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Don't you hate it when...

  1. FranyaBlue profile image76
    FranyaBlueposted 6 years ago

    someone asks you for your opinion and then they get angry because they don't like what you think.

    Why bother asking?

    1. Mark Knowles profile image60
      Mark Knowlesposted 6 years ago in reply to this

      No - It is often possible to identify those people asking a question for validation of their own beliefs that are not really interested in contrary opinions. wink

      1. FranyaBlue profile image76
        FranyaBlueposted 6 years ago in reply to this

        Mark I don't like your opinion, how dare you disagree with me! smile

        But really, why get angry about it?

        To avoid the nasty situation I would have to lie....even if I said no comment I would be giving away my real thoughts and be no better off....it's just a stupid trap.

        1. mythbuster profile image85
          mythbusterposted 6 years ago in reply to this

          But it's not just a trap if you suspend your beliefs as much as possible, first, then listen to the other person.

          You may not have to lie and say you appreciate their opinion when you really don't (not meaning YOU exactly - just you=the person involved in this)...that is, if you can actually respect what they're saying.

          I think this is something that takes actual effort and practice and that usually (at least in North America where I'm from) people aren't being taught the skill of listening - while we are taught all sorts of things about expressing (free speech laws?) and how to do information output...

          I have been in a dilemma, myself, trying to learn this better listening thing and suspension of belief - because nobody ever brought this to my attention and I had to actually go into classes about a half decade ago to learn how to start being respectful with other peoples' opinions...

          1. FranyaBlue profile image76
            FranyaBlueposted 6 years ago in reply to this

            I didn't really mean lie to appreciate their opinion I meant lie about my opinion to avoid hurt feelings of the person asking.

            If someone asks my opinion I will usually give it straight, perhaps I am a bit insensitive but what I think is what I think.

            If the other person actually listens to the opinion they have asked for, suspend their beliefs like you said, and take it in then it would be good for them, I just don't understand why people ask for an opinion when they don't really want one.

            1. kcreery profile image59
              kcreeryposted 6 years ago in reply to this

              Just agree with them and see if that placates them.  You are entitled to your opinion.  Sometimes people don't like to hear opposite views.

        2. Mark Knowles profile image60
          Mark Knowlesposted 6 years ago in reply to this

          Yup - It is a trap. You will see a lot of that in the religion and politics forums..... big_smile

          1. FranyaBlue profile image76
            FranyaBlueposted 6 years ago in reply to this

            lol very true....just a game of batting questions back and forth...people don't bother with understanding answers just with trying to think of what question they can bat back. or no questions at all....just blatant ignorant rambles smile

    2. Origin profile image60
      Originposted 6 years ago in reply to this

      I think some people want a pat on the back, rather than constructive criticism. But who knows. smile

      1. FranyaBlue profile image76
        FranyaBlueposted 6 years ago in reply to this

        probably. But I just hate it when someone asks me when they don't really want to know what I think. It's like that old question 'Does my bum look big in this?'

        I'm just having a moan really smile

        1. Rochelle Frank profile image87
          Rochelle Frankposted 6 years ago in reply to this

          There's a Whine and cheese thread currently on the boards.

          1. FranyaBlue profile image76
            FranyaBlueposted 6 years ago in reply to this

            Thanks Rochelle. I'm in need of more moan therapy.

    3. Greek One profile image78
      Greek Oneposted 6 years ago in reply to this

      Do you really want me to answer this question...

      or will you hit me if i do?

      1. FranyaBlue profile image76
        FranyaBlueposted 6 years ago in reply to this

        lol, no I'm not the violent type smile

  2. goldenpath profile image80
    goldenpathposted 6 years ago

    Don't you hate it when your finger gets stuck in your nose?  Thank the Man upstairs for the Fire Department... smile

    1. FranyaBlue profile image76
      FranyaBlueposted 6 years ago in reply to this

      lol Never had my finger stuck up my nose (well, not permanently) but had my arm stuck behind a radiator....took 7 fire men to free me smile

      1. goldenpath profile image80
        goldenpathposted 6 years ago in reply to this

        Pooooop!  I bet that sucked.

 
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