they were very happy. I would be lying if I said that I didnt aspire to the same.

      I do put a lot of focus on pension funds, share portfolios, and do aspire to acquire some international real estate. Apologies if that is a bad thing?

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    \Brenda Scullyposted 7 years ago

    It is not a bad thing Ryan, because money is a necessity, you are really one talented guy...... you are sooooo hurting though and it goes against you..... You are self motivated, and exceptionally honest.  Would you not like to teach, you should be out mixing more,,,,,,,, you must be stifled sitting at home at the computer,  Do you still miss your grandpartents.....


        HAPPY NEW HOME...... ARE YOU MOVING FAR AWAY FROM WHERE YOU ARE....... NOBODY SAID IT WAS WRONG TO BE FINANCIALLY SECURE,

    I value you as a friend and fellow hubber, and really hope you get what you truly deserve, if i can help in any way .... how can i?????? you have everything at your finger tips don't you????

    i so knew you were an only child, either that or the youngest.

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      Ryan Kettposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      You are a very good judge of character Brenda.... Yeah you are right, I'm not too happy..... not really sure why, I am living away from my home right now. But thats probably something I need to work out with myself, and then with my girlfriend - before I can talk about that on a public forum wink  Thanks for your concern though.

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        \Brenda Scullyposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        private lives can be complex, as far as hub pages, you are the best writer, i have seen on here, i read a lot...... Yep maybe you need to look at what is eating away at you, and do something about it.  Father figure, etc etc..... everyone said that to me for years, and last year was the first time i had to go to counselling for myself, and i really wished i had done it years ago..... i think i missed out on a lot of my potential because i had issues..... any way let us not get too deep, enjoy your day

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      mandybeau1posted 7 years ago in reply to this

      Only kids sure have the best in one way, and yet all the ones I know have to be totally top achievers, and I guess that I too am like this, so what does that mean, my mum picked up some ladies only Kid. hhaha Sortta wanted to give me back, apparently I was a handful. I don't know if you would miss Brothers and Sisters if you had none, I have a whole bucnch of Brothers and no Sisters, so can identify.  Brenda is a shrewd lady and one of my favs, shes got me figured.

  8. RedSonja94 profile image61
    RedSonja94posted 7 years ago

    Congratulations on quitting.  That is really hard to do.  Bravo and I don't think you've been an a$$ at all.  Quite polite actually.

  9. Pearldiver profile image86
    Pearldiverposted 7 years ago

    Your Teeth .... Really?  Fair Enough... Do you get them Dry Cleaned Now? hmm

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      Ryan Kettposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      Well im sure all the other negatives have played there part, but the teeth were the 'realisation'.

      I have always been proud of the fact that I have never needed a filing, and that I have always had straight teeth (apart from a gap in the front).

      In the past year or so I have been getting black stains on them, and they have started to become crooked. Then I started looking at everyones teeth.... I kept looking at smokers teeth, and non smokers teeth.... and then it made me notice the wrinkles too....

      Long term heavy smokers often experience changes in their appearance, and as shallow as it sounds.... and it is pretty shallow.... I just dont want to have black and yellow teeth and wrinkles.

      And that motivation, although not anywhere near as important as my internal health, is the thing that is driving me on. Apologies for the essay, its doing me a bit of good explaining. smile

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    Redneckmanposted 7 years ago

    My teeth used to be yellow.

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      \Brenda Scullyposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      i can so believe that

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        Redneckmanposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        I have new ones now since my old lady won a few thousand on the lottery. Now the ladies love my smile.

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          \Brenda Scullyposted 7 years ago in reply to this

          do they come out when you chew on steak

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          Ryan Kettposted 7 years ago in reply to this

          I have just worked out who you are big_smile

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            \Brenda Scullyposted 7 years ago in reply to this

            tell me Ryan

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              Ryan Kettposted 7 years ago in reply to this

              I am probably completely wrong.... but I have a hunch that this has BadCo written all over it wink

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                \Brenda Scullyposted 7 years ago in reply to this

                really does he have lots of different alter ego's

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                  Ryan Kettposted 7 years ago in reply to this

                  Well you know about one already of course. But he did concede that he has another which his uses 'occassionally'..... I have been keeping an eye out ever since. Redneckman is a friendly troll. BadCo only ever has friendly second logins. Bingo.

