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My mother died today

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    daflaposted 8 years ago

    She was 90 and in poor health.  I won't be going to her funeral, and she knew and understood this, and why.  We made our peace and said our goodbyes last year when I went to see her after she had broken her leg.  I'm so alone now.  I have no one left in the world who loves me unconditionally.  I am struggling for a reason to go on.  I know this is all normal, the way I'm feeling, but it just hurts so much.

    1. Rochelle Frank profile image89
      Rochelle Frankposted 8 years ago in reply to this

      It doesn't matter how old you are or how old she is, it is always hard. I think of my mom every day. She passed away 11 years ago. When the memory of her brings tears-- I try to remember that  she would want me to be happy and not overwhelmed with grief. Not easy sometimes.

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      SirDentposted 8 years ago in reply to this

      I am sorry to hear this news. I know what it;s like losing your mother. Mine passed away a few years ago also. I still miss her even today. I will say a prayer for you to be comforted.

    3. Just_Rodney profile image42
      Just_Rodneyposted 8 years ago in reply to this

      Hanh in there Dafla, it is not that easy, as you have made your peace with her, makes it that much easier to move on. If you can still love yourself, unconditionaly, then there is others that feel the same way. Mywife is already starting to move on, after her mothe died earlier on this month.

  2. Marisa Wright profile image91
    Marisa Wrightposted 8 years ago

    (((((((((Hugs to Dafla))))))))))))))))

  3. Marian Swift profile image60
    Marian Swiftposted 8 years ago

    I've been there, and yes, it's rough.  My thoughts are with you.

  4. crashcromwell profile image80
    crashcromwellposted 8 years ago

    I'll pray for you and your mom.

  5. wandererh profile image88
    wandererhposted 8 years ago

    My mother passed on nearly 2 years old.   I look at it as a temporary parting of the ways.  Someday soon...but not too soon....I will be able to see her and talk to her again.  Now I live my life looking forward to that reunion - and I make sure I live a life she will be proud of.

  6. anime_nanet profile image60
    anime_nanetposted 8 years ago

    my condolences


  7. Mary Tinkler profile image83
    Mary Tinklerposted 8 years ago

    There's no way to prepare.  My father passed suddenly a few years back....that middle of the night phone call. The realization that at some point in time, we become orphans. Grief is inevitable and I think God's way of helping us heal.  Bring it on....let it go....look to friends and family for what you need, and don't be afraid to ask them.  Often we just don't know what the bereaved want or need, and so we do nothing.  I am so sorry you're having to go through this.  It will get better.

  8. Zsuzsy Bee profile image86
    Zsuzsy Beeposted 8 years ago

    Oh Dafla so sorry to hear about your pain. My thoughts are with you. There really is nothing that anyone can say to ease the hurt away from you. Try to think of good times with your Mom.
    kindest regards Zsuzsy

  9. Shirley Anderson profile image87
    Shirley Andersonposted 8 years ago

    I'm sorry for your loss and pain, Dafla.

  10. Andrew0208 profile image60
    Andrew0208posted 8 years ago

    My condolences. Be strong and very courageous. I lost mine in May 19th, 2003.

  11. terenceyap07 profile image59
    terenceyap07posted 8 years ago

    Dear Dafla,

    That your mother had reached such a grand old ago of 90 is indeed a rare blessing, for she was privileged to have had a full measure of life. She must have been quite a remarkable woman, my friend.

    In this time of mourning, may your heart be uplifted with the memory of her love for you. May you take comfort in remembering that you are the bearer of the torch that had she had held high, that you are flesh of her flesh, bone of her bone and that because of these things, a part of her lives on in you. May you slumber each night beneath the wings of angels, my friend.


  12. Shadesbreath profile image90
    Shadesbreathposted 8 years ago

    I'm really sorry to hear about your loss.  Maybe it's missing a point or something here, but, I have to say, 90 years old is an awesome run.  I can't even imagine how much you must miss her, but, I guess, from outside looking in, ninety years... I can only hope I get to live so long (hope my mom does too).

    You have my sympathy, truly, but your mom actually has my admiration.  That's just an awesome feat.

  13. Lissie profile image86
    Lissieposted 8 years ago

    I felt the same when my mother died, I don't think anyone ever replaces that love -  Ihave a partner - but its different - your mother is the the only person who knows you for your whole life - for some reason that matters.

  14. Inspirepub profile image89
    Inspirepubposted 8 years ago

    ((Dafla)) - hugs to you.

    I know nothing helps, but you have my sympathy and virtual hugs anyway. smile


  15. Christoph Reilly profile image85
    Christoph Reillyposted 8 years ago

    Dafla. I was sorry to hear your news. I lost my mother when she died suddenly. I was only 19 and she was a young woman. More recently, my father passed away. I have never  stopped missing either of them, but you come to remember the fun times, the laughs, the family. I had talked to my father several times a week and saw him about twice a week. It took a long time before I stopped thinking, "I've got to call Dad and tell him this," only to realize he wasn't there anymore.

    It will pass for you, too. In time, you will still think of the good times and love shared with your mother and it will make you smile.

    My condolences on your great loss.

  16. Bonnie Ramsey profile image88
    Bonnie Ramseyposted 8 years ago

    I am so very sorry for your loss. I still have my mother but I did lose my father and I know how hard that was. Christof is right. In time, though you will always ache for them, you will remember the fun times more often and it becomes a great comfort. I am so glad that you were able to make your peace with her before her passing as I did with Daddy. He understood why I did not want to watch him take his last breath and he fully understood how much I loved him. That is the greatest comfort you will find, my friend! May God bless you and comfort you in your time of sorrow and may you find the strength to carry on. I know this is what she would have wanted for you.


  17. Uninvited Writer profile image83
    Uninvited Writerposted 8 years ago

    I'm so sorry to hear that. Take care of yourself.

  18. Mark Knowles profile image61
    Mark Knowlesposted 8 years ago

    Dafla - I am sorry to hear that. I know nothing I say will be able to make you feel better, but I will say this.

    You are "supposed," to feel bad. Imagine what it would mean if you did not feel bad.

    If you want to rant and shout, drop me a PM.

  19. ngureco profile image87
    ngurecoposted 8 years ago

    I'm sorry for your loss and pain.

    Where I am coming from, Daughters and Sons Must attend the funeral of their dear mother..

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    Poppa Bluesposted 8 years ago

    My deepest sympathy. I'm so sorry for your loss!

  21. WeddingConsultant profile image82
    WeddingConsultantposted 8 years ago

    dafla, I'm so sorry to hear it. My heart goes out to you.

  22. spryte profile image88
    spryteposted 8 years ago

    Hi Daf...

    *Just gives you a long hug*

    I'm so sorry.


  23. ProCW profile image84
    ProCWposted 8 years ago

    I wish you the best of thoughts in this sad time.
    If you need to talk about anything, just lemme know.


  24. ripplemaker profile image90
    ripplemakerposted 8 years ago

    I just said a prayer for you and your mom.
    It's a tough time.
    We sit quietly beside you in spirit in this time of grief.
    God bless...

  25. guidebaba profile image61
    guidebabaposted 8 years ago

    I am an atheist and consider my parents to be my God. They are both in Good Health and Happy and so am I. Even "THAT" thought makes me sad and brings tears.

    Take Care ! sad

  26. broalexdotinfo profile image60
    broalexdotinfoposted 8 years ago

    I am so sorry to hear that. I know how much love and care you need now to go over this. I`ve lost my dad 10 years ago, and imagine I am 24 now. But I am going on with my life.

    Many Hugs

  27. seohowto profile image60
    seohowtoposted 8 years ago

    sorry to hear...