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   Lecieposted 13 years ago

   hi,
        i don't know how many of you remember me talking about my sister with lupus but i need all of your positive thoughts and prayers right now. i just got a call, my sister has been moved into icu and is in a comma the doctors are saying that she can go either way. either she'll pull through or...
   i can't get up there until the morning, if this is the end for her i hope i get to say goodbye. the world is so unfair, she has a 5 year old daughter, why is she dying instead of me, i don't have any kids. i would give anything to trade places with her.

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      Stevennix2001posted 13 years agoin reply to this

      omg, that's terrible lecie. im sorry to hear this is happening to you. i hope things work out okay....

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         Lecieposted 13 years agoin reply to this

         thanks steven, i need someone to talk to because the more i just sit here the more i cry.

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            Stevennix2001posted 13 years agoin reply to this

            no problem lecie. besides, what are friends for?  i hope you do get to see her tonite.  it's a shame i don't live close to you and have a car. otherwise i'd offer to give you a ride up there.

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               Lecieposted 13 years agoin reply to this

               awww, i know you would steven, thanks the good thoughts are what count right now. since talking on here i'm not crying so hard. i just need to talk to someone and i don't have anyone here besides my cat. my cat is asleep so there goes my luck with her. i really appreciate everyone on hp for being here for me. you are all so wonderful. oh no, i'm crying again. well enough of that.

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                  prettydarkhorseposted 13 years agoin reply to this

                  you can get a pen and try to write something, just cry so you can let the tears roll, it helps and go near your cat

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                     Lecieposted 13 years agoin reply to this

                     a few days ago my mom called to tell me that my sister was back in the hospital but it looked like one of her routine visits with the lupus. i sat down and wrote a poem in case it wasn't a routine visit. i put it on my page, i know i'm not supposed to mention my hubs but i just want everyone to know how special my sister is to me. i mean if she dies i'll be losing one of my best friends. i've been crying on and off ever since she went in. i guess i just had this feeling that this was not a routine visit.

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                        prettydarkhorseposted 13 years agoin reply to this

                        did she read it? I'll go and read it, I thought you posted it here,

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                           Lecieposted 13 years agoin reply to this

                           i haven't had a chance to talk to her since i wrote it. it's just the pain i'm feeling at the thought of losing her. i will make sure to take it with me tomorrow. hopefully it's just what she needs to pull through.

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                              prettydarkhorseposted 13 years agoin reply to this

                              it will be nice if she can read it, must be a wonderful piece, I'll cook and will check out again this thread later, bye for now,
                              Steven will take care of you and HP people

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                     Stevennix2001posted 13 years agoin reply to this

                     yeah i agree with that.  besides, you shouldn't hold back your emotions if you feel like crying.  trust me.  i've done that my whole life. now, i often feel like im dead inside all the time.  therefore, you shouldn't hold back if you feel the need to cry.

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                        prettydarkhorseposted 13 years agoin reply to this

                        Hi Steven, good afternoon

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                           Stevennix2001posted 13 years agoin reply to this

                           hi, hows it going pretty darkhorse?  long time no see.

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                              prettydarkhorseposted 13 years agoin reply to this

                              I am fine it is still sunny here, I am good, it is nice to see you again here, hope you're always ok and I can see that you're helping ms lecie too, you're always nice Steven,

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                                 Stevennix2001posted 13 years agoin reply to this

                                 aw thanks pretty darkhorse. your always very nice yourself.  im doing okay these days.  just been busy a lot with work, but im fine.  i hope your doing well too.

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                        Lecieposted 13 years agoin reply to this

                        right now i just need to talk to someone and you all are doing a wonderful job listening. i'm trying not to cry too much because i'm afraid that i may lose my hope with the tears. i know that sounds silly but i'd just rather talk for now and cry when i know there's no hope left.

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                           Stevennix2001posted 13 years agoin reply to this

                           im glad to hear you haven't lost hope yet then. im sure things will be okay.  just try not to lose hope, as anything can happen at this point.  are you going to be okay?

