My partner, although an extremely intelligent, erudite man, who was once a hospital consultant specialising (ironically) in toxicology, chose to continue drinking until it finally killed him in June last year.
How can you start drinking heavily at 13? Where did you get alcohol? It's not like it is sold to 13 years old kids! Alcohol is a dangerous thing, it ruins your health and your judgement, and your personality. It's not just kills you, it can leave you very ill, suffering for years without mercy. Be careful, your body will never "forgets" that you've been drinking, it's like a tiger in woods - always ready, always watching for your weakness...
I think she already figured out the damaging effects, or she wouldn't have quit. My brothers have been drinking heavily since they were pre-teens -- it's the side effect of having alcoholic parents who not only don't care if you're drinking, they looked at me like I'd grown a second head because I didn't want to drink. Our uncle's death due to alcoholism was enough for one brother, who is now on the road to recovery.
I did it with AA. I have a sister who's been in the program for 15 years. She and I were never close, because of the drinking, but now we have a amazing relationship.
In fact, she is the process of having my 22 year old son (who just admitted to an addiction himself) move down with her, so she can help him get back on his feet. Hopefully he gets as much out of the program as I have so far.
Thank you so much for sharing your sobriety milestone with us, Wendi. Five years is a biggie -- congrats on getting your marbles back! May the promises keep coming at ya. And when life on life's terms sucks the big one (which inevitably will happen -- hopefully not anytime soon, tho!), remember, there is NOTHING in this world that drinking would make better and everything in this world that drinking would make worse .
All the best to you, MM P.S. Love the story about your new positive relationship with your sister. And GOOD LUCK to your son. I've traveled that path and know how hard it is for the parent of a young addict... Lots of support here on HP if you need it! HUGS!
Congrats Wendi - Now for caution- I'm sure you have seen people go back out after their first anniversary. I have seen same thing after 5th and 10th. Why? - people are proud of themselves and can get the feeling they are cured. I'm not saying this is happening to you, but it can hit us without our knowing it. I allow myself a 10 minute Reflect and BackPat each year. Other than that, it is just another day. Milestones should be day by day, not year by year. As you have hopefully been taught, yearly anniversaries are not for you, but for the newcomers to prove to them it can work. Euphoria is a killer. Hopefully you have a sponsor who is watching over you.
Right on, Wendi. Keep doing what works for you! By the way, thought I'd share this little ditty (hope you don't mind). I have a very dear friend who says what I believe Peter Owen was getting at with his "warning." He says, "Happy birthday to those of us celebrating milestone birthdays and to all of us for completing another day of sobriety. But remember: alcohol is cunning, baffling, powerful, persuasive, and incredibly patient. It's just waiting for an opportunity to lull us into a false sense of security so we slip up and pick up. So happy birthday today -- but don't get cocky!!"
I'm not sure how this comes across in print, but it has become this man's (21 years in recovery)signature share opening. It may be corny, but it's catchy... (at least I think so!). MM
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