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Who Cares, Really?

  1. Stimp profile image78
    Stimpposted 7 years ago

    Who really cares what we all go gonin' on?  How can a person feel real empathy for someone they've never met.  I feel pretty lonely right Now.  Not feelin like anyone gives two shts about more than getting scores.  Maybe I'm wrong....Don't care one way or the other.  Those who want to interject with some sort of fuckd up religious comment, can save it...please.

    1. earnestshub profile image88
      earnestshubposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      I think that as in any community, there is real empathy.
      I feel my own pain for the loss of my little mate Gizmo, and when I see this, I admit I am feeling my pain, but I find it easier to relate to your pain through shared experience.Does that make sense?
      Any way my genuine best wishes. smile

      1. Stimp profile image78
        Stimpposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        That does make sense.  Thank you.

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      sophsposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      You're not alone, I feel lonely too Stimp sad  Big hugs for you! ((HUGS))

    3. KT Banks profile image61
      KT Banksposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      Hi, sorry to say that it seems like just as I get interested in a forum.Eeveryone leaves it. I must be a forum killer.

      Anyway, what you've got here is someone with so much empathy, that I have to take medicine for it (Zoloft). I worry about soldiers fighting in these wars. I worry about homeless and hungry people. I feel sorry for athletic teams that lose because it seems the media likes to focus in on their poor faces than the champs.

      When world tragedy's happen, I take it personally. Especially 9-11, it's my birthday.

      And now I'm worried that when they BOMBED the moon (w/o even asking anyone), it did have pretty devastating effects on the earth. Now since the recent earthquakes, the earth has shifted on it's axis. The North Pole is something like 2.54 centimeters to the left of where it should be.

      So I try to think of the good things. the beauty of the moon and the sky, the laughter of kids, the smell of my husband, the fact that as of now, my 3 sons seem pretty well adjusted, even with me as their MOM.LOL The taste of ice cream. The color of a flower.  See, now I'm worried about you and trying to give you good things to think about. smile
      Go take a shower and sing as loud as you can. People really do care.

      1. Stimp profile image78
        Stimpposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        I will do just that....thank you!!!!!

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      china manposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      There is more empathy and kindness here than appears sometimes, there is a crazy thread around somewhere that I go to just to read the nice stuff. Faybe has the best suggestion in my opinion - writing about the character rather than the loss is feel good stuff.

    5. tantrum profile image61
      tantrumposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      Well, nobody cares ,really.
      Only your friends would. Have you make friends here , in this Virtual World?
      I have. Not many. Five or six.
      The rest wouldn't care if I die tomorrow.
      But this happens in and out of the web. It's called life !

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        Justine76posted 7 years ago in reply to this

        better five good internet friends then fifty back stabbing fake real world friends..

        1. tantrum profile image61
          tantrumposted 7 years ago in reply to this

          That's true !
          and you're one of my good friends here ! big_smile

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            Justine76posted 7 years ago in reply to this

            big_smile thanks  xo
            Ive got to get going soon, have a great day Tantrum!!
            Hope your day gets bettter fast Stimp.

            1. tantrum profile image61
              tantrumposted 7 years ago in reply to this

              A wonderful day to you !

    6. skyfire profile image73
      skyfireposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      You'll see many people having similar situations like yours on internet. Everybody seeks some space by opening up their heart. Internet is one place to do that cause you get at least one thread with anonymous/known readers for it. Nobody wants to be lonely, but they become whether they like it or not. In reality nobody really cares what we feel or think be it online or offline, everybody pretends to be a friend.  Harsh truth, sooner we learn about this the better. On HP you've got some good people to make you feel better by responding to you and that's very important IMO.

      1. tantrum profile image61
        tantrumposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        Then I'm a very lucky person, as I have really good friends ! Every time I have a problem they're there, so they must be true friends.
        They have prove me their love millions of times !

        I'm sorry for you, if you never had friends like this ! sad

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          china manposted 7 years ago in reply to this

          I have to agree here - there are good friends here on Hubs - virtual friends do still have real people behind them and their character shows through, really. smile

          1. tantrum profile image61
            tantrumposted 7 years ago in reply to this

            I'm talking about 'RealWorld ' friends.
            Skyfire said all where not true. In and out the web.

            My friends here on hubs, are good 'virtual friends'
            But I don't know how would they be in 'real' life.
            They don't know me that well either.
            That doesn't mean I don't  hope and think they're really incredible people.

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              china manposted 7 years ago in reply to this

              I think that is what I was saying. As I see the interactions on here the characters are coming quite clear for some people, you included. I find myself liking some people, you included, and also some of the slightly cranky religious people and also some of the  people who argue with them. There are also a group of pretentious t**ts who I try to avoid, **shrugs**, all like a normal social circle or a local bar.