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                              Lecieposted 13 years agoin reply to this

                              yes, my dad is driving my three sisters and me up there to see her tomorrow so we'll all be there for her praying for a recovery. she does have a daughter who needs her. so if there's any god let's hope he's a merciful one.

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      prettydarkhorseposted 13 years agoin reply to this

      you're such a loving soul, I have a sister too so I can feel for you! If anything comes to worst, I know she will be happy knowing, her daughter have an aunt who cares,
      
      All my prayers so she can pull through, HUGS my dear!

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         Lecieposted 13 years agoin reply to this

         thanks,  i just wish i could get up there tonight i just can't stand sitting here waiting for a ride and visiting hours. i'm going crazy with worry that i might not get to say goodbye.

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            prettydarkhorseposted 13 years agoin reply to this

            Oh, just sit tight and bow your head, I know that the minutes are ticking like crazy for you, I still pray that you can be with her soonest!

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               Lecieposted 13 years agoin reply to this

               thanks so much for being here when i need someone.

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      Ben Evansposted 13 years agoin reply to this

      Lecie,
      
      I haven't had a chance to meet you but I would like to say I hope that everything goes well for your sister.  While it has been awhile ago my dad died and I still think about it.  I know it is hard.
      
      I just hope that your sister does well.
      
      Best wishes
      
      Ben

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         Lecieposted 13 years agoin reply to this

         thanks so much for your kind words it means a lot right now and i'm sorry you lost your father. i hate when we have to lose someone. especially when it seems like they have so much more to live for.

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      listen-obeyposted 13 years agoin reply to this

      Hi
      Even though I do not know you I am sorry to hear about your sister. It made me think about my twin sister who died along time ago.  If you can not get to the hospital say a prayer for her.  Be the best aunt you can be to your niece because she needs you now and will need you in the future. May God bless you and I am continuing to pray for you and your sister

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      Consuliaposted 13 years agoin reply to this

      Hello, and in moments like these words do seem so useless. Unless we can
      draw on the faithfulness and promises made to us by Our Lord-Jesus. In the
      name of Jesus there is Power to Heal, comfort and the unimaginable miraculous that often surpasses what we can conceive. I have had His healing intervention in several occasions. I was hit by a car, and the Power
      in the name of Jesus healed me. Even when I wanted to sue the driver, The
      Lord, refused to allow me to do that because He wanted to prove to me that
      He is the source of my needs. the Lord is Our Shepherd. My admiration is
      for you and your selfless love for your sister. Prayers will be made and God's
      will, will be done. Read Psalm 67. Ask for healing for your loved one. He is
      wiser than our thinking. -consulia

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      kitieveposted 13 years agoin reply to this

      It is the first time I go to this forum,I am very sorry to hear about such news.You can do nothing but spending more time with her and tell her you will do your best to look after her daughter.Let her go peacefully without pity.

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   Wendi Mposted 13 years ago

   Lecie, I am so sorry.  My thoughts and prayers are with you.
   
   Wendi

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      Lecieposted 13 years agoin reply to this

      thanks so much we really need them.

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   SomewayOuttaHereposted 13 years ago

   Hi Lecie...i wish your family well...i'm sure it'll feel sooooooooooo good to see your sis tomorrow!...it's hard when you can't see her....tomorrow is just around the corner.....

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      Lecieposted 13 years agoin reply to this

      yes i just hope she holds on that long. thanks for the positive thoughts though.

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   Stevennix2001posted 13 years ago

   hey lecie, i just read your poem you wrote, and i think it's very beautiful.  you should definitely print it up and give it your sister as a present when you see her tommorrow.  i bet that would brighten her up.

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   blondepoetposted 13 years ago

   
   
   My thoughts and heart are with you Lecie. All us guys are right behind you.

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      HEATHERH91posted 13 years agoin reply to this

      I'm praying for you and your sister.

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   emievilposted 13 years ago

   My prayers go out to you and your sister Lecie. Hope you will get to see her. I know how it feels to not be able to see a loved one before he / she dies. My father died so suddenly, we didn't have time to say goodbye to him. He died in the middle of the night with no family beside him. That was 3 years ago, until now I feel sad to know that we weren't there when he needed us.

