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What is cheating ?

  1. hinckles koma profile image80
    hinckles komaposted 7 years ago

    How many times would you forgive someone who cheated?

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      sneakorocksolidposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      You mean on love? none. I thought you meant in general the only way I can beat my son at anything is to cheat. I have to other wise I have to listen to his lame smack!

    2. andromida profile image74
      andromidaposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      maybe once or twice.

      1. hinckles koma profile image80
        hinckles komaposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        Why?

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      Chopsticksposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      I would forgive my partner if it was a one night stand...after a year or 2 smile if it was an more than once..NEVER!

  2. lrohner profile image86
    lrohnerposted 7 years ago

    None. Zip. Zilch. Zero.

  3. Cranoo profile image61
    Cranooposted 7 years ago

    None because I don't want to spend the rest of my life with someone I can't trust.

    Don't cheat you could really hurt someone and what goes around comes around.

  4. Misha profile image76
    Mishaposted 7 years ago

    Изменять. И вообще обманывать. smile

    1. andromida profile image74
      andromidaposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      this is called cheating.smile

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    Redneckmanposted 7 years ago

    I think my old lady is cheating on me.

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    sneakorocksolidposted 7 years ago

    The other way to win?

  7. europewalker profile image81
    europewalkerposted 7 years ago

    None,trust would be broken and I'd never forget it.

  8. jiberish profile image80
    jiberishposted 7 years ago

    none

  9. Dale Mazurek profile image61
    Dale Mazurekposted 7 years ago

    I think you need to let circumstances dictate that.  I have been married over 21 years and that would be difficult to throw away.

    Now, Im not advocating cheating but at the end of the day there would be a lot of questions.

    I think in my case, if it has been an ongoing thing then ya things would probably be done.  If it were a one time thing then maybe we would have to look at counselling or something.

    Now if you asked my wife this she would be with you guys.  She would say its over and thats all there is to it.  So ya people have differing opinions.

    1. hinckles koma profile image80
      hinckles komaposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      men are more forgiving, i wonder why is that in real life.

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    Sarra Garrettposted 7 years ago

    Absolutely None, they never stop cheating

  11. Colebabie profile image61
    Colebabieposted 7 years ago

    I think it depends.

    1. hinckles koma profile image80
      hinckles komaposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      on what?

      1. Colebabie profile image61
        Colebabieposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        On the relationship, on what type of cheating we're talking about.

        1. hinckles koma profile image80
          hinckles komaposted 7 years ago in reply to this

          physical relations.

          1. Colebabie profile image61
            Colebabieposted 7 years ago in reply to this

            Ok, kissing, oral sex, intercourse...
            All of those are physical.

            1. Misha profile image76
              Mishaposted 7 years ago in reply to this

              And shaking hands, too tongue

              1. Colebabie profile image61
                Colebabieposted 7 years ago in reply to this

                No that's cool smile
                Cheating to me is doing anything you wouldn't do in front of me. My boyfriend knows I could care less about flirting or looking at other girls. But whether or not I would forgive someone and take them back depends on the situation. I would like to say "No way! Get outta here!" but I'm not in the situation, I don't know what I would do.

                1. Misha profile image76
                  Mishaposted 7 years ago in reply to this

                  If you really give it a thought, you will see that all what you listed are no more serious than a hand shaking, and could be easily ignored - they do not endanger your property (your man). He still stays yours. smile

                  The real perceived danger comes with emotional attachment smile

                  1. Colebabie profile image61
                    Colebabieposted 7 years ago in reply to this

                    Not to me smile If he cheats, and it is "just sex" no emotions involved, it means that he went looking for something he felt he couldn't get from me. That means there are emotions. Always.

  12. Colebabie profile image61
    Colebabieposted 7 years ago

    Because in some cases, if they divorce.. there goes half their stuff!

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      james hoyerposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      That is a question that has a lot of gray in it. Very seldom have I seen a divorce that really served a real purpose, the children are usualy the losers.

  13. Sybil Marie profile image80
    Sybil Marieposted 7 years ago

    I may Forgive them.., but that doesn't mean I would stick around to have them do it again.

  14. Colebabie profile image61
    Colebabieposted 7 years ago

    Was it just once, or was it a relationship? Does he love her? Who is she? What kind of physical cheating are we talking about? Are we married? Do we have children?

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    ralwusposted 7 years ago

    A thing worth having is a thing worth cheating for.smile

  16. Colebabie profile image61
    Colebabieposted 7 years ago

    Nope, not just emotional attachment but emotions in general are dangerous as well.

    1. Eaglekiwi profile image73
      Eaglekiwiposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      Sex is not an emotional experience?

