For me, lying is a big warning sign about how I am living my life. If I feel the need to lie to someone what I really need is to have a look at my life, the choices I make etc. and figure out where the problem is. If one lives within their moral values and maintains a sense of integrity then you shouldn't feel the need to lie in the first place. As such I do not lie and don't even think to when asked about something personal or whatever.
I can't even count em! I lie constantly - just for fun, no harm done. On really important stuff I never lie - but as for my age - who needs to know? and whether I like football? and if I really believe in God? whether I tell the truth or not, no one can possibly be hurt by it or care! I could be lying right now - sometimes I don't even know. I like my fantasy world. I know for a fact there are hubbers who lie all the time in these forums and it just makes it more interesting to know they are lying and not say a thing about it! that way they think we're all too dumb to notice and they believe they're getting away with it! FUN! big time fun! or not - whatever. It's fun to watch them paint themselves into a corner - lies on top of lies and all topple over - go BOOM! fun!
It is kinda like there are different levels of lying, and whether the grey areas are really lies.
Like when you try not to hurt someone's feelings. Like the"does this outfit make my butt look big" "somebody at school called me ugly, am I ugly" or something similar. I can say without a doubt that I don't think she is ugly. But I am not sure I would be helping to tell her wearing a pumpkin orange dress with thigh high boots is the best look for summer.
There was something that I did a few weeks ago that turned out badly, and a friend told me to lie, lie, lie, do anything but tell the truth or admit you had any knowledge of it. I just can't lie like that.
At times in life we struggle financially, and some times you have to make arrangements to cover things, and in some cases you tell the collector "I will try to pay $ by this date." If I can't do it because something else happened, I can live with that. In the same situation, if I told someone that I WILL make that payment on that date and I can't and don't have any intent on doing it then I would be lying.
There are degrees of lying: flat-out-fabricated falsehoods, little white (social) lies to save someone's feelings, bending the truth, lying by omission. Each has a place (well, probably not #1).
As I have gotten older and more senile (and being in recovery) I work hard to be honest -- or at least MORE honest. I found that keeping track of my lies got too difficult and confusing for my poor, addled brain. Honesty does seem to be the best policy after all. Thank you to our founding fathers George "cherry tree" Washington and "Honest" Abe Lincoln
I think to lie to yourself is even worse than to lie to others. I hate lies. I prefer people tell me the truth, and if for some reason you cannot do it - tell me nothing, tell me you cannot say this or that for this or that reason, just don't lie to me. I hate those small "civilized" lies! Call me oldfashioned, call me just old. Call me stupid and naive. I know that in busines you cannot always tell clients and others the truth. I was not hired once because I told the truth to my potential boss. I learned how to keep quiet early - I lived in a socialist country, remember? But in personal relationship - I never lied to my husband or to my friends and had problems as a result of that.
what a hard question to answer while having to admit to being dishonest... i have kids---I lie to them everyday... "nope, you cant watch the TV-it's broken", "There is no more Chocolate Milk-You can only have Water or Regular Milk", "If you dont behave and stop hitting your sister-I will leave you here all by yourself", and then my favorite..."Mommy has to go potty"-as I lock myself in the bathroom for a minute alone...LOL, guess I am a big liar !
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