So.. I'm thinking about proposing to the guy I'm in love with. We've talked about marriage, we know we're going to be together, but I'm impatient. Should I wait til he asks me (could be a couple of years) or should I ask him.. and if so.. how?? the getting down on one knee thing's kind of weird..
I think it's just madness in the worst sense of this word. If you can do this - fine, but personally I would propose someone (or ask him out, or call him first, or anything like that) only if I have a gun pointed at my head.
Can't even think of it, sends shivers down my spine.
It's 2010. Y'all supposedly wanted equality so there you go.
I was going to suggest something about getting down on BOTH knees if one is awkward BUT I will behave!
(Mind you, women from other countries and women old enough to remember when y'all couldn't VOTE might disagree with you. I think it's funny how some of your gender want dating and mating rituals to remain antiquated BUT you want to get our jobs and our pay!)
Seriously, propose if you want to . . . all he can do is say "no" or more likely in your case, "okay but not yet".
I'm all for it... I would be flattered.
How is completely up to you and your style.
Are you going to give him the ring or have a ring for you that you give to him to give to you?
but if your hub is an accurate description of your love, then I would recommend waiting.
I think you have bigger issues to deal with first.
Apparently he's cheating on his girlfriend/wife and seeing you on the side, yes?
And according to your hub, you know he's scum and he'll always be a cheater, right?
And you fully expect that he'll cheat on you, correct?
If so, I don't think proposing marriage to him at this time is a real solid idea.
Seriously, this quote from your hub sounds like a mess you should run away from like yesterday:
"And I feel horrible for the girl that is the other part of this love triangle I'm in, because I'm afraid she as no idea (hence why I can't trust anyone). The man I have the unfortunate (and somewhat dubious) pleasure of being in love with, is scum. He and I are best friends, I know everything about him, he is a serial cheat, and will no doubt do the same to me. A year and a half ago I would have scoffed and said "if you know all this how can you possibly be in love with him??". There is no answer to this. I just am. Trust me I don't want to be, and I hate being this person but I am. I can't imagine my life without him. I just want him to be mine, I have never wanted to be the add-on to anyone elses relationship."
I am all for girls asking guys out, making the first move, so marriage....why not? I raise a glass to independent, free-speaking women. Woo hoo.
Normally I would be all for it too.
But did you actually read what her situation is?
Some men like Dominant women. Women who can take decisions for them. If he is like that, Do it!!!
Otherwise, if he is the type that likes to be in charged just gently "push" him, so he thinks is his idea
I have missed something I went to the first post and it doesn't say her guy is married or attached. Where does it say that Sara as yes it would change my opinion of proposal.
I think the full info is in her hub blondpoet.
It's in her hub. I included a large quote from her hub in my initial post.
Oh thanks guys will go read it. Damn I wouldn't make a good reporter haha, with no idea where the background info is.
where I come from, a girl who proposes to a guy is either called "desperado" or an "invalid"..
I find it lame really for a girl to propose probably because I was brought up to the culture of it's a man's responsibility to do so.. I personally would NEVER propose no matter how much I'm in love.. best you leave him to do it.. it's more romantic and meaningful..
I see nothing wrong with it but before you ask talk to him about it and make it seem like it's his idea, you know that female thing you do to get what you want.
Personally I'd be rubbing chillie juice on his underpants not proposing tohim - you only propose to someone who you know respects you for who you are . Anyway you sound like a nice person - go find a nice guy andhave some fun - enjoy life - it sounds like this guy has you chained to his heart - guess what - chains rust!!
Get to know yourself and get to like yourself a real lot - the way I see it if you let this guy do this to you - then you don't like yourself that much and he knows it and uses this to string you along.
Howver it is as always your call - but with Valentines day coming up why don't you make him a nice Chocolate Cake with LAXETTES
However back to the question - Yeap Iam all for the lady doing the asking.. my sister-in-law did it and my brother loved it...
Well, the world has changed. Traditionally, it's the men who propose but there's nothing wrong in you asking.
These days, men propose to women, women propose to men, men propose to men......
I hope he says yes.
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