      1. Colebabie profile image61
        Colebabieposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        That's what I'm saying smile If someone cheats emotions are always involved. And when emotions are involved, it gets dangerous.

  17. Misha profile image76
    Mishaposted 7 years ago

    If your man is yours, he will return. Otherwise, he never been yours to start with. smile

    1. Colebabie profile image61
      Colebabieposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      Return? Why should he leave at all?

      1. Misha profile image76
        Mishaposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        Umm, weren't we talking about cheating?

        1. Colebabie profile image61
          Colebabieposted 7 years ago in reply to this

          Yes. You said if he is mine he will return. But why should he leave to begin with?

          1. Misha profile image76
            Mishaposted 7 years ago in reply to this

            I was talking about returning to you from another woman, after spending some time with her. Or to me from another man, does not really differ. smile

            We are quite curious animals, you know. smile

            1. Colebabie profile image61
              Colebabieposted 7 years ago in reply to this

              I understand. So I'll ask the question again, "Why leave in the first place?" Is it just out of curiosity?

              1. Misha profile image76
                Mishaposted 7 years ago in reply to this

                Depends on what exactly you mean by "leave". smile

                1. Colebabie profile image61
                  Colebabieposted 7 years ago in reply to this

                  "Spending some time with her" Whether that be breaking it off with me and being with her. Or seeing us both simultaneously.

  18. Eaglekiwi profile image73
    Eaglekiwiposted 7 years ago

    I think cheating begins in the mind first ,then when the opportunity presents itself, it becomes a reality.

    Or the opposite effect , I dont accept there is a reason to cheat , so I wont be likely too, cuz I already decided.(in my mind)

  19. Drifter0658 profile image60
    Drifter0658posted 7 years ago

    If it was Poker...the cheater would get shot

    1. Eaglekiwi profile image73
      Eaglekiwiposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      lol makes sense

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        Chopsticksposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        Hehehehe smile

  20. Misha profile image76
    Mishaposted 7 years ago

    If it is seeing you both (or thre, four, etc.) - likely just a curiosity or indecisiveness. If it is breaking up with you - this is more serious, and likely there are other reasons for this. smile

    1. Colebabie profile image61
      Colebabieposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      Either way. If he comes back to me, that means it must have gone wrong with her and I'm his second choice. No thank you.

      1. Misha profile image76
        Mishaposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        Nah, it means that he checked and confirmed that you are the FIRST choice. You will easily see this if you add one or two more girls to our scenario. He goes to any of them, and comes back to YOU. smile

        1. Colebabie profile image61
          Colebabieposted 7 years ago in reply to this

          He shouldn't have to check smile "Oh I looked around and couldn't find anyone better, so yeah.. you are the one"

          1. Eaglekiwi profile image73
            Eaglekiwiposted 7 years ago in reply to this

            Yea like he compared the sex lol why didnt he just buy a doll

          2. Misha profile image76
            Mishaposted 7 years ago in reply to this

            Oh, well, here is where we differ. I believe vs I know. smile

            1. Colebabie profile image61
              Colebabieposted 7 years ago in reply to this

              I think that open relationships can definitely work. I just choose not to be in one.

              1. Misha profile image76
                Mishaposted 7 years ago in reply to this

                I sure see you don't. May be later, cause I do think you are one of the few women around who can actually manage it. And you deserve peace of mind it brings in. smile

                1. Colebabie profile image61
                  Colebabieposted 7 years ago in reply to this

                  Possibly. But I'm happy right now smile

  21. habee profile image90
    habeeposted 7 years ago

    Once. I think everyone deserves a second chance. A third chance? Nah...

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    cosetteposted 7 years ago

    i tend to have a somewhat 'Bohemian' view about issues like this so at the risk of getting run out of town on a rail, i will just say that there are worse things a partner or spouse can do to you other than cheating.

    trust me on this.

    1. Misha profile image76
      Mishaposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      Did you escape from a Bluebeard? yikes

  23. Misha profile image76
    Mishaposted 7 years ago

    Absolutely no intention to ruin your happiness. Enjoy it! smile

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    cosetteposted 7 years ago

    something like that.

  25. Misha profile image76
    Mishaposted 7 years ago

    Poor thing. sad

    At least you seem to be OK now, which is goooood! smile

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    cosetteposted 7 years ago

    that i am.

    better than ok smile

  27. Paradise7 profile image86
    Paradise7posted 7 years ago

    I'd forgive, because holding onto something like that is more hurtful than letting go.

    But I wouldn't stay with the guy.  Staying with someone who values you so little is even more hurtful.

 
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