My Mom is going to De-Fan me! Help!

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   lyricsingrayposted 14 years ago

   She's registered.
   
   She just emailed me and threatened if I didn't put some clothes on in my avatar she would de-fan me and wants it changed tonight.
   
   What do I do?
   
   Play along and call her bluff?  Would a mom really de-fan her first born?
   
   or
   
   Start searching for pictures with turtlenecks or of flowers and change my avatar?
   
   Help please.

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      mtsi1098posted 14 years agoin reply to this

      I would start a nasty forum thread about her

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         lyricsingrayposted 14 years agoin reply to this

         

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   Marisa Wrightposted 14 years ago

   My motto has always been, "dance like nobody's watching, write like your mother will never read it".
   
   Your writing persona is your place to express yourself - don't let anyone cramp your style!

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   tony0724posted 14 years ago

   Kimberly it is your Mom , so keep the peace ! Do you mind if I download the pic though ?

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   lyricsingrayposted 14 years ago

    

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   dave272727posted 14 years ago

   I would say do what your mom wants.  But create a hub where you can be you and put whatever pictures you want.

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      lyricsingrayposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      

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   Cagsilposted 14 years ago

   I say leave it. Live dangerously.

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      lyricsingrayposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      

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      blatvaposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      Agreed! 

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   A Texanposted 14 years ago

   My mom told me to get a haircut and a real job, I decided on keeping the hair and play poker for a living!

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   Beth100posted 14 years ago

   Do what YOU want.  She's trying to control you through guilt!! (hey, you know the drill here--and I don't need to remind you!!!)
   
   You look beautiful...and with a body and face like  that, you have every right to post it anywhere you like.  Keep your pic up!!!!!
   
   xo

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      lyricsingrayposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      kiss.

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   Crazdwriterposted 14 years ago

   Okay...got a question...how old are you? I thought that you were an adult. Why is she trying to treat you like a child? I say keep the picture and tell her flat out that you are an aduly, you enjoy this picture, and you are keeping it. I'm only 26 and woudln't change my pic if my mom told me to.

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      lyricsingrayposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      indeed!

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    Ghost32posted 14 years ago

    My Mom didn't like some of what I did either, like for example dumping my first wife and introducing her to my second.  IF she was still alive and IF she was a Hubber who'd threatened me, I'd defan her first and block her. On all levels.
    
    I've never ever believed that as an adult I needed to listen to my parents.  Hell, I never listened them that much as a kid, either.
    
    But that's just me.
    
    The classic between us (Mom & me) was in 1966 when I dropped out of college to sell livestock feed and she freaked out.  Wrote me a 10-point letter that was really nasty.  So I replied...in kind.  One example I recall was a reference to my then-wife's pregnancy:
    
    Mom:  #6.  You must want to move Vicky (then-wife) away from the doctors she knows and trusts before she delivers.
    
    Me:  #6.  I figured I could borrow Dad's calf pulling equipment and do the job myself, save a bunch of money.
    
    Or a reference to my early-out from the Army to go to school.  She figured my dropping out prior to graduation put me at risk.  (It did not.)
    
    Mom: #7.  You must want to be in Viet Nam by April.
    
    Me:  #7.  They say the jungle is lovely in the spring.
    
    She quit writing for a month or so--a record between us--but she never again got that persnickety with me, either.
    
    Okay, gotta go fan ya now--can't let your numbers drop, can we?

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       Beth100posted 14 years agoin reply to this

       

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    A Texanposted 14 years ago

    Take this advice
    
    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UX0azxncAEg

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       Crazdwriterposted 14 years agoin reply to this

       I'm always scared when you pust links, Texan

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          Beth100posted 14 years agoin reply to this

          But he's so good looking!!! Gotta trust him!

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             A Texanposted 14 years agoin reply to this

             Shit, I wouldn't!

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                lyricsingrayposted 14 years agoin reply to this

                ha.

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                Beth100posted 14 years agoin reply to this

                

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          A Texanposted 14 years agoin reply to this

          Phuck it!

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       lyricsingrayposted 14 years agoin reply to this

       
       
       i love you.

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    lyricsingrayposted 14 years ago

    Thanks y'all for the advice.
    
    I am going to be an adult an keep it and politely explain to my mother why.
    
    I'm sure we'll have a good laugh after she de-fans me   just kidding
    
    she doesn't have to like it, just love me.
    
    

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       Daniel Carterposted 14 years agoin reply to this

       I think you've arrived at a good answer for you. I love my kids regardless of whether or not I agree with them. I'm sure your mom will too.

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    marcel285posted 14 years ago

    Your mum is being anal! Living in the past, we don't hide our bodies in this day and age!
    
    Besides, i think your avatar is nice. You look really sweet and pretty. Tell your mum to get a grip! It's not nudity at all.

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    mistyhorizon2003posted 14 years ago

    For Goodness sake, your Mum is complaining about what exactly Kimberly? All you are showing is a bare shoulder, it isn't as if you are completely naked. Crikey, for all anyone knows you might be wearing a boob tube, a strapless dress or a bikini below the cut off point of the photo. Women walk down the high street wearing less!
    Leave your photo as it is and tell your Mum to read this entire thread.
    
    

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    BeccaHubbardWoodsposted 14 years ago

    my sister threatens to de-fan me because of some of the material i write. i told her go right ahead because i'm not going to change it. i don't see anything wrong with your pic! you're not even showing any cleavage. big deal, shoulders and face. it's not bad.

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    rmcrayneposted 14 years ago

    You bare your soul with your writing, so your avatar seems fitting.  And both are beautiful.

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    CMHypnoposted 14 years ago

    If you are old enough to write on HubPages, you are old enough to choose your own avatar!

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    Sa Toyaposted 14 years ago

    Joining hubpages: free
    Writing your heart out:cost time but good times
    Mom joining: awww
    Mom not impressed by your naked avatar and threatening to de-fan you: priceless
    
    If it were me I'd call her bluff and throw in  pic with a right boob or something
    
    She won't de-fan you...I don't think any mom would...
    
    Thanks for the giggles....your mom loves you too much..she wouldn't have said anything if she didn't

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    NewYorkerposted 14 years ago

    Just do what your mom says. It's the easiest approach, and in a few weeks she'll have forgotten about her account here and you can put the picture back.

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    myownworldposted 14 years ago

    reading this thread, just laughing.
    yes, don't change that pic and send her a link to this thread instead!

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       lyricsingrayposted 14 years agoin reply to this

       I Know perfect
       
       BESIDES I CALLED HER BLUFF AND SHE DIDN'T DE-FAN ME 

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          myownworldposted 14 years agoin reply to this

          mothers.....!

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          Sa Toyaposted 14 years agoin reply to this

          she sounds fun though

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    tequilarosemama4posted 14 years ago

    you are your own person and that's what makes your writing so interesting to read if you are a adult i say you are entitled to do whatever you please. don't change the pic unless it is what you want to do. let her know firmly that it is your right as a adult to do things like that. but keep in mind my dear she is your only mother so do it gentely.

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    tequilarosemama4posted 14 years ago

    you go girl! nice to meet you btw

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    poetlorraineposted 14 years ago

    if she has no complaints about your writing, then i would just get a different avatar.  The best friend you can have is your mum..... you look beutiful with your clothes on, also...loose a friend or two but not your mum.....

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