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      sofsposted 13 years agoin reply to this

      My prayers for your sister Lecie , for you and for your little niece. I haven't  met you but I know this is a difficult time and God is with you.  I pray that you could just meet her and express all that's is in your heart.  I will continue to pray.

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   Aficionadaposted 13 years ago

   Loving thoughts and prayers are with all of your family, including your sister's family, during this difficult time.

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   Lecieposted 13 years ago

   hey everyone, we still need your prayers. my sister is still unresponsive. the doctors told us what caused her comma. when her lupus attacked her liver causing it to fail the doctors put her on medications to strengthen her liver. but since the liver is what filters the medication through our bodies and hers was not working right, the medication went straight to her brain inducing this period of unresponsiveness as the doctors call it or a comma as we call it. according to the doctors she will wake up as soon as the medications wear off. let's hope they're right and that there will not be any brain damage. thank you all so much for your support and i will try to keep you updated.

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   Aficionadaposted 13 years ago

   Thanks for the update, Lecie.  Sending hugs your way. {{{ }}}

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    Daniel Carterposted 13 years ago

    Lupus is a horrible disease, and you're right, life is very unfair. But I'll bet your sister would want you to live on and live the best life you can, even if she can't. You know what she would say to you. It's obvious that you love each other. And as you say, she could actually rally. It has happened before.
    
    I'm so sorry this is happening. Sending all kindest and best thoughts to you and your family.

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    worldgrandeurposted 13 years ago

    I'm so terribly sorry for you dear!!!! This is so so so sad. I really wish her a quick recovery and what she needs now is just a pure prayer.

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    Lecieposted 13 years ago

    i just received another update about my sister. the doctor's tried to give her some kind of medication to wake her up. well not only did she not wake up but she is much worse. now not only is her liver still failing but her kidneys are too. she can't breath very good on her own any more either so the doctors had to insert a trachea tube. she just keeps slipping farther towards death every hour. the doctors claim to be doing what they can to bring her out of this, but it seems they are just making things worse at every turn.they have actually made a few mistakes along the way here. it's not just that i'm looking for someone to blame. they are even lying to us when ever they can. so my mom will be looking for an attorney should my sister not pull through. things just aren't looking good at all. i just keep wishing that i could trade places with her so that she can raise her little girl. we are all so worried about how she's going to take it if her mom dies. she's only 5 so we're not sure if she even understands any of this. sure she understands that mommy is sick and that's why she can't come home but what do we tell her if her mom dies? she thinks the doctors are making mommy better so if they fail will she then hate or fear doctors? we all just keep going over all of this in our minds. not to mention that none of us can afford to bury her. we don't even really know where she wants to be buried. we need her to wake up at least for a little while so we can ask her questions like that.

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       Home Girlposted 13 years agoin reply to this

       How old is your sister? You should be there with her. Your positive energy might help, your presence might help, you should be there!

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       prettydarkhorseposted 13 years agoin reply to this

       Hi lecie, thanks for your updates. I wish she can wake up a bit and tell her last wishes, I know that it is difficult for your family right now, but about lawyers etc, think about it afterwards. I think that your niece is the most important person right now.
       
       My prayers are with you and your family.

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       Daniel Carterposted 13 years agoin reply to this

       I know this may be very difficult for you to do, but if you can just get to a place where everything is still and be with the stillness, you'll know what your sister's wishes would be. It will come to you. You'll feel clear and at peace about it.
       
       Personally, when I was a child, I was told a lot of things that weren't true, and it only brought more pain and suffering to me. As a child I just wanted to know the truth, and to have help in understanding what it meant, and knowing I didn't have to get through it alone. That's how I've raised my own kids, by telling them the truth, even when it's painful, and then helping them get through it. It causes a lot less long-term suffering, I believe.
       
       I'm so sorry your family is going through this.

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       Stevennix2001posted 13 years agoin reply to this

       omg lecie.  that's terrible.  here, i was hoping things would've gotten better since the last time i saw you.  however, it seems things have taken a turn for the worse.  i hope your sister is able to pull through.  if not, i would probably try to keep as accurate paperwork over everything that goes on at the hospital, as you'll probably need it for your case if your family should decide to sue the hospital. anyways, i hope things work out for the best.