              1. tantrum profile image61
                tantrumposted 7 years ago in reply to this

                Thank you for liking me ! big_smile

                I'll pay more attention to you. I'm sure I would like you as well !
                I don't have much time lately. I used to be in the forums a lot. One of the reasons is, I like to study characters. Sometimes a post comments that I know are going to move some of them, to see their reactions LOL!
                But everything I say is what I truly think.
                I'm always sincere

        2. skyfire profile image73
          skyfireposted 7 years ago in reply to this

          Yes, you've very good friends around and I'll say you're lucky if we compare this with others(including me). My worst experience is with off-line people, and on-line to some extent besides that I came across lot of good people on-line and that matters to me otherwise you can guess i might have created such threads which rarely help for people like me who goes too deep into any topic. big_smile

  2. Mikel G Roberts profile image88
    Mikel G Robertsposted 7 years ago

    ?

  3. Stimp profile image78
    Stimpposted 7 years ago

    What's the "?" sugar?  What you need to know???

  4. Stimp profile image78
    Stimpposted 7 years ago

    I hate to be negative.....Stimp (the real STIMP) died one year from today and I could just die....he was my life companion, he was my baby....and he's gone.  And, it is what it is.

  5. drej2522 profile image86
    drej2522posted 7 years ago

    I've seen that you've taken the cynical route as of late, Stimp...this isn't like you, what's up??

  6. Stimp profile image78
    Stimpposted 7 years ago

    THAT'S WHAT I THOUGHT.  EVERYONE POURS THEMSELVES OUT ON B.S. TOPICS, BUT WHEN SOMEONE REALLY NEEDS SUPPORT, OOOOPS TIME TO MAKE DINNER. WHATEVER.

    1. drej2522 profile image86
      drej2522posted 7 years ago in reply to this

      Well, I'm here...how can I help?

      1. Stimp profile image78
        Stimpposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        It's just hard.  Alot of milestones are coming up and it seems I'm alone.  I couldn't give two shits about everyone (guy)....but it seems like if your avatar is a naked woman, you get more support....regardless of your intelligence or whatever.  Whatever....you are right, I am bitter...more than more than normal.  You can't say what you want here cuz people generally attack you for not feeling they way they want or taking the consensus on stuff.....subsequently, I keep quiet.

        1. drej2522 profile image86
          drej2522posted 7 years ago in reply to this

          I agree. I think the majority of people on this site are generally good people, but there seems to be a bit of a detachment here. People fall into two categories (when it comes to the forums) One: Wayyyyyyy too serious Two: Money, money, money...Then again, I guess that's the bottom line no matter where you go. Sorries, Stimp. (Hugs of support)

          1. Stimp profile image78
            Stimpposted 7 years ago in reply to this

            I know.   I agree.  I just think it's such a fckd up facade of "oh we all give two shts about you" when people really dont't. I'm not gonna tell you only what you want to hear BUT what you need to hear...the truth.  Whatever....maybe those here are too young to get it....I don't know.  Really doesn't matter.

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          Justine76posted 7 years ago in reply to this

          hey, I just got here so I didnt know you were having a bad night. For what its worth, I do care. Sometimes I DO have to go make dinner, but I still care.  sad I hope you take Faybe's very good advice, and write. Or maybe do like Crazed does, write him a letter? Its hard at first, but it can help to get the bitterness and anger about it out, and you can move on with healing. I hope your feeling a little better today, Stimp.

  7. defenestratethis profile image60
    defenestratethisposted 7 years ago

    I know it sucks to be lonely, and to go through a great loss. I too think that for the most part, people arent all that concerned with just exactly who (and what their circumstances are) is on the other side of the screen far away. And I say  "F*ck em". Main thing is to take care of yourself in any way you can. Youre all youve got, ya know?

    1. Stimp profile image78
      Stimpposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      Thank you.  I just have alot of grief that has to let go before I can let go of these milestones.  I'm sorry to everyone who feels I'm being offensive or whatever.  I'm just sad, that's all.  No biggie.

    2. Stimp profile image78
      Stimpposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      Thanks.  I wish you were here to go on a horse trail ride with me......LOL

      1. defenestratethis profile image60
        defenestratethisposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        That would be awesome. My grandfather used to train race horses and he also had a ranch...it was so much fun in those days!! smile

  8. Faybe Bay profile image85
    Faybe Bayposted 7 years ago

    Stimp, I was surprised that it was you who had a problem. I read your Sally story, the other day.

