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Have you ever been given, the cold shoulder?

  1. skellie profile image66
    skellieposted 6 years ago

    Just recently I was given the cold shoulder, for no apparent reason. I went to shake a ladies hand and she pulled her hand back and walked off. I had not been to the bathroom hehe and had never met this lady. She was one of the people in charge, for a tv commercial. I was only an extra. I thought it was very rude and have never understood. Would love to hear your thoughts.

    1. Stevennix2001 profile image83
      Stevennix2001posted 6 years ago in reply to this

      i've been snubbed far worse than that.  hell, if i had a penny for every time somebody snubbed me, then i'd be richer than bill gates himself.  lol.  by the way, that's not an exaggeration or a euphanism either.  trust me, that's just a fact.  lol.  anyways, all kidding aside though, i think it was very rude of this person to do that to you, and it sounds like to me that they must have a very high opinion of themselves to think that they're too good to mingle with an extra.  She's probably used to dealing with stars and models all the time, and probably has a low view of common working class people; which would explain why she did that to you.  im sorry to hear that happened though, but i wouldn't let it bother you.  besides, anyone that does that to you isn't worth your time anyways.

      1. skellie profile image66
        skellieposted 6 years ago in reply to this

        I agree mate lol, i would be a rich person as well. I think it was the type of situation, that bothered me the most. Possibly because i was unable to say anything to her.  Possibly because i never knew why. Either way, not worth my time. Just curious i think?  and if i really admit the truth to myself, not upset but very annoyed at her rudeness. I am one of those really annoying people, that has to speak their mind, lol.

        Thankyou very much for submitting your great comments.
        Kindest Regards, Skellie

    2. paradigmsearch profile image85
      paradigmsearchposted 6 years ago in reply to this

      When a person is non-responsive to you, 99% of the time the reason has nothing to do with you. Do not worry about this! smile

      1. skellie profile image66
        skellieposted 6 years ago in reply to this

        Thankyou very much for your comments, i won't worry, don't worry smile    lol

        Kindest Regards, Skellie

    3. profile image0
      ssaulposted 6 years ago in reply to this

      This nonsense happen to me one too many times, so I give up on being nice and shaking hands until they make the first move! #wisewise# sad

      1. skellie profile image66
        skellieposted 6 years ago in reply to this

        Oh, thats no good. It is a shame that people behave that way. It gives you the impression, they are very miserable people.  I must admit, I do think twice about shaking hands now  lol  but don't give up on being nice smile. I am sure you are an amazing person, there are still nice people in the world.
        Thankyou very much for your comments.
        Kindest Regards, Skellie

  2. skyfire profile image73
    skyfireposted 6 years ago

    Plenty of times, in fact i've stopped shaking hands because of that. lol. I prefer cold hi with smile now.

    1. skellie profile image66
      skellieposted 6 years ago in reply to this

      lol  yeah, I felt that way for quite a while after. The whole thing just made me mad.  Just watch their eyes, that tells the story. smile

      Thankyou for your comments.
      Kindest regards, Skellie

  3. Hugh Williamson profile image89
    Hugh Williamsonposted 6 years ago

    I was at a party and while I was distracted, a fellow held out his hand to me. I didn't see him so it looked like I was ignoring him.

    My wife saw it and informed me that I had inadvertently snubbed him so I went over and apologized. All ended well.

    The lady may have been preoccupied with something or, she may be a snob. In either case, it's no reflection on you. smile

    1. skellie profile image66
      skellieposted 6 years ago in reply to this

      That was very nice of you to go over and fix the situation. You both sound like a great couple, with respect for the world around you smile   I am 37 years old and have been snobbed by many in my time. None of them bothered me, except this woman.  I just found her to be so rude.

      Thankyou for your comments.
      Kindest Regards, Skellie

  4. rebekahELLE profile image90
    rebekahELLEposted 6 years ago

    I've learned that it's not worth taking anything personally. In your case, she obviously is the one with a social problem. Even if she didn't want to shake your hand, she could have said, "it's nice to see you here" , etc. Don't worry about it.

    1. skellie profile image66
      skellieposted 6 years ago in reply to this

      Thankyou. At the time I did take it personally and was quite offended.  I found it extremely rude but that was the way I was raised. To show respect to everyone. Yes the woman could have said something, so true.

      Thankyou for your comments smile
      Kindest regards, Skellie

  5. gracenotes profile image91
    gracenotesposted 6 years ago

    Sorry to hear about that.  In a different environment, you might be surprised to see how this woman's behavior and attitude change.

    Also, I'm convinced that some people do not understand that there doesn't need to be a dichotomy between their professional and personal presentations.

    Years ago, I had dealings with a woman from another department at my organization, and she was cold as ice.  She only became that way when she was put in charge of a department, I learned.  I remember the administrative assistant telling me that the transformation happened "within minutes."  Later on, this woman  submitted her resignation to enter another career.  At that point, any pressure she felt was gone.  Actually it was a pleasant surprise to see that she could be warm and connecting.

    1. skellie profile image66
      skellieposted 6 years ago in reply to this

      Yes, we both had to work together, so why not make the entire project, run smoother.  Professionals need to remove that wall around them. The people around them, will appreciate it and any project will see the benefit of it.
      The lady you spoke about, had built that wall. Perhaps if she was warmer and more connected with her staff, some of the pressure could have been taken off her.

      Thankyou for your comments  smile
      Kindest Regards, Skellie

  6. camlo profile image84
    camloposted 6 years ago

    I experienced that sort of thing often when I was very young and trying to make my way in the world, so, except for job interviews, which I haven't had for years and years now, I never offer my hand in the first place. If somebody greets me or offers their hand, I'll always warmly return the gesture.

    1. skellie profile image66
      skellieposted 6 years ago in reply to this

      That sounds like the smart way to handle things smile

      Thankyou for your comments
      Kindest Regards, Skellie

  7. CARIBQUEEN profile image76
    CARIBQUEENposted 6 years ago

    Maybe she felt superior to you as you were just an extra. Do not worry - not everyone has good manners.

    1. skellie profile image66
      skellieposted 6 years ago in reply to this

      lol  yeah!    The lady had some sort of issue, going on. Just made me give a better performance i think. I was very happy with the performance i gave that day - i should have gone and thanked her after!
      Sorry for the late reply, been very busy with my business the past few weeks.

      Thankyou for your comments  smile

 
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