if you are a doubtful person, you cant trust anybody, we will never know if somebody is trustful or not specially online, sometimes even if we lived with a person, we never really know if we can trust them, how much more here oline...
we just learn to accept what they are saying, it is their self they are fooling anyway or if they tell baloney or lies
Come on, girl. Ya know this is STILL the internet. I mean i pretty much trust a lot of the people i talk with but it IS still the internet. There are still trolls and what not out there. Just check ot the woman(?) who left a comment on my s.h.i.t. 19 hub. This person was unverified and attacked me personally. i don't care 'cause I'm Captain Free Speech but you have to be careful what you tell people.
I think I would be a fool to try to trust someone online with a "secret" and as for promises - do you mean like "I promise not to do that again?" because I don't trust people OFFLINE when they say that - I meant more along the lines of do you trust the personality they put forward and the things they say as really being what they think and believe? as being true and honest - because it is so difficult to know (as marine says - everyone has a potential "hidden agenda" even if it is mainly marketing strategy with some) just asking . . .
"Believe none of what you hear, and only half of what you see."
I try to remember that. Because at heart I'm initially a person who trusts almost everyone until they show they can't be trusted. By then, it's often too late and they've wormed their way into my life. But the kicker is that I've also become an unchangeable part of their life too, if only for those moments in time......unforgettable moments of course! haha And I laugh, but it's true that each person has an effect on others, no matter how minute the incident is. Often, at some point, I've had to cut some mean people out of my life, for my own good and for their betterment too so I don't try to get vengeance. (Hey, it's good to resist temptation.)
so here's what I think about this - I think I will trust everybody on the face of what they write in their hubs and on the forum because it seems to me that there are mainly trustworthy people who basically don't have time for deception here on HP - That said . . . (as they say on foxnews) I really wonder about some of the writers who are talking big, but misspelling it! heheh
i actually hate to say this..... but i will think three times before ever trusting anything that someone tells me about themselves on hub pages. I think that is wise, as how do you know who i am, how do I know who you are.
I come on hubpages, to relate to fellow writers, but don't necessarily, need to know much about them other than that.
right - well that's prudent - but then some of the threads are just for writers to blow off a little steam and they'll say whatever comes into their creative little heads - IT SEEMS! some of what really creative people say in jest is hysterical and some is dumb, but I don't really take much of it seriously. And I actually find myself resentful when people take my jokes seriously. But then, maybe that's just their "hub persona" or is it "personae" ? Hardly anyone really asks each other true writing questions other than the generic "how can I make my hub better" . . .
oh come on - suggest it - nobody's really reading this and if they do they won't remember what you suggested, and if they do remember they won't know whether I actually just implemented the agenda or was doing that all along - so go ahead! tell me, tell me, tell me!
yes they are! how insightful! and it is getting difficult even for me, to keep up with all my different bickers in the threads - I am having to let some of them go! anyway even I could not bicker with sweet baaaaah baaaaah baaaaah denno! I believe I'm learning your language - weyyyyy weyyyyyy weyyy!
ok - I'll tell ya - my hidden agenda USED TO BE that I would write on HP and people would read it and love me. But that was a crappy idea
so now my hidden agenda MAY OR MAY NOT be that I will say whatever pops into my febrile mind at any given moment as long as it is not too demeaning or evil or hurtful to anybody. doing no harm, I am, as always, yours
Everybody has an agenda. Mine echoes your original "write on HP so people would read it and love me." Okay, maybe not love me, but at least read what I write and comment if they enjoyed it.
I learned very quickly that some people who "follow" writers are simply trying to get followers of their own. I cherish the people who truly responded to reading something of mine and then chose to follow me.
So as far as trust goes, I am a combination of naivite & cynicism. Usually, you can find out fairly early if someone is just out to promote themselves or their agenda.
As others have pointed out, this IS the internet. I'm not the type to misrepresent myself, but apparently many use the anonymity of the internet to role play or deceive. Hopefully they are only playing and not predatorial.
I know I'm cynical enough to question some who claim to be here solely for the joy of helping others. But maybe that's my self-centered perspective.
Just as in the non-cyber world, there are mostly good people and enough not-so-good to keep you on your toes.
like, I for one do not believe for a minute that your hair is actually that color - magenta? hot pink? and not that it has f all to do with anything. I'm usually just killing time on these forums and then once in awhile somebody says something that realy inspires me and I get a new hub going or some other piece of crap artsy writing I do.
but there have been times I've watched (listened?) to somewhat tender little relationships seemingly budding through the forums and the sarcasm in me just says - watch out! and it IS entertaining though! I just feel sorry for anyone who gets involved in that way, ya know?
yes abcd - and also cynic was the word I was looking for earlier. See I have this very verbal cynic inside me and all it takes is a little tap to make it burst out! And yet, people seldom get offended, that is when they are really reading what I write - I have yet to make any money off this HP writing, but it continues to amuse. so I am not a good marketer - someday, my niche will come! ♪♪♪
Snakes take many shapes & forms by using camouflage. Two legged snakes do the same. Some must learn the hard way & end up getting scammed. Others learn by using caution & end up being safe. Still others play with fire even when they know it burns. So what's my point? Better safe than sorry.
I honestly believe that "trust builds trust", flaunt it and you'll regret losing the opportunity to know how you fare outside of yourself. No man is an island, be trustful and live life the trusted hubbers' ways.
I agree with you about everything except this - I find it even more difficult to trust online because I depend so much on my senses to tell me what a person truly means when they speak and their gestures etc. So online you can't hear or see or touch or any of that - you have to just read their words, and since I find it hard to believe some of the words I read here I get to wondering about how much of it I will choose to consider and trust - that's why I try to keep it light and never go into the religious or political forums where I know I would vehemently disagree with some people and probably get in trouble. I can tell a lot by the tone of some people's hubs and posts and by their knowledge of language - but I could be fooled at any time. I guess we just have to be careful with what info we share and how we do it!
I know that is true - and that's one reason I brought up this subject - there must be ways to fine-tune our insight about people we only see in the forums - and hubs. I often don't know how to interpret things people say. I think these smiley face guys help a lot don't you? like -
This was written on the hub of a writer recently: "I'm in touch with my feelings – maybe a tad too much, seeing as I can write on command about them".Sort of implies that this is not a good thing....Why...
This has happened to me a few times. I'll leave a comment or give an answer in the Q&A section... and I will get attacked (for lack of a better word) by some other Hubber who has a different point of view or...