    Have you written a Stimp story? I had a really bad day, day before yesterday, spent half of it crying. I wrote a dud of a hub for the challenge and realized I was not up for challenges. Then I wrote some that mattered.

    If you have written a hub about your companion, I would love to read it, and if you haven't maybe it will help.

    1. earnestshub profile image88
      earnestshubposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      That sounds like a good idea. smile

    2. Stimp profile image78
      Stimpposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      You know what, sugar, I've not done that....and why?   I'm not sure.  He difinitely is worthy of it. Thank you for the idea.

      1. Faybe Bay profile image85
        Faybe Bayposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        I went to youtube to get some hugs for you but someone hijacked the link.

        I'm gonna keep trying.

        Found it here's your ((HUGS))

        http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PpzkHhgcZG4

      2. drej2522 profile image86
        drej2522posted 7 years ago in reply to this

        Actually, that may help workout some inner-strife...talking about it in a detailed hub and all. Good luck, I can't wait to read it...

        As for the facade, or illusion, I would just take it with a grain of salt. There are a few people here that have your back, Stimp. Count me in!!!

  9. Faybe Bay profile image85
    Faybe Bayposted 7 years ago

    Me too, I am making about $1.40 a month, I don't think I am in it for the money. smile

    1. drej2522 profile image86
      drej2522posted 7 years ago in reply to this

      hey, that's big bucks!! smile

      1. Faybe Bay profile image85
        Faybe Bayposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        Goodnight drej, keep an eye on everyone, don't let them fall too deep, and here are some ((HUGS)) to pass around.

        http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PpzkHhgcZG4

    2. earnestshub profile image88
      earnestshubposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      Capitalist!

  10. Stimp profile image78
    Stimpposted 7 years ago

    How 'bout if Drej were to move in with me and be my boy toy....LOL....then I'm sure I'll smile (or laugh....whichever.)

    1. drej2522 profile image86
      drej2522posted 7 years ago in reply to this

      I totally fell asleep before I was able to read this post! Ha...nice, Stimp! nice!

  11. Jane@CM profile image60
    Jane@CMposted 7 years ago

    Stimp, hope your day gets better!

    Tantrum is right, internet friends are hard to come by. But this is a good community.  You can make friends here if you want. 

    I agree, write the Stimp story.

  12. Stuart Barnes profile image59
    Stuart Barnesposted 7 years ago

    I was thinking about this the other day.  We have all these great methods of communication but we still feel lonely.  I think communicating is not the answer, it is connection and I am not sure you can do that over the web.
    When feeling down I go out and do something nice for someone, even just a smile, and I always feel better.
    That is not a flippant answer either.  I think the key to happiness is connecting with other souls.

  13. skyfire profile image73
    skyfireposted 7 years ago

    Agree.

  14. wrenfrost56 profile image81
    wrenfrost56posted 7 years ago

    Sorry to hear of your greif and sorrow stimp. People do care and I'm sure many can identify with you. All the best, chin up and take care.

  15. Stimp profile image78
    Stimpposted 7 years ago

    Thanks all for your messages and insight.  Today is the one year anniversary of the REAL Stimp's death.  Tough day....we grew up together basically and I miss him tremendously.  True, he was "just" a dog but he was my companion and like a child.  Some day I will write about him.  Thanks again, all...I appreciate it.

  16. Ohma profile image79
    Ohmaposted 7 years ago

    Stimp, Yor story about "Ben" was one of the first Hubs I read and as it turns out one of my favorites.
    I am sorry that you are feeling down today.
    I do not know you and you do not know me
    but if you just need someone to rant at please fell free.

    1. Stimp profile image78
      Stimpposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      Thanks, Ohma....I appreciate and thank you sooo much...

      Drej...I'll get back to you later....yes, I'm feeling much better.  It was nearly 50 degrees today and I was able to take my little doggie for a walk...IN SHORTS!!  That's right, I had shorts on.  Not sure which was brighter the sun reflecting off the snow or reflecting off my legs

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        Justine76posted 7 years ago in reply to this

        smile lucky....

        1. Stimp profile image78
          Stimpposted 7 years ago in reply to this

          Lucky that my legs are whiter than my Eskie's fur?  Ya, I'm pretty lucky that way....

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            Justine76posted 7 years ago in reply to this

            lucky you got warm today
            it snowed here

            1. Stimp profile image78
              Stimpposted 7 years ago in reply to this

              Well don't send it my way or I'll slip into deep depression and we can't have that.  I growl alot when that happens as you know.

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                Justine76posted 7 years ago in reply to this

                ah, its all gone, no fear!!

 
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