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    melissajaneposted 6 years ago

    hey my ex boyfriend and i went out for 6 months.
    during that time, we got along extremely well and had a passion i have never felt with any one else ever, and he felt the same.
    although we are both only 18. so during our relationship he dumped me twice out of absolutely no where. it was when he was hanging around his friends and all of his friends were dumping there girlfriends so they can be 18 and live it up. so the first time he dumped me, he said i just dont like you that way anymore.. and i didnt believe him. a few days after he dumped me, a boy tried to kiss me and he didnt like this boy, and when he found out he admitted he was shattered. after this we got back together when he saw me a few days after and claimed he missed me.
    we got back together and things were so great. the love for each other was so obvious and we always laughed and couldnt stand to be apart. this soon came crashing down when he spent a weekend with his mates and the next day he dumped me again. after this i was so upset as i just found out i was pregnant but had not told him yet. i kept ringing him and ringing him begging him to take me back and he wouldnt. he just kept ignoring me saying he doesnt like me anymore. after about a week of continually ringing him i told him i was pregnant. he was there for me the whole time, until i miscarriaged. both of us have been depressed since then, but he says he handles it by himself and doesnt know how to be there for me, even though when we were going out he was the best conforter when i was down. he says he doesnt like me at all anymore and just wants all this to go away, and he also says he doesnt want to be friends. he  just doesnt want to hang out with me. and when i ask why he says i dont know i just dont. this makes me feel so horrible and i havent messaged him in the last 3 days which is big for me. but im wondering do you think he still likes me or what? becuase he has said it many times before but then admits he did really like me he just lied about it. but this time hes saying no im not lying i really dont like you. im over you. what should i do, i want him back so badly, especially now after everything we have been through. but he will avoid contacting me and he wont see me.

  2. starme77 profile image85
    starme77posted 6 years ago

    Your only 18 - my advice - there are more fish in the sea - this one seems to be severly confused - in turn he causes you severe confusion and at 18 you don't need that in your life  - move on - your young - go out - have fun - don't get tied down to serious relationships at this point in your life - you have plenty of time for that - enjoy life right now, experience all life has to offer - the right one will come along - in the mean time - just be young , have fun,  and be free smile

  3. habee profile image91
    habeeposted 6 years ago

    I agree with Starme!

  4. Mike Lickteig profile image91
    Mike Lickteigposted 6 years ago

    Starme is absolutely right.

  5. gramarye profile image61
    gramaryeposted 6 years ago

    Starme has said all the right things, listen to good advice now.

  6. DavitosanX profile image80
    DavitosanXposted 6 years ago

    Starme pretty muched summed it up. This guy sounds like he has serious insecurity issues, and you deserve someone better. I'm sorry to hear you had a miscarriage. This is a very difficult experience altogether, and it can damage a relationship. It seems that it was far too much for him to handle. My advice is that you wait a little, make peace with yourself, and then try to find someone who is mature, understanding, and that can give you what you need.