Am I becoming quippy and rude?

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   sunforgedposted 14 years ago

   I remember reading the help forums when I first started out and feeling that some of the answers were a little rude or unhelpful...over time I realized those short answer were a blessing considering how many times that same person would find themselves answering it
   
   I have always tried to avoid that pattern, but lately Iv been getting complained at, have I become another jaded and rude forum member?
   
   Source: http://hubpages.com/forum/topic/34757
   
   If so, my bad

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      sneakorocksolidposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      Where do you post?

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      darksideposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      Yes.

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         darksideposted 14 years agoin reply to this

         I forgot to add... welcome to the club!

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      Justine76posted 14 years agoin reply to this

      Yes, no stop bothering me..
      
      
      I would say yay to you for not calling out "personal attack!"
      
      Whats more rude? To say someone had gotten some info wrong, or to call some one an a$$hole?  hmm...

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      Sufidreamerposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      I'm fed up of answering questions like this.
      
      The information you need is clearly stated in the Hubpages FAQ, under 'Sunforged is a big Meanie'

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      Ivorwenposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      No, your not jaded.  Just accurate!  And somebody needs to get a grip...
      Love your last post in that thread.

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      1974posted 14 years agoin reply to this

      I don't think you are rude at all.  The problem I think is Mel22, while meaning well, just gives bad advice to people.  Here is more proof of this trying to tell me that robots.txt is somehow interlinked with Google Translator.
      
      http://hubpages.com/forum/topic/34455

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         Has_aWayWithWordsposted 14 years agoin reply to this

         did you ever get your answer to the robots.txt thing?

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            1974posted 14 years agoin reply to this

            That wasn't my thread, I just posted there saying Mel made no sense whatsoever.

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      A Texanposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      You don't have to actually answer! You can ignore things that aggravate you.

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      tantrumposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      why would you care ?
      I would never think of opening a thread asking other hubbers if I'm rude or not.
      and I would never point out another hubber to ask this question !

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      Uninvited Writerposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      No...Mel keeps spouting off that he knows what he is talking about when he really doesn't and confuses people even more.

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   Lily Roseposted 14 years ago

   I don't think so.  Honestly, whenever I've asked a technical question in the forums here I've always hoped you would answer because I value you opinion and answers as you are so knowledgeable.
   
   How's the 'getting ready for baby' going?

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   theirishobserver.posted 14 years ago

   just been over to your hubs, excellent presentation and writing

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   J.J. Beachposted 14 years ago

   Ummm, no.  You've always been straight forward and quick to answer with good information.  You don't mince words -

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   Linda Myshrallposted 14 years ago

   No.  You are always polite- if sometimes direct.  You consistently offer sound advice and clear, accurate information.  There are a handful of hubbers who do most of the heavy-lifting in the question/answer department--if you guys and gals are too busy to put everything in greeting card format, then that's understandable.  We are lucky you do it.  Your efforts are much appreciated.

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   emievilposted 14 years ago

   From personal experience (when you helped me out ) and from reading the other thread, nope.

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   Susana Sposted 14 years ago

   I think you're absolutely right to correct misinformation and I don't think you've become quippy and rude. I can totally understand your frustration when confusing info is presented.
   
   The web is full of rubbish and it's nice that here at HP we can share info and lose the BS - there is a trust amongst hubbers that the info here is reliable and I think it's important to keep it that way. I know I have learnt a lot from you as have many other hubbers, and your comments, no matter how short, are always appreciated.

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   Flightkeeperposted 14 years ago

   Well I think you're very wordy and overly helpful.

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      lyricsingrayposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      ditto

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   lakeerieartistsposted 14 years ago

   No, you were entirely justified.  Yeesh!    BTW, is it me or are the forums harder to read now (out of order).

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      darksideposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      Click on Chronological view rather than Threaded.

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      Has_aWayWithWordsposted 14 years agoin reply to this

         Shall we start on the threaded vs chrono again for those who have been absent?