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    Richard Craigposted 13 years ago

    I'm sorry to hear the news.  Just keep strong, it will help you, your sister and her daughter.  I;m sure she knows you love her.

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    Lecieposted 13 years ago

    i just got another call from my mom, my sister is dying right now. all of her major organs have shut down i need to be there but i don't have a ride i cant afford cab fare to take me all the way there so im stuck unable to get 2 my dying sister and my mom. i hate this place so much i hate everything on earth iwould give anything right now to trade places with her you guys have beeen great. as i sit here alone unable to do anything or be there tears streaming down i have no one here with me to hug or hold on to my cat is here but shes never seen me cry before and she takes off hiding when i go near her. i just   don't know what2 do

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       Stevennix2001posted 13 years agoin reply to this

       its okay lecie.  it doesn't sound like there's much you can do right now.....  you shouldn't be so hard on yourself...

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    Richard Craigposted 13 years ago

    I can only imagine what you are going through.  Keep your chin up and remember what ever happens, celebrate the good times, don't dwell on the bad.

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    Lecieposted 13 years ago

    i just got the call she died

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    heather4posted 13 years ago

    IM SORRY TO HERE THAT DEATH IS NEVER EASY TO DEAL WITH AND EVEN MORE HARD TO UNDERSTAND WHY IT SEEMS LIKE THE GOOD ONES ALWAYS GO FIRST I LOST MY FATHER AND MY GRANDMOYHER 2MONTHS APART I STILL CANT GET OVER IT BUT IT DOSE GET BETTER YOU NEVER FOR GET THEM AND YOU WISH SOMETIMES YOU COULD JUST SEE THEM ONE MORE TIME BUT YOU CAN,T BEST WISHES TO YOU

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    Lecieposted 13 years ago

    my sister was only 38 years old she had a great life to look forward to in raising her 5 year old daughter. right after her daughter was born my sister began experiencing health problems and was diagnosed with lupus. she had lupus in her blood to start with basically it just attacked her skin at first making her look like she had some kind of flesh eating disease and then it quickly turned in ward to all of her organs. her liver has failed more than twice along with her kidneys. she recovered every time except this one. i guess the lupus just wouldn't let go of her long enough this time. she got an infection from grant hospital(they're denying she got it there of course.) soon after she was sent to a nursing home to rebuild her muscles. then the lupus attacked again but because of the infection from grant hospital they couldn't treat her. so i blame grant hospital for her death. if she hadn't gotten an infection there she could've been treated a lot sooner which might have saved her life. i thank you all for your support my family is looking into what we can do about grant hospital, so hopefully we can get some kind of justice for my sister. the infection she got can only come from hospitals, nursing homes or public restrooms. as sick as my sister was she didn't visit any public restroom. the nursing home has proof that she had the infection before arriving there, so the place she was before that was grant hospital.

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       Stevennix2001posted 13 years agoin reply to this

       omg, that's terrible.  im so sorry to hear about your loss lecie.  i think you should definitely seek legal action against the hospital, as it sounds like they really botched things up. if i were you, i'd start to put together all the medical documents you and your family has from all her medical history along with receipts and insurance claims she used, as that might help your case.  although i know it'll probably be an uphill battle, as most hospitals rarely don't claim liability over their actions.  i hope honestly that you're able to bring justice to your sister's death.  as it's not right for you to lose your sister, over their mistake...

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          Lecieposted 13 years agoin reply to this

          thank you for your support. i want to move on this claim right away but my family isn't even thinking about it. every time i try to mention that we should get to an attorney while there may still be evidence against the hospital my family just says they don't want to talk about it. i don't think they have any intention of going after the hospital and being that they are my ride i can't get to an attorney. so far every attorney i've called needs to see her records before even considering the case and i can't get anywhere to get them. so it seems like my sisters death will go unavenged. it's really starting to eat me up inside knowing the infection caused her to die and being unable to make the hospital own up to it and better clean their facilities there by preventing further cases like this.

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