                  Not the greatest logic, but if I had to take a punt... that would be my bet big_smile

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                    Redneckmanposted 7 years ago in reply to this

                    You are holding a losing bet and Pirategirl a friendly second login ? It is cigs you have stopped smokin yeah ? smile

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                Eaglekiwiposted 7 years ago in reply to this

                I think its ...someone like Badco ,but not

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                  emievilposted 7 years ago in reply to this

                  Same as Ryan, I think it's BC smile. He sounds like BC.

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                    Eaglekiwiposted 7 years ago in reply to this

                    Definately horny lol

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    Cranooposted 7 years ago

    I'm sure people understand man, just let them know your situation if they don't.

    Also - if you're going to start smoking again search google for a picture of a cancerous lung!

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      Ryan Kettposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      That used to effect me.... until they started sticking them on fag packets in the UK. The last time I tried to quit 2 years ago (lasted 3 days), I had a diseased lung as a desktop background!

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    Ryan Kettposted 7 years ago

    Thanks to everybody else for the support etc....

  13. Sophia Heresford profile image82
    Sophia Heresfordposted 7 years ago

    Congrats on quitting! I know that can be so hard.

    Don't worry about being an asshole--think about it instead as ensuring you live long enough to make amends smile

    Sophia

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    \Brenda Scullyposted 7 years ago

    maybe you are right...... he turns up and calms things down somehow...... you could be right,,,,,,

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      Ryan Kettposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      And of course, I could be wrong smile

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        \Brenda Scullyposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        he may tell us

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          Redneckmanposted 7 years ago in reply to this

          Or he may not lady.

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    cindyvineposted 7 years ago

    never ever had the desire to smoke

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    shamelabboushposted 7 years ago

    Such a great achievement!!! Glad for you smile

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    ralwusposted 7 years ago

    Best of luck which has eluded me for so looong now.

  18. Eaglekiwi profile image73
    Eaglekiwiposted 7 years ago

    Ryan I dont think you sound like an ass at all wink

    Besides if you do err (ya human) just put it down to hormones lol

  19. Eaglekiwi profile image73
    Eaglekiwiposted 7 years ago

    I thought it was Raidersfan,sounded like his humor (kinda) lol

    1. emievil profile image84
      emievilposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      Hmmmmm, maybe we should call him out lol. It's not only his tone that sounds like BC, it's also his choice of name smile.

  20. Eaglekiwi profile image73
    Eaglekiwiposted 7 years ago

    He needs a bath whoever he is lol

    1. emievil profile image84
      emievilposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      lol well he's got his lady to do that for him wink

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    Jelliebeanposted 7 years ago

    I understand your reasons for wanting to quit. I stopped smoking sometime ago, can't remember when. The best thing I ever did was stop counting the days, hours, seconds since I had quit and to focus on getting through those 3 minute cravings. I have fallen off the wagon many times on the way but because I'm not counting the days it's not such a big personal failure and I climb back on again. Just reading these posts makes me want a cigarette so writing this reply has distracted me. Good luck with your giving up and your counting. Now where did I hide that secret stash of fags........

  22. rmcrayne profile image94
    rmcrayneposted 7 years ago

    Rooting for you Ryan.  Hang in there.

  23. Uninvited Writer profile image81
    Uninvited Writerposted 7 years ago

    Ryan, maybe we should form a pact to both stay out of the political forums... I keep going back in after vowing not to. It'll make quitting smoking a lot easier for you smile We can keep each other strong big_smile

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      Daniel Carterposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      Religion, politics and cigarettes. Such odd bedfellows, and yet somehow so intimately connected. Making promises that are always in question....

      LOL

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    flread45posted 7 years ago

    Just put your mind to it and you will quit as I did 23 years ago.
    The coffee does smell better and the girls will kiss you more,Maybe smile

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      \Brenda Scullyposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      hey now there is an incentive

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    Jane@CMposted 7 years ago

    Ah Ryan!  GOOD FOR YOU!  Wish I had your persistence. I've quit several times in my life, but getting pregnant obviously won't work for you big_smile

    I have to quit too, just need to set a date & put on that damn patch.

    You are not an a$$ either...you are one of the good guys big_smile

  26. thranax profile image48
    thranaxposted 7 years ago

    At least you admitted you had a reason for such behavior. Most people are just stuck up when they act like that.

    ~thranax~

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    \Brenda Scullyposted 7 years ago

    Ryan just read your interview...... you are flying well done, and getting the recognition you deserve.  How did your move go...... and are you still off the cigs.   If you managed to go a day without them when you are moving house well done, if not don't be hard on yourself.....

 
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