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         EmpressFelicityposted 14 years agoin reply to this

         :experiencing flashback: Not the jelly, please no - not the jelly! Aaaargh!

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    Randy Godwinposted 14 years ago

    jaded and rude has its place.  I've been called a donkey rectum on more than one occasion.  It grows on you!

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    Aya Katzposted 14 years ago

    Choose the Chronological option.

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    rebekahELLEposted 14 years ago

    you're always helping people, some of the questions are tiresome.
    it happens.
    
    there are a number of rude posters, I would not consider you one of them.

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    Mishaposted 14 years ago

    Welcome to the club LOL

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       Justine76posted 14 years agoin reply to this

       ultimate quippy rude hubber....

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          Mishaposted 14 years agoin reply to this

          You nailed it

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          drej2522posted 14 years agoin reply to this

          same same...proudly!

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          Mikel G Robertsposted 14 years agoin reply to this

          lol....she said Quippy....lol

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    Has_aWayWithWordsposted 14 years ago

    SUNFORGED, DON'T GET QUIPPY WITH ME!     
    
    Just kidding, I have never seen any of your posts come off that way in my opinion

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    sunforgedposted 14 years ago

    Well, thank you everybody!
    
    It was a serious question. I really wasnt sure and I didnt want to be responsible for being rough on a well meaning newcomer.
    
    @ A texan, I dont get aggravated, at least never over something that appears on a computer monitor!
    
    
    @lily rose,Thanksfor asking!  We just got our second ultrasound, everything is as it should be, signed up for parenting classes and pregnancy yoga baby was uncooperative for gender identification, so we are still in the dark about that for another 4 weeks. ill change my avatar when we get the funky 3-d ultrasound
    
    I picked up a domain where Im going to try and chronicle the expereince of a stay at home dad that is also a internet marketer

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       Lily Roseposted 14 years agoin reply to this

       That's great!  I hope you post the domain address somewhere when it's up and running.  Being a stay at home mom myself, I think it would be neat to follow what it's like for a SAHD!

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          sunforgedposted 14 years agoin reply to this

          well since its not an actual site yet  stay-at-home-dads.com
          
          im thinking log type thing to stay sane
          and some first hand product reviews to monetize

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       Justine76posted 14 years agoin reply to this

       i was in the dark for all 3!!! its kinda exciting. Good luck!
       ps...dont let one crabby hubber get to you. 

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       rmcrayneposted 14 years agoin reply to this

       My perspective is that you are particularly tolerant of newbies. You always seem to have read and appreciated the question/s vs some can't be bothered to wade through a longer post to get the gestalt of the problem or question the poster is getting at. You don't condescend to newbies, and are not rude.  Again, my perspective.

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          Hmrjmr1posted 14 years agoin reply to this

          Yepper...

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    Mikel G Robertsposted 14 years ago

    Quippy....lmao...what a word...
    
    If I ever used that word they'd throw me out and burn my bike.
    
    lol

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    Mikel G Robertsposted 14 years ago

    Q u i p p y
    
    

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       sunforgedposted 14 years agoin reply to this

       its not in my normal vocab either, was responding to this.
       
       
       
       just making sure i wasnt seeing myself through rose colored glasses

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       Mikel G Robertsposted 14 years agoin reply to this

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    Has_aWayWithWordsposted 14 years ago

    Can you make a site that is like the stay at home dads site, maybe call it I am too lazy to leave my house and I will be the head of running it... 

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    tantrumposted 14 years ago

    If I say all the things I don't like of certain hubbers....
    What's the point? Pointing out ?
    Nice !

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       tantrumposted 14 years agoin reply to this

       I think that after being here for almost 2 years, sunforged should have learned that opening a post asking for praise while pointing out another for his mistakes, is not good.
       
       
       
       So, how does it look, me pointing out sunforged ?
       Do you like it ?

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          Mishaposted 14 years agoin reply to this

          I did not look at it from this angle. While it makes sense now when you pointed this out, I would suspect this was not intended as it sounded

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             tantrumposted 14 years agoin reply to this

             Really ? and was intended how ?
             It's so obvious for me, the intention is looking for praise while belittling another.

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                Mishaposted 14 years agoin reply to this

                I think it was intended as it was stated.

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          Marisa Wrightposted 14 years agoin reply to this

          I didn't see Sunforged pointing anyone out.  Not everyone reads every thread, you know.

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             tantrumposted 14 years agoin reply to this

             What about posting the link ? what about pointing out  mel ?
             That's what I'm talking about.
             
             What are you talking about?

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                sunforgedposted 14 years agoin reply to this

                My intentions were to get another perspective for a current issue, just as I stated. Those that read my statement and the associated link could just have easily decided that I was in fact being rude in the linked conversation and i would have taken that to heart and made an effort to be more patient/informative...just because the responses didnt lean that way doesnt mean I was looking for praise.
                
                A very,very important distinction is I never pointed out anything about a hubber " i didnt like".. I continue to converse and disagree in a congenial manner with mel and sometimes agree.
                
                what the question really asks is it rude to be critical or brief in a help response...i got feedback that it was not. I continue to address incorrect information when it is posted and i have working knowledge that differs...I think i stayed rather polite considering some of the responses I received, so "belittling" is an exaggeration, hell, i think my response had quite a bit of humor in it..
                
                staying in the spirit of my sometimes "critical" responses, it clearly says 15 months right next to my picture, how is that almost two years? in fact my first hub was published on 11/15/08. Even in this short year, the forums have changed quite a bit in nature, i turned to them for early advice about the hubbing platform and later tried to return the favor..the forums were a tool then, now with so many "sandpit" "why am i banned" "whats your favorite color" type threads its lost alot of that usefulness and quick navigation for answers...so when that blather trickles into the help and knowledge forums I tend to call it out, and Im not alone in that practice.
                
                So you do misunderstand my intentions but I could see why as the forums probably seem far more social to you than they are to me...its ok If not everyone wants to be my buddy because I didnt feel like putting on the kid gloves when combatting misinformation a few times...the helpful information will still be available to me

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                   Greg Cremiaposted 14 years agoin reply to this

                   long winded answers get scanned at best.
                   brief answers get read.
                   
                   Those not wanting to be criticized need not post.

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    lakeerieartistsposted 14 years ago

    Sounds like a good idea to me.  Being a stay at home dad will be interesting to hear about.  I never got the opportunity to stay at home with my kids when they are little, but my schedule is a bit more flexible now, and I like being able to spend time with them as teenagers.  The time goes by pretty fast and it is easy to miss the fascinating people our children are. 

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    tantrumposted 14 years ago

    
    OK then. Maybe I misunderstood you, but you have to agree that it looked that way as well.
    And  I'm sure you noticed some people didn't have very kind words for mel, on  this thread. And that, obviously was going to happen.
    Anyway it's only my opinion. and that doesn't mean I don't want to be your 'buddy' or whatever.
    This is only a forum ,as I said millions of times.
    And sometimes I tend to disagree with everyone.
    As I don't have any problem posting what I think, this kind of 'conversation' happens usually when I'm around.
    
    Good to know  I was wrong about you then.
    I trust you have been sincere.

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    Greg Cremiaposted 14 years ago

    This is my 6th year on various forums and brevity is well earned/deserved. Others need to follow suit.

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    cosetteposted 14 years ago

    you've always been very helpful Sunforged, and i appreciate it. but, since you asked, in your communication with the hubber that you are talking about well, yes, i did think you came off as 'quippy' and 'rude'.

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       Mishaposted 14 years agoin reply to this

       Actually I would say SF was much nicer to mel than mel to him. And to others - I just flagged two of mel's posts when he stated that my brains are a monkey ass and he is going to fuck me.

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    Pearldiverposted 14 years ago

    Don't Sweat It J.... It's all part of becoming a protective